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growing apart
My former best friend and I have been growing apart over the last two years. Now to her I'm just someone she says hi to in the hall. It's been hard to stay in touch over the years because she is so busy and we haven't been in any of the same classes. We still consider oursleves "friends", but I wish things could go back to the way they used to be. Whenever I call her to do something with me, she always has other plans. Ever since we started fading away from being best friends I've really missed her. We had been best friends for over 4 years and we had this dream of becoming famous actresses together, and it really saddens me how apart we've grown now. I'm afraid that in a couple of years or so, we might not be friends at all. I feel like there is nothing I can do to just have us be best friends or even just good friends again, but I need to figure out something. This seems impossible since shes always so busy with her activities and her group of best friends. Can anyone help me on what to do? I rate high!
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Ugh, I'm in the same situation, my friend has always considered me her best friend, even up until now when all we do is say Hi on the internet, it annouys me to death because she has a new best friend, and shes always like "oh you can tell me anything." But anyway, I'm guessing shes got plans with older people, and does things that are out of your league, sorry, but thats the part where you have to move on, I'm still trying to move on, its working a little, it really effected me when she left me. So I'm sorry you have to experiance this too, its sucks for sure, but your not alone, I'm in it too.
-TheTeenGirl
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It might be time to move on, she might not even be the same person you were best friends with. People change. You could try joining a club with her at school, or hanging out with her in the morning before classes start. If she isn't inviting you out when she goes places with her "new best friends" maybe she just doesn't want to hang out with you anymore, I know it's hard to hear, but no one likes to be the annoying stalker type. Of course, you know much more about your own situation than I do, so I could be completely off. My instinct in what I think your situation is would be to back off and move on with life.
-Farren
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I really understand you cuz i went through the same thing. Friends are going to come and go a lot throughout your life. I used to have a best friend in 2nd grade and we were tight like woa and then the next year she made new friends and nowadays she denied we were ever best friends. I have lost a lot of friends because they change. I probably only have about 10 true friends. Try meeting some new people.
~Brina~
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The only way to solve this problem is just to sit your friend down and tell her how you feel. If you truly want to fix your friendship then you have to be completely honest. It would also help if you asked her to not respond until you have said everything you need to say, that way it is less likely that your conversation will turn into an argument. Also, why don't you try getting to know some of her new best friends. You may find you like them and may be able to hang out with them with her, making it easier for you to see her as you will not have to separate her from her new friends first. I hope I've helped you and good luck!!
Claire xx
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why dont you join after school activites with her or try to hang out with her friends.
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I know this is gonna suck, but maybe you two have lost that thing that makes friends, friends. It happens all the time, especailly when you change schools or are not in a lot of the same classes. You can either keep forcing feelings and try to make her come to her sences, or you can move on with your life and find a new best friend
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Well... i'm not sure if you've tried this but I think you need to call her. Call her at a time when you know she doesn't have anything else to do, and then start talking about all of the fun memories you guys have had together. Just do the reagular hey, how are you, whats goin on stuff then be like yeah i was just thinkin about the time that we.... and then just try to start bringing up all of the fun stuff you guys have done together. Then after that tell her how you miss her and how you miss being really good friends with her. Chances are when you guys have talked about all of your fun times she will realize that she misses you too... that might make it a little easier to get her to want to hang out with you too!! :) Let me know how it works out hun!!
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Tell her everything you just typed.. Easier said then done, I know. I actually just had the worst, tear jerking, painful fight with my ex best friend last night as to why we grew apart. I moved away this fall but I'm coming back for college, and after 2 hours of yelling and crying, we're back to the way it was and we're going to college together next fall. I seriously never thought we would ever be anything again.. trust me it really helps to talk it out and say mean things.. it gets things off your chest and you can start with an honest friendship like it was in the beginning. I really hope I helped, because it's a GREAT thing getting your bff friend.
PEACE
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Hey, i hate to tell you friends do grow apart. For example my bfffffffffff4llll has turned against me and is hanging out with the wrong crowd. Did you tell her everything you just told us, how you felt, and stuff? Try talking to her again!
♥ Michelle
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