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My Best Guy Friend :|
Alright so me and my best guy friend, we are close. Close as in he tells me mostly everything. He's such a cool guy and I love him to death. [I'm not sure if I have feelings for him, I'm sure I don't] Well, people at school always tell me that he likes me, but I usually don't believe it. But lately he has been acting strange around me. Yesterday night we had a party thing, and I asked him if he wanted to dance[It wasn't even a slow song, and I wasn't trying to make a move or anything.] And he goes, and I quote, "No. I mean do you know how akward that would be later? I mean we are in the same math class." Yes we are in the same math class, and that seems to be the number one problem. If I ever ask him something in a friendly way [Like do you wanna dance?] he always uses the excuse that we are in the same math class as a way not to do it. But he always dances with my other friends and has a good time. But refuses me. I don't understand what's going on with him. Does he have feeligns for me and is trying to hide them? Or does he just not like me at all?
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hey. i think your friend is just a really great friend. maybe the reason why he won't dance with you or anything is because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. he might not want you guys to date or anything because if you break up, you might not stay such good friends. hope this helps.
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Unfortunately, it's rather difficult to tell for sure. It could be that he does have feelings for you and is trying to hide it. On the other hand, it could be that your friends or his friends have been telling him that you like him and he's worried it might affect the friendship so is trying to deflect what he sees as moves on him. While you see asking him to dance as being a friendly thing, if he thinks you like him, he might think it's your way of trying to hit on him.
To be honest, there's only one thing you can do to clear this up and that's talk to him. It doesn't have to be anything heavy. Just sit him down and say that your friends have been saying to you that he likes you and you just need to know if it's true or not. If it isn't true then you can just continue to be friends. If it is true then at least it is out in the open and you can decide what you want to do about it from there on.
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Awe, Hun, most guys are impossible to figure out. Don't take it out on yourself and think that he doesn't like you, because if he didn't then he wouldn't be your friend, would he? Just relax a bit, there are two possible reasons why he said 'no' for you two to dance. First, he may have thought about your friend relationship first, maybe he decided your friend relationship was most important and doesn't want to ruin it even though you asked for a friendly dance. Another possibility as I see it is he is worried that you may come into his work at school, like you said he always used the excuse 'we are in the same math class', well, maybe he is worried that your relationship might disturb his school work first. But by the way I see it, just let him settle, or talk to him and confront him about his feelings towards you, and I know that is not the most easy thing to do, but you never know what might happen. Best of wishes.
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Aw well I think if he liked you, he'd be thrilled that you asked. So this shows me that maybe he doesnt. But you should tell him how you feel, because if he does like you, he wouldnt want to hurt your feelings. Even though you dont like him that 'way'. And if your curious and brave enough you should ask him why he always uses the same excuse?
xoxo
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Hmm yeah that does sound a little fishy if he's perfectly happy to dance with your other friends. I'd guess either:
a) he is crazy about you and is afraid of being unable to control himself in the boyparts department
b) he is crazy about you, is well aware that you have been told and dont feel the same and is saving face
c) if people have been coming up to you telling you he likes you is it possible they might be doing the same to him in order to be "helpful" and match-make? (some people have a nasty habit of this). If so he may have no feelings for you at all, thinks you have feelings for him and is doing his best not to hurt you and staying as unromantic as possible.
Hope you solve that little mystery. Try dropping lightly and jokingly into conversation that people have been saying he likes you and watch his reaction.
Blushes or random splutterings= I love you and want your babies.
Laughing easily and unself-conciously= untrue but we have a comfortable enough friendship for it not to bother me.
him saying "I heard the same about you!"= He heard the same about you.
good luck x
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