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Q: ok what exactly are guys looking for? i go to a private school and theres like 100 people in my grade... its pretty even (guys vs girls) and ive never been asked out. people always tell me im pretty and funny and i dont get it. im thinking that its just that the guys at private schools are retarded because a lot of really pretty popular girls dont get asked out.. but yea... so what are guys looking for? i rate 5s

all private school guys suck! take it from me iwent to private school for 7years, once i got out to public it was soo much better. find a guy outside of your school, most in private schools are immature, thats why theyre there to begin with
btw im a gurl, sry if this doesn't help

Q: 15/f. i moved into a brand new house, and my bedroom is white walls with light beige carpet. Everything so far in my room is red - red bedspread, curtains, lampshades, etc. I want to know what color i should paint my walls cause white is so boring. But i'm not allowed to paint them red cause thats way too much red! i was wondering if hot pink was a good color since its a shade of red, but my mom says that won't match. so can anyone think of a color? Thanks.

orange and red together would look cute

Q: im almost 14 and i still havent been kissed or had a boyfriend is that normal??? I feel like im abnormalk or something...

no ur not i used to be that way.. now im 16 and everythings changed. give it sometime and just be friendly with the boys...youll find one you want sumtime to go after or one will find you. you have quite some time
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Q: Umm..is it normal for your kidneys to hurt when your on your period? if not, please tell me what can i do about it.

those aren't your kidneys those are back cramps! and yes.. they can be normal. put a heating pad on your back or take a hot bath.. pop in a couple of asprins you'll be ok
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Q: im in student gov and we have to plan the spring dance. does anyone have any ideas for a theme? plz no under the sea or hawiian. thnx!

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm oldies, pick your own decade, jungle, renassaince,tv shows, early halloween!,...meh etc
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Q: Ok i am haven the hardest time with cutting after i do a practice swing!! (that means hitting my self on my shoulder with my bat)
What can i do so i stop hitting myself?
Kris

what? quit hurting yourself! you'll be alright

Q: Me and my fiance have been together for going on 3 and half years, that was until Wednesday. We have now split, because I ask him to show me that he loves me more often, because I ask this he blames me for "cussing" at him to much. I know that it is hard for him sometimes to show me this but it is something that I feel that I need, even though I am pretty sure that he does love me. i have never cheated on him or anything to hurt him, he means more than life to me, and will give it all that I have to make sure that he is happy. This is not the first time that we have seperated, and after a few days and does eventually return but this time, my heart is not so sure. Can you tell me from a guys ppoint of view what you think will happen to my bf and I. Will you also give me advice on what to do to make sure that this never happens again??

WELLLL i'm not a guy, but i can tell you this. you've been together for a long time (as you say 3 years) so obviously theres still always a chance of staying together b/c feelings won't die that fast unless he's been cheating on you for years, but obviously he has not. there is no guarantee things like that won't happen again but what you can do is make a promise between eachother and hold to it, never to deliberately say things to eachother that you know would hurt one another (obv, you know what hurts him). just tell him that you love him and ask him back see if he gets the picture. chances are he does but still has trouble expressing it (remember guys are less mature than girls) so just let him kno you mind (nicely) and just try to be there for eachother

Q: Does anyone know how to tell if you're bipolar?

if your a highly emotional person who gets upset over IRRATIONAL things, yourr bipolar.

Q: ok i have this boyfriend and his soo awesome! we have been daten for 2weeks and we had sex last night! i've been "talking" with him since feb. but sometimes i feel like he doesn't care about me that much! and his always kind of mad at me..but i know his not cuz he got kicked outta his house 2weeks ago and he has to find a place to stay like everynight so it's not like i can talk to him...but he is pretty good about calling me and letten me know where he is staying at...that is if theres a phone around! but for some reason i'm so worried about him..i'm always woundering where is at and what his doing and who his with...he graduated last yr and i'm only in 10th...so when i'm at school that is when i worry...he has the friend that i don't like to much but yet his cool i don't like my boyfriend hanging out with him because i don't trust my boyfriend with him my boyfriend knows that i don't i like him with him...because i feel like his going to cheat on me when he is with his friend! i just don't know what to do about out relationship...cuz i do like him alot ((like not love)) and he gave me a promise braclett promiseing that he would never hurt me!!
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i'll keep this quick. if its not love, then its nothing to worry about. you don't need to be in a relationship like that either where you just sit around and worry about eachother. you should be comfortable and able to trust him. find another man you can depend on.

Q: hey does anyone know any good websites were you can make your own quizzes? thanks!

quizyourfriends.com! its cool simple, easy..and everyone has it. hope i helped
amanda
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Q: Hi anybody got any tips at goin to sleep at nite.

I go to bed early cos im always tired during the day but all i do is lie there thinkin an starin for hours an i just cnt get to sleep.

Sum1 help me please!

my suggestion would to be eat something and take some nyquill, i have the same problem.

Q: okay i believe in god but i guess i doubt it somtimes, i get scared of "what if there isnt one" and is there a heaven :/ i think i should go to church to build up more faith but then again i dont get how that could actually help... I really get upset over this, any suggestions?

read the bible, it always reassuares my faith, especially the new testament and the gospels, they are by far the coolest. God is always with you, trust in him.
-Amanda

Q: ok with every guy ive dating they have been touchy and lovey and stuff but this one guy now is just so shy and wont open up how do i get him to and be touchy and huggy and affectionate?

tell him your thoughts, if that doesn't work, try to be a little towards him the way u want him to be around u..
if u want him to puts his arms around u, place his arms around u..just stuff like that. good luck and hope i helped
please rate - AMANDA

Q: i liked this guy and all of my friends knew about it. i was talking to my friend one day and she said that he had a girlfriend and today i was asking my friend who she liked and she said that she was going out with the guy that i like. i'm really mad but i dont know if i should tell her.

just tell her so she's know whats going on, if anything she probably already knows you are, but reassure her and try to work through it, don't let the anger lead to a lost friend over something petty.
gl hope i helped
amanda

Q: I was wondering, what's hooking up, because my mom's always talking about it (she's 29, i'm 10) and i think it has something to do with having sex, but i'm not sure.

it can actually mean a lot of different things, depending on the context, sex could be one of them but ususally isn't.

Q: I want to get my belly button peirced, my mom won't let me. Is there any health risks if you do it yourself?

your risking chance of infection and alot of scarring if even the smallest thing goes wrong..wait til your older and can have it done professionaly
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Q: IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life.

WHOLY CRAP! You sound just like my best friend, who now actually lives with me. Her brother has tons of problems and is in and out of jail.. her and her mother kind of get along, and she is in and out of drugs, sex and stuff like that! her mom just got remarried last yr so family things for her are a very sticky situation. her own dad had an affair with her best friends mom. I can't believe it u sound like my best friend Sarah. But here's the cool thing, my best friend now lives with me. And I absolutely love it. All I can recommed is see if u can move in with a near by friend. ( it change mine and Sarah's life forever) we're absolutely best friends! Good luck and I hope everything gets better. trust in God.
If you need anymore help IM me or e-mail me, I know alot about this kind of stuff, my friends and I have even gone thru it.
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Q: I have something mentally wrong with me, and I aknowledge this. I dont know what exactly, but I know I serverly need help. I asked my mom if I could go to therapy, and she's fine with that, but I think I need more than that, like maybe being commited for a while. I cant just say 'Hey mom, I think I need to be committed to the loony bin for a while, is that cool?' She really doesnt see what goes on with me, i usualy just keep to myself while I'm at home. I really think I need more than just therapy, and possibly anti depressants (I havent gone to therapy yet, so I dont know what would go on) I really think it would help for me to go to an institution for a while. How do I approach this though?

You need to get an analysis first. Doctors can do that for you, and a therapist would be able to tell you this. Talk with your therapist that you get though and see if they can help you or just wait and see what they say, there the only ppl that can send you to the "looney bin." Hope I helped, please reate. and GOOD LUCK!
manda

Q: hey i cut myself and a teacher asked me about them and i have to go to see a counselor should i deny it all or get help?

Just get the help, you need to find some other kind of release, take up writing, exercising, or listening to music or something. Anything is better for you than physical abuse. hope i helped, and good luck! Amanda
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Q: i usually eat very very verryyy healithy (fruits, veggies, protein, etc). buttt everyonce in a while i have junk food cravings--a snickers bar or a slice of pizza or a package of sour patch kids---you get the idea. how often is it okay to have one of these things if you want to stay healthy and maintain your weight?

One serving a day of food just for fun, is A OKAY. As long as everything else is good, and u keep in shape, you're fine! Please rate, hope i helped.
Amanda

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I love to give adivce I'm pretty good at it!
My names Amanda, I live in Texas and I'm almost 17! I know alot about relationships, love, sports, and just about any topic you can throw at me. I'm a junior and have aspirations to be vet, and hope that someday I could be famous for modeling or dancing.