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Why do people say that they wish they never lost there virginty...?
My sister say they wish they hadnt lost there virginty why is that..?
Also, i was wondering wht do u have to do to be prepared for sex like wht do i have to do so hes not discusted or something like im not sexauly active but i want to know if i ever decide that im ready..?
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I personally don't understand making virginity so sacrosanct. There are good, logical reasons for teens to not engage in sex (poor impulse control could result in something with lifetime consequences plus most guys that age are just going to be terrible at it, which is no fun for the woman), but there is a first time for everything and the initial instance of intercourse is just that and little more.
Two things may be at work here: since primitive times, virginity has been marketed for political and economic gain by families making alliances and religion then came in and rubber stamped that primitive, patriarchal, misogynistic, tribal and wholly counterproductive outlook on sexuality. I guess there was an allure of that "new vagina smell" or something. It was part of the fact that women were largely looked at as chattel.
Young women should choose their first lovers carefully if only so they don't get turned off to sex by someone who is a selfish boor or worse. But the virginity itself should not be commodified. I mean, come on, let's grow up.
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Most people regret having Sex because most men take advantage of it. Some men just go out with women until they have sex with them and just dump them. Believe it or not, men love sex. All what it brings them is pleasure. Your sister probably regrets having sex because the person she had sex with was someone she did not truly love. You should always wait for the right moment, when you are with that special someone that you know you will love forever, and then you should have sex. Not with someone that you just want to have sex with because he is pressuring you into it.
I think it depends on what your boyfriend likes. I think that you should shave down there. I have no idea, but most men think that women with hair down there are disgusting, so I suggest that. Also, wear an easy to take off bra and a tong. It does not really matter actually, because when you are into it, he completely forgets about what you look like. So, you shouldn't think about that too much. Also, remind him to use a condom. But use foam, because men are usually forgetful. That is if you don't want to get pregnant.
I know that I gave you advice on sex, but to be honest, I think that no one should have sex below the age of 16. Most girls want it because they think it will be an experience, but about 90% of them end up regretting doing it. Also, if you do want to have sex, make sure it is with someone you truly love. And never do it with a guy that keeps on saying "We have been going out for...... and we still haven't had sex." Because that means the only reason he is dating you is because of sex. So wait for the right moment.
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If you want it, you want it. If you don't you don't. Just make sure you know which it is before doing it. DUH.
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I am old enough to be your grandfather. I believe in giving straight answers to the questions I chose to answer on this website. The given below is the best information I have or have researched for your question.
I found the website, shown at the end, while answering a very similar question for other young ladies. I believe you should review this website before making any decision about having sex, starting with “Am I ready?”
On the subject of are you ready: all I will say is sexual intercourse is a beautiful thing between two loving responsible people. Sex for you as a woman is different than for the boy. You are more emotionally mature than a partner would at your same age by about 2 years. Sex for a woman most always have a loving relationship, meaning women usually do not hop in and out of bed. Where for a boy of the same age sex is more of a conquest, away to satisfy raging hormones.
The odds are against you marring the boy you give your virginity to, so be selective as to who you chose to be your first. Make sure you find someplace you can have your first sexual experience that is safe, relaxing and that you will be undisturbed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days and always have him use a condom.
As someone who is old enough to be your grandparent I should be telling you to wait. I am sure your parents have already given you that advice and it is good advice. It is also hypocritical of most of us as most all of us my age and younger engaged in sex long before we were married. What I will say is there are ways of satisfying the sexual urges without having intercourse. There is masturbation, mutual masturbation, which is generally apart of foreplay, BJ’s and HJ’s. At your present ages you can have all the intimacy of sex using these alternatives without running the possibility of an unwanted pregnancy. Remember no birth control is 100% effective. End of lecture.
My advice is to wait a few more years, let you and your bodies mature a bit more so that you can fully enjoy a sexual relationship. Don’t let pear pressure force you to do something you may not be fully ready for.
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Because some people consider it special and regret the symbolic waste of their virginity to a person that they didn't have much of a relationship or emotional connection with. It's more special to many people if it is done with someone you genuinely love.
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Some people say they wish they didn't lose their virginity because its sacred its something that you can never get back and once you have sex for the first time the first person who you have sex with you will be emotionally attached to them because they were your first. As far as preparing for sex just beware of the consequences that come with sex, and be emotionally ready . as far as him being disgusted just make sure your clean, shave, and stay calm and relax if you tense up then it will hurt more.
kk hope i helped :)
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