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I was watching a movie today and it was kind of like the movie Thirteen, it's pretty much the same story just the movie I watched was based a true person - it was one of those lifetime original movies, Augusta Gone or something like that. Well I would never smoke because personally, I think it's a disgusting habit. But one of the girls on the show said that smoking (ciggarettes) helps quicken your metabolism. I was just curious as to whether or not that was true. And if you say that it is true, what's your proof? If it isn't true, how do you know for sure?
I promise this will in no way impact whether or not I smoke, I think smoking is gross, but I was just kind of curious when I heard that. I guess I could probably look it up myself, but my internet connection hasn't been very good and I've been getting really frustrated waiting for pages to load so I just assume this would be quicker on my part.
Thanks in advance for the answers.
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Smoking certainly raises your metabolism. Nicotine is a stimulant, and any stimulant will do that. But there are ways to raise metabolism that do NOT involve deliberately concentrating and inaling poisons.
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I have 2 neighbors that I've been friends with for a long time. I'm a girl, 15, and they're both guys, 2 yrs younger than me, if that matters. Anyway, we used to always play outside together or play vido games at each other's houses a lot. About 2 years ago, due to personal family issues, I wasn't around very much for a long time, and I havn't really seen either of them at all. For a long time if I saw one of them on the bus or something, we'd just say "hi" and that's it. For the most part they ignore me. All the family stuff is cleared up now, but since school's out, I still havn't had a chance to talk to them. I want to still be friends with them, but what am I supposed to do? Do I just call them and ask if they want to come over like I would have two years ago as if nothing's happened? Do I tell them I feel like I've been ignored? Please help me, and sorry this was so long! (link)
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Something has happened, and it'll be difficult to pretend it didn't. That something is puberty.
If I read you right, the last time you hung out with these guys, they were eleven years old. Now they're thirteen. That may be only two years, but they are two VERY BIG years. You will now be dealing with guys who notice things like breasts. You are a girl, two years older than they are, having progressed a little further into the Strange New World than they have. Believe me, they are seeing you in a whole new light.
This is NOT saying that you can't be friends with them, but be aware that the dynamic has changed.
I think you might just approach one or both of them and say, "Do you guys ever feel like hanging out, you know, like we used to?" Explain, if they don't already know, why you've been out of touch (they don't need to know all the details if they are personal and/or private, but they probably deserve some explanation insofar as why a friend dropped out of their lives). Hormone-saturated they may be, but old friends are important enough to look past that.
Usually.
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I just moved in to a house in Lake Park, NC. I have lived here for a week and I like this girl that lives across the street. I don't have the nerve to ask her out. Can someone tell me a good way to ask her out.
Signed,
newkid (link)
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I like the idea of using the dog. But that's just ringing the doorbell. There's still the matter of what to say when she opens it.
Remember, she doesn't know anything about you, and in some ways that's a plus, because she doesn't know that you're the shy type. So, with an effort of will on your part, perhaps you don't need to be.
I suggest that you begin by asking her how long she's lived in town. It's a good opener because no matter how she answers, you've got an "in". If she's been there for a long time, then you can ask her to help you get to know the town. If she's been there only a short time, then you can point out that you have that in common.
From there, I suggest you ask her on a LUNCH date. Lunch is less intimate and therefore less forward than dinner, and she is more likely to say yes. Lunch is a more friendly meal, and though I gather Friendship isn't your ultimate goal here, it's probably better to start with that than to try for romance right away - it goes back to the "she knows nothing about you" thing.
Be prepared for rejection! Not because of anything that has to do with you, but she may already have a boyfriend or something. Take it in stride if it happens, and say that as neighbors you'd still like the chance to get to know each other. Then start mowing the front lawn and washing the cars a lot. This keeps you outside where she can see you, and as a bonus your parents will probably really appreciate it.
If you hit it off well at lunch, then that's when you say "We should do this again sometime." If she agrees, make the date right away, and this time go to dinner. If that works out well... you can take it from there.
Good luck to you!
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Im 17. My mom keeps pushing me to get a job. I want a job, because I want to get a car. But I realise that once I get a car, Ill have to pay for insurance and gas, so basically once I start working, I wont stop until Im like 60. That makes me sad because Im not ready to grow up yet. In one year Ill be an adult and Im just not ready for bills, work, college, and other big responsibilities.
Any suggestions? =[ (link)
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Welcome to the jungle.
Here's the good news about the whole job, mortgage, responsibility thing: you get to ease into it. It doesn't usally hit you all at once.
Start by getting the job, and if you can, make it a job with at least some enjoyment value. For instance, if you're into music, try applying at record stores. Yes, you're going to lose some free time and pick up some new anxieties, but there is also a lot of satisfaction to be had in earning your own money.
Yes, you're probably going to have to work until you're well past sixty. But you won't be working at entry-level drudge jobs all your life. You can seek out work that you find interesting and even entertaining. Sure, you'll have a lot of bills to pay, but you can exercise some control over that by choosing what's important to you and avoiding the rest.
College is what you make of it. Sure, there's a lot of B.S. in the system, but there's also tremendous opportunity.
Taking charge of your own life is not as hard as it looks. There are a lot of really dumb people who do just fine (you, I perceive, are not dumb and therefore likely to do a lot better than fine). Growing up is good. It comes with chains and shackles, but you also get wings.
One piece of practical advice: Credit cards are not income, and there's a big difference between a $2000 credit limit and a $2000 bank balance. Credit card companies seem to revel in the concept of taking young adults to the cleaners. If you can start life off without a huge accumulated debt, you'll have a much better chance of making it.
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Sometimes my mom will say hurtful things to me and not even realize it.
"How can you possible have that many texts, you don't have more then 3 friends!"
(Keep in mind, this was after I just lost my boyfriend, best friend, and almost all of my friends so I was very upset from losing them)
"I would buy bigger jeans, you're getting fatter"
Even though I'm a size 1.
I've talked to her about this numerous times, but she just doesn't understand. What should I do? (link)
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I think your Mom needs instant feedback on these occasions, not a sit-down talk hours after the fact. When she says these hurtful things, tell her right away and in no uncertain terms that she is hurting your feelings. If it persists, then you may need to give her something in the way of an ultimatum, along these lines:
"Mom, you say a lot of things to me that hurt. I have told you about this time and time again, and you just don't seem to care. If one of my friends spoke to me the way you do, I wouldn't keep her as a friend any longer. Please know that if you don't find better ways to express yourself, I will defend myself by dismissing your opinions. If you want me to continue to give a damn about what you think and say, please start giving a damn about my feelings."
I gave my older brother that same ultimatum once for the same reason, and it saved our relationship. Good luck to you.
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i run almost everyday, between 1-2 miles plus i walk 1-2 miles.
in my right outer thigh, it hurts like HELL. like where the muschle is. what can i do to make this feel better so i can run or what could it be?
and i stretch everytime i run. (link)
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You may have pulled the muscle slightly without realizing it, and it's being aggravated whenever you exercise it. However, it's also possible that there's something bigger going on, like a blood clot. You should have it checked out by a physician.
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So my dad tells me how nobody in reality is going to respect me because i have a tongue ring. I thought respecting somebody wasnt because of how they look [as in having a tongue ring] and because i have 17 piercings. I swear he is embarassed of me and he wants like the perfect little daughter or something
Ew. he makes me so mad. blahh (link)
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The other responders have essentially said what I was going to say, but to that I add:
A tongue ring seems to me to be a relatively easy thing to cover. If you're at a job interview or something, just don't stick your tongue out. Problem solved.
It's the other 16 piercings that might be a little more problematic, depending on their location. And yes, people will judge you by the way you look. But it seems to me that on a certain level, you WANT them to, or you probably wouldn't have enhanced your look to such a degree. I doubt you got pierced 17 times because you like the feel of needles. I may be wrong, but I would imagine that you did it because you feel the piercings enhance your appearance in some way. The main reason to change one's appearance or personal style is to have an effect on others. Appearance is only one of many things people judge others on, but it is the FIRST thing, and first impressions are hard to undo.
Your Dad is being a little extreme when he says that nobody is going to respect you. You could shave your head and paint it green, and someone out there would like it.
Presumably, you can temporarily remove or at least de-emphasize some of your piercings. You might try doing that sometime, fixing your hair conservatively and putting on clothes suitable for an office environment, and showing your Dad that you can present a professional appearance when you want to. He'll be less upset about it if you show that you can turn it off and on, so to speak.
If you can't do that, then maybe the piercings are defining your identity too much - in which case your Dad has a point.
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In England our summer holiday has only just started and my friends and I need ideas as to what we can do. None of us have much money and we're all bored of picnics and barbeques so we need cheap, preferably outdoor activities that we can all do together. (link)
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There's a new sport here in Texas that's a lot of fun; I don't know if it's crossed the pond yet. It's called "Disc Golf", and it's essentially golf played with Frisbees.
Website with info: http://www.pdga.com/
It's fun, it's cheap, and it's low-impact aerobic exercise (lots of walking). If there's not a course near you, perhaps you could try to set one up - or for that matter, just fake it. The way it's supposed to be done is that you throw your disc into an elevated pan, about the size of a big trash can lid, that has chains draped over it to "catch" the disc, but you could just stick poles in the ground and say that if you hit the pole, that's in. I started doing it about four months ago, and I'm having a ball with it.
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Where can I find lists of merengue artists and tracks, like popular ones and charts. I've tried google and all I could find was places that sold the actual CDs and live radio stations. I'm looking for charts or something like iTunes has, where it lists the artist, album, and song names. Any ideas or websites that have a lot of music categorized that way? Thanks, will rate. (link)
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www.allmusic.com.
If you're old enough, you may remember the HUGE yellow books that were at the front counters in record stores. This is the equivalent online database, and it has absolutely everything.
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I used to be best friends with this guy, Mike, who is two years older than me. He had a HUGE crush on me, but I never felt the same way about him... so we never actually went out. Now, he has a girlfriend who is 15, while he is 18, and she hates me. She talks a lot of crap about me and calls me names. I have tried talking to both of them about it. Mike said he would talk to her, but it hasnt helped. Its now getting to the point where she is harassing me and saying really mean, hurtful, embarassing stuff. I dont know what else to do, and Im not sure why she is saying all this about me. I have never talked to the girl, and i have never talked about her... but for some reason she thinks i have. I told both her and Mike that I didnt. What else can I do? (link)
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I don't think there's anything that you can do at this point. You've talked to them both, you've stated your case, and the problem continues.
Why is she doing this? My guess would be jealousy. She knows you and Mike have a history (even though it's not an intimate one) and I would imagine that Mike has told her about his feelings for you. She sees you as a threat, and is striking out.
I suggest you approach Mike, and let him know that you aren't going to put up with it and that you expect him to make it clear that she can't talk that way about his friends. Tell him that if he intends to date someone who verbally abuses you, then you will have no choice but to end your friendship.
It is a possibility that Mike, in some small way, actually appreciates his girlfriend's ragging on you because he resents that you and he never hit it off the way he wanted. Don't assume this is true without evidence, though, because it is only a possibility.
Whatever happens, an unfortunate truth is that your friendship with Mike will probably never be what it once was, because it's tainted with heartbreak. Not your fault (you can't make yourself feel a certain way about someone), but a fact nonetheless.
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My computer just got fixed and I think that I'm going to get a virus again. Someone looked at porn on my computer and now it's has a warning. I will be in so much trouble. Does any one know if I can get rid of the bad spyware!? I can't buy anything though so is there anything free I can download? Please help me out as soon as you can. Thank you! (link)
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I have had the most success with the following anti-spyware programs:
Adaware
Spybot
Hitman Pro
For antivirus, there is a good one called Antivir.
All the above are free, and they are considered to be quality programs and safe for your computer. They aren't quite as good as the major players like Norton and McAfee, but you get what you pay for.
You should also visit windowsupdate.microsoft.com and make sure you have all the latest Windows updates and patches.
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So basically.. I asked a question asking if I should tell the guy I like that I like him.
You all said to go for it so i did.
Thank you, you all suck horribly. He doesnt like me the same way, apparently Im like his little sister, well who holds their sisters hands and constantly says I love you to her?
WHAT DO I DO NOW!? (link)
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I don't know if I'm one of the ones who advised you or not, but since I did answer a question like yours recently, I assume I was. I'm terribly sorry that it didn't work out, but don't blame those who gave you advice. Did you think we had inside information on this guy, or that we would be able to alter his feelings for your benefit? You asked, he answered, and now you know. Was it really that much better when you didn't know?
Love is about taking risks. Sometimes they don't pay off, but sometimes they do.
As far as what you do now... you move on. Don't wait for him to change his feelings. It MIGHT actually happen, so don't give up hope completely, but you won't be able to make it happen.
Start looking into other guys - there are a lot of them, and there are many possibilities. At some point down the road, you may turn Guy #1's head again... and by that time, you may not be interested anymore, and he can kick himself for letting the good one get away.
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Okay so here is the deal. My dad is a very strick parent, especially when it comes to me and boys. 15/f Many of the boys in my grade are scared to call and come over my house for that reason. Also, a lot of boys have said to me that they would go out with me if my dad was not as tough. It bothers me that my dad is interfearing with my sexual and social life with boys. Not to be cocky but i am a beautiful thin girl who many guys would love to be in a relationship with. I dont know if there is anything i can do to help the situation. My dad will not give in. Do you guys have any helpful words for me? oh and its not like on the level of sex or anything. just holding hands is not in the question. I really need help and have been dealing with this problem for the past 3 years of my life. I just need some comforting words
XOXOXOXOX Alicia (link)
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I suggest that you speak to your dad in terms of what the future holds. Right now, being 15 years old, you are still what a reasonably conservative father might consider "too young to date".
However, you probably should make sure that there is an understanding between you regarding what you can do once you turn 16. The two of you can lay down a series of ground rules such as how late you can stay out, how far you can go, at what time you might be expected to call in, etc. He should understand that dating in high school is a necessary part of growing up. If he tries to shield you from the boys forever, you will enter your adult years without the critical social skills that you will need to form a mature relationship. Hopefully, you can make this clear to him. Part of the deal should also be that he must try not to embarass you or otherwise overreact in ways that make you feel that you must hide your social life from him. He should be able to see the logic behind giving you sufficient freedom that you are, in return, willing to be open and honest about who you are seeing and what you're doing together.
For now, perhaps you could convince him to allow you to attend a school or church-sponsored co-ed event which will be chaperoned. You might also suggest group activities, where you go out with many friends of both genders, instead of a single guy.
One thing you won't be able to get around is the idea that he's going to want to meet these guys, and some of them will be scared away. The good news is that among those who are scared away will be the jerks, the idiots, and the ones who just want to get some action. You'll be left with the guys who are determined and self-confident enough to face Dad. This leaves you with fewer choices, but higher-quality ones.
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I'm going to put this as clean as I can.
I had sex, and was giving the guy a hand job before hand and didnt finish him off.
He penetrated me a few times before putting on a condomn.
I haven't missed a period yet, but I should be getting it any day now.
But I've not felt well at all in the morning, my breasts have been really sore, plus I've been neasuated somewhat.
I'm not sure if it's possible I could be pregnant? I need some help here, and asap..thanks. (link)
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It is entirely possible you may be pregnant. My understanding is that over-the-counter tests can sometimes give a false reading when you're close to menstration, so you may want to just go see a doctor.
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Lately I've been having dreams that just seem so real. I wake up and it feels like it really happened. It's so incredibly weird because sometimes I have to actually think about if whatever I dreamed about happened in real life or not. They drive me insane. Is there any feed back anyone can give me? Like, why they seem so unbelievable real or if you've ever had dreams like that? Anything at all, thanks. (link)
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By any chance, have you started a new medication? I began having seriously intense dreams back when I was taking Zoloft. Some medications can do that.
In the meantime, try to enjoy it. Think if it as your own private movie theater, with features showing nightly. Perhaps if you think about your dreams after you get up in the morning, consider what they might "mean", or even keep a dream journal, it will help you keep them seperate from reality.
Sweet dreams!
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sooo, i thought this kid maybe liked me, just you know maybe. & then this girl, she has this kid call him up & ask.. cuz she likes him too, & when he said do you like kelsey? & he said just as friend.. then when the kid asked for me, do you like jaci? he said hell no really quick. & everyone thought he liked me, but he was just really shy. but now i dont think he does.
do you think he does? & hes just shy?
or he hates me.
idno help (link)
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Like they say, ask him. But two things to keep in mind:
(1) Ask him alone. He won't want to risk being "shot down" in front of friends, so he'll say no just to avoid potential embarassment. How you actually GET him alone... well, that's part of the challenge!
(2) You go first. It's only fair that if you expect him to bare his feelings, you do it too.
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I really really want to get a digital camera and i know that if i want a good camera, i am going to have to pay good money. I really want one of those cameras that comes with the printer and you just sit it on top and push a few buttons and walla! well, i want to get a really good brand and make sure my camera will last a while, so i am needing advice on which cameras to stay away from and which are really great. Thanks. I rate (link)
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I'm a professional photographer, and I use a Nikon D50 SLR* for my personal photos. It ran me about $700 with the lens, and I invested about $50 in a used strobe, but I get GREAT results with it. The photos are as large as 2000 by 3000 pixels, and the 1GB flash card can hold up to 280 images. The color is excellent and the focus is crystal-sharp.
It's not a point-and-shoot by any means, but it does have sufficient automatic features so that one can use it fairly easily without having to know too much about photography. What I like about it is that I can hold down the shutter release and shoot multiple pictures at 1-second intervals; this has proven imperative in getting good shots of my very active 5-year-old.
If you want more of a pocket point-and-shoot, the most important thing to look at is the Megapixels. The higher the number, the better. 6 megapixels will be good enough for whatever you might do; you can safely blow up such a picture to 10x15 before you start seeing the individual pixels. My experience tells me that there are four brands: Nikon, Canon, Kodak, and Pentax. Anything else is either too cheap, or it's serious professional grade and therefore too expensive for casual photo shooting (Hasselblad, for example).
Since you obviously have a computer with internet access, you really don't need your own photo printer. Many photo developers now have internet service, whereby you can just load your photos onto a website and tell them how you want them printed. An hour later, you go pick 'em up! They can even mail them to you if you want. Sure, it means you can't print them right at your desk, but how often do you really need to do that? In any event, it's actually a lot more expensive to do it yourself, what with the cost of ink and paper.
How long it lasts depends mostly on how you treat it. Keep it in a padded bag, don't knock it against things, keep it clean and dry, and keep the data contacts covered, and it will last.
Enjoy!
*Single Lens Reflex; it means the viewfinder looks through the actual lens instead of being a seperate window. It's good because what you see is what you get.
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i'm going to try out for my school's volleyball team this year.
i guess i'm pretty good,
but i still need to work on my serving.
do you have any tips as to how i can get better in serving other than to practice daily?
&& any other tips for volleyball is accepted, too.
thank you in advance. (link)
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There's no substitute for practice, sorry!
Try using a tetherball, so you can hit it without having to chase after it afterwards.
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for appletinis, what is the tiny tins for sugar or whatever for? to put on the rim of a glass? and what is its purpose?
how do you make a virgin apple cocktail? on the back of the jar it says to buy club soda. what is that? is there another substitute for that (link)
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Club soda is just carbonated water. You can find it at any grocery store, either with the soda pop or with the mixers. It's really cheap, usually about 49 cents for a two-liter bottle.
Sugar often goes on the rim of a glass. It's a little more sophisticated and shows more presentation than just stirring it into the drink.
To coat the rim with sugar, take two saucers, and fill one with water and the other with sugar. Then turn the glass upside-down, immerse the rim in water, then press it into the sugar. You will get a nice, even coating.
After that, fill the glass with the drink, though not all the way to the rim or you'll wash the sugar off. If you want to be extra cool about it, try placing a slice of strawberry on the rim as well, or add a peeled grape on a toothpick (rather like a cocktail olive).
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This boy asked me to dance at prom (about 1 or 2 months ago). I said yes to be nice, but I really don't like him like that. However, he then tried to follow me around the entire night, always trying to dance with me the whole time. After that we never talked (which, not to be mean, but I was kind of glad about). However apparently his friend got my number from facebook & left me some message, then he called me back to apologize. Then I just went on facebook & under "Status" for his friend it says he is helping the boy try to get a girl. Obviously this is me, since the message was about some date. Basically now I want to know how to turn down this boy without hurting him, in a respectful manner. I honestly do not want to date him, but I am sort of a sensitive person, so I do not want to be mean myself. How do I go about saying no if he does call for a date? (female, 17 years old). (link)
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With all due respect to the previous responder... the last thing you should say is "Let's just be friends." That's a really tired cliche, and besides it's usually a lie. Not one single girl who ever said that to me treated me as a friend afterward; it's just a euphamism for "Leave me alone." It's dishonest and therefore disrespectful.
What works better is simple, straightforward honesty. If he calls asking you for a date, tell him politely but firmly, "I think that you're looking for a romantic relationship, and honestly, it's not something I can give you. I just don't feel that way. I don't think it would be fair for me to get your hopes up when in the end it won't work out." If he asks why it won't work out, just tell him that you can't make yourself feel something that isn't there. This places the blame on you instead of him, and makes it easier to take.
Try to resist saying things like "you're a great guy" and "I'm sure you'll find someone." These phrases are patronizing and will sound false (he'll be thinking, "If I'm so great, why won't you go out with me?"). There's no way around the fact that he'll be a LITTLE hurt, but you can minimize it by being quick about it. If one must pull a tooth, it is mistaken kindness to pull it slowly.
If he grows persistent, then go ahead and be abrupt. This is another reason why "let's be friends" doesn't work; he might actually think you mean it, and start hanging out with you as a friend. I get the idea that you'd rather he not do that either.
There's nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone, or even not wanting to be friends with them. But everyone deserves the respect that comes with honesty.
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