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Convincing your partner your over your ex...
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About three monthes ago I dated this guy called Andi, sorta started to fall for him, but he used me for money and was too emotionally immature, and we broke up. My heart wasnt broken but very bruised.
I did some crazy things on the rebound, dont wanna go into it all,but you all understand what its like I am sure.
But then met this guy called Gerard, I was still hurting over Andi, but instantly liked him, after a week we became partners, we are just so well matched.
He told me recently he loved me, and I had to go back into my past and tell him that I was really hurting after Andi,but that he was the 1 for me and no1 else came close. I told him intially it was a sorta rebound, but after a few days I knew it wasnt, this obviosuly annoys him. As I love him now...
He is annoyed at the fact he was a rebound, even though I told him I knew he was special when we met, and after a few days I knew he wasnt, but he gets annoyed still, although I loved him and wanted to tell the truth. How do I convince him?
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He needs reassurance, so you need to give it to him, and be genuine about it. Also, don't wait for him to ask for it, tell him how you feel and that you care for him completely out of the blue and often.
Can I add that all this drama seems to have occured in a short period of time? Are you really sure that you ARE over boy #1 and that you really DO love boy #2? I'm just throwing that out there, because I would be concerned myself if I were involved.
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tell him that rebounds usually only last for a short time, until the person gets over their previous relationship. since you are obviously now over andi, but you are still with this guy, then it is more than a rebound. if it was a rebound, you would have broken up with him the minute you knew you were over andi.
if he still has doubts, just continue to reassure him that you are with him for a reason (the reason being that you like him). it might take him some time to get over this whole thing, but he will be ok about it eventually! :) good luck
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Hmmm...this is a toughy. Maybe you should try doing something extra special and romantic for him. Like drive him to his favorite restuarant in the entire world (no matter how far or expensive) and get the waiter/manager to set out candles and have romantic music on. Or you could do something smaller like let him pick the next movie you go see, even if there's something you really wanna see playing. That way at least he'll know that you truely care about him. Good luck!
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