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He wants me, should I give him a chance?
21/f and he's like 23 or 24...
Okay I was talking this guy named jose back in june of 2009. He found me on a website and the conversations were good. I was actually interested in him and vice-versa. He always complemented me and told me all the sweet things I don't hear so much. So I allowed him to talk to my friend samantha because I wanted her to see if she thought he was a good guy for me. HOWEVER, he was sitten here telling her the same things he was telling me. So I busted him we he tried to jump stupid with me (and that was about meeting up with him cause I'm not to fond about meeting up with people I don't really know). So he felt like crap and pleaded to me that I am the only one he wants and blah blah. He admitted to his mistake and apologized for it. Then I randomly messaged him in August of 2009. We started talking again, and it was like the connection was stronger than before. So I finally decided to meet up with him. He was nice and all, but he kept touching me (and it was irritating me), then he wanted to make out like every 5 seconds (and that irritated me too), not to mention that I wasn't even attracted to him in person. He just pretty much smothered me and I felt like he was rushing things which was not what I wanted. Anyhow, shortly thereafter, I stopped talking to him again....
Now he found me again on his phone. And I figured what's wrong with being friends with him, so we ended up talking on the phone for like 2 hours! (Mind you, I HATE talking on the phone).... he kept telling me to let him prove to me that he is a good man and he want's to cook for me and start things off fresh again. He told me that I am the most wonderful girl that he's ever talked to because other females are not on my "level".
I simply just live for success. Failure to me is not an option so I am very pro education. I'm in school, work at a school, and studying to be a teacher.
Anyhow, I am trying to figure out why God has put him back into my life. Don't get me wrong, his personality is what I perfer but I am kinda not attracted to him. I mean is attraction important? I'm not fine but not ugly either (So idk what he sees). Should I talk to him again and see where it goes? I seriously have my guard up because I've been single for 3 years and have been used for sex by guys that I thought LIKED me. I'll be honest when I say I am sick of it and my heart has turned black. I TRUST NO MAN. But as other person sometimes it get's lonely. So I was wondering try again or move around? Thanks for your help as it is GREATLY GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!
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Sometimes those websites that I go on to the guys will say anything to get my attention which is quite annoying. It seems to me as though you are not interested in this guy...it seems you can have a conversation but you're not connecting entirely with him. I've had relationships and hook-ups like that where we'll be close at first but then drift away and then back and in the end it doesn't work. I have a very hard time trusting guys its so hard because of things that have happened. I would suggest you don't continue talking to this guy it seems as though he is trying way to hard and you're not interested. I would move on and if he contacts you ignore him or tell him you aren't interested anymore. Good Luck!
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Sounds like the guy is all for sex, Some guys are funny like that. You mentioned you've met the guy off the internet this makes me ask how well do you really know this guy?
1. You weren't attracted to him
2. He had already raised a red flag by flirting with your friend
3. If he really was into you he would probably respect you enough to slow things down instead of trying to get in your pants.
Sometimes guys who are desperate to get something out of girls will do just about anything and say just about anything to accomplish their goal. Obviously the guy is a sweet talker, Doesn't sound trustworthy, All for sex and maybe somewhat of a stalker? I think you sound much smarter than that. Move on
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