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She talks a lot of crap about me...
I used to be best friends with this guy, Mike, who is two years older than me. He had a HUGE crush on me, but I never felt the same way about him... so we never actually went out. Now, he has a girlfriend who is 15, while he is 18, and she hates me. She talks a lot of crap about me and calls me names. I have tried talking to both of them about it. Mike said he would talk to her, but it hasnt helped. Its now getting to the point where she is harassing me and saying really mean, hurtful, embarassing stuff. I dont know what else to do, and Im not sure why she is saying all this about me. I have never talked to the girl, and i have never talked about her... but for some reason she thinks i have. I told both her and Mike that I didnt. What else can I do?
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She has to be jealous of you because of you and Mike's close friendship. I'd confront her and be like okay listen up chick, whats the deal, i have never even talked to you or about you in anyway..and you saying hurtful things about me isnt helping solve anything. I'd really like to solve this and put this in the past because I know we can solve this. sorry if it sounds cheesy! lol. but id definately talk to her if its on instant messenger, in person, or on the phone. HOPE I HELPED! best of luck! :]
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since you already told mike and her both about how you feel and nothing happened then i think this girl is sooo jealous of you,why eles would she talk about you?she probaly found out that mike used to like you.theres nothing you can really do cuz EVERYONE talks about EVERYONE but iif it gets to harrasment and she calls you offensive names just smile and pass by her itll burn her UP man!!and if it gets even farther then i would say walk up to her and SLAP HER...seriously even if she slaps you back then jump her...you know ive tried this before and it made the girl i hit be too SCARED to even look at me.itll make her respect you.thats IF the smiling thing didnt annoy her into stopping(lol)
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shes just jealous of your freindship with mike. if youve done all that there really is nothing you can do. shes just a mean jerk.
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shes jealous. and shes probably jealous that mike liked/likes you. there nothing you can do. put to not let it bother you. shes obviously confusing hate with jealousy and with them kinda people you cant do nothing about it but laugh. and just tell her if she has anything to say about you she can just say it to you. and if your friend mike was such a great friend he'd tell her what she is doing is wrong and if shes going to be this kind of person that he wont put up with it. and if he doesnt do that than you should tell him that he should and that if he was a good friend he wouldnt let her continue hurting you by her harsh words and such. but toher than that. dont let the jealous girl get to you.
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Perhaps mike's girlfriend is acting out of jealousy because she knows he have a crush on you and this is why she is attacking you indirectly, I would encourage you to try telling mike once more about talking to his girlfriend about this; and if he is reluctant to do so I advice you to cut off your communication with him, because if he refuse to communicate with her about the trouble she is causing perhaps he could be the human viper in this whole ordeal .
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I don't think there's anything that you can do at this point. You've talked to them both, you've stated your case, and the problem continues.
Why is she doing this? My guess would be jealousy. She knows you and Mike have a history (even though it's not an intimate one) and I would imagine that Mike has told her about his feelings for you. She sees you as a threat, and is striking out.
I suggest you approach Mike, and let him know that you aren't going to put up with it and that you expect him to make it clear that she can't talk that way about his friends. Tell him that if he intends to date someone who verbally abuses you, then you will have no choice but to end your friendship.
It is a possibility that Mike, in some small way, actually appreciates his girlfriend's ragging on you because he resents that you and he never hit it off the way he wanted. Don't assume this is true without evidence, though, because it is only a possibility.
Whatever happens, an unfortunate truth is that your friendship with Mike will probably never be what it once was, because it's tainted with heartbreak. Not your fault (you can't make yourself feel a certain way about someone), but a fact nonetheless.
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It sounds like you have done pretty much everything you can do, you've spoken to him, you've spoken to her and still this bull keeps going on. If her behavior really is harassment, keep a record of what she is saying and doing, especially if she is calling or e-mailing you. If she is confronting you in school you might try talking to a counselor or teacher about what you could do to stop it. They probably know about her and might have some more specific advice. Other then that, give both of them a nice wide berth.
Mike isn't much of a friend if he is cool with someone treating you like this and she is simply scummy. So, maintain your innocence and avoid them. You've got no good reason to speak to either of them. If you can keep your cool she'll probably start to spit her venom somewhere else. If she really crosses the line, report her, either to your school or to the police.
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The same thing has happend to me. I know its hurtful but listen.... the things she says are not true right... right so dont let it get to you. i know it can hurt but when you see her say hi be nice to her and maybe shell be nice to you. Also she may not like you because her boyfriend used to like you and is jealous of your looks and your age and etc. shes also problly scared that he'll leave her for you. Dont be scared of her just be nice dont say anything bad and dont start rumors. Just be nice it just mite work well good luck and stay awsome!! ooh yea write me and tell me if it works!! signed Speedy0301 goodluck!!**
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ask a school conselor or something you can always try to make peace or get like a good friend or a whole group of friends to like yell at her shes probaly jealous becuz mike had a crush on you who knows if you wnat me to try and talk to her i cood but i don't wnat to get much invollved i hate drama and i'm sure you do too!! ask for more help if needed!!
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