Mercy_x_Me's advice column

iight theres this guy that i meet saterday! he is awesome! i mean i can be my complete self around him! and me and him both have a thing fro each other...and i mean i do like him and he is going to ask me out the next time we see each other...but i'm jst scared that it's going to be awhile before we see each other! and i kind of don't want to wait!?? but then i do cuz i don't want to rush things!? wat should i do?

Schedule a date to hang out. Your house or his, maybe the movies. But be alone cause friends can really just get in the way. If you schedule a specific date things should go over smooth and this way you wont feel anxious waiting till the next time you see him. Plus if he likes you like he says he does, he'll be all for the idea. Good luck xoxo

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ok i havent seen my godfather and his wife and step kids in the longest time.......well 2 weeks ago i did and his step son had his friend ova......me and him liked each otha right off the bat....then at night my cuzins(godfathers step-kids),me,and that kid went down stairs....my cuzins told us to make out..we did

now im afraid that my youngest cuzin is gonna tell her mom even though we told her not to...

how do i make sure her mom doesnt know or find out?

well first of all, making out in front of her was not good lol... so next time please make sure you have some privacy. For now, bribe her. Tell her you'll give her candy and stuff if she doesnt tell. I know it sounds wierd but its the only way to keep things on the down low. Or find something out about her you can tell her mom if she ever told on you. But good luck xoxo ... just keep bribing the kid.. she may not tell b/c she might feel 'cool' to know whats going on with the bigger kids. Idk.. it all depends... good luck .. it'll all pull through dont worry.

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Ok I am really sad for my brother right now :'(, well here is the story please help me on what I should do to help him.

Ok, My brother had a gilfriend when they broke up she said bad things about him to his friends and now he doesn't have any friends, which he had a lot of them. He was also a popular guy and he is about to turn 20, but I need help he is very depressed to have no one as a friend I feel very sorry for him. Please tell me some ways he could get either his friends back or find new friends I have no clue cause I am not 20 I am much younger but please help me so I can help my brtoher I feel like I shouldn't have friends just because he doesn't. thanx for helping me

Well make him confront his friends. Its the only way. Have him explain to them what a crazy biotch she was and that they should definetly trust him over her. If they still reject him, they were never good friends anyway, and its time to start new. Make him go out and party, or make him get a job around a lot of young people that pays good so he can meet people and earn money. The best thing to do is get him up on his feet. Tell him sitting home all day and all night will do him no good and it will be even worse for him. Hopefully he can make some new friends or get the old ones back. I know one or the other will pull through... just keep cheering him up. Good luck xoxo.

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question for everybody that asks questions on advicenators: How come you dont rate somebody after they answer your questions? it doesnt take a lot of effort and its a quick little thank you for their response. It helps the advice giver to understand how well they answer certain questions. I think everybody should rate out of pure politeness...Just curious as to why most people dont..??

Some people are too lazy or just never get around to it. The biggest reason is because they really dont think the answer is helpful but the person is nice so they dont want to give them a 1 or a 2. Most people are actually nice for doing this b/c this way they wont hurt a nice persons feelings. I for one always rate and like to rate but we're here on advicenators to help people... sure rating is nice and helpful, but we are not on this website to be RATED. Helping people out is 10x more important than being rated and a good columnist will hope for the best of the people with troubles and never ask or think 1nce of rating.

Hope i helped you out.. i totally understand what your saying, you made such IMPORTANT points... and maybe you'll make a difference here on advicenators :-D...

thanks... xoxo

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well im startin my h.s on sept 8...im really nervous EVERYONE @ my middle skool is goin to this one h.s and im goin to another one far away bc i didnt like the ppl @ my old skool i just had a lot of probs n stuff....but yea this skool is a whole diff crowd of ppl my last skool was s0o0o ghetto!! this is like really not....im just so nervous i dont no ne 1 and we hav to wear uniforms that r navy blue and khaki...im afraid im gonna look like a dork and hav no friends..hellllppp...im gonna b so lost =(

if everyones wearing a uniform it wont be too bad. Plus, dont be shy be straight up and be NICE. If people start being mean and your just nice back, the teasing wont last long. Other people will see what a nice person you are and jsut for that you'll make lots of friends. I think you'll be fineeeee. Hehe.. but good luck w/ everything and best wishes! Dont worry! You'll be FINE...... i know it. I can already see you making tons of friends.

If you need more help, inbox me
Good luck xoxo

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hey um... does anyone know how to put up your favorite columnists on your thing? i did it before for one person but i kinda forgot...so yeah. :D

well when you go to someones advice column, there will be a list of three things... (looking like links) click 'make favorite columnist' .... that should do the trick. Good luck xoxo

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Meh and my ex, lets call him Joe,we werr in luv.. rly..but we broke up bout 2 weeks ago.. I got over him real fast.. thats wut i thought.. 2 nights ago we had a midnite covo like we used to wen we werr going out.. and i t brought bak so many memories.. 2 both of us.. we ended up talkin bout us.. and i was so tired it was round 1:30 at nite and kept sayin "we had so much fun" and now i miss him so much!i want him bac.. but he has this new gurl i dunno wut 2 do.. i sleep wit tha lil stuffed animal he gave meh.. everynite.. and cry 4 like a half an hour.. i've told him but we never can hold a convo on it. i was to chicken to tell him that night.. and now i duno how 2.. i iss him.. i could drown in my own tears i've had so many.... help meh!!!!!!
(if u could understand this)

Tell him how you still feel for him! Forget about his new gf. If he misses all the times you guys had, he'll probably just break up with her. Which might seem unfair to her but if your really in love and cant stop crying... its worth the shot. Best of luck. good luck xoxo

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anyone know how to get a REALLY firm stomache in 3 weeks??? i need help asap!! i rate good!!!!

3 weeks is shorter time, but try doing crunches, working out, and AVOID trans fats. Trans fats are the fats that go straight to your stomach. They are the WORST. And you really HAVE to look out for them. Good luck with everything,xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo.

* goooooooood luck *

Hope i helped

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Is it considered "dorky" to roll jeans that are a little short into capris? or should I just cut them? Thanks

In my opinion, its perfectly fine. B/c some capris are actually bought like that (rolled up) from Abercrombie and thats a really cool store. So i think your perfectly in style. I guess by now your opinion is made with 35 other answers but.. lol.. just to be nice incase no one has said anything along the lines of what i just said.

good luck xoxo

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What the youngest baby do you think that you would put a 14 year old in charge of? And do you really think that at 14 they are responsible?

I think 14 yeasr olds can totally be responsible or as irresponsible as a 5 year old. It depends on the person. But for a responsible young teen that is well trusted, I would definetly put you with a 1 year old. If your less responsible babysitting isnt the job for you, but Im sure you wouldnt post this question if you were that irresponsible.
Good luck! hope you get some good jobs :-D

xoxo

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I have two horses that are the BEST of friends. You can't take one out of the pen without the other. They are stuck like glue, but one is 42 years old! really he is! and the other is at least 30. When one passes away, do you think we should put the other one down? I mean they are both already really old and I know that one would be in MISERY without the other. Just getting an idea if the event might arise.

No, I think after one passes on you should just get another companion horse. It will take time but theres no reason to be putting down a healthy horse, its actually kinda cruel. So when sadly one does pass away, get a little pony that can be his/her companion or something. Or a good idea would be getting one before one of them passes away so that the both of them can start making friends with him/her. Its just a thought.

Good luck xoxo

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hey can someone please explain this verse to me: Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30 i mean i dont get the last part why are we supposed to fear the Lord? thanks

Fearing the lord is not the fear your thinking of not like omg its god *hide*. Not like that, to be Godfearing is to understand how powerful and mighty god is, and not to fear him so much, but to understand he CAN do anything and WILL b/c hes that powerful. Its just a note to how powerful he is really.

Hope i helped
xoxo

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Ok well i like this kid, but i dunno hes a year older than me, im 13 hes 14.. i know that doesnt matter cuz ive went out with ppl b4 that were that age n i had no problem with it. But hes goin to the high school.. n im still gunna be in middle school.. n i duno he might find new girls. N i think now he kinda wants to be friends w/benefits for now or maybe he wants to go out with me.. but i dunno?! He seems like a player tho, n hes gotten alot farther than me.. i've only got til like makeing out n hes done like everything but sex. Im afraid he might use me, even tho it doesnt seem like it. Shud i give em a chance? Thanks i rate good! x0x confused babe

Umm.. i wouldnt risk giving him a chance. See he may appear all sweet and stuf but if hes done a lot more than you you guys really arent on the same level. If theres something telling you he might go and cheat on him stay friends with benefits. Because really... you'll get hurt in the end and start remenicsing on how you knew this all was going to happen. Best wishes XoXo

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There's this guy I like, He's my best friend but i don't know what to do about it, he also has a girlfriend, he's thinking of breaking up with her though. What should I do? signed hopeless romantic

Try talking to him. If hes currently your best friend, it shouldnt be hard to talk to him. So try telling him online. Just say I know this is random, i know this is wierd, but i really have feelings for you.

good luck xoxo

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Ok, this is going to be kind of long because I need to give you all the details. I haven't always been overweight, but when I was finally aloud to stay home in the summer by myself, I started to get bigger. I couldn't go anywhere when my parents were home, so I sat and watched TV and ate constantly. Well, the big problem is that was about 6 years ago! Every year I say I'm going to finally lose weight, and I still haven't. Now I'm at least 30 pounds over-weight, and even though I love playing sports and being active, I also love to sit at home and eat the "tasty" foods. I am going to be a junior, and it is so hard to be an over-weight teen. I know all the stuff I need to do if I want to lose weight, but I just can't find my motivation to do it. Do any of you have advice to try help me? Please, I would really appreciate it.

You need a nutritionist. They will tell you how you can loose wieght healthily and they will tell you the exact wieght you should be. Without them telling you what to do, having your own little diet could be risky. As far as motivation, look at yourself in the mirror. Is this who you want to be? So every time you go to eat junk food REMEMBER you've been trying to loose this wieght for years, and that you want to be in control. Thinking all these things constantly should get you motivated and into gear. And think of it this way.. the longer you hold out... the more wieght you'll gain and the harder it will be for you when you do actually start.

Good luck
xoxo
best wishes!

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well there is this boy n i rele like him n his mom always invites me over if im homealone n she is all nicce to me but when iget to there house i never no what to say to him i lose my breath rele easy if im talkin to him n i have to take rell rele deep breaths n well he is kinda a butt hole to me n i think i have a crush on him but he always picks on me like if he dosnt agree w. some thing i say he is like shut up ur stupid is that a sign he likes me or is he jsut being stupid??

i rate rele good!!

Sorry to say it doesnt look like he likes you. Even if he did, hes a JERK. So thank his mom for all the offers but dont go there anymore. He's going to get worse and worse b/c he knows you'll just accept all the nasty things he says. Hes no good for you, and your best bet is to go look for someone sweeter, nicer, and good for you. If you ever did wind up going out with him, think of it, you'd be miserable anyway b/c of the things he says. And boys who cant respect girls have serious problems and those are the type you have to watch out for.

Good luck xoxo

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I have a lot of cool sayings in my profile. Most in whick I made up. Every time I look at me friends profile, she has all my same sayings in mine. I get so frusterated! Now, she just IMed me witrh her advice colum user name and it is almost the same as mine! Should I tell her how I feel? Please, I need help fast!

You definetly should. Tell her you feel like she's always copying you and tell her you know that she has been , point out the quotes she has or had that YOU made up. If she copied anything that was on a website she may very well copied from you, but unfortunately you have no proof for that, so dont bother bringing it up. Tell her its hard to be original when she keeps doing that, and ask her if it wouldnt kill her so much to change her Advicenators name. If she rebels all of this, and denys everything, shes really rude and then its time for you to block her so she cant look at all of your quotes and stuff. good luck xoxo

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okay my friends ( a girl and a boy) are in a fight and everytime i talk to the girl she alwasy says so have you talked to him?? What should i say?? should i tell her i did or not!! they are in a big fight and i don't wanna ruin my relationship with this boy, because i really likehim...i mean really like him!! Any suggestion?? :(

*Stuck -n- Middle*

Tell the truth to both of them. If she asks if you've been talking to him, tell the truth. Why lie when you want to stay friends with both of them. If she yells at you, tell her kindly that you can't agree with her every opinion and that the fact that you talk to him doesnt mean you dislike her, it simply means you guys dont share the same brain. Which is good. Would you want to constantly be in eachothers heads? Naw, that would not be cool. good luck xoxo

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im starting 8th grade soon and im sooo stressed. i have to get all a's as always...i have to get into this privite school next year which means i have to apply and do well this year. i also have to do ballet..pointe..guitar..the play..and more..how do i take the stress off?

Truth be it. Listen to calming music more. I'd just say that b/c it lifts some stress off. And let your parents know your doing your best and you want to really do your best but you cant be pushed too far. Keep an agenda and stay exactly on schedule. Study when your supposed too. You cant possibly not make it if you do your homework and study the way and the time the teachers tell you to. Its hard, it sucks, and it will never be EASY... but you'll stick it through. If you want me to recommend some music I will totally let you know. Inbox me or IM x mercy me 14 x ... good luck... and stay organized

wishing the best 4 u, i know how it is... but you sound like a very accomplished person. Thats good..!

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