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My aunt is 44 years old and she is pregnant. im worried
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My 44 year old aunt is pregnant, Could something happen to her if she has the baby?
My aunt Jess is 44 (I think) and she jus told us that she's 4 months pregant. This is her only baby. She's been pregnant before but the other babies died really early before they were born. So anyway. I heard that its not good for old women to have babies. I heard that they can die or the babies can die or both. I'm really worried about aunt jess because she's helped my dad take care of me and my siblings since my mom left when me and my twin were babies (my mom was depressed). Aunt jess is like a mom to me, the only mom I've ever known even though my dads had lots of girlfriends. I dnt wanna lose aunt jess. I dnt want the baby to kill her. I'm scared. But aunt jess has wanted a baby for a long time. She said we're like her babies but its not the same. What's gonna happen to her? Will she be okay? What about the baby? What if aunt jess is ok but she looses the baby and gets the same kind of depressed that my mom had and leaves like she did. I need aunt jess, I love her and I dnt know what to do. Do you think she will be okay?
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It's true that at that age there can be more complications for both baby and mother. However, given today's medical technology, pretty damned unlikely she is going to die from the birth. I'm actually more worried about the kid. Here's to hoping everything goes well.
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The risk factors during pregnancy increase in women over the age of 35. This is why for women over the age of 35 their pregnancies are considered high risk. Most of what I have read show the biggest risks are to the baby from lower quality eggs, although there are risk to the mother as well.
You have every right to be concerned, although I feel your biggest fear is fear of the unknown. Take the time to find out what the risk factors really are and what can be done to avoid them or mitigate them. Talk to your Aunt about them and ask if you can go with her to he doctor if you feel the need to for more assurance if nothing else, that the doctor is taking good care of your Aunt and is aware of the risks and monitoring your Aunt. Your Aunt will also need someone to help her with some of the house work and other things she does. You can be a big help during her pregnancy by taking over some of these responsibilities.
You can start your research by visiting the following website and then find some of your own:http:
//www.planningfamily.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-risk-factors/age/
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You are right, pregnancies get more dangerous the older the woman is, which is why it is so important to concult with a experienced gynocologist. They will take all these factors into acount and advise your aunt on what is best for her individual situation.
Don't worry too much!
G'Luck ;D
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Talk to your aunt about your fears. Write them down, or even e-mail this question to her, so she can see what is worrying you.
If she has wanted a baby for a long time, she probably is talking to a good doctor (she might have even used fertility treatments to help her get pregnant) and is taking very good care of herself. She can tell you a little bit about what she knows, and what she is doing to help things go as well as possible.
It's very, very, VERY unlikely that she will die - I don't like to say never, but it's not really a big risk at all. Having children in your forties these days is not the same as it was 100 years ago - especially if you are healthy. The hardest part of it for most mothers in their forties is getting pregnant. When you are older, you are less fertile. Although there is a greater risk of miscarriage in your 40s, that is exactly why your aunt waited until she was four months along to tell you! After three months, a pregnancy is much more likely to be successful.
The best thing you can do is ask your aunt for more information to help you understand and be calm. Although there are some risks, she wont want you to be scared for her. It sounds like she is a very strong and loving person and this is something she is really passionate about, and very happy about.
Open up to her. So you can share her joy, and she can help put your worries to rest. Although it's a bit riskier to have children later in life, it's not like it was decades ago, and many woman manage it with great success. Talk to your aunt, and trust her.
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A lot of women give birth at older ages, yes it is more dangerous and the chances of birth defects are higher (nothing serious however)It is perfectly natural to be afraid for her, but if she is healthy she should be just fine seeing as my mother was 37 when she had my little brother.
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