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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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I had sex with my college history teacher. I cant go to class anymore cause I can't bare to see her again. If I dont go to her class i'll fail out of college. What should I do?

You really really have to talk to someone about this. Try and find a different class that has the same subject. Talk to the like principal or dean of your college. Worst comes to worse you might want to change colleges.
~Brina~

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Hi, Right now Im in a pretty big mess. Just recently my uncle got me preganent. I know that sounds creepy but Its true we were drunk at the time. It gets worse though. Some bandit robbed my house a few weeks ago and took my years savings. My father one day said he was going to get some gas and never came back. My mom is a stripper at a local strip club. I dont know what to do The Social Services in Montana are just horrible and abortion is just way too much money. I have a feeling my uncle now that he knows I havent been having my period (he spies on me) might flee east to the cities. I dont Know what to do. Please Help Me!

Ok, well go to a hospital near you, i'm pretty sure that there are places were you can get an abortion for free. Do you have a grandparent or other relatives you could stay with? Do you live with your uncle? Cuz that would be weird if he spies on you. If you need to talk more about this IM me. I know this might sound funny but you could selll your computer unless ur on a school one
~Brina~

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Im pregnant and im only 13, my dad died when i waas 3 and my mom is a wateress. I told my mom i was pregnant and she got really mad and almost killed my dog(who is also pregnant)My mom says that she dosen't want to take care of my baby, but i dont want to get an abortion. Any suggestions? Oh, and I drink smoke and do drugs, will this affect my baby at all?

OF COURSE SMOKEING AND DOIGN DRUGS WILL HARM YOUR BABY!!! Do you think that you can take care of a baby at the age of 13???? Its an awful thing to take away a life but think about it.. most likely you wont be able to go to school if your mom wont help you because you will have to watch the baby and you'll have to get a job. If you do keep the baby live with a relative who will help you out. And have the babys dad help u IF or course you know who he is and hopefully you do. Once again you better stop doing drugs and smokeing if you do keep this baby.
~Brina~

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Hi Brina I just moved to Nebraska USA from Russia and I'm having trouble adapting to things. I mean for some reason America is just differant. The school is differant and I am tempt to take drugs and smokes to fit in. I am already in the 10th year and am strugling to keep up with normal assignments. My parents have very low paying jobs. My mom is a teachers aid and my father is a mechanic. I often wonder if I am ever going to fit in. Im wish I could just pack up and move back to moscow but I know that my parents are happy because we have some family in America. I am confused and fustrated please help me out.

I totally know how you feel even though i've never moved before. You will find a speacial friend one day. Try talking to people in school that moved from far away just like you. Do not do drugs or smokes to fit in because its not the right path to take even if you dont fit in at first. Dont forget that doing drugs can ruin your life! I'm sure that after a while you will get used to Nebraska. If you need to talk to me more about this IM me.
~Brina~

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months,and he wants to kiss me, but I'm not sure if I should. My mom would freak out, but i really like him. What should I do?

Ok well, you should never disobay what ur mom says. Talk to your mom about letting you kiss this guy. Let her know its not going to be ne thing to "extreme" lol. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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Okay, this is really odd, and kinda random, but I had an idea the other day. When it's warm enough here to go outside and stay there coatless for hours on end without freezing, I want to grab my boyfriend and do a photoshoot type thing of him. I'm a good photographer, and I have such images and ideas in my head. The only catch is, he won't agree to it unless he can take shots of me...Of course, I'd say okay to this if he didn't want to take them of me nude. Lol.
Now, I hate to admit it, but I really do hate my body. I'm not very comfortable with it, and I don't want any memories of my body...lol. But I'm so utterly determined to get shots of him. I have ideas, and I want to stick with them. I want to see them happen. The thing with him, is he hates his body as much as I hate mine, and is convinced he's not photogenic.
What can I do to convince him to let me do the photoshoot? I just want ideas. I'd appreciate no "lap dance" or anything like that. I'm serious about this, and I'd like ideas as to how to get him to agree or (better yet) want to do this with me.

Tell him about your ideas. Give him some confidence by telling him that his body is perfectly normal and you love him so much { or like him if u didnt like get into the whole loveydovey thing}. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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My former best friend and I have been growing apart over the last two years. Now to her I'm just someone she says hi to in the hall. It's been hard to stay in touch over the years because she is so busy and we haven't been in any of the same classes. We still consider oursleves "friends", but I wish things could go back to the way they used to be. Whenever I call her to do something with me, she always has other plans. Ever since we started fading away from being best friends I've really missed her. We had been best friends for over 4 years and we had this dream of becoming famous actresses together, and it really saddens me how apart we've grown now. I'm afraid that in a couple of years or so, we might not be friends at all. I feel like there is nothing I can do to just have us be best friends or even just good friends again, but I need to figure out something. This seems impossible since shes always so busy with her activities and her group of best friends. Can anyone help me on what to do? I rate high!

I really understand you cuz i went through the same thing. Friends are going to come and go a lot throughout your life. I used to have a best friend in 2nd grade and we were tight like woa and then the next year she made new friends and nowadays she denied we were ever best friends. I have lost a lot of friends because they change. I probably only have about 10 true friends. Try meeting some new people.
~Brina~

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How do you know when you're in love? And I mean really in love, not lusting after something you can't have, not loving someone, IN love, with 'the one'. How do you know?
Thnx,
Hallie

You get this weird feeling in your stomach and you know that you need this person to get through life. Your always happy aroundt he person and love being around them. They make you laugh, usuallly shouldnt make your cry.
~Brina~

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ok i like this gurl and i want to tell her and this is my plan but i want to kno if its corny or not. ok i was gonna ask her to take a walk with me and then take her hands and b like "i really like u and i was wondering if u could see me as a b/f?" abd then also if she says yes wat am i sapposed to do and wat do i do if she says no?

OMG thats a great idea. Ok, i was thinking before you do the whole hands in hands hting like touch her arm lightly and then be like " listen i really like you blah blha. Then if she says she likes you then just ask her if she wants to be your g/f after you get to konw each other! Good luck.
~Brina~

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okay.. im the new girl at school.. and all the girls hate me.. like.. they call me stuck up.. and i asked one girl.. and she said im stuck up because i wear hollister and american eagle and hang out with the guys who only wear that.. (but thats only because theyre the only people who will talk to me becuase everyone thinks im stuck up!!!) and they have no reason to think that because.. like.. im not.. at all!! i dont know what i should do and i really need help! ive already tried being nice to them..!

Listen, dont listen to them at all you can wear those clothes if you want to. Its ok for you hanging out with the guys cuz they are your type of style. Theres no reason for them to think that like you said so dont worry bout it. I'm sure theres a lot of girls who dont hate you!
~Brina~

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i got my gf pregnant and we havint told anyone yet should we tell someone like our parents
or should we not. and since i got her pregnant should we like get marryed or something i mean i am not ready for that i am only 15

Ok well deffinitly tell your parents. Tell the ones that you think would be better about it first then the other parents. The best thing to do is get both sets of parents and both you and your girlfriend talk to them at the same time. If your not ready to get married then dont, your right it is very young at age 15 nowadays to get married. Dont do anything you dont feel comfortable doing. Good Luck If you need to talk to me more bout this IM me BreenzyWeenzy7

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Well, at the end of the school year, we are having a little "formal" to send off the 8th graders into highschool. My problem is what am I going to wear? Im pretty sure the dress style is formal, but I need help picking my dress/gown/skirt/whatever. Any ideas? Thanks

Well... you dont want to wear like a poofy dress like they wear at proms and homecomings. My suggestion is wear a black skirt short or long, with like a light blue or green color t-shirt. I wore to my graduation in 7th grade a black skirt black shoes and a checkered dark blue, light blude, yellow and green shirt. Its quite a long way until the end of the year lol so you'll have a lot of time to figure it out!
~Brina~

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My math teacher is really cool, he is really youn
and he's friends with alot the students. I talk to him alot before class, after class, during advisory, and in class.
The other day I was talking to him before class started and I was wearing semi-new pants. I had the plastic thing that keeps the tag on them,on the side of my thigh really close to my ass. It's really small and clear but he noticed it and took it off for me. I'm wondering if this is innapropriate.
He never really makes me feel uncomfortable but it does seem odd that he noticed something that.
Do you think that this is innapropriate?

Well... its not really like totally inapropriate but if that made you uncomfortable then it could be. Maybe he was just trying to be " cool" and "nice" and take off the tag. If the tag was on ur butt and he took it off that would totally be inapropriate.
~Brina~

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wut does it mean when a guy says im not some 13 year old who's balls havent dropped mean..?

Hmmmm. maybe it means that his balls havent sagged like old peoples do? LOL.
~Brina~

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OK, I have been on Weight Watchers and I got down to 125 pounds. Well, on Sunday I splurged a bit because I went to the city and I had chinese food and today I went over my points a bit and had a grilled cheese sandwich..alright, well...now I'm 130 pounds. What's up with THIS?! how can i magically gain 5 pounds in 3 days. Is this just a trick of the scale?

Aww that totally sucks. Well maybe your matabalism is really slow. Also it could be because you had a sudden change of your eating habbits.
~Brina~

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14/f...theres a girl in one of my classes and she'll sit there the whole class period and talk about me loud enuff for me to hear..so she obviously wants me to. Shes so mean and i've told her to stop and shes just like "I'll do what i want" and the thing is...she seems like a nice person but for NO REASON she hates me..when i asked her y she hates me so much shes like "the question is why wouldn't i" so she doesn't have a reason..theres this one guy thats her friend and always sticks up for me whenever she talks about me and its really nice and i think it'll eventually stop bc he always tells her too and she'll get bored saying everything when he just tells her to stop talking about me. but the stuff she says is mean and sometimes she IMs me outta no where to say how weird i am or i have no friends (which is not true) any advice on thing is can say bak to her when shes talking about me?? I RATE 5'S SORRY SO LONG!!

Deffinitly tell her to go screw a cow. Also be like stop wasting your time on being a bitch and go get a life!!! That one will deffinitly work. Dont listen to her theres a girl thats like that in my school and no one likes her and she thinks shes so cool you just gotta brush it off ur shoulders. Your probably a great person and doesnt derserve shit like that.
~Brina~

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So I got offered this easy babysitting job from a rich family down the street, and they are going to pay me 50 dollars an hour, BUT at the same time my BFFs birthday party is going on. She said it was OK if i went to go babysit.i don't want her to think i don't care but I really need the money!!!!!!!!!!!

*Im 14 by the way and female*

Hey, ok you and ur best friend should like get together another day and like watch movies and stuff and like have a sleep over to make up for not being there. With the money you get you can get her an aweomse present if you want to lol.
~Brina~

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i have a friend who used to be very down to earth and friends with everyone. now she is "popular". Just because of that, she thinks she is better than everyone else, and everyone agrees. she is snobby too, like saying stuff like "omg i hate fat people, old people, smelly people, and people that dont like me." the problem is, i love being friends with her!! she is so much fun to hang out with when there are not other people there. with other people, she seems to think she needs to act like that. when i ask her why she is so mean to me, she says "you are mean to me because you think you are so much better!!!" what should i do?!?!

Shes just going through a fase. She'll hopefully get it through her head that thats not the way people should act. Deff. be friends with her if thats what you want but if shes going to be 2 faced then dont. I have a friend whos 2 faced and i hate it a lot so my advice is ditch her if she continues to act like this.
~Brina~

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I've been really pressured with school lately and stuff. I really can't take it anymore. Plus a lot of things with my personal life thats starting to get a little crazy and out of control latelty...but yeah. I have like crud-load of homework now and stuff and I only have 10 days ubtil science fair is due, and me and my partner havent even started it yet. It doesnt seem like shes really into it or w/e. Like we say we have to start it soon but we never do because we never get a chance to get together and junk...so please can you guys give me ideas for science fair projects. Easy ones are fine because I really dont care if I win first prize or not by tyhe judges...I just wanna pass science. =/

Please..thank you sooo much

Well, if theres ne topic that you can do i would say design a cell. Get a circle of styrofone and paint on it and design it and label parts of the cell on it. Also make the solar system out of styrofone and like put wires in it to make it stand. You serioussly have to go over to her house or she goes over to urs. Stay after school in a class and work on it.
~Brina~

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Right now in my life, I cant trust anyone and it feels as if there are so many conspiracies going on behind my back. Like everyone in the world is against me and its just sooo frustrating. I just dont know what to do. Can anyone help?

I feel the exact same way. Join a new group after school and maybe u'll meet some new people. Its really hard to trust a lot of people. Find one friend who will last forever. Its a fact that you'll really only have 1 absolutely positivly trustworthy fantastic friend in life. If you need to talk you can deff. trust me. IM me or email me.
~Brina~

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