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So Confussed
I'll try to make this short and simple. I dated this guy (adam) over a year ago, it didnt work out. The other night I went bowling with some friends and he was there with his best friend (kyle). it was awkawrd, and kyle and I never really talked even when I dated adam, but he wanted to help me talk to adam so we could atleast be freinds. I got home that night and I talked to kyle online. We found out we have ALOT in common, and we already know alot about eachother , and eacothers relationships. So we talked ALL night till 4 am, and found out we had a connecton. so Kyle asked adam how he would feel if he (kyle) and I would date,, Adam got furious and said he wouldnt talk to kyle nemore. So we are torn between, dating and hiding it from him and seeing if it works out and then tel him. or not dating because kyle could lose his best friend hes had forever.. So i dunt know what We should do.. ne suggestions?
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Unless you are already married, friends always come first. End of story. Please learn that while you are young. There is nothing worse that you (or Kyle, in this situation) could be then a disloyal person.
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i think that you should care about adams feelings but you also have to do what you have to do. becasue finding that person is really hard to do and kyle might be that person and he might now but why take the chance on kyle maybe being your chance on true love you key to being happy so at this point if you like kyle enough GO FOR IT!!!!!!
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hey. i dont think that you should worry about what adam says. if him and you didnt have a connection then so what, he cant help that. and if you and kyle like eachother too then adam cant do anything about it. it seems stupid for him to try to control who you go out with even if you guys arent together anymore. if adam doesnt want too be friends with kyle anymore then he should relize that he can make his own decisions. if you like kyle, then you should do whatever makes you the happiest. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥
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This decision is more down to Kyle than it is you. If Kyle and Adam are really good friends then he needs to make the decision as to how much he is prepared to risk his friendship.
The general rule of thumb is that you never date friends ex-boyfriends and you never date friends of your ex-boyfriend. However, I always believe that if there is the possibility for something truly special, there are circumstances where that rule may be broken.
That being said, I don't think that going behind Adam's back is a good idea. After all, if he has already shut the door on the idea, how do you think he would feel if he then found out from someone else that his best friend not only went against his wishes but betrayed him further by going behind his back? There really is no question mark over this side of the matter. If you choose to date, Adam has to be the first person you tell.
You and Kyle need to get to know each other a little better before he decides whether to risk his friendship. A connection may have already been established but is it stronger than his friendship connection with Adam?
I would strongly recommend that you go by Adam's wishes for now. Don't date yet. Spend some more time talking, as friends only and see how strong your feelings for each other are. If you end up feeling that you couldn't breathe another day without each other (or something less dramatic but still very strong), then you need to tell him that you both deserve the chance to see if this could really be something. If it's just a crush then you'll soon know about it, before Kyle risks losing his best friend.
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Well adam shouldnt be all mad about this,
if things didnt work out with him, tell him just that, theres no reason he has any say in what guy you date.
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