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Centers of attention
{A little lengthy but not a novel}
Okay so I have this friend who is a real pain in the butt! I know that has got to sound horrible but its the truth and I just don't know how to deal with it!
I am a sophmore and we have been friends since the begging of eighth grade.
She doesn't come from the best home life, parents were drop outs who got knocked up. She is a bit over weight.
She is nice, to me, and she is one of friends, we share locker together and everything.
What gets me though is she loves to make fun of others, especially people who are "bigger" then she is or who have disabilities. I hate that she feels so insecure and self consouse about herself she has to pick on others, but what should i say?
In first block she will even talk bad about someone who is siting next to me and I know they hear, and they think i am stuck up.
She also makes up stuff all the time to try to get attention. For example she'll say she didn't eat for 2 days and lost 20 lbs, and yet two seconds later she claims she went to McDonalds those same days! HELp
how do i deal with this without ditching her? She is my friend and i feel sorry for her, but i don't want to be pictured as the stuck up girl who talks about others with her. ANd I can't go one more day venting to my dog about all her lies.
WHEN WILL IT END.
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Have you talked to her about it? You really should or else she will continue this behavior and she will drag you down with her. Just tell her what the deal is and ask her if she liked it if someone did it to her. You're probably right about her being insecure about herself and and about who see is as a person inside and out. If she refuses to change though you need to think about whether or not you should hang out with this girl and if it will hurt how people identify you...you might be guilty by associate. You don't want to get into drama I'm sure and it seems like she's causing a lot of it for herself just talk to her and if she doesn't stop then think about it and do what you need to do.
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oh man shes reallly mean thats one thing i would hate about someone is if they made fun of those ppl who can help the way they are.
next time she does soemthing like that do not encourage the situation by laughing of smiling or anything like that just look at here then look away shell then feel bad about what shes done. the next step is after shes done laughing be calm and just be like hey (name of the girl) thats not very nice. be like i dont mean to hurt you (watever her name is) but the things you say about people really hurt me and i dont feel comfortable with you saying those things. please dont be angry at me i just dont like it.then say...not everyone is perfect and we all hhave our flaws, ,me, you everyone not just them and it just makes it alot harder when people notice them and make fun of those flaws so please if your my friend youll stop, for me?
i mean either way she might get angry because as youv said she likes to be centre of attention so if she doesnt have it her way then shell get angry.just be calm about the situation and pull a sad puppy face too that helps
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First of all BREATHE!!!! I too am a sophmore and had a similar problem. Instead i did the wrong thing, a bad thing. One day she was talking to me about this really nice girl but she was saying she was a stupid dork and wouldnt stop ragging on her. I just broke and started screaming in her face and.... to make my point.... i wished i had done something sooner. She hates me now because of it, as do other girls. They *ALL talk about me (*all being my former friends) and they call me a bitch because of it. But from this, i can see what i did wrong. I SHOULD have confronted her about her lying in a private place and told her what was bothering me. I think that is what you should do for your friend. Just tell her that her lying and constant gossip has got you pulling your hair out (and torturing your dog =)). Tell her that its bugging you, maybe she will understand. Its just my opionion so think it over and do what you feel is right.
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