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So i recently started talking to this guy on facebook who i knew... i just never talked to. He's a sophomore in college and i'm a junior in high school.
My first question... is that do you think he's too old for me?
Now, he's really straight edge and doesn't do drugs or drink or smoke or anything! we have a lot in common and he's really nice. Normally when i talk to guys like this they end up wanting something, or just want to fool around or are just plain old creepy. And i'm not getting that vibe from him at all, he's really nice and sweet. My parents would kill me if i went out with him... despite the fact he has tatoos and piercings =/
help?
is he too old?
If not, what do i do about my parents?
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Not at all, it maybe difficult though because you're still in high school and he's in college. The different environments that you are in may effect whether or not a relationship will or can start out. Well I'm guessing your either 16, 17, or 18 and if thats the case you have to let your parents know that they can't continue to tell you who to date. Just sit down and have a talk with them about and let them know whats going on.
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ok i always talk about how i want kids right now.. and im 17 female and my bf is going to be 18. he told me at least wait til im 18 so our parents cant tell us anything cause they already tell us stuff and were both still virgins! so they just act stupid! well anyways i have a baby brother that is going to be 4 in december..everytime he is around when my boyfriend is wich is like every single time! my boyfriend gives him like 98% of his time and attention wile i only get like 2%. it super sucks and ive already tried talking to him abotu it. and he says well hes a kid he needs attention too!
well when my baby brother is with me and were by ourselves hes all nice and loving and cute! then once he gets with me and my boyfriend of almost 11 months then hes all mean to me and stays in his arms the entire time! and he bees mean to me so i be mean back then my bf starts telling me crap. well he never fails to mention.. "and u want kids? you cant even handle your own baby brother" and i say well its cause hes my brother! its suposed to be like that. any other kid i can. he doesnt believe me. but when i try to be nice and sweet to my baby brother to show him my baby brother keeps acting up with me. so its super hard. what can i do to prove to him i can handle kids. i want them id be a good mom, and i want to live my life with him and our future kids?! someone please help me. (link)
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Well I knwo the idea of having kids right now seem nice but you're ONLY 17 and he is ONLY 18. You both should think about school right now and possibly what a colleges you want to go to. You also want think about careers and where you want to live. A baby is a big responsibility as you can see with your baby brother they need a lot of attention. I think you should just enjoy being young for right now and not grow up so fast because life will change for good. I feel you both just need to concentrate on school and the relationship and worry about babies when you're a lot older.
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okay. so i am 15/f. i have been free from anorexia for 5 months now. but i think it is coming back. i am starting to act like i used to. anorexia is triggered when there is something bothering you and you use your anorexia to distract yourself from it..it is a coping mechanism. so my depression is coming back as well and i have really low self esteem. and as i am writing this i refuse to eat. i want to lose weight. i feel like i gained so much. not eating is the only way that will make me lose weight the quickest. i just don't care about myself. i feel lonely. i don't understand why i feel this way. i feel crazy sometimes. i feel like i want to be sad and i want to be weak and broken. i have problems. (link)
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I suggest you go talk to someone about this its serious you shouldn't starve yourself and you shouldn't be sad. Go talk to someone about this you'll feel much better and even though things look bad now they'll get better if you get help!
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21/f and he's like 23 or 24...
Okay I was talking this guy named jose back in june of 2009. He found me on a website and the conversations were good. I was actually interested in him and vice-versa. He always complemented me and told me all the sweet things I don't hear so much. So I allowed him to talk to my friend samantha because I wanted her to see if she thought he was a good guy for me. HOWEVER, he was sitten here telling her the same things he was telling me. So I busted him we he tried to jump stupid with me (and that was about meeting up with him cause I'm not to fond about meeting up with people I don't really know). So he felt like crap and pleaded to me that I am the only one he wants and blah blah. He admitted to his mistake and apologized for it. Then I randomly messaged him in August of 2009. We started talking again, and it was like the connection was stronger than before. So I finally decided to meet up with him. He was nice and all, but he kept touching me (and it was irritating me), then he wanted to make out like every 5 seconds (and that irritated me too), not to mention that I wasn't even attracted to him in person. He just pretty much smothered me and I felt like he was rushing things which was not what I wanted. Anyhow, shortly thereafter, I stopped talking to him again....
Now he found me again on his phone. And I figured what's wrong with being friends with him, so we ended up talking on the phone for like 2 hours! (Mind you, I HATE talking on the phone).... he kept telling me to let him prove to me that he is a good man and he want's to cook for me and start things off fresh again. He told me that I am the most wonderful girl that he's ever talked to because other females are not on my "level".
I simply just live for success. Failure to me is not an option so I am very pro education. I'm in school, work at a school, and studying to be a teacher.
Anyhow, I am trying to figure out why God has put him back into my life. Don't get me wrong, his personality is what I perfer but I am kinda not attracted to him. I mean is attraction important? I'm not fine but not ugly either (So idk what he sees). Should I talk to him again and see where it goes? I seriously have my guard up because I've been single for 3 years and have been used for sex by guys that I thought LIKED me. I'll be honest when I say I am sick of it and my heart has turned black. I TRUST NO MAN. But as other person sometimes it get's lonely. So I was wondering try again or move around? Thanks for your help as it is GREATLY GREATLY APPRECIATED!!! (link)
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Join the club!
Sometimes those websites that I go on to the guys will say anything to get my attention which is quite annoying. It seems to me as though you are not interested in this guy...it seems you can have a conversation but you're not connecting entirely with him. I've had relationships and hook-ups like that where we'll be close at first but then drift away and then back and in the end it doesn't work. I have a very hard time trusting guys its so hard because of things that have happened. I would suggest you don't continue talking to this guy it seems as though he is trying way to hard and you're not interested. I would move on and if he contacts you ignore him or tell him you aren't interested anymore. Good Luck!
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I got a text from my girlfriend last night saying that her parents are making us break up because they found out that I touched her in innapropriate places. She is only fifteen and I am eighteen. I need to know what to do to. I don't want us to break up but her parents can get me in a lot of trouble if I don't obey their wishes. If I could have a second chance, I wouldn't touch her anywhere. Right now, I just think I need someone to talk to. I have had suicidal thoughts and that's not normal for me and I don't like it. Please please tell me what I can do! (link)
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Well this is a very difficult situation because she is underage. Have you talked to her about it? Maybe there is a way to get back on her parent's good sides...like maybe she could suggest you to come over for dinner with her parents or something. I know you don't want to break up I know hwo you feel but this situation seems a bit complicated and she is young. Talk to her about it and see if there is anything you can do to reassure her parents that your not a jerk. Parents tend to be overprotective anyway and she is on her way to becoming an adult. Ask her is this what she wants or what or parents want?
I think you should go see a guidance counselor ASAP. Thinking that any suicidal thoughts is NEVER good so definitely go see someone as soon as you can!
Good luck!
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16/f
'Symptoms of stress include, feeling anxious, feeling scared, irritable or moody. Stress affects thoughts. Thoughts of low self-esteem, fear of failure, inability to concentrate, worrying about the future, preoccupation with thoughts/tasks and forgetfulness can be present. Stress affects behavior.'
that pretty much describes how i have been feelin lately. im around 6 months pregnant, and i feel like im in a deep depression.
i feel like no one likes me anymore. i feel very socially awkward in situations that id never feel that way in normally. i feel worried about every single thing people might think about me. i feel like im always on the verge of a panic attack (which ive had one and totally scared of it happenin again).
before, this was never me. i was very out goin, easy to get along with, always the one to calm down others, always laughin and havin a good time. now i feel like no matter where i go im out of place. even chillin with my girl-friends who ive been friends with for 4 years now.
especially when i try to talk to guys, its like i forgot how to talk to them ! its so weird, because i can usually flirt and get along great with guys, but now i cant even talk to them because i feel like theres no point :/
someone please give me some tips or ways to cope with this, i feel like im goin crazy. thanks (link)
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Well there are a few ways to cope with anxiety and stress which is to maybe do something that you LOVE to do...whether it be listening to music, watching movies, or even painting. Do something that calms you or maybe listen to your favorite musician who calms you down...I listen to my favorite radio program to calm me down. This is a point in your life where you may feel stressed many people go through times where they feel more anxious then usual. Hang in there it will get better I'm sure there are people who care about you and will help you if you ask for it. Another thing is maybe you should see a counselor whether it be in school or outside of school just so you can talk to someone about how you're feeling.
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I don't really know if this is the right topic or whatever but here it goes..
17/f and he's 16/m
so on halloween, I invited my boyfriend of 5 months to hang out with my friends and i. it was like, 6 girls [including me] and then him. they all like him, so it wasn't awkward. but like.. we were making out when the lights were out [we were laying down on the couch side by side]
then like, the lights went on we were all just talking and taking pictures. after a while we turned the lights off and started watching a movie. well i started falling asleep on my boyfriend and he was like wake up cutie and all that. it was cute :] and then like, he playfully bit my shoulder, and then like my knuckles and then my finger. it wasn't really a bite, but more like a light nip hahaa, if that makes sense. it was playful :] not intentions of hurting me. but is there a reason why he did this? idkk. hahaa. explanations anyone ? I'm just curious.
THANK YOUU.
oh and if it helps any, all we've done is make out and hes felt me up. (link)
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I think he's jsut being playful that all! Boys tend to be playful like biting or even pushing or what have you. If you don't like it let him know or talk to him about it if it makes you uncomfortable...in a relationship you need both trust and communication!
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so in the morning, i set my alarm for 5:45. I dont get up until 6:20 I can never seem to hear my alarm clock and my mom is getting really mad about it. Im sixteen and cant wake up she eventually has to come in there 3-4 times until im out of bed. Why cant i drag myself out of bed? my mom just established i acctually have a bedtime-_- not only that its 9:30 that is riddiculous. im sixteen, and a junior in highschool. i mean that is insane. she said it will drop when i get myself up but i cant seem to do it ive tried. Help me get ways to get out of bed!. oh and i dont need an alarm clock. its what gets my mom up in the morning. she doesnt have to get up until like eight. (link)
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Well getting up is difficult in the morning and it is something that I dread! I hate waking up from my comfortable bed but I have to get up and start my day. Having a good night sleep is good you may feel like going to bed at 9:30 at 16 is a drag but it will help you in the long run. What you could do is set an alarm but place it further away from your bed and put it really loud! You may hate getting out of bed but the fact is, is that you just have to force yourself which is the hardest part.
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so just to give u a background, im 16, girl, 2 parents, both doctors, an older sister and 2 little sisters. my paretns are both really strcit and anoyying and unreasonable. they always punish me and stuff for the stupidest reasons and i cant do anythnig about it. fighting bac does nothing becauswe they dont care what i have to say. and they would nebver think their wrong. and i cant rebel or anything because thel just punish me more. so basily they own me and i have to listen to all of their ridiculous ideas and theirs nothing i can do. i cant live like this. i need help. advice? words of wisdom? just anything to getme throught this.... (link)
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Parents can be difficult...my mom and I constantly butt heads about stupid things. Ever since I reached my teenage years my mom is always up my back and even yelling at me for not taking out the trash. What I would do is sit back and look at you and what are you doing wrong. Not saying you are doing anything wrong but look and see what could I do to make this situation better? If that doesn't work I would try and reach out to someone outside of your home that you are close to and that you go see to "escape" your parents. Sometimes parents tend to take their stress out on the kids at home but you don't need that! At the end of the day you have to realize they do love you and still care about.
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ok not really. he is my frist boyfriend and well i know he likes me alot and stuff. but what if like i know if he run in old freind if it woman and if i seen woman flarting or something. what can do show he is mine! plus even they might not relize he with me you know?
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Jealousy does come up often whether its your first boyfriend or even your fifth. Jealousy gets some people crazy one of my friends checks her boyfriend's myspace page because she wants to know who these girls are that are leaving him comments. Point is don't worry about it as long as you trust your boyfriend you have nothing to worry about. Put yourself in his situation you would reassure him that you weren't going to flirting with other guys right? Right! So trust your boyfriend because jealousy is a big factor in break ups and it ruins relationships. One of my boyfriends way back when use to give me hickeys to show I was taken...it was a joke but it work well! He is with you not the other girls and its obvious he cares for you more!
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So I want to get to know a guy and I'm wondering if anyone knows any good ideas for stuff to do after school during the week besides chilling at someones house. Thanks! (link)
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Bowling
Movies
Lunch
Dinner
Laser Tag
Go for a walk even
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so i was thinking of getting an ipod touch bti was thinking to myself last night can you put songs onto it from your laptop or do you have to buy them all from itnes ?? any one know thanks(: (link)
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As long as the music on your computer works on iTunes then you're all set...you don't have to buy music from iTunes you can burn any of the CDs that you might have onto your computer.
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i'm just going to come straigh out with this. i'm 19 years old. i've never "opened kissed" a guy before if thats what you want to call it. i've madeout with guys before and i HATE it. i'm definately straight, i just dont like the feeling. never been in a real relationship either and ive been told that im very attractive and alot of guys have tried getting to know me but i push them away because i dont want that awkward kiss to come. if i told a guy i didnt like french kissing, he'd probably think i was crazy and stop talking to me. and how exactly do you open kiss? do you bascially kind of suck on the persons lip a little? uggghh. this kissing this is whats keeping me from having a relationship because i'm so embarassed. everyone expects me to be experienced because what i look like.. but im not. at all. still a virgin:) and will be for awhile but the kissing thing... ADVICE!? (link)
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I actually didn't get my kiss until was 18 was a senior in high school at the time. It was so nervous wracking because my boyfriend at the time me much forced his tongue down my throat meanwhile we had 40 year old Virgin on. It was a VERY awkward situation! What you should do is if you don't like tongue then don't do it...I hated tongued for a long time because guys do it differently. What I did for the longest time was just suck their lips and that was fun and all but itgets boring after awhile. What you should do for kissing is PLT! First you Peck the guy on the lips and then back away from his lips. Second go back and start Sucking on his lips. Then finally when you feel ready or when he does just massage your Tongue with his.
Remember PLT (Peck, Lips, and Tongue)
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17/f
so, in my one class, there is this one boy, who is really good looking, and he seems like the type of boy that i would have a lot of similar interests with. (music, art.) anyway, i told the two girls i sit next to and talk to frequently in there how i thought he was hot, and so the one girl acted very.. middle schoolish.. & went and called this other girl skylar over, and she was like oh skylar! kendall thinks chris is hot! and they were like SHOUTING this conversation, and so, skylar had chris come over and hand me a paper, and i was so embarrassed, because i thought he heard. well she ended up telling him that i liked him or whatever, and the next day skylar was by my table, and she says loudly.."oh guess who is coming to give you your paper!" & i was like ughhh. & usually he just puts the piece of paper on my desk, and continues, but this time, he held it out, and i had to turn to face him and grabbed it & me being shy i just smiled, and so then he hit his head on the cabinet and me and the girl that sits next to me started laughing, so he stood at the end of the table, and was like "so does anyone else need paper?" (we all needed paper, he knew it too, because we were going to have to draw him, & it was the paper we were using.) & so the one girl was like "Yes? don't we all need it?" & he was like "oh yeah." & he stood there for another second, and then walked away.
it was really awkward, and i'm not sure what to make of it. in your opinion of what i told you, do you think he may be interested? a lot of my friends think he is, but i don't know. & if he is, what do i say next (keep in mind i'm really shy.) & if you don't think he is & probably finds me repulsive.. what do i do? just ignore him? (link)
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Well its hard to tell because that girl kind of made a big deal about it so that makes it a little awkward. From what you have written I can't really make out if he likes you or not its hard to tell. I would say maybe talk to him and get to know him. Maybe even ask him if you guys can hang out sometime whether it be just you two or maybe to make it a little more comfortable a group of people.
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hello 14/f 8th grader :) arizona.. 13m 7th grader:)
Well, everything seems like its going alright.We are in diffrent grades(so we cant talk much:/) Plus my phone and his phone is taken away haha. When we do see each other, during the day we make faces at each other and he hugs me and stuff. Today, Friday (every friday the 6th plays intmerals in the gym, arizona has gym that period so i can watch him play haha) He shows off for me and smiles at me, every time he got hit by a ball he would look at me and laugh. He's so sweet he can always make me smile. The one thing that made me excited was he we put are arms around each other today, it made me feel great. Our dance is next week and my friend told him that i want to slow dance..and kiss him than. haha i wish she didnt say that, now i think we will. It's not a bad thing haha i just hope we will stay together. I was wondering does a cancer (me) and a gemini (arizona) work out alright? i heard we can? what do you guys think?
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Well it sounds like its working out great now jsut don't rush anything and don't analyze just enjoy it! You both seem to enjoy each others company and right now thats all that matters.
According to my Google search I have found an article that defines the relationship of a cancer and gemini.
http://astrology.about.com/od/geminilovematches/qt/GeminiCancer.htm
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So, I'm 15. female. I've had this boyfriend for a little over 2 months now. And like, he's kinda one of those flirty boys, the one that flirts with a lot of girls and stuff. So i just have this gut feeling hes flirting with others girls behind my back and shit. Like last night, he textes me (doesnt have anything to do with convo) "I mean, I can text you tomorrow if you want me to ;)" And I was like oh that must have been to someone else..and he was liek "no it was to you baby." and i was like "nahhh tht woulda been completely random." And then he was like "hahaha your right, it was to someone else." So he fucking lied about it. And I honestly don't know. I mean I text a lot of other guys and shit, but the thought of him flirting with other girls makes me sick. and texting other girls does too. I just have this really bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that he flirts with a million girls, while in a relationship with me. uhh? any advice on what i should do ? thanks guys :D much loove. (link)
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Well first you need to confront him and tell him how you feel about it. this case honesty is the BEST policy and if he is going to beat around the bush and not tell you whats going on then you need either break it off with him or have him chase after you. He should be your guy no one elses and remind him of that because flirting with other people while in a relationship is a definite NO-NO especially if doesn't make you feel comfortable!
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im 16/male
my brother is 18
i just wanted to know what is wrong with me. me and my brother get into fights pretty often, but when we dont, we're good friends. When we fight, its pretty much 50% yelling and 50% pushing. He does most of the pushing. He think hes stronger and bigger and better than me, but truthfully, he is not. He is only like an inch taller and maybe 10 pounds heavier. He is super skinny for an 18year-old, and im more on the meduim build side. I know i can tear him up, but for some reason, i dont. I always let him push me around and scream in my face, and i can say its gotten to the point where i seriously want to fight him back. But if we do, we will never stop, only until one of us is dead. So thats why im smart enough to now fight back.
any advice? this kid if small by the way, hes not like an intimidating big brother you would normally think of. I've had people tell me that maybe in a year, i'll be the one looking out for him. LOL. advice please, i dont know what to think right now. (link)
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I'm the same way with my little sister I don't get along with ehr but when we were younger we would fight all the time. You name it we would fight about it...she still tries to pick fights with me but jsut walk away. Just walk away from the situation if he starts to get angry don't touch him just walk away and ignore it. My sister yells in my face, pushes me, and hits me but ignore it and walk away because I don't need to deal with it. I knwo you want to get him back for fighting with you but revenge may seem satifying in the moment but it feels really crappy later on. Avoid the fights ONLY for my Mom because I don't want her to go crazy. I've been told by others that when my sister and are a lot older we'll get along just fine...I really don't know how true that is though.
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hi, well this is going to be a very long story.
well i had a boyfriend in may and i met him througth my friend who was a girl and we were dating and then i got confused on wethier i wanted to be with him or not and relationship got worse and worse and he just kept clinging to me, and he had problems of his own. one of his worst problems was jealously and i knew a lot of people he knew and he didn't know it and on one of our good days in our relationship i was on the phone with him and he heard me typing on the computer and he was like who are you talking to on the computer? and i was like ... lets say the kids name is rob, and i was like rob. and he FLIPPED out and was like he gonna try and get with you and went off and i read him the conversation that me and the kid rob had cause we were talking on myspace and rob said wats up and i was like nothing really lazy and my ex flipped and he was like why are you telling him your lazy wtf, and then he was like i'm gonna call rob and tell him not to talk to you and so he did but me and rob kept on talking, and we talked for a few weeks and i sort of was starting to like him then, my friend lets say her name is samantha samantha asked if i wanted to hangout with rob and his friend one day after school and i was like ohkay, but it never happend i told my ex and he flipped out cause i didn't want him coming and we got in a big fight about it. weeks later i told my ex i needed some space some time to think i wasn't sure about things anymore and he was like ohkay fine you treat me like shit your acting mad shady so i need time to think to, so i was like ohkay so one day after school i asked rob if he wanted to hangout with me and my friend then i called him and he said he had to get ready for work. then my ex called me but i didn't answer then my friend took the phone called him up and told him infront of me that while i was sort of on a break with him that i liked rob and he flipped out and cursed me out soo many times then we broke up and he told me that he was going to jump rob and then rob said he didn't want to talk to me anymore cause he did'nt want problems with my ex & then my ex went out with my friend samantha right after me.
now, that was in june and also in june after they broke up him and samantha he called me the day they broke up saying he couldn't stop thinking about me and that he didn't mean to curse me out and then i found out he knocked out rob and i hadn't talken to rob at all he hated me for that
and then i told my ex i couldn't talk to him because he went out with samantha and he told me her would never go out with any of my close friends ever, and then he kept calling me when he drunk trying to get me to call him back all summer and saying that i fucked him over talking to rob and how they were good friends and then in september i found out that he jumped rob and threw him into a car all because he still hated him because of me when rob told me he never wanted to talk to me ever again because he didn't want problems with my ex and shit, and then all of robs friend got involved and he became this big brawl of fighting because i was flirting with rob and started talking to him, and then now i just found out my ex jumped him again yestuarday half of the people i used to talk to wont talk to me anymore because of my ex jumping him and they all feel its because of me because my ex keeps wanting to fight him and no matter what my name keeps on getting brought up in it when i told my ex that rob didn't do anything wrong but my ex wouldn't listen to me and i refuse to take any of my exes calls i feel like half the highschool hates me because of what my ex is doing is it really all my fault? what should i do? help me.
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Well this is all your Ex's insecurities coming out which is not good! I would at this point tell a teacher, parent, or someone with authority. He can't just go around jumping people its not right...what you should do is block all contact with this kid because he sounds like he's crazy and he sounds like he needs some help. Ask your parents if maybe you can change your number because what he is doing to you is a form of harassment and that has to be taken seriously. You NEED to get this guy out of your life for good!
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i have heard that if people don't look you in the eyes while they tell you something, they are lying.....when a guy tells you he likes you, is it still the same thing? does he not mean it if he is not looking you in the eye? i know it just depends on how shy the guy is, but lets say the guy is really outgoing,and you guys are kissing, and then he tells you that....what do you guys think? (link)
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Its hard to tell because like you said the guy could be just shy or whatever. Some guys who are outgoing can say it right to your face and be totally honest with you. Not to say that this guy isn't being honest with you. At this point in time you should trust you instincts and the body language that he has...if he is finding all types of ways to hang out with you is a sign he likes you.
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{A little lengthy but not a novel}
Okay so I have this friend who is a real pain in the butt! I know that has got to sound horrible but its the truth and I just don't know how to deal with it!
I am a sophmore and we have been friends since the begging of eighth grade.
She doesn't come from the best home life, parents were drop outs who got knocked up. She is a bit over weight.
She is nice, to me, and she is one of friends, we share locker together and everything.
What gets me though is she loves to make fun of others, especially people who are "bigger" then she is or who have disabilities. I hate that she feels so insecure and self consouse about herself she has to pick on others, but what should i say?
In first block she will even talk bad about someone who is siting next to me and I know they hear, and they think i am stuck up.
She also makes up stuff all the time to try to get attention. For example she'll say she didn't eat for 2 days and lost 20 lbs, and yet two seconds later she claims she went to McDonalds those same days! HELp
how do i deal with this without ditching her? She is my friend and i feel sorry for her, but i don't want to be pictured as the stuck up girl who talks about others with her. ANd I can't go one more day venting to my dog about all her lies.
WHEN WILL IT END. (link)
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Have you talked to her about it? You really should or else she will continue this behavior and she will drag you down with her. Just tell her what the deal is and ask her if she liked it if someone did it to her. You're probably right about her being insecure about herself and and about who see is as a person inside and out. If she refuses to change though you need to think about whether or not you should hang out with this girl and if it will hurt how people identify you...you might be guilty by associate. You don't want to get into drama I'm sure and it seems like she's causing a lot of it for herself just talk to her and if she doesn't stop then think about it and do what you need to do.
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