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i want kids...
ok i always talk about how i want kids right now.. and im 17 female and my bf is going to be 18. he told me at least wait til im 18 so our parents cant tell us anything cause they already tell us stuff and were both still virgins! so they just act stupid! well anyways i have a baby brother that is going to be 4 in december..everytime he is around when my boyfriend is wich is like every single time! my boyfriend gives him like 98% of his time and attention wile i only get like 2%. it super sucks and ive already tried talking to him abotu it. and he says well hes a kid he needs attention too!
well when my baby brother is with me and were by ourselves hes all nice and loving and cute! then once he gets with me and my boyfriend of almost 11 months then hes all mean to me and stays in his arms the entire time! and he bees mean to me so i be mean back then my bf starts telling me crap. well he never fails to mention.. "and u want kids? you cant even handle your own baby brother" and i say well its cause hes my brother! its suposed to be like that. any other kid i can. he doesnt believe me. but when i try to be nice and sweet to my baby brother to show him my baby brother keeps acting up with me. so its super hard. what can i do to prove to him i can handle kids. i want them id be a good mom, and i want to live my life with him and our future kids?! someone please help me.
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I have been where you are about really wanting a baby, even though your young, and I cannot stress enough how important it is to wait. If it happens on accident, then that's one thing and you can get through it and be a good parent. But don't purposely bring a child into a world where you don't even have an education to get a good job for them, it's not fair to them, or you.Go live your life and have fun and be a teenager and figure out who you want to be, then have a family and I promise you it will be worth the wait.
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Well I knwo the idea of having kids right now seem nice but you're ONLY 17 and he is ONLY 18. You both should think about school right now and possibly what a colleges you want to go to. You also want think about careers and where you want to live. A baby is a big responsibility as you can see with your baby brother they need a lot of attention. I think you should just enjoy being young for right now and not grow up so fast because life will change for good. I feel you both just need to concentrate on school and the relationship and worry about babies when you're a lot older.
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It's not just about wanting kids and being able to handle the pressure.
You are 17 years old, Even 18 is still way to young to even be thinking of having a child. A child should have parents who have a strong steady go, A providing home and the income is enough to support that child and by that means a full time job that doesn't pay minimum wage. A child needs a doctor, food, crib, clothes, and a whole lot more. Imagine having a good couple hundred dollars and just ripping them in half in just a weeks time. Formula alone these days are NOT cheap and depending on what brand you buy diapers cost a good 18-20 bucks. No matter what kind of child you have someday it will not be easy. Every woman experiences a loss at one point in their lives were they feel the need to have a child and this feeling often comes at a young age, This is were many people get themselves when they are not ready for it. I suggest spending time with someone who has children and by that two, three kids..and see if you still want a child. It is much more than cuteness, having a child is not a puppy. Do I think you would be a good Mom? No, not right now but in the future sure I don't see why not.
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I waited until I was 30 to get pregnant, and I've just had twins. I own my own home and car. I've got several degrees and a good career. I was absolutely ready for kids.
And you know what? It's hard. Really hard. Much harder than dealing with a sibling, though I do understand that siblings can annoy us like no other people!! However, you are completely and totally responsible for a baby. It is an incredible stress on a relationship, and the divorce/seperation rate for couples with babies under one is quite high.
If you want to do yourself, your boyfriend, and your future kids a favour - wait. Wait until you are financially and emotionally solvent. I am sure your desire to have kids and create a family means you'll be a good mom, but you'll be an even better mom if you do your best to eliminate any extra worries beforehand.
Once you have a baby, you can never go back to just being your boyfriend and you. There will ALWAYS be a third person there, and unlike with your brother, you can't get rid of him or her. Cherish this time with your boyfriend. You have years and years of time to have kids - why not spend a few years really enjoying each others company, solidifying your relationship, getting an education.
Babies are special, yes. I love mine. But I would not have traded a minute of my 'me' and 'couple' time before I had them. They are perfect for me, right now and right here, and I would not have been ready for them even five years earlier (though I certainly thought I was).
I wish you guys the best.
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