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It takes the average couple a few months to get pregnant. Most physicians won't test for infertility unless you've been trying for at least a year or have had three or more miscarriages. I suggest consulting with an OB GYN.

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Can you help me I got up to Chapter 5, I need to do a book repot too! :[

There's a lot of information about the book online. Are you looking for a summary?

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19/f
I dated this guy about a year ago, I ended up breaking up with him after a few months because I felt no sexual attraction. We have been friends ever since, and I know that he is honestly the perfect guy. I know he would be the best husband and best father and if I went out with him he would want to marry me in a few years. He really likes me, and I really like him too. He is perfect at everything, he loves God and he is the best influence on me, he brings out the best in me. He is cute too, but for some reason I can't find him sexually attractive. He is a bad kisser, and that's a big deal to me. I know I should be with him, and I really want to, but I don't know if I can. He is very touchy, I just don't feel anything when he touches me. I know it might not seem like a big deal, but it is to me. I really just want to be able to be attracted to him cause I know he would be perfect for me. What should I do?

Be honest with him. That's the only thing you can do. That doesn't mean be rude about it though. Nicely explain how you feel. It could change.

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i can not chang brightness from keybord window 7 64 my pc paviliong6

Do you mean the lights on your keyboard? You probably can't change that but you could contact HP.

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Is there any way to get rid of years that show up on timeline (on facebook)?

For example, I don't want ANYTHING to show up for 2006-2009. Is there an easy way to delete ALL these posts, and/org make it so that you can't even select them sa a year on your facebook?

I do *not* want to get rid of timeline all together. Just those specific years when I was back in high school.

Thanks in advance!

I don't think you can delete them, but you can hide it from your friends so only you see it. That would be kind of the same thing, right?

At the top right hand corner next to your photo where it has a drop down arrow, click "Privacy Settings". Then scroll down to "Limit the audience for past posts". You have to click the link that says "Manage past post visibility". Then you can limit old posts.

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I had an affair with a male colleague and he broke it off.

I found out recently that he tried to resign from his job to get away from me, but our employer thought he was too valuable to the business.
When he was asked why he wanted to leave, he confessed that he had had an affair with me, and he no longer wanted anything to do with me.

The employer talked with a lawyer, and reduced my hours so that I was never on the premises at the same time as him.

I was obviously less valued that he was.

I didn't realize this at the time, and continued with my reduced hours until an annual appraisal, where I was basically told I was crap at what I did, and I didn't do a whole lot.

I willingly left the job, only to find out just now, that everyone knew what had happened, and that they all hated me, and were making work unbearable for me until I gave in and quit.

I think you definitely made the right move by leaving. That reason is why a lot of companies forbid dating in the office. I'm not sure what rights you would have had for them reducing your hours. A company pretty much can do that for whatever reason. Especially if they felt that he was a more "valued employee" than you. However, you could seek legal advice for it. You won't get unemployment since you quit but it wouldn't hurt to see if they were in the wrong in any way.

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Any suggestion about what script and dating profiles should i use for my asian dating site?

You should provide a little more detail. What kind of site are you looking into?

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I have been dealing with a break up and I want to kill myself. You guys probably think in stupid but over been dating for 6 years and I fell in love hard .. he broke up with me last night I can't deal with it. What's an easy suicide? I'm 20 years old and female.

Please, tell someone ASAP. If you are in the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255. It is a suicide hotline and they can help you. I dated someone for 7 years. I was heartbroken when he broke up with me. But your life isn't over. I never thought I'd be able to move on. But I did. And so will you. You will move on and you will find someone. I did. I never thought I'd love anyone like him. And I was completely wrong. What if I would have ended my life? I never would have learned what true love really is. You can and will be able to move on. I know it because I thought the exact same thing as you. But I moved on and I can honestly say I don't even care about him anymore. Send me a private message if you want to talk. People are here for you.

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I am a 16 year old female, i weigh around 160 and im around 5'7 5'8 feet tall.

I went to gnc and got Oxyelite pro to take. I took one pill Wednesday and one Thursday. It gave me a lot of energy and i worked out in the morning and at night.

Today is friday and i didn't take the pill because i think it would be better/safer for me to take it every other day.

I would love any advice you have on this pill. Like is it safe for me to take? can i go running after i take it or will it make my heart rate to fast?

I am eating very healthy and working out and i wanted to take this to help me out, but i want to make sure it is safe and i am not harming my body. I have read reviews on it and they were 99% positive but i am still hesitant.

You should definitely consult with a doctor. A lot of those pills aren't meant for people under 18.

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Hey i'm a 19 year old girl and i am currently attending a community college by my house, i am at the end if my second semester. I could go into a huge story, but the shirt of it is- i need to pick up the pace with my credits at school. Because if i want to walk with my class in june of 2013 and continue on to a 4 year school i need to take 19 credits in the spring and fall semester. But i still wont have enough even if i do that- so i signed up for an intense summer course that would get me up to speed. However i am currently working a small cashier job 3 days a week that i am going to have to leave in september. There is a lot going on with my family too, and this class is for 3 hours every day that gives heavy loads of work during the summer. My mom said that she and my dadbwould help with any expenses if i give my 2 weeks notice this saturday, because i need to focus on school. Soi have two questions. Is this a responsible choice or am i going to be considered a lazy college student? Also what would be a small job thst i could make fast cash doing? I considered babysitting or dog walking but dont know how i would get started with that. Any help would be apreciated, thanks!

You should put up flyers around your neighborhood with your number on it. Ask your parents first, especially if it's your home phone. Also, try selling things you don't need on Ebay. A good pair of jeans or a designer handbag sell for a decent amount of money.

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Phone service: Verizon
Phone type: Samsung Reality

I've had my phone for a couple years now and it still works great. I don't have any problems with it except for the occasional random shut-off like once or twice a month. I'm due for an upgrade and I was hoping I could upgrade to just a new phone of the same brand because my screen is scratched a bit, but I don't have the optional available.
If I went to the Verizon store and asked to upgrade to the same phone, just a new one, would they let me?

If you are due for an upgrade then you can upgrade. However, they probably won't have the same phone if it's a few years old. You should call your local store and ask. They'll explain it to you.

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why have i started bleeding again after 12yrs of period free menopause?

Sometimes that does happen but there could be a variety of reasons. I'd suggest seeing a Gynecologist.

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I've been talking to a guy since around January. He asked to me to hang out with him twice but we ended up not hanging out. I asked him to come hang out with my friends once but he didn't want to. We talk on the phone at least 4 times a week wland we text all the time. About a month ago I found out that when he texts me he also texts other girls. We were at the mall and all 3 of us received the same text saying hi. He lead on my other friend before and take to her all the time but said she was just a friend. The thing is you cant talk on your cellphone with one girl and be hitting on other girls at the same time,its not possible. He listens to my problems but then again he does that to other girls. He calls me sexy. About 2 weeks ago I decided I was done with him and that I was in the "friendzone". I started talking to this new guy and I let him know he kind of just said ok and changed the subject. I told him I had to go because the guy was calling me. He got offeneded and said "Oh so you dont want to talk to me?" I told him no I did and ended up just talking to him. He never tells me how he feels and he always talks to other girls. Should I go for the second guy? I mean he won't do something so I might as well move on.

It's your decision but you shouldn't be with someone who you feel is leading you on. If he's talking to other girls then you don't want to date someone who will do that.

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18/f

I stopped taking my birth control while i was on my period, never started it again and I had sex 3 nights before the end of my period. That was 3/21 and i still havent gotten my period this month! Ive read that it could be an imbalance, like my body getting back to normal without the extra help from birth control pills, but ive also read that sperm can live in the body for up to 5-7 days. I know it sounds ridiculous, but i'm worried! help please!!

Hormonal imbalances can cause a late period and birth control can do that. You should take a test. If you're embarrassed, don't be. Find a store with a self checkout section.

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13/f
I have a pretty important interview this weekend for a position on the leadership team for band. It's the first real interview I'm doing and I really need some tips for a good interview. Thanks in advance for all answers :)

-Be polite and respectful
-Always use complete sentences with no slang
-Ask questions
-Keep eye contact
-Explain your answers. Don't just use short responses.

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So I recently went to the hospital with severe abdominal pain and was diagnosed with ovarian cysts.
The ultrasound tech didn't say anything but pointed to the screen once and said "remember that is the size of a golf ball" on my left ovary...
The ER Dr told me I have PCOS, a disorder where i develop multiple small(2 1/2 cm or less) cysts under the skin of my ovaries...

I kept listening hopping for the best;
"You have lost your baby due to your ovarian cysts leaking fluid into your uterus, I'm sorry there was nothing we could have done"

Is it even possible to miscarry due to cysts leaking a bit? They didn't rupture..
And How do I deal with the pain from caused by my ovarian cysts? Ibuoprofen and hot water bottles aren't cutting it..

This is really hard for me to talk about, which is why I turned to the internet for advice, please try to be considerate in your replies,

Thanks for taking the time to read and reply!

Yes, if the fluid did get into your uterus then it could cause a miscarriage. A fetus is very fragile and a whole number of things could cause a miscarriage. The doctors are unsure what caused mine. Sometimes there is no reason. If you see your doctor, they can probably prescribe you with something a little stronger. Also, they might want you to just get it removed. It depends. Are you experiencing grief and stress due to the miscarriage? If so, there is a fantastic forum that helped me a lot. It's called Baby Center and there is a Miscarriage and Loss Group. The women there are all so kind. You can also message me if you would like to talk about it.

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I use Google Chrome as my main browser (used to be Internet Explorer). I also sometimes have IE open at the same time while on Tumblr because I run two separate blogs. I can't stand IE anymore so I was just wondering if it were possible to download Google Chrome a second time as a separate browser so I can do this? (Tumblr isn't the only website I use a second browser for).

Google "Tumblr" and right click the home page link. Click "Open in new window" and it will open in a completely different window not a tab.

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I feel so lost. Most of my life I stayed strong through all the crap I've gone through. Being homeless about 3 times, being verbally, Mentally, Emotionally and Physically abused, being put into a crazy hospital 3 times before I was 17, moving all the time, abandonment,ect. I've always been strong and had my emotions in check. Lately... I feel like I have no control over my emotions, thoughts, or anything. Sometimes I feel like a complete Psychopath even thought I know I'm not crazy. I've been tested multiple times. I've been diagnosed with a depressive disorder, and anxiety. Lately, I cry for no reason, I feel hopeless and I'm afraid of the future, I feel suicidal at times. I'm a complete mess. I know this isn't me. While it's happening, in the back of my mind I'm wondering why am I acting like this? What's wrong with me? But When it happens I can't can't stop feeling sad,crying, or anything like that. Is everything I've been through and the current stress just finally getting to me? Am I finally going crazy? I just want to get an outside prospective on this and maybe get advice on how to help myself. I already see a counselor and my family doesn't really listen to me. Please help me.

It sounds like you just need a good friend. Who are you close with? As weird as it sounds, sometimes getting a job, meeting people at church, joining a club, volunteering at the library or animal shelter, really helps someone get back on track. And that way you can meet some really good people. Plus if you get a job, you'll have some money to support yourself. Nothing is wrong with you. Everyone goes through depression and rough times. You need to talk to people. There are also online support groups.

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When you have the contraceptive implant inserted you have to have protected sex for 7 days but does the day you have it inserted count as the first day?

No, start from the first full day with the implant. It might say in the packet of information they gave you.

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