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how do we do it?
me and my bestfriend have decided we like eachother in a way that most people thinks wrong. we're both girls, i'm fifteen and she's sixteen, and we've ended up making out and doing little things when we're really drunk but we don't know what else you can do? we're going to try doing something sober to see if it's for us, but we don't know what to do, as we're both slightly uncomfertable with going down on eachother as its just a bit weird, and like, i don't know. we just need something to do but we're unsure of what girls can do with eachother. suggestions welcome! thankyou(: xxx
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First, the sexual experimentation is normal. Nothing weird about what you guys have been doing at all. So don't worry about it.
The thing is that there is no need to attach a hard and fast deadline. Continue to talk this out and see where it goes.
Also, what is weird about it? Are you worried about the opinions of others? Sorry, but never bring anyone else into the bedroom other than your partner. They just get in the way.
If it is weird because it doesn't feel natural then that is a total other issue. If you want to leave the touchy feely aspect of your relationship back in the last time you did it no harm there. Each of you as an individual has to do what is right for your own life.
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You've heard this already, but don't drink. Fifteen and sixteen is way, way too young to drink. It's illegal, for one thing. It's dangerous, for another thing. The problems that you'll encounter if you get caught drinking by someone in authority will be much bigger problems than "what do we do in bed?" problems.
BUT on the other note, go slow. If you're comfortable, then keep going. If you're not comfortable, stop.
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Please wait to drink. But back to the advice! If you guys are interested in becoming lesbians or bi-sexual's they're many ways to please each other. You guys do not have to have oral sex, but maybe one can fondle( play ) with the other's vagina. You can always use sex toys, like dildo's, vibrator's, sex oil. Kissing on ea. other body's and playing with ea. other sexually can turn one another on. If this doesn't work maybe it mean this isn't meant to be so don't force it. Good Luck!
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I have to agree a little bit with adviceman on holding off on the drinking until you get a bit older. But, since your both underage, you can experiment with sex. I had my first same sex experience when I was your age and loved every other experience I had after that. I think setting the mood will help a lot. Use candles to light the room, that will make being naked a little easier. Give each other a back rub, this will get you relaxed and comfortable. I'm guessing you don't have any adult toys to play with, so you can try using a long candle to put inside her and your fingers to stimulate her clit. Just take things slow and do the same things to her that make you feel good. If you have any other questions, please feel to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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if i was you i would probobly just start out with maybe touching each other if its not too awkward move on to fingering each other??? idk.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
I don't like to put label on things especially sexuality at your present age. It is not unusual for girls or boys to experiment with sex between two people of the same sex. It is part of the process of figuring out your sexuality.
What is most important about sex be it girl/girl or girl/boy is it be consensual between both parties. That is a rule to live by from puberty to death. Both parties in any sexual situation have to consent to whatever it is you want to do or try. Without consent it could be Rape or at the very least not very satisfying for one party. As long as both parties consent then nothing you do or try is weird as long as it is done in private and no one is physically harmed.
Now the grandfather in me feels a lecture coming on: Both of you are way to young to be drinking and getting drunk. I know the attraction alcohol has for young people. I may be old but I'm not naive on this subject. I dealt with it the same as my father did. My son was allowed to drink at home in front of me without any problems. He was in trouble if I caught him drinking outside my home or view.
There are very good reasons there are laws against teenage drinking. As a volunteer fire fighter I have seen the results of teenage drinking. I would have loved to have teenage drinkers and teenage drunk drivers sentenced to ride along with us on the rescue squad on weekends. These are the times when we would have to rescue teenagers from their bent and smashed cars. Sometimes it is a body recovery and not a rescue. At those times I wondered who had the worse job, us or the Police Officers that have to make the notification to the parents.
Take a minute and think about this. It is 3AM and two Police Officers knock on the door of your parents home. Your father answers the door. He knows without the officers saying a word to him that you have either died in a car accident or in a the hospital, the result of an accident most likely caused by drunk driving. How do you think your father feels at that moment?
Teenagers are not mature enough to handle the effects of alcohol, this is why there are laws against teenage drinking. A teenager like everything else in life needs to learn how to drink responsibly and that is why I chose to let my son drink at home where I could monitor his drinking.
It is not cool to drink, things happen when your drunk. Date rape is the most common think to happen to a girl when she is drunk. It happens when she is either passed out or her inhibitions are so reduced that she puts up little or no resistance.
I've seen and dealt with it all being on a rescue squad. Drinking lowers your inhibitions, makes you feel as if you can conquer the world and no harm can come to you. The next thing you know someone like me is standing over you and you hear the jaws of life tearing at the car trying to free you from the wreckage.
Yea, I'm painting a pretty bad picture, but you know what? This is the picture that turns into reality about 90% of the time for teenagers that drink. It may not be you to day, but if you continue to drink as a teenager you may just meet me or someone like me in the near future.
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Have you thought about the fact that your bisexual or lesbian? Are you attracted to girls? Cause if you was , and knowing she is your best mate you wouldn't mind doing anything. However since your both unsure on going down on eachother I think you both need to wait on that, no pressure. Make sure you 100 percent positive on what your doing.
Right you say you both feel weired , maybe you lot doing things at a certain age is uncomfortable I personally think you both need to like relax totally and think before you do things because say one of you ain't up to it and ends up regreting it. If you both like eachother just stick to the basics to rush things unless you both want to end up being in a relationship. If your only going to do things while your sober then there is no point in doing anything at all , for you both to do intimate stuff you both have to feeling something strong for eachother and have alot of trust knowing that only you two are gonna be the ones who will know what your doing. Yet again both have to respect eachother by this I mean you lot are really young and if your best mate aint up for it you can't force her at all. Talk to her about this and especially on what you feel for eachother. Honesty is always the best policy , you wanna do something that its nice and yet your both gonna be happy with :)
You can make out its alright its normal , you can use toys but in my opinion i think you both are really young for this. I've done things with girls before in the past but to be honest it don't feel the same when your drunk and i ain't bisexual because this was when i was like around your age. Think carefully on what you do , good luck babe :) xxx
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