Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
Answers: 1503
Last Update: August 9, 2008
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he's pretty quite and nice
and he likes baseball =)
i talk to him sometimes but it kinda gets awkward
any tips? what kind of topic should we talk about? and how to not make it obvious that i like him?thanks everybody =)
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Just keep talking to him. Start up a conversation about basketball since you already know he likes it. Ask him if he caught the basketball game last night, or even ask him what makes him like it so much, how long has he been playing, is he on a team, etc. He'll appreciate that you're taking so much time to learn about him and find out what he's interested in. It'll make him feel special too. :)
Then just sort of drift the conversation into other areas, what else does he like to do in his spare time other than basketball? Does he have a screename ( so you guys can talk later ). Did he see that new movie that's coming out? Doesn't it look really cool? What kind of genre of movies does he like, whats his favorite? I could go on. Sooner or later, you'll just begin to talk about random things.
You could also try and hang out with him. Mention the movies, and then possbily mention a hang out sometime soon @ the movies, or ask him if he could maybe help YOU out with basketball, cause it seems like a pretty cool sport.
To make it not obvious you like him, just talk to him like you would a friend and keep it cool. Take deep breaths if you have to to calm your nerves if you have any.
I hope I helped.
I hope I helped.
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Hi
I like this guy
and I think he knows I like him but hes mean to me in front of his friends, all the time.
Like he makes fun of me and It makes me feel really really bad about myself.
At home or out of school without his friends, hes really nice and funny.
But I know he doesnt like me, he likes my friend.
But sometimes he acts like he likes me when we arent at school, but says he doesnt.
Whats wrong with him?? (link)
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Gah, boys. All boys tend to be really confusing like this. He just sounds like an immature kid to me. Sometimes boys make fun of girls to impress their friends ( do you know if any of his friends don't like you or something? ) or he's just a jerk. Sometimes guys feel they have to treat others differently whenever they're friends or family are around because they're afraid of how those people are going to treat them or react to it.
I would suggest talking to him about it and let him know that it makes you feel really bad about yourself, and he's so nice OUTSIDE of school to you, why can't he be nice to you inside too? See how he responds, and hopefully you guys can resolve everything.
But as for liking him and everything, I know you like him, but I wouldn't try to go after him or I'd just forget him and those kinds of feelings. I wouldn't want to be with him anyway, if he was just going to be rude to me aroudn everyone and then nice infront of just the two of us. You don't need a guy like that. You need a guy who'll like you all the time.
I hope I helped.
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I guess I'll start with some background information first. I'm 21, married, have two kids, working two jobs, and in college full time. I've been away from home and on my own for two years. My sister (I'll call Ann) is 25. She still lives with my parents. She doesn't go to college, and pays no bills.
So, why does my mom now so blatantly prefer Ann over me? I can have plans with my mom for weeks, but if Ann decideds wants mom for something, my plans will be canceled...even if I've put money into tickets or reservations.
I ignored it til today. I really need a new pair of shoes. The ones I'm wearing now are held together with tape, and my feet show through. I've been looking for new shoes for days, but I have funy-shaped feet and I can't find any. My mom promised me (now that I finally have extra money) that she would help me find shoes today. But, oops!, Ann wants ANOTHER purse and NEEDS my mom's opinion. I won't have time off again to find shoes until two weeks from now. Ann is free every morning (and knows I'm not).
Why does my mom always choose her over me? (link)
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Your mother probably just chooses your sister over you because she figures, Anna still obviously needs her if she's living at home and need her mother's help with things. But you, you're living away from home, have kids of your own, have your own life and your mother might think you don't need her help at all.
Also, between siblings, there is usually the one sibling that tends to get more attention wether it's the older one or the younger one. Like my brother for example, tends to always get what he wants. He got a Nintendo system for just taking swimming lessons, he wanted drums and my parents said no, but he wound up getting them anyway. Same with a car. I don't know, sometimes with parents they just treat one child a little better because they're their "baby" or their "first born".
I would suggest talking to your mother about this, and ask her why is she always ignoring you? And let her know that you feel hurt and ignored everytime she does it, and feel like Anna's the more important sibling. Your mother may not even really be realizing what she's doing and how she's effecting you, so if you two talk it out, hopefully things can be resolved and changed for the better.
I hope I helped.
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This isn't exactly a "help me" kind of question, but, it is a valed question. I was just wondering, if anyone decides to answer me..."What is happening here?" I have been going through the questions and I am lucky if I see every 4th question have one answer! It used to be every question had at least 5 or 6 answers. Anything happening I should know about? Isn't anyone here anymore? Well, thank you for those of you who do answer. (link)
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Yeah, I've been noticing that lately too. I don't think the site is necessairly DYING - just it's not always easy to focus on your own life while trying to help others. Some people get preoccupied with other things, like I took some time off this site myself with my old account cause I was always on here and not talking to my friends sometimes instead. Also, sometimes whenever I scroll through the questions, some of them ask questions that I can't help them out with ; I don't know how to answer it, or I'm just afraid I'm not positive that my advice for that questions good, and of course, you want to give people good advice, right?
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ok well , if you guys are down with "labels" , you can deff say im hardcore emo . so as you can imagine , i like lots of eyeliner . see , my mom wont let me wear makeup to school and im in the 7th grade . its so gay . she doesnt understand that the way i dress and do makeup and do my hair is how i express myself through ways other then talking . any ideas in what i can do to either talk her into it , or different styles that arent too much OR SOMETHING ! thanks in advanced . hanna (link)
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Just talk to your mother and ask her why it is she doesn't want you wearing make up. Then explain to her how you like to wear it, and you're getting to that age where you are old enough to wear make up. And just talk about it and try to reason with her. Or, you can just go to school without any makeup on, and before homeroom starts or whatever, run to the bathroom and put some on, and then before you go on the bus or while you're on the bus, just wipe it all off. But you shouldn't have to hide it from your mother, you should be allowed and she should know you're wearing it.
Some different styles are is you can just wear black eyeshadow not like, GUNKED on, but lightly and then wear light eyeliner and it still gives you a dark effect to your eyes and it looks nice ( haha it better cause that's how i'm wearing it right now ).
I hope I helped.
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how do i get aim applesuace (link)
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Well, I found the site for you, so just go here:
http://fileforum.betanews.com/detail/Applesauce/987092859/1
and then download it and save it to a folder you're familiar with so you can find it easily, and then you just pick out your colors and set them to your AIM. i hope i helped.
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14/f theres this new guy in school, i dont really like him that much maybe a little and hes pretty cute nothing special but i have a feeling he likes me. im in his music class and he stares at me sometimes because he sits across from me and i dont usually look back because i barely know this kid and its kind of creepy! oh yeah and today i was at my locker and he was at his and his is right near mine and him and his friends kept saying my name and i knew they were talking about me because when i walked by them he said to his friends "oh my god there she is shut up guys" and i pretended i didnt notice. ive never even said one word to this guy so im not randomly going to go up to him and start asking questions and none of his friends are my friends so i cant find out if he likes me for sure. and im undecided whether i like him or not, he seems like a good guy but i need to get to know him i just learned his name today!! what do i do (link)
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Well, since he obviously has classes with you, just try walking over and starting up a conversation with him. He might either talk alot cause who wouldn't be happy to talk to their person they like? Or don't worry if he's not TOO talkative, he just is probably shy and nervous. Just start up conversations with him about class and what movies he likes to watch, what he likes to do in his spare time, talk about kids in school, teachers, whatever comes to mind and just ask him questions about himself to get to know him better. And don't take the staring and everything as creepy ; take it as a compliment. He probably doesn't realize he's staring at you so much and he probably doesn't mean to and want to freak you out. I think it's kind of cute, haha. I hope I helped.
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Okay, theres this guy on my swim team that I really like and I've known for four years. He's sweet and he's athletic and he's single. But, he's 2years older then me and we barely know each other. Most of what I know I got from a nuetral friend or the few conversations we've had. But, this summer I've got to know him alittle better annd I like him alot. But, he goes to a different school, and we dont have any of the same friends, so I have no excuse to talk to him. I dont know what to do. Any advice to get to know him better or win him over?
Thanks :) (link)
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Just keep trying to talk to him as much as you can. During swim meets, sit next to him and start a convesation, or maybe even talking to him about him possibly helping you on your front dive or whatever, and just talk about swimming, then slowly change the topic into other things about what it's like at his school, does he like it, what does he do other than swimming, whatever. It'll show him you're interested in him and what he likes to do and what he has to say, and everybody likes to talk about themselves, so it'll make him feel special. Then after ahwile of you guys's relationship improving and getting closer, maybe invite him somewhere to hang out. Mention a movie that's coming out that looks really good, or maybe suggest him to go swimming somewhere, since you both obviously both already like to swim! I hope I helped.
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Does any one know where I can go to see if my weight is average. Like on the computer? (link)
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I've always used this site whenever I answer questions about people's weight:
http://www.healthchecksystems.com/heightweightchart.htm
I hope I helped!
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Ok heres the thing. I have been with my recent boyfriend for more than a year now. I love this boy to death and want to be with him for the rest of my life. NOw there is this other guy who I dated back b4 my recent. He calls and says he wants to get back with me and asks me what if questions like, what if I kissed you and stuff like that. I have tried to explain to him that I'm with sumone already, he even knows the most intimate stuff I have done with my recent bf. What can I tell him so he will backoff and not ruin my recent relationship with the guy I have???? By the way, I am 15, He is 16 and my bf is 15. Also that guy lives out of state from me. (link)
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First of all, talk to your boyfriend about the situation. Let him know about your ex wanting to get back with you and everything, so that incase he every hears anything that's not true or see's him calling you or something, he doesn't assume something else. And then the next time you talk to your ex, say it in a serious tone so he knows you mean business. Just explain to him, you're sorry, but you've moved on and you're in love with your recent boyfriend now and not him or anything's going to change that. You don't WANT to hurt his feelings, but he hasn't been listening to anything you've been saying to him. I would also try and back off from him too. If he calls, don't pick up all the time, or don't respond to messages, he might get the hint after awhile you don't want anything to do with him if he's going to keep saying all these kiss things and whatnot to you, you just want to be friends and nothing more, and if he wants to at least be friends with you, he seriously needs to stop. I hope I helped.
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so i thought i loved this one kid. but i know now i dont. and then i started liking this other guy but no i never did. he's sort of a jerk but then i met this guy and he's amazing but
he's gay =[
what should i do. i know i obviously wont have a chance with him but ugh. thanks for any advice (link)
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The best thing you can do, is just try and get over him. Try your best not to think of him or anything. I know he seem's amazing, but you just have to keep reminding yourself he's not available. Well, attainable. Just try and focus yourself towards other things. Your friends, having fun, shopping, watching movies, maybe even try and find a new hobby. Play a sport, dance around in your room, do whatever makes you really happy and keeps your mind off of things. It'll be hard at first, but after awhile you just start to see your feelings slip away. I hope I helped.
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15/f
lately i have been trying to figure out my sexuality. there are times when i want to be with a boy, but about 99.9% of the time i want a girl. anyways, figuring this out is hard enough, and on top of that, my friends dont really accept gays. so thats harder. today, we were talkin about it, and they were like 'how can a girl be gay theres nothing wrong with boys. its so nasty' and they went on and on and on. i just sit there and ignore them. i dont want to handle with being rejected from my friends and family for being gay, but i cant help it. i can see myself with a girl more than i can with a boy. but can someone please help me?? give me advice or something!! how can i figure out my sexuality and be 100% sure thats what i am??? (link)
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Well first of all, you might want to think about becoming friends with new people. If you're friends aren't going to accept you for who you are, what's the point in being friends with them anyway? They're not very nice. They should just be able to like you for you ; they did before, and they should after they find out whatever your sexuality may be.
Speaking of, what I suggest is just experiment around. Alot of teenagers want to experiment and try new things with different people and see what happens. This could just be a phase you're going through ; it might not. You can either wait it out and see how you feel, or just and experiment a bit and see how you're feelings are. If you like both boys and girls, obviously, you're bisexual.
As for once you find out your sexuality, it's your decision wether you want to share it with everybody, or keep it inside. Some people keep it inside of them for years and years before they tell anybody, and whenever they do they're really happy to get it off their chest. And the only thing that's keeping them from doing it is fear of losing friends. But you shouldn't be afraid to lose friends that sound rude and unaccepting anyway. But like I said, it's your choice as to when you feel comfortable and ready enough to tell people.
I hope I helped.
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this friend of mine all of a sudden stopped talking to me and gave me attitude and went to another one of the girls in my class and now doent talk to me anymore. what should i do????? please answer soon. (link)
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I would just try and talk to her about it. Ask her if you did something wrong or said something wrong to possibly offend her, or what. And just let her know that her ignoring you is hurting your feelings nad you miss talking to her alot. If she isn't mature enough though to sit down with you and try and resolve this, then she doesn't sound like a very good friend, and I might just want to forget about her. I hope everytihng works out though, and I hope I helped.
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wierd question but how do you hint to a guy you DO NOT like him.... there was a guy that i used to like and he knew but he thinks i still like him. how do i imply to him that i dont like him anymore, but not be mean or rude... i wanna be friends, and i want him to know that we will never be more than friends. (link)
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You just need to talk to him about it. Just let him know you only like him as a friend now - nothing more. You're not trying to be mean or rude or anything, you just feel he should know so he's not sitting there thinking you are anymore so it's not as awkward. Maybe start it out that way. Just be like,"Have you noticed our friendship has sort of gotten awkward lately? I've been talking to some people, and they say it's because you still think I like you. Not to be rude or anything and burst your bubble, but I don't, lol. :P" and just play it off as a joke. And just let him know you want to remain good friends. I hope I helped.
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I like to spend alot of time with my b/f and all my close friends have either moved away or i dont talk to them anymore. His friends are always dropping by and constantly are hanging out with him. He keeps saying he wants his alone time and doesn't want me to be there all the time, but how much space is enough space? (link)
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Just talk to him about how much space he needs, which is good to talk about cause it shows you're able to talk to him about things and you understand him when he says he needs some space. You just need to leave him alone sometimes, I'm not trying to sound mean, but whenever he's hanging out with your friends, maybe you should give your friends a call and try and hang out with them some more so you have your old friends back. A girl needs some time to herself, too! I hope I helped.
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This isn't really advice, but a question.
There is a song called 'Risque' by Cute Is What We Aim For. Does anyone know if the song goes "Medically speaking you're adorable" or "Gramatically speaking you're adorable"
It has been bugging me for a while. (link)
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I went to a site and found the lyrics and it says:
"Medically speaking you're adorable
And from what I hear you're quite affordable
But I like them pricey
So exaggerate and t-t-t-t-t-t-trick me"
So it's medically speaking you're adorable.
Don't you hate when you think you're hearing it wrong and get it all confused, haha?
I hope I helped.
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im 13 and i weigh 142 pounds. i know i am overweight and i have a big schedule but i need to lose weight! can anyone please give me some quick excercises i can do because i want to lose 4 pounds in one month. also any foods would be good too. (link)
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Why shoot for 4 pounds in one month? Why not 3 pounds every week? :) The healthiest amount of weight you can lose every week is 2-3lbs, so if you were to lose 3lbs every week, you could lose almost 9-12lbs a month!
Some exercises you can do are take some jogs or walk around the neighborhood a bit, and make it a little more fun and invite a friend along. You can run up and down the stairs 5 times a day or so, even more. Whatever's comfortable with you. Try doing some crunches and side crunches and push ups. Also, just try dancing around to music which is both fun and exercise at the same time!
Also, just stick to a good healthy diet. Don't eat any junk foods and just have good fruit and veggies and salads and talk to your parents to about it so they can help you watch what you eat and can make you good dishes to eat with less fat and grease in it. Also, if you want, maybe at the end of the week you can have one snack to sort of reward yourself, but not a hugely fattening snack.
Here's a site you can look at too:
http://www.annecollins.com/diet-foods.htm
I hope I helped.
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can you french kiss with braces? and do 13 year old boys expect closed or opened mouth kisses? (link)
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You can probably kiss any way with braces. 13 year old boys would probably be happy with just a peck on the lips. If 13 year olds are expecting like, make out sessions now, you guys are trying to move wayyyyy to fast. But, if I were you, I would just do closed kisses. I hope I helped.
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im 13 and i have never had a bf or my first kiss is this normal? (link)
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Yes, of course it's normal. Most girls and boys don't really start to REALLY like eachother until like, 11 or 12 or so, so not having a boyfriend yet is perfectly normal. I mean, I'm 15 and I haven't had a real boyfriend yet ( unless a week counts ) and I haven't had my first kiss either. You're just becoming a teenager so just wait and see what happens and the right guy'll come along. I hope I helped.
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im 13, had my period for almost two years, pretty tall, and my cup size is only a 32A! is this too small, if so how can i make my breasts look bigger? (link)
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For your age, no way is that too small. You're only 13, if you had like, C's on you, that'd be way too big! Even though you've had your period, that doesn't necessairly mean you're going to grow right off the bat or anything. The body doesn't stop growing and developing until you're 18 ; so you still have 5 years to grow and get boobs. And I would be glad you don't have much boobs yet. I know one girl who had pretty big boobs and she either got made fun of ; or all these guys only liked her because of her boobs. I hope I helped.
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