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My boyfriend's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what I want to get him. I did ask him if there was anything he'd like, but he said he didn't know. He loves video games, zombies, anime/manga, and old computer games. He's kind of shy and laid back. I'm only sixteen and he's fourteen, so nothing perverted either, haha. I have like two weeks, but I like to plan ahead of time, so is there anything a teenaged boy like that would like for his birthday present? I'd prefer a guy to give suggestions, but hey, if any girls out there know, feel free to answer! (link)
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The easy default would be an Amazon gift certificate. Then he can order just about anything he wants. That also eliminates the pressure on him to act like he is stoked about the gift you give him when he actually thinks it's lame. I mean, when my family members ask me what I want for Christmas or my birthday I tell them to just get the Amazon GC.
The problem in you getting him some of the other stuff is that you don't know fully what is in his collection and might accidentally get him something he already has.
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Okay, so today was the first time i have ever fingered myself and i did not feel anything great at all, i was nervous about where my finger goes, but then i stuck my phone in there and pit it on vibrate and it was great... (link)
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Many women use the handle of their hairbrush.
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so there's this guy from college and we like each other but we aren't an item.we are planning on going for a movie and probably hitting first and second base.he says he wants to think about sex but i say its too early for it.also he says its the first time he's talking to a gurl about this things.what should i do? (link)
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The safest age for a girl to have sex with any guy is 18. The age of consent varies by state, but many of the states that have lower consent ages also have regulations concerning how old a guy can be before he is deemed a predator. So any girl under 18 could be risking her boyfriend going to the slammer and being deemed a lifetime sex offender if he is, say, four or more years older than she is. It varies by state. You can search that info online.
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My sister say they wish they hadnt lost there virginty why is that..?
Also, i was wondering wht do u have to do to be prepared for sex like wht do i have to do so hes not discusted or something like im not sexauly active but i want to know if i ever decide that im ready..? (link)
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I personally don't understand making virginity so sacrosanct. There are good, logical reasons for teens to not engage in sex (poor impulse control could result in something with lifetime consequences plus most guys that age are just going to be terrible at it, which is no fun for the woman), but there is a first time for everything and the initial instance of intercourse is just that and little more.
Two things may be at work here: since primitive times, virginity has been marketed for political and economic gain by families making alliances and religion then came in and rubber stamped that primitive, patriarchal, misogynistic, tribal and wholly counterproductive outlook on sexuality. I guess there was an allure of that "new vagina smell" or something. It was part of the fact that women were largely looked at as chattel.
Young women should choose their first lovers carefully if only so they don't get turned off to sex by someone who is a selfish boor or worse. But the virginity itself should not be commodified. I mean, come on, let's grow up.
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I'm 15 and I am only 4"10 and i wont be growing more because my parents are short...anyways I was wondering if I were to have sex(when I'm older) will the guy be able to fit in me and will it hurt more becuase i'm so small? (link)
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Don't worry, you'll be able to have a normal, happy sex life. Yeah, if a guy is 8" or something that might be a problem, but guys that huge are pretty few and far in between.
Just remember that when you do have that first time, just sort of make your body go limp when he penetrates you and that should help ease the initial pain.
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I'm 14 and a girl and I think I really want sex or the touch of someone else. I think about it a lot and I sometimes dream about it. I know I am really young so sex isn't really the best thing...I know about masterbating but I am afraid to touch down there. As in like skin to skin. Like using my finger. And I don't think I am comfortable on putting some house hold object up there either...and I definatly can't get a dildo. I need help...any adivce? (link)
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Your sexual urges are normal, but the secret is managing them so as to not cause any unwanted outcomes.
There is nothing wrong with using your fingers on your clitoris to pleasure yourself. Do it and the orgasms will help you cope with your urges. Masturbation is not dirty, perverted or anything else the religious hustlers might tell you it is. It is just good natural fun and 100% safe.
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in 6th and 7th grade this guy would follow me home and stand out side my house it turns out he goes to my school so i told the principle and she didn't do anything but she told me that he was bipolar and that he would eventually stop it kinda did but now when im walking my dog i always always see him and in the hallways he gives me this creepy smirk and watches me all the time what should i do i know she said it would stop but its been 3 darn years and its fudging scary (link)
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If the principal isn't doing anything about this (and most school administrators are freaking useless anyway, total waste of taxpayer money supporting that lot), call the district office and complain to them about the principal's inaction.
At this point, your parents are going to have to get involved. They can also go to court and try to get a restraining order against the kid, which would have the practical effect of getting him kicked out of school if a judge is willing to assign it.
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Theres this one spoiled biznatch in my class who text all the time, and she looks lilke miss queen B when she is texting, and it bothers me.
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Minding one's own business is a virtue. Learn it, live it, love it.
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i lost my viginity at 13, and since then i havent been able to stop, im now 15 and have sucked over 50 differnt boys, and i have had sex with over 30 differnt guys, i also done anal with 10 differnt guys. i really cant stop even though i feel so ashamed its like a thing that im so used to it feels very normal , im only 15 and all the guys have been 16 -35 years old... iv done threesums and all sorts, am i addicted or just a dirty slut?
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Short of going to a therapist, you have to ask yourself why you are so sexually active at that age. Is there a kind of approval you're getting out of it you aren't at home? Were you sexually abused by your father, another relative or a stranger? If so this could cause you to become hypersexualized.
The other component that worsens this is America's puritanical sexual attitudes. You know the definition of puritanism, right? "The overwhelming fear that someone somewhere may be happy" (H.L. Mencken), which leads to self loathing and thus a feeling that being screwed is all you're good for, which is entirely wrong.
There is no such thing as a slut, btw. If a guy can get accolades for bedding everything from Seattle to Sydney then a woman shouldn't be comdemned for being a lusty sexual being, either, but only as long as she is doing it for pure pleasure and not because there is something else going on.
Whatever the case, it is obvious you aren't able to manage your sex life as judiciously as you should at your age. Counseling can really help. Not to confront it now could lead to disease or poverty inducing pregnancy or worse later on. So get some help. Do not go to any religious organization about this. They will mess you up even more.
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i have gone through depression and i am 13 i am still going to therapy and it is helping me alot and i have become alot less stressed and anxious and calmer about my life. But my father hasnt been in my life for quite some time now and i dont miss him i am much releved and happier. i dont miss him i miss having a father but i guess everyone goes through big bumps in ur road of life no matter what age you are. and times occur in the most randoom time i will strat crying becuase i see a happy fmaily or something and that make me sad and i cry and i get it out and the next day im fine. but prior to my depression while still seeing my father i had cut and smoked which i was not proud of and am proud of that i stopped, but i was not addcited to either one but neither was helping me. So anyway prior to my depression from family troubles, let me also say me and my mom and siblings fought alllll the time and it was horrible and sucicidal throught came across my mind and i felt like i was the lonliest sole on this earth that could not connect with anyone else including family and friends, becuase i was mentally abused by my father; and im happy he's out of my life. and so now i have a better relationship with my siblings and a lil with my mom. But not a challenge i face everyday is to become like i was before the depression and my family split, i was a great leader as a friend, sister, and sport player. aND Iwould like to be like that and have but also have the life lessons i've learned. Because i am such a down to earth girl and independent smart funny and nice but tought girl. And now it seems very hard open up or act the way i used to. So for example when i go to parties i like to dance in front of everyone and have a good time. But its sad because i need to have caffenie like coke a cola and then eventually it wears off but then im still dancing becuase then im fine and confdent. sO all i really want to be is more confident and happy and make sure that hole is filled with my saddness and i just want to be happy. So how do i become myslef and happy and confident like i always and was before besides sports because i do sports? to fulfill my life at 13 would to wish to be more confident. if i said this 2 years ago it would be a joke becuase i was nothing but that, not cocky at all but comfortable. to be more confident would mean i would raise my hand in class, raise my grades, be happier, be outloud and funny like i always am, not get benched and be a better friend and sister, and thats what i always was. How do i get to be like that again? thank you sosososos much! (link)
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Confidence is a universal problem. For example, one of the things most people really fear is having to speak in public. There are famous rock musicians and NFL players who throw up before concerts or games due to nerves. You also have to realize that kids your age experience a lot of insecurity as their minds and bodies evolve and each is attempting to figure out who he or she is. So the lack of confidence you feel is part and parcel of being a teenager. Don't overthink it. Just recognize it as, "this is what I am going through right now" and keep looking forward to the next day. Every day you get further away from old wounds and get better and better.
Here is how I deal with things when I get a little down:
1. Do I have a roof over my head? Yes.
2. Am I able to eat regularly? Yes
3. Am I healthy? Yes
4. Do I live in a safe environment? Yes
So already I'm doing better than half the planet. Pretty good, huh?
Then I go on:
5. Am I an ethical person? Yes
6. College degree? Yes
7. Decent job? Yes
8. Kind to animals? Yes
9. Good relationship with my parents? Yes
Man, I'm liking me and my slice of life better and better after that. It might be simpleminded, but I'm grateful for everything I have. I've been really lucky, so it's kinda tough to really have anything to complain about in a major way. I don't know if that is useful to you, but there it is.
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Does the guy Jizz when you give a hand job?
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Yes and it can be pretty messy. Make sure you have some tissues to clean up the splatter.
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Okay i am 13, and me and my boyfriend have been dating for a couple months and we talk about that stuff all the time. We have only madeout (i also got a hickey) but i really wanna turn him on, how? (link)
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You can get on top of him while both of you are fully clothed and rub your vagina against where his penis is. Or you can lay on your back and spread your legs and then have him rub the area where his penis is under his pants against your pants where your vagina is. This is known as dry humping. And yes, he can cum this way but you won't get pregnant.
As far as the blowjobs and handjobs, that is a different matter only because anything like that will soon be all over your school since a guy that age wants to "put points on the board" with his buddies and will tell them if you jacked him off or sucked him. So at this point, I think you should abandon that idea since your relationship with the guy is unlikely to last very long. It just wouldn't be worth the grief from immature boys and jealous girls.
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im 17/f and i wanna know how can i tell if i have breast cancer? ive looked it up on the internet and im still not understanding how do i check? i checked this morning and i couldve sworn i felt a large bump under my skin, im not sure and i dont wanna worry my mom or doctor. i just need to know how what to feel for and where to feel for it. thanks (link)
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Tell your mom to take you to the doctor. With something like this you can't take chances. And even if it is a false alarm, the physician can show you how to do a proper breast self examination.
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me and my bestfriend have decided we like eachother in a way that most people thinks wrong. we're both girls, i'm fifteen and she's sixteen, and we've ended up making out and doing little things when we're really drunk but we don't know what else you can do? we're going to try doing something sober to see if it's for us, but we don't know what to do, as we're both slightly uncomfertable with going down on eachother as its just a bit weird, and like, i don't know. we just need something to do but we're unsure of what girls can do with eachother. suggestions welcome! thankyou(: xxx (link)
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First, the sexual experimentation is normal. Nothing weird about what you guys have been doing at all. So don't worry about it.
The thing is that there is no need to attach a hard and fast deadline. Continue to talk this out and see where it goes.
Also, what is weird about it? Are you worried about the opinions of others? Sorry, but never bring anyone else into the bedroom other than your partner. They just get in the way.
If it is weird because it doesn't feel natural then that is a total other issue. If you want to leave the touchy feely aspect of your relationship back in the last time you did it no harm there. Each of you as an individual has to do what is right for your own life.
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I'm the girl that cuts and thinks about suicide too often. I know there has to be something wrong with me mentally and that I need help. But I have no friends that I can trust, no one that even likes me. The teachers all look away whenever I come by. My parents are the type that are obsessed with image. If I tell them anything that could damage their image, they ignore it and pretend like it's not even there. So what do I do? I don't want to do it, but some days are harder to ignore than others. Who do I turn to? (link)
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Yeah, you want attention and positive reinforcement and aren't getting it, so you cut yourself to obtain it. Not unusual.
The other part of it is that your parents have narcissistic personality disorder and you're pretty much an unwitting captive to their illness.
Aside from the usual advice of "go see a therapist," (pretty facile, no?), the only thing I can urge you to do is to take control of your life and just try to determine your own path. What do you want to do that would make you happy?
The other thing you have to realize is that high schools are basically conformity machines for teens swallowed up by their own ignorance and insecurity. That is why they are there, to make everybody willing little corporate cubicle slaves who display fealty to the military industrial complex that runs this country. So anyone with real brains and an ability to think in an original manner kinda gets ostracized. Once you are legally allowed to extricate yourself from that crap (like going to college) you will find more people like you and will finally be able to move forward with your life.
So make plans to move away to college in order to get away from your toxic parents and the stifling cattletown you live in. Believe me, it gets a lot better from there as long as you continue to act in a way that keeps all your options open (in other words, no pregnancy, drugs, debt or crime).
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How do I get over being dumped without even an explanation or a phone call? (link)
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First, you have to write it off to your partner's cowardice and move on. When I break up with someone, I never make contact with them again and I get rid of anything they may have given me. That makes it easier to get on to the next stage of my life.
The hardest part of the process is the idea of being alone again. But a more constructive way to look at it is getting your freedom back and all your time being available to you as you see fit. So often times there is opportunity in a negative event. You may find someone better than your ex. So look forward to it.
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I'm 18f and I'm 5 foot; My boyfriend is 6'1; We usually have sex with me on bottom, and I get bored. I like to take controll sometimes as well, and I have a hard time reaching the "0". I never have actually, so I figured new positions would help. We tried me on top, and It won't stay in, it's always coming out, and I try to go slow, and not move up as much but it still manages to come out. My boyfriend is 7 1/2 inches, so I don't think his size is why.
When we do it Doggy Style, it doesn't work, at all. Literally.No matter how much I spread my legs apart, or even bring my body up, he can never get it in, or even keep it in,
Any advice on some good sex positions, or even some tips to help me reach the "O" he's always getting his, which I don't mind, but I'd like to get mine for once, ya know?
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You don't say how long he lasts before he ejaculates. Quite a bit more foreplay might do the trick in getting you warmed up. And to be frank, he should be giving you manual or oral stimulation to orgasm before he enters you anyway. You might try a blindfold and see if that helps concentrate the sensations better for you. It's not usually a question of the positions as to why you aren't cumming.
You may also be putting pressure on yourself to orgasm, which will only delay things. Take some deep breaths and let your body go limp when he is on top or behind you and just focus your mind on the sensations and nothing else.
It appears to me that sex is still a little awkward for you guys. I think you're still figuring it out. Either that or you just don't have that much sexual chemistry. It happens. Nobody's fault and just one of those things.
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Me and my boyfriend were watching a movie.and He randomly started touching my boob and rubbing it and I didnt mind it to much so I let it go. He then started rubbing up and down my arm but when I did the same to him his penis rose up in his pants( so much that I could see it) It was very awkward and I dont really want it to happen again lol WHAT DO I DO? (link)
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Guys at that age get hard when the wind blows the right way *lol. So you will see erections again. Just relax and view it as a normal male physiological response. Because it is.
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Open Question:
My 44 year old aunt is pregnant, Could something happen to her if she has the baby?
My aunt Jess is 44 (I think) and she jus told us that she's 4 months pregant. This is her only baby. She's been pregnant before but the other babies died really early before they were born. So anyway. I heard that its not good for old women to have babies. I heard that they can die or the babies can die or both. I'm really worried about aunt jess because she's helped my dad take care of me and my siblings since my mom left when me and my twin were babies (my mom was depressed). Aunt jess is like a mom to me, the only mom I've ever known even though my dads had lots of girlfriends. I dnt wanna lose aunt jess. I dnt want the baby to kill her. I'm scared. But aunt jess has wanted a baby for a long time. She said we're like her babies but its not the same. What's gonna happen to her? Will she be okay? What about the baby? What if aunt jess is ok but she looses the baby and gets the same kind of depressed that my mom had and leaves like she did. I need aunt jess, I love her and I dnt know what to do. Do you think she will be okay? (link)
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It's true that at that age there can be more complications for both baby and mother. However, given today's medical technology, pretty damned unlikely she is going to die from the birth. I'm actually more worried about the kid. Here's to hoping everything goes well.
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I am a 13 year old girl and I want to know what i can to to be hotter towards guys. I find myself to be okay looking, I am 5'3, pretty straight blond hair, freckles on my nose, blue eyes, straight teeth, and im not fat but I am not skinny either. My personality isn't that bad either, I am kind to everyone, smart, but I am kind of shy toward the guys I like.
I want to know what a guy around my age considers hot and what I can do to be hotter.
And Please do not put answers like I am to young to be worrying about guys or I should not change for a guy. It is not like i am getting plastic surgery! I think it would be for the best because I could get more self confidence.
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At that age, short of going around everywhere in a bikini, wear skirts above the knee or hip huggers and halter tops or blouses tied off just above the belly button. Keep your hair as long as possible (down to your butt if possible, though it is a major hassle to take care of when it's that long). And heels (though at your age heels are bad for your feet and could lead to major structural issues later on). Wear some red lipstick, but otherwise as little makeup as possible. Makeup on a junior high schooler looks really fakey and desperate.
Don't go for pants that show your thong. It makes you look like a hoochie and just is not hot.
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