Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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im getting a new puppy in march
its gonna be an american bull dog
any cute name ideas?
thanks xo (link)
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These are just my personal faves:
Girl dog:
Moxie
Molly
Rocky
Shellie
Buella
Lily
Chrissy
Cassie
Bella
Roxy
Tilly/Matilda
Minnie
Liz
Shelby
Reese
Boy Dog:
Rocky
Jake
Spud (a quirky name I just really like lol)
Leo
Jesse
Gadget
Micky
Kelly
Slater
Brownie (if she/he has brown coloring, or course)
Drew
Ray
Jordan
Ty
and thats all I thought of for now.
Good luck with your new puppy!
-Abby
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I have to do a presentation on stds for a class and I was wondering if i went to the Planned Parenthood clinic, would they provide information or brochures on stds? (link)
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Yes, thats what clinics like that are for, giving information. Im sure they'd have tons of reading material on STDS and you could even ask someone any questions you needed to know professionally.
-Abby
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im a girl im 13.i grew up with all brothers and only boy cousins.im very rough w/ every1.i have mainly guy friends.ive never had a bf.i just really wana bf.but im ''one of the guys''.they dont think of me as girlfriend material.yes i wear really baggy pants but tight shirts.i snowboard.i wana bethought of as more girly. ~help me~ (link)
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You don't have to stop doing the things you like to be considered "a girl", but make it clear to those guys that you ARE a girl.
-Dont be so rough. Guy's think their macho and expect girls to be dainty. I don't mean act like a damsel in distress, but be gentle. No punching guys, but maybe run a soft hand down their arm.
-Wear feminine clothes. Get "girly" cargo pants, like ones that have flower detailing on them, or ones that are well fitting. Add pink or purple in! Those colors can change a boyish look to girlish. Say you like sneakers, well I know for a fact you can get really cute pink DC's! Make it work for you.
-Hair. Guys love great hair! So don't hide it in a pony tail. Leave it down, maybe even use the curling iron or straightenr, and invest in good products that make it soft and shiny. You want guys to want to run their fingers through it.
-Makeup. It's a nessecity for a girl. Im not saying cake it on, but go for a natural look. Use a tiny bit of foundation with spf in it (you will deffinitely benefit if you are a snowboarder) and add lipgloss (tinted with a rosy pink maybe) and some mascara. Your good to go!
-The way a person walks and talks defines girl or guy. Girls should be light on their feet, their hips should sway slightly, and their shoulders are held high. Dont clomp around and shuffle your feet.
Speak properly. No bad grammar, slang, cursing. It makes a person look trashy, not intelligent.
-Turn on the charm and use your face. Smile, bat your eye lashes, blush, smirk. Facial expressions are a girls best tools.
-Make more girl friends. Just associating yourself with more girls makes a difference. Learn from them.
Whatever you do, be yourself. Guys are attracted to confident women who know what they want and know how to control themselves. And if guys dont see how great you are, as a friend and a girlfriend, than they are the ones with the problem.
Lots of luck,
-Abby
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Hey. I would really like some unique creative examples for a sweet 16. Mine wouldn't be until next year but I just went to one tonight and it made me think about my own. I would really like some unique, creative ideas. For example the birthday girl picking 16 groups for her 16 candles or something like that. I'm just looking for some really creative ideas or if anyone's ever had one before if you could please give me some advice. I really appreciate it and thanks in advance! =) (link)
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Ever seen the MTV show Super Sweet Sixteen? Check it out, tons of ideas!
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Ok is there any way that you can make your boobs look bigger when you are wearing your prom dress? You know how the push up bras push your boobs up? Is there any way you can do that to a prom dress so they look bigger? or any other way you can make them look bigger in a dress? Or do some dresses do that by theirselves or what? If they do then what kind?
I have like no boobs so thats why im wondering. (link)
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There are many ways to make your bust look larger.
Dresses with a corset top tend to push your breasts up, so that might help. You can also buy a dress with padding or get a tailor to sew pads in there themselves. You can buy things like cups, tape, jellies, push up bras/padded bras (victorias secret is great) etc that can be used to enchance the look of your chest.
Good luck and have fun at prom!
-Abby
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You know in brand clothing stores like Garage, etc? When a top is marked 5$ is it EXACTLY 5 bucks or is there tax? if so then how much would it cost? (link)
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I think there is tax on clothing everywhere basically, but it's different in different places. I know the sales tax is higher in Georgia than it is in my state. So it would be a little over 5 dollars depending on the rate.
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Ok, here is what is going on. I have been dating this wonderfully amazing guy for 3 years now. He proposed very early in the relationship, so we have been engaged for most of our relationship. He is amazing and sweet and romantic and was there for me during some of my hardest times. I love him very much.
Ok, now the conflict. A few months before I met my fiance, I met this other guy and we instantly hit it off and became friends and hung out all the time. We had chemistry and flirted and kissed and hung out all the time. We both really liked each other, but we were both too chicken to say anything. So we never dated.
I have kept in touch with this guy for 3 years. We have kissed and fooled around (which I am very ashamed of, because I know it would kill my fiance if he ever found out.) This other guy told me that I was the first girl he's ever loved, but I knew I'd never leave my fiance for him. I never did leave my fiance, and this other guy eventually moved on and started dating another girl. Things got pretty serious, and he said he's over me now and that he loves her.
However, this other guy and I hung out the other night and kissed and cuddled and just held each other. We didn't have sex, just held each other.
I am getting married very soon, and I do not know what to do. This other guy and I were never officially an "item", but we have remained in each other's lifes for 3 years. He was in love with me for 2 some years, and then when he got a new girlfriend, I started getting really jealous. He said he's over me, but then why did we fool around the other night?
I just... I don't know what to do. I am getting married in a few weeks and moving to the West coast. I love my fiance and have never left him for anyone. I love him so much, and I don't want to hurt him. I still think of this other guy sometimes, but I think I do only because it's a "what could have been" type of scene because we never actually dated. I think it's also because it's natural to be nervous before you get married.
Is it normal to think of an "ex" before you get married? Part of me wonders what would have been with this other guy, if he and I would have lasted, or whether we'd broken up 2 weeks later. I love my fiance and want to and need to move on. THis other guy and I never worked because of timing, and we don't work now. We both have other people. Please help!
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It is completely normal for a soon to be bride to have cold feet. To think what could have happened and what didnt etc.
But you don't sound completely over this other guy. There is no reason to marry your fiance if you think you love someone else. That is completely unfair to both of you.
Seperate love from lust.
Do you like flirting with the other guy more than your fiance? Can you picture a life with the other guy? Does your heart flip when you think about him? Love isn't something to be questioned, if you REALLY love either one of the guys, you will know. Love is a feeling of safety in one persons arms, its a feeling of utter bliss because you found your match. Do you feel that with either one of them?
Talk to the other guy. Ask him to answer totally honestly: does he love you? Tell him you have to know, because you can't get married in between two men's hearts.
Decide which one is more important to you. Decide wether you are just nervous about marriage or regretful, or if you are really in love with this other guy. If you are, it is not fair at all to say in a relationship with your husband. You cannot settle on love. It has to be one hundred percent right. Staying in a relationship with your fiance is hurting both of you if it isn't right. Lying to him isn't right.
You must make a choice. Cut this other guy out of your life and marry your fiance, or give this other guy a chance and break it off with your fiance. There is no in between. Dont make rash decisions and think this through. It is a huge decision.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck.
-Abby
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http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:o1qNPyIPT5ZA_M:http://blubanana.co.uk/shop
what kind of shoes are these???
and do you think they would look good with this dress??-
http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:0wo_7k-rywVqSM:http://img.slate.com/media/44000/44320/tn-3-Rouff-coctailDress.jpg
do you think they would look good together for like prom or somthing...i want to look different then anyone else...
Can anyone find me maybe a better dress to go with those shoes cuz i love the shoes?!?!?
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Those are rounded toe pumps, and they are cute, but I dont think they'll go well with the dress.
Chunky shoes with that type of dress doesnt give you the best lines and may not flatter your legs. That style is good though, you might be able to find a pair similiar to it that will work.
Those clothes remind me of the store wet seal, maybe you should stop there.
Good luck!
-Abby
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my guy friend asked me out on v-day and it was really cuet and sweet but i just dont like him that way . so i turned him doen. the day after he didnt bother me, i guess he was embarrassed, but now he wont leave me alone! he keeps talking to me alllll the fucking time, more than he used to before he asked me out, and insists on calling me. he told my friends he like loved everyhing about me. its like im in a reallty bad movie, seriously. i feel smothered by him... like he s stalking me or sumthing. i reaally need some help. i want to tell him to go away but i dont know how without hurting his feelings. tx in advance (link)
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First of all, be flattered! A guy likes you enought to put himself out there and ask you out! It takes a lot of guts.
Guys think if they spend a lot of time with you and are just constantly around you it will make you happier or make it known they really like you. But what they dont know is girls need their space!
So tell him. Talk to him in a email or instant message (avoid embarrasment in person or dead silence on the phone) tell him you are flattered he likes you, but you need some breathing room. Tell him you want to be good friends but need time away with the girls for just chilling out. Find out of any of your friends like him. Try to fix him up with another girl! Makes him happy and you happy.
Whatever happens, be nice. He deserves some credit.
Good luck!
-Abby
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this may be a little long but i really need help .
ok so i lived in newnan for nine years with my dad but last year we started fighting alot . i have been back and forth living with him the past year so i have been in and out of newnan high like 5 times in a year. i am 16 and i live with my mom currently in gwinnett county. my mom has custody of me but my dad has joint legal custody of me so he has say on some things. well a couple months ago i tried staying with my aunt but my dad found out and since i wasnt living iwth him or my mom he freaked out so i came back to my moms house. i really want to be in newnan, thats where my life is. but me and my step mom dont get along at all so i really dont want to live with my dad. but if i live with my mom, i have to stay in gwinnett county and i hate it here. i love it at my aunts house. thats where i really want to be. is there any way i can choose to stay with her since im sixteen? i only have like 7 weeks of school left and want to go back to newnan high for the alst bit of my year. so i need to know a quick way to be able to stay with my aunt and go to newnan. my mom owuld let me, but my dad is just an ass and wont let me. but i never have contact with my dad, so i dont get why he wont let me. anyone got any ideas?
HELPP QUICK ! (link)
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Being a minor, you can't make those decisions.
It's your parent's choice where you live, so your best bet is to convince them. Talk to your mother. Tell her how you feel (calmly and rationally) and ask her to speak to your father for you. Maybe she can persuade him better than you can considering she has half custody of you. After your mom talks to your dad, you talk to him. Tell him that you dont feel comfortable around your stepmom and think you would do better with your aunt where you can bond with your stepmom but you two wont be in the same house arguing. Tell him you just want to finish the school year and how very important it is to you.
Im not sure what the laws are pertaining to this situation, but if you currently live with your mom I dont see why you cant stay with your aunt if she gives you permission. It shouldn't be illegal and unless agreed to in divorce court when they decided custody terms that it wasnt.
Find out your options and be opened to comprimise.
If things dont work out, try to have fun at your high school. A positive outlook can change anything.
Good luck!
-Abby
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There's this girl, Rayna. She's so mean. And anyway, I was talking to this guy on facebook whos really great, and she comments him and tells him that he should stop talking to me and that shell "explain later." and ive never even talked to her, so shes just doing it to spite me. So anyway, would it be a bad idea to message her saying "what did rayna say about me?" And should i say something else? (link)
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Ask the guy what Rayna said. Tell him you don't even know her, and that you have no clue why she dislikes you.
Talk to Rayna. It could be a mix up, maybe its a misunderstanding? Ask her why she doesn't like you and what you can do to change that.
If she really is just a mean person at heart, don't worry about her. She isn't worth your trouble. No one likes a person who just tries to put others down.
-DearAbby92
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how can i loose fat on my ass? like i am not fat but my butt i think it big and the way I walk makes it look bigger. what things can i do to work it off? (link)
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Squats! They kill the back of your legs and butt! Or if you hit the gym, a trainer would be happy to show you what exercise machines will target that area well.
-DearAbby92
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ok well, im pretty much fine with the way i look and such, and im pretty skinny, but my ribs are kind of chunky, haha, well, i have my ribs then it caves in to where my stomach goes and its really weird looking. people are always telling me that it looks like im sucking it in, but im not. is there a certain way i can do crunches to target the upper part of my abs and ribs? and i dont need everyone just saying that you cant just target one part of your body to exercise, because crunches obviously are targeting your abs. (link)
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There is no way you can reduce the size of your ribs. They are bones, and working out wont help that. Your ribs are perfect for your body, but I think its your body that is to small. It sounds like you are so thin that no fat covers your ribs, giving it the apperance of chunky ribs.
Talk to your doctor. Does he or she think you are underweight? If so, you should be looking to gain weight. Body issues might be behind this.
-DearAbby92
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This summer i am going on a school trip with all my friends. There is going to be a pool at the hotel we are staying at and we are very excited to be going swimming. The problem is is that a lot of guys are going and other girls and all the girls have boobs and they will be looking good in their bathing suits and the problem is is that i dont have any and i dont want all the guys to be looking and lauging at me. It is very embarrising and i dont want all of them to see my flat chest. I dont care if it is just girls but there is about 20 guys coming to and i know they will all be looking at my friends and i am very self concious about it. I am flat. I cant help it. i will be humiliated even if they dont laugh or look at me. Please help. thanks! (link)
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Before you get yourself worked up, remember that every single person on that trip is body concious. I don't know anyone who doesn't dislike atleast one thing about their body. You might think all the guys are going to be looking at your chest, but many of them will be looking at themselves, hoping no one is looking at thier nonexsistent six pack.
If you have a small chest,it probably means you are naturally thin and you already have something going for you. I bet some girls would kill for your slim figure.
There are many ways to enhance a small bust, like bathing suits with padding and a built in push up bra. Check out Victorias Secrets website, they have great bathing suit tops for maximizing cleavage.
If you are confident in the way you look, nothing else will matter. You'd be suprised at how a good confidence attracts a guy :)
So be happy with your body, flat chested or Pamela Anderson. The only way you can love another is if you love yourself.
Best wishes,
-DearAbby92
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i just got a new boy friend(he asked me out today...) and before he asked me out we were really good friends and we would say hi and stuff.....
but anyway, so he asked me out today and i said yes but now it's like really awkward to talk. it's like we don't really no what to talk about.
So, do you have any conversation starters or things we could talk about?
it it helps im 13/f (link)
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I've seen this alot, and heres a good example:
My guy friend (lets call him billy) absoulutely loved my best friend (lets call her ariana). For months I think he pined for her, telling me everything. So I finally got fed up and fixed the two up, encouraging Ariana to date him even though she didn't really like him. This was her first boyfriend.
Things seemed good, online at least where they IMed each other.
Than the next day, there was a party which would be their first outing as boyfriend/girlfriend.
I think it was the most awkward thing I've ever seen. They said hey, they sat next to each other when we ate, and they said goodbye. That was basically it. We all tried to push them together, but it just didnt work.
They broke up the next day.
Dont let that happen!
Make the first move when you see your guy. Grab his hand, put his arm around your waist, give him a peck on the cheek, etc. Talk about what you would usually talk about. A funny conversation is a good way to break the ice. Being together should bring you closer, not farther apart.
If you really cannot make things less awkward, talk to him. Just bring it up. Maybe you can even end the conversation with a kiss :)
Don't let your friends interfere. Thye mean well, but might just make it even more awkward.
If it really really really doesn't work
maybe you two were just meant to be friends. There has to be a connection between you two, mentally and physcially.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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i dont really understand what it means to ask someone to be your valentine. are you asking them to be your g/f or b/f? or are you just asking them if they will say they're your valentine? and if they say yes, what does that mean? i dont understand the point of asking someone to be your valentine (link)
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When someone asks you to be their Valentine, it means they like you and they want to make that clear on Valentine's Day. They might even give you gifts.
But it doesnt mean you two are going out. They have to actually ask you out on a date or to be bf/gf.
I think thats the general deffinition, but it might be different in some cases.
-DearAbby92
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I've never been one of the skinny kids or the well liked kids. I'm over weight and i'm starting to get scared. My half sister is well ... big and i've been afraid of getting like that. Theses girls at school are skinny and wear tight clothes so I'm loosing my faith in getting boys or just maybe being liked. I'm just afraid to getting any bigger (reaching 190), so I just don't know what to do. Maybe its the reliesation that enjoy food is not an opion that makes me think I can't do it, but i'm realy worried. Is it even possible to eat just the right stuff and forget enjoying it? What work outs help? and weirdly why are theses skinny mean girls getting dates with boys even though they hurt everyone?
- Katherine (link)
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Katherine,
This is something so many people go through. Isn't it a bitch that the mean skinny girls get the guys? I mean, come on! And no wonder their cranky, they eat nothing! (I'd be pissed...)
But you know why they get the guys? Confidence. They might have it, or act like they have it, but its alluring to boys. If those girls walked around being shy and demure, they wouldn't get very far.
So shine, Katherine. Let your personality out. Show all the guys what your all about. So many girls lack personality because they are worried about things that have no importance, or are to afraid to show those their true selves. Guys LOVE a girl with:
Personality
Confidence
A sense of humor
Style
Intelligence
So if the guys can see that in you, and deject you because your appearence isn't like a celebirty who has been airbrushed, than shame on them. Your prince charming will come one day and see your inner self, and you know what? He'll love it.
But if you are overweight, I advise you to try and lose some (to a healthy weight). You don't need to conform to a stereotype, just be healthy. Fatty food may taste good, but it makes you feel and look horrible. If you trade in soda for water, and candy for fruit, and you add some exercise in like walking before and after school, you'll find yourself feeling amazing. Full of energy and strong. It also does wonders for your confidence.
If your looking into serious weight loss, ask your parents to sign you up for a membership at the gym and bring a friend along. Working out together can be a blast. Talk to a nutritionist. They'll tell you how to eat right, and good. All healthy food isnt gross, I actually perfer HealthyChoice meals and weight watcher icecream to the norm.
It's all about your determination. If you have enough, you can do anything.
Most importantly, love yourself. Love yourself no matter how you look. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else truly.
I wish you the best of luck! If you ever need someone to talk to, drop me an email or a question :)
-DearAbby92
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 20 months now. I couldn't love him more. There's this little problem though: he doesn't have a job. He quit his job back in November and is barely even trying to get a new one. He used to be a cashier, so he refuses to apply at any job that deals with serving people in general. It bugs the hell out of me that he won't get off his ass, suck it up, and get a job. He needs the money and we both know it. I bug him about getting a job everyday and he just tells me not to worry and he'll take care of it. He told me yesterday he was getting a new gaming system and that just made me thing "Wow. Now you can put off getting a job even longer."
He doesn't ask me for money and I don't lend it to him, but I get upset when we can't go out as much as we used to because he doesn't have any money and I can't pay every time. I'm worried that he'll always be this irresponsible and he won't be able to help support our kids when we get married.
I don't know if I should just leave him and tell him to call me when he gets a job or just sit tight, be supportive, and keep my mouth shut. I love him and I'd do anything to help him out, but this is getting ridiculous. What would you do? (link)
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Money is always a touchy subject, especially for men.
But there is no excuse for being lazy. Tell it to him straight: He needs to get off his ass and get a job! (Well, maybe not with the profanity.)
Tell him that if you want a future together, he needs to have a stable job that you can depend on, and vice versa. Offer to help him job search if he decides to be proactive.
Finding a job doesnt have to be that hard, considering all the websites out there that are devoted to it.
So support him, but don't baby him. If he wont get serious about this, tell him you will have to reconsider your relationship. I know it sounds serious, but to many relationships have crumbled because of debt and money problems.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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The truth is, I'm a virgin.
13/f
But whenever i see a hot guy i think to myself "damn, if i got the chance i'd have sex with him." or i might back out in the end...
and it scares me because one day i will get the chance..
and want to do it..
HELP!! (link)
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Congrats. Your a teenager!
Trust me. We all go through it. Every teen has urges and desires to a person they are attracted too.
Your young now, and really shouldn't have to worry about having sex in the near future (unless you plan on having it early, but I dont advise that) so feel free to look and think whatever you wish. You think your perverted or something? Trust me, guys are ten times worse. A lot of them get "hard" by just glancing at a girl.
When you are really ready to have sex, you'll know.
If you are:
-with the right guy. one you trust completely and really like
-are protected. the guy has a condom and you have a condom or are on some birth control (can never ever be to safe)
-you have your facts straight
-you aren't terrified (being nervous is very normal though)
-if the moment is right
Sex is very emotional as it is physical. Having sex with the wrong person or to early is a major regret for many teens. I wont get into that now, but always consider that when you think about having sex with a person.
When you have sex is all your choice, so never ever get pressured into it. Your first time is your very first time, and you never get to re do it if it wasn't perfect for you. So don't rush into anything. You have all your life to have sex, you don't need to do it now.
So don't worry. Just remember, always always always use protection and be safe with your body and your heart.
-DearAbby92
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heyy, im a 15 (nearly 16) year old girl. im having baddd problems with both my boyfriend and my Friends. i know the expression "Chicks before Dicks" but that isnt working. i dont hang out with my friends as much i'd like to. and i hang out with my boy every weekend (his grandma lives across the street and he lives 30 mins away) so every time i make plans with my friends on the weekends he cant help but to get upset. i love spending time with him, but i need friends, you know. i dont know if i should break it off. i've been with him for 9 months now. i've been trying to work it out but it's not working. my friends dont like him either. they think he is trouble. bhe is also one of my best friend ex. (link)
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If you really like your guy, don't break it off. Love is always worth it. And so is friendship.
Communication is key. Talk to both your friends and boyfriend and work something out. Balance out your time. Let your guy know you need time with the girls and let the girls know you need some time with your guy. Besides, if you skip a weekend with your guy, seeing him the next weekend will make it so much more worth it. Like not eating your favorite food for a while makes it taste so much better.
Hope that helped a bit!
-DearAbby92
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