Sorry, you need to learn to type clearer.

I know it. You aren't out of your mind. Any columnist who gives them tips for not getting caught are low-lives. I answer to them why they shouldn't even be doing it in the first place. Those questions should be deleted, I don't know what the moderators are thinking. Anyway, no columnist should be helping them.



-TheTeenGirl

Slow down with yourself. 15 is too young to start getting sexual. Everyone has a problem with their bodies. Theres the good, and the bad. People who tell you to make-out with random guys are sluts. You need lots of maturing at your age before you can go off and get sexual. You have too many problems with yourself to do anything. You're to the point where making out is tough for you. Listen to yourself say this, "i really want to get sexually active cuz everyone is always like ooh makeout with him" thats a horrible reason to get sexually active. You aren't even in love, you don't have a boyfriend, all you've got is random guys around your school that make out with girls and leave them. The way you ramble on in your question has "I'm not ready" written all over it. You need some time with yourself to feel better, you need to get your self-esteem higher, because if you do go and have sex with any guy, it will haunt you for the rest of your life. You have some serious thinking to do about this. You don't have to tell anyone about your body, it will develop and you'll have breasts, and more body hair, and everything will be fine. Everyone gets embarresed about their bodies. If you do get sexually active, you will disrespect yourself badly, you will treat yourself like meat.



-TheTeenGirl

Apologizing to the teacher of your class would be a smooth start. After apologizing, try asking her if you could apologize to the class and tell them that you're sorry for offending or scaring or disrupting them. Maybe you get angry easily now, the next time your friend does something you don't like, just take a deep breath, and tell her firmly to please stop, if that doesn't work, go to your teacher. At least you know that it was wrong to yell, so now you just have to show the teacher and your class that you know. You may not like the idea of apologizing, but after you do that, you'll feel better that you tried to let the class know that you really are apologetic. A good advice tip here would be to apologize to some no matter how badly you hurt them, even if you know it won't help, saying you're sorry is one thing you can say.




-TheTeenGirl

Yeah, you are not 18, you'd know by now.

Theres really no right time to want it, because every girl will probably want it when they are a teenager, or when they have a close boyfriend. Thinking about it, you can think about sex just about anytime, I'm sure after you learn about it, you'll think about it from time to time. But, just because we feel the desire to want to have sex, it does not mean we should fufill those feelings and just do it. I wouldn't tell you to have sex when you're ready, because you aren't ready when you're 13 through out 18, I don't care what anyone else says, everyone else is going to tell you when you're ready, but you aren't. I'm fourteen years old, and I'm definetly not ready. Sex has serious consequences, it can change your life. Pregnancy robs you of your childhood. If you're old enough to raise a child or would be able to, thats when you should have sex, now I don't mean if your a teenager thinking you can raise a child, I mean if you're an adult. It is so important to set your own high standards for when you will have sex, and its mostly important that you follow that. Don't let your friends pick when, you pick. When teens have sex, the only part of them thats ready is that they are in love, so they go ahead and do it out of an act of love, which should be done in that way, but it takes more.




-TheTeenGirl

Get over it. I'm not anti-gay, some people don't think they should get married, that doesn't mean we are discrminating, its an opinion, just like if I were to hate pink. Some people are racists, yes, that suck too, but life goes on. You can't stop it, and theres no point in asking about it. People are rude, and they don't like gays or certain races, end of story.




-TheTeenGirl

If you don't feel right with him, you should probably go ahead and get rid of him. Sometimes waiting a while might help, it wouldn't hurt, the only bad thing about it would be, that he might really start liking you, and if you still didn't feel right with him and broke up with him, he'd feel bad. But, its about how you feel about him, not how he will feel when you break up with him. But, if you are ok with seeing what happens, go ahead and try that, but if you are too uncomfortable break up with him.



-TheTeenGirl

I think you need to test your friendship with her. The next time she asks to copy your homework, tell her that you're done with letting her copy, and its time that shes learned on her own and do her own work. Now, if she pouts and threatens your friendship, then this isn't a good friendship. If she gets upset and begs, but doesn't threaten the friendship, shes probably ok. But don't give in, you don't want to be doing someone else's homework, its not fun.



-TheTeenGirl

Masterbation is normal. No question about it. Everyone has there ways of thinking sexually and taking action to their sexual feelings. But about 99% turn to masterbation. You may have been masterbating for 3 years, but you do it through out your whole life until you have a partner, even if you aleady have one, you may do it. Theres nothing wrong with it, nothing will happen, its not a disease, everyone does it, but it never seems this way because nobody talks about it publically. You can stop anytime, but its the "safest sex" meaning, its safe, and you create your own fantasies, nothing bad can happen except if someone walks in, but thats about it. Now, I can't use the quote, "do it if it feels good" but I can tell you that it is ok to masterbate. Its not considered an addiction, its just a method to express your sexuality. But, my advice is to keep doing it, it sounds like you do this a lot and feel akward, or like a big pervert, but you aren't. Lots of people feel this way, they feel gross or sick, when they are normal, so you aren't alone. But, its definetly not bad for you.




-TheTeenGirl

Definetly not. Boobs are important to guys your age, but that doesn't mean you have to or should show your skin to impress them. Popularity isn't a world you want to be in. Your friends maybe able to name off tons of guys, but I bet they don't know their last name or they don't even know them at all, thats moving too fast. Its like sex, do you want to randomly have sex with the next guy that crosses your path, or a guy you've known for about a year and you love them very much? You see, when you first make out with a guy and hes special to you because you're in love, it will be 10 times better than what your friends have done. You should want your first kiss, hug, I love you, or any of that from a guy you love and hopefully it will be one guy instead of multiple guys. When you look back, you'll know that first guy right off the back of your hand, but unless your friends look in a year book, they won't even remember. Guy's hormones are crazy around teenage years, but that doesn't mean we need to please them. Also, the guys your friends make out with parties are people who use girls for kissing probably, so its not a big wow just because you've made out with a popular guy or some guy at a party, hope I gave you some thinking to do.




-TheTeenGirl

Cutting is horrible. It just is, you don't see it because for one, you do it, and for two, I don't think you'll realize how bad it is until you hear that someone you really love does it. Its not a stress reliever, its a way to make things worse, you don't know that yet. Sorry to sound harsh about this, but if something goes wrong in life, like your bills don't get paid, and you cut, are the bills suddenly paid? Nope. I know exactly what you're thinking, "Whatever, you don't know what its like." Try putting yourself in your mom's place, and you find out your daughter has been cutting, would you say, "well, if the cuts aren't deep, then its ok"? No, you definetly would rush them into help as fast as you could. There are much better ways to take your stress and anger on, like a pillow, or a punching bag, but cutting isn't a way, its a way to get yourself into more stressful situations. Sometimes, when you're a teen, or a child, and you're doing something wrong, and don't see the wrong in it, try to picture yourself as a mother, and have a child just like yourself and you'll probably get it. Trust me, cutting damages you whether they are deep or not, or whether they leaves scars that go away or stay, its harmful mostly to yourself and others. Your friends,and your family would be hurt. So, think twice each time before you say, "theres nothing wrong with cutting."




-TheTeenGirl

I think you need to leave the boy alone. You're about 14 or 15, and hes about 11 or 12. You need to find someone around your age. Hes a boy and you're a young lady, theres a difference that will effect the relationship. Everyone has a crush, so you aren't wrong for crushing on him, crushes can't be controlled, however, dating the crush or not is all in your control. Hes too young for you right now. So, I say its time to move on and find someone closer in your age.




-TheTeenGirl

hey, thanks for asking, sure I'll tell you.




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2.) Enter the page and on the left there should be a scroll box, scroll on down to music.
3.) Under music, click on the small X next to:
"Music to Put on Your Page"
4.) When you click it, it will appear in the right scrolling box, scroll down and you will see in blue links what types of music, like regular, or TV shows, click on any of them
5.) If you see a song you are familiar with or one that you like, click the blue link that says, "click to hear" so that you can hear it first.
6.) when you're finally done and have your song picked out, there should be a box with a code under the song title.
7.) Copy the whole code, scroll down in the code box because theres more, so copy the entire code.
8.) Come back to Advicenators and you're going paste the code in the box where you write, "hey, my name is Sarah and I love soccer...."




Once its copied save it and preview your site and see if it works, if something goes wrong or you need more help, tell me!



-TheTeenGirl

why do you care?

Sex is a big deal because it can change your life. Your entire life for that matter. You have to ask yourself a lot of questions before you go about having sex, am I ready, Do I have protection, do I love this person, what if I get pregnant, what if I get an STD, do I want to, and then the am I really ready question comes up again and again. In other words, these stressing questions are a big deal, making that a piece of evidence that its obviously a big deal. Sex is most likely not a big deal when you are old enough, love somebody, or are married, and have a healthy relationship. Sex is a big deal when you are a teenager. If a married women gets pregnant, shes pregnant, and shes old enough to take care of a baby, but a teenager thats pregnant or has a girlfriend thats pregnant is more complicated because they lose their teenage fun. They lose their childhood. So, I guess sex is only a big deal in some cases.




-TheTeenGirl

Maybe you could tell him that you do love him and you didn't say because you were scared. Guys will change the way they act if they feel rejected, so maybe you could tell him that hes not being rejected because you want to be something more to him. I think you have it pretty easy by now, you know for sure he loves you, now all you have to do is tell him the same. And if you want to blow your chance being with him or don't feel the same, just ask him why you are being treated differently and if he could try changing things back. My guess is that he will deny it, so you're going to have to come up with examples to give him to prove his change of behavior towards you, but I encourage you to follow your feelings for him and be with him.



-TheTeenGirl

Well, I would normally tell you to ask him out, but whats stopping me is when you said all of these girls broke you both up, the rumors. Chris sounds like the school crush, which is a bad thing because you've got to deal with the rumors and the hectic school gossip and jealousy. But, it was so bad before, you both just gave up. So, maybe you need to ask him to give you both another chance and sit down, and discuss how you think you can fight off the rumors without just giving up. A good way of fighting rumors would be to react like you've never heard of something so stupid. Like, heres an example:



A Strange Girl in the hall: Hey, someone told me Chris is cheating on you with that girl.

You: Really? Thats what the school made up this week? Man, how pathetic.



And then just laugh and walk away. If you8 repeat this to everyone who comes up and cares to tell you the rumor, they'll get a clue that you don't seem to care, and yes, you probably really do care, but don't show them that, or those rumors will keep going. If you and Chris show the school that you could care less about what everyone says, those pitiful jealous girls will get off of your case.





-TheTeenGirl

I only know emo means an emotional person, like sad. So, I hope thats what it is, but your friend is only teasing you, and letting it get to you is giving him what he wants. He wants you to say, "I'm not emo" and get upset about it, but if you just say, "yeah, I am, I admit it, grow up", he'll just eventually stop because he'll realize it doesn't bother you. I know it may make you so angry you just want to bite his head off, but don't show that around him.




-TheTeenGirl

I can't be anymore sorry about not answering this question much quicker, my computer at home is currently broken, but thank you for asking.



Your friends telling that big secret was probably not an accident. You need to stop telling your secrets to people for a while, its your best bet. If theres something that you don't want anyone to know, you can't tell people who have told your past secrets to people. This is not an overeaction, I would be upset, everyone would be, its only humanly to get upset about these situations. If your friends are telling you that you are overeacting, they aren't good friends. You probably can't trust them, and its good that you follow your instincts about that, don't risk your big secrets. Keep them to yourself until your friends show you that they can be trusted again. If you have a secret and just need to let it out, you can always tell anyone on Advicenators, or me. If people make fun of you, you can either be in denial and have eveyone follow you around laughing at you, or you can just admit it and then they can get a new rumor going and forget about yours. So, I suggest just saying, "yeah, we did date, big deal" and walk away, and don't act bothered by this.

Very sorry for not responding in time.


-TheTeenGirl

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