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It was midnight,i ve been walking through the graves ..there was noone exept me to cemetery..only darkness..and terrifying silence,someone waswhispering,laughing ..thought had gone mad..i did it for forgetting u,but even there i couldn't have done it,even fear couldn't make me put your name out of my mind..you'd never know how much i prayed to be with you.feel there's no one who can help me
Aww, hun, this sounds kinda scary.
I'm not sure exactly what happened, but sometimes to get over people, you need to hang out with other people, have fun with your friends, occupy your mind,join clubs.. etc.
I know its hard, I thought that before too, like well what else am I supposed to think about?
I miss him so much, but realize how bad he treated you or whatever the problem was tha tyou dont have him anymore.
i have tan skin, brown eyes, dark brown hair and i was wondering how to find out what eye shadow colors are good for me. i don't want it to like STAND OUT, but i want you to be able to tell it's there. any tips on what colors to use or anything?
Browns,golds,light blues, dark purples, black..
if you dont want it to stand out,
try using light goldpink, or gold, or brown, it looks more natural and pretty.
whenever i try on ae or hollister jeans, they like dont fit around my butt..? like it makes my butt look flat.. you know what i mean? its like tight around the area and i dont even have that big of a butt? whats wrong.. like what pants do i have to get?
AE and Hollister their sizes are smaller than the normal sizes.
alright so im one of those girls who LOVES to always wear their hair up..well lately ive really been wanting to wear my hair down b.c i want to get this one guys attetion..but yah but when i put it down its always too wavy or curly!! how do i make it so it will look like normal down?! thanks!! i will rate!!
well if your hair is curly when its down, thats normal for you, your hair is naturally that way right?
If you dont like that, you can try straightening it,or putting it in braids. ;]
I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.
Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".
She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.
What do I do?
WELL no offence, but shes from Taiwan, english is an extreamley hard language to learn unless you were taught from an infant, or at a young age. It shouldnt bug you because you need to be sympthatic to that she's not from here.
She probably wants you to come with her to talk to people because you are her only friend, or because she is afraid, because she doesnt know hardly anyone here.
And well how would you feel if you went to taiwan? you wouldnt know how to speak that either, and you';d probably act the same way as her.
In taiwan its part of how they are, they lower their heads to their plate, maybe you should have checked some cultural backgrounds, you shoudlnt be annoyed ber her because I'm sure if you were in her situation you'd feel the same way.
She is used to her own culture, not american.
Well if you are mad at her you should tell her, even though you have no right to be because she didnt do anything wrong.
You cannot say she doesnt even try to learn english, unless you have asked her? And maybe she doesnt have anyone to teach her, you could. But remember its VERY hard to learn a different launguage especially english.
Her family only speak's chinease in their house because, that is their native launguage..
Just calm down, and try to put yourself in her shoes and see how she's feeling.
take care dear
My family moved into a really nice house in December 05, and after a few months we realized we coulden't afford the $6000-a-month mortgage. Along with the mortgage, we have to pay $12,000 a year on taxes. We would be fine if we didnt have any other bills to pay. To help my dad, my mom started working. But she works on commision; Some paychecks are not as good as others. So to help her out, I got a job at the same place she works at. But what kills me is that both my parents gamble a lot! They gamble at least once a week, and have never won anything over than $500. And thats if their lucky. Two months ago, we went to Las Vegas and they lost $8,000 and tomorrow their going back to Vegas and I know they are going to lose even more.
If we cant afford our house, why are my parents gambling?! I feel like I have no right to tell them what to do with THEIR money, but if we cant afford the house to where my mom and I have to get a job...shoulden't I say something? I need to know how to approach my parents, or if I should say anything at all.
I really like this house and it would suck if we had to move. Thanks.
Maybe your parents have an addiction, what you need to do is let someone you trust, like a counsular, or someone you know can help them.
Becaucse you are right, if they cant afford it you could lose your house! I dont know why they are doing it, but I do know its addictive..
You are really smart to be aware of this all, you definitly should say something!
The best thing to do is to ask your parents if you can talk to them, tell them how you are feeling.
I hope everything works out hun
Okay i'm a 16 year old female in 10th grade.
this year i've done basically horrible in school =( i'm usually very average in school but this year geeze was my grades bad. its not like i can't get it but i've missed alot this year which bothers me ALOT.. i have had the worst back & hip pains basically to wear it hurt to walk then i found out i had scholiosis & one of my legs are longer then the other so that cause hip pain. well i missed alot of school cuz of that & i don't really understand the whole thing with if they fail highschool students or if they just make you take classes over but you pass. my school isn't the greatest school & i they basically could give a shit if i attend school. i also didn't give doctors notes for being out or anything. next year i won't be attending this school ill be getting homeschooled so if you know how that works it would be greatly appreciated.
thanks n advance to anybody who helps!
Aww well I am so sorry this year hasnt been very good for you. Well I'm sure you could do work in the summer so you would be in the 11th grade next year, even if you are being homeschooled. You should have given the teachers notes though,.
so they knew it was a serious problem and not so that you were skipping to be lazy or something.
Homeschooling is obviously when you have school at home, but usually parents want that for their kids because they think the schools dont meet up to the education yuou deserve.
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I have a question about my stomach muscles. I have been working well on my abs, doing regular crunchies and sit-ups, etc. But the area right below my bellybutton and to the left and right of it push out more(If I look at myself in the mirror sideways). What are some ways I can reduce this so I have a flatter stomach all the way through? I'm a freshman in highschool and I work out 4-5 days a week, running atlesat 1-2 miles a day. Thanks!
Well sometimes if you do ab workouts incorrectly it can push the stomache muscles out and cause them to buldge, so be careful.
Its not how many times you work out either, its how you are doing the exercises, how you are breathing.
please if you can help me with this one .its all about my girl.she made a travelle without telling me she was travelling .when i asked her,she said she went home to take her little brother back to school.that when she got home the little boy had gone back and her dad had to ground her .so she stayed for five days without a call .when she came back she wanted me to be happy with her .to say the truth ,i dont believe a word from her,how do i get to the truth ?i am troubled ,please help me out ?jay-pee
Well, you should first confront her, and tell her how you feel, because she wont ever know unless you tell her..
Honesty is a big BIG part in a relationship, and you need to be able to trust, so tell her how you dont think shes being honest, and ask her why she isnt, if she admits to it.
Remind her that you love her, and tell her it feels like she wants to tear you guys apart.
Some girls lie while they are in relationships because they get insecure & panic.. but if you let her know how much you care about her, maybe that will help.
ok well i have this problem....well everytiem i go to soccer pratice i always feel left out and like i have no really close friends on the team and i never talk..i may say 2 words..like i dont really feel comforatble around them...but with my school friends im like the loudest person you may ever meet...so im basically asking how can i get more social at soccer...i mean ive tried before but they just like ignore me and go off with there other friends....becuz everytime i go to soccer i get depressed now..so plzzz help me so i can become more social like give me tips or watever please!!
aww i'm sorrrry!
Okay, try complimenting them on a good goal, or a good practice or something, it takes people a little time to warm up to othres.
Just show them that you are nice, and that you care :]
I'm 13/f, he's 13/m.
Right, so there is this guy, and Ive known him for about half a year now, I really fancy him, when I first met him we chatted alot and were just like friends.
But then I went to this party, and we danced together for ages (i mean like, slightly dirty dancing), and ended up kissing.
When I saw him at school after that, we were back to being like friends again, he was being his usual self, chatty and funny.
He started hanging out with another group of people, and I didn't see him for ages.
Me and my friends were at a fair about a month ago, and he was there, since then we have started going out places with him at the weekend, to the cinema, shopping ....... etc. and he's always really flirty with me, putting his hand on my leg, chatting, hugging me ..... etc.
But then when I see him at school he doesn't seem to notice me.
It really annoys me. I feel like I'm being messed about. Do you know why he's like this? and what does it mean? how can i stop him from doing this?
I would just forget him, if he doesnt awknowledge you at school, and doesnt show the same feelings towards you, than why bother with him.
Just move on, it probably means he thinks he's too cool for you, or, he doesnt want his friends to know about you, or something.
You cant really stop him from doing so unless you confront him about it. Tell him how you see things, and how you feel.
Hello... I have a problem, i hope that you can help me.. thanks in advance.. I really like this guy in my class. I only have one subject with him, my teacher lets him to sit beside me so that i can help him once in a while because he's a korean and he doesn't understand everything though he can speak english.. We became close, he's a really nice guy.. I really really like him... My problem is, he has a gf, but i'm not sure if she's here in the philippines or if she's in korea.. I don't want to ask because we don't talk about our love life and he doesn't talk about his gf either.. What would I do? I heard that koreans are not allowed to have a gf/bf of different race or nationality, and im filipina, is it true? I'm not sure if it's true.. And is it also a nice idea to tell him what i really feel about him? Please help... 6 days to go and we won't see each other anymore because it's nearly vacation and we have different course... I will surely miss him..
Thank you so much....
Well.. if he has a girlfriend, then I would leave him alone, dont mess with a guy who has a girl already. It doesnt matter if she lives here or back home in korea. He's taken, and thats all that matters. And no, koreans can date any race. Race doesnt even matter.
But anyways I suggest not telling him how you feel, you'll find someone else :)
Since he has a girlfriend, it would be in your best interest ( and his ) if you just let your feelings pass for him, and move on.
You can tell him that you think he is a great person, and that you enjoyed having a class with him.
hope i helped.
take care..
i really like this guy and i already went out with him once, we were going away for summer and so we decided to end it. He liked me again after summer but i didn't really like him so i didn't go out with him then, now i really like him and i dont think that he likes me. I have thrity days to "get him to like me" (dont ask, lol) and i dont know what to do lol.
Please Help!!!!
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Well honestly, on - off - on .. relationships arent the best. I suggest you both meet new people? because if you are interested in him on and off, then what makes you think your going to stay interested in him this time?
think about it huh?
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see, every month, I get a new guy telling me he loves me, wants me, and needs me. But it's never the guy I want. I seem to be very attractive to lots of guys, but never to the ones I find attractive. So I've been told about books like "CATCH HIM AND KEEP HIM" "THE RULES" "GET THE GUY" "WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES" and so on, books on how to get THE guy. And I'm considering buying one, so my question is, has anyone ever bought a book like this? was it good/easy to understand? did it give you specifik tips on what to do? did they work if you tried them? Just anything you can tell me about it and what book it was. Thaaank yooouu! ♥
No I've never bought one of those books.
But you know what, if you dont give guys a chance, then you'll never know. Because looks are definitly not everything, once you start to love a guy - he starts looking better and better, and he is special & attractive to you in your own way.
And most likely if a guy is telling you every month that he 'loves,wants,needs -you' that he probably doesnt. He is probably saying it because he finds you attractive, because if they hardly know you then they shouldnt feel any of that towards you.
I think that you just need to be patient and a little bit more open minded about guys, and its not what they look like all, its what is inside that counts the most.
all my friends are annoying me - they're not different or anything. They're not mean. But for some reason, I suddenly hate them all. I don't want to hang out with them, I hate talking to them. I do everything to avoid them. All of them. I hate my school. Yet I hate being at home. I just hate everything. I hate people. does that sound weird? Like PEOPLE annoy me. I don't want to be alone, but I just really don't want to be with anyone I knwo right now. What can I do to get rid of this feeling? Iäve had it for about 1 month and its pushing all my friends away..
You sound just like me sometimes,
I'm irritable, and I'm annoyed by people I love, and they just piss me off, everything they do. It drives me nuts, is that how you are feeling?
I so understand how you are feeling, the best thing I suggest that worked for me, is you go talk to a school counsular or someone you can vent to about these problems, it helps and it feels a heck of a lot better. You probably feel this way because you have feelings stuffed up inside of you that just need to get out.
And so you dont lose your friends, write them notes or something telling them how you are feeling right now and that you are getting help, and apologize to them for being mean, or your attitude change.
i'm having trouble finding specific cultural activities that people do in Ireland. I need to know for a project so if anyone knows pretty much anything about Ireland just include it in your response that would be AWESOME! thanks
google it! :]
best way to find out things!
I know getting a make-over for a guy is doing it for the wrong reasons!! But it's not like that, I'm not doing this so he'll want me. I'm doing it as a "thank you" for wanting me when I was ugly. He ALWAYS liked me for me. Never cared when people said "you're so hott, why date an ugly chick?" And I love him for it. But now, prom is almost here, in 4 weeks, and I want to blow his mind. I want to be drop dead GORGOUS, show off in front of his friends, make him proud, make people jelous of him, give him the attention he deserves and so on..
So how do I do this? How do I lose weight, get white teeth, get a tan,learn how to wear/put on make-up, be confident/sexy, and so on..in just 1 month?
Any advice would help! On any step of the make-over!! Have you ever had one? How'd it go? What did you do? Annnyyttthiing people :D
Thank you folks ;)
Well, you probably will lose weight but it wont be that much visible. But eat healthy and go to the gym!
For whiter teeth, I suggest using crest white strips all the way up to the day you have your prom. If your not sure how to put make up on, have a friend thats really good at it do it, and have her teach you, or go to some beauty place, and they can put it on for you too.
To be confident, you dont need any of these things, you just have to love yourself, and know that you are who you are, and people still love you wether you have a makeover or not.
I am in my mid twenties and i am getting more and more bald on the top of my head. Is is just age or hereditary or what. Also, is there any nutrition, health food, herbal products or anything I can use that guarantees my hair to grow back. You responses are alwyas very much appreciated. Thank you all.
It could be hereditary, does your dad or mom or anyone in your family bald? Ask someone.
But anyways, its not your age, because most people that young still have their hair, you can use hair products which could help, but really theres not a lot you can do for it to make your hair grow back thicker.
I feel kind of bad saying this but i really hate my little brother he is 10 and i am 14/f. He pisses me off soooooo much! LIke he does whatever he can to get me in trouble like if i say like one thing mean he will freak out and tell on me or try to get me off the computer. He also always sits next to me when i am on the computer and reads my e-mails while i am typing them or pretends to be me on instant messenger when i'm not there. He acts like a dork in front of my friends and alwaiz says hi to me in a stupid voice when i am with my friends. When i use the bathroom to put on makeup he gets mad and cries so i have to get out. He punches me all the time (it doesn't rly hurt) and threatends to punch me in the boobs!! That really makes me mad because that is nothing he should be getting near. He also always pretends to hagve a crush on me and that is DISCUSTING and it makes me hate him even more. What am i supposed to do?! I can honsetly say i hate him!! when i try to talk to my parents they tell me i'm over reacting and they tell him to stop AND HE DOESN'T what am i supposed to do? Please help!! I'l rate!!!!!!!!
I think you should talk to a counsular, and have the counsular talk to your parents, because then hopefully your parents will realize how seroius you are about this, and how out of hand your little obnoxoius pest brother is.
I'll try to make this short and simple. I dated this guy (adam) over a year ago, it didnt work out. The other night I went bowling with some friends and he was there with his best friend (kyle). it was awkawrd, and kyle and I never really talked even when I dated adam, but he wanted to help me talk to adam so we could atleast be freinds. I got home that night and I talked to kyle online. We found out we have ALOT in common, and we already know alot about eachother , and eacothers relationships. So we talked ALL night till 4 am, and found out we had a connecton. so Kyle asked adam how he would feel if he (kyle) and I would date,, Adam got furious and said he wouldnt talk to kyle nemore. So we are torn between, dating and hiding it from him and seeing if it works out and then tel him. or not dating because kyle could lose his best friend hes had forever.. So i dunt know what We should do.. ne suggestions?
Well adam shouldnt be all mad about this,
if things didnt work out with him, tell him just that, theres no reason he has any say in what guy you date.