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Here are some things about me.

A lot of people judge me on what they see but never really know whats going on. I'm not close to perfect and I'm not afraid to show it. So many things have happened to me that it seems surreal sometimes. But now I'm finally happy with myself and my life. So haters keep hating because I realized how blessed I truely am.


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i was wonder what plan,phone company or whatever has like long distance free ?

thank you

I have Verizon and on the weekends and after 9pm on the weekdays I have free long distance.

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Okay So to make a super long story short...i met this guy about a week ago(on the internet)....and i lied to him about what i looked like...where i lived, etc. etc. and well 2 days after meeting him, he found out i was fake and i had to confess and he stopped talking to me...well 2 days ago i IMed him and asked if we could start over...and he said no...he told me he was thinking about talking to me but not anymore because he thinks i'm weird and obsessed with him (because i was constantly sending him messages to try and explain) and i sent him one last message on myspace saying that if he would have just listened to me from the beginning then i wouldnt seem so stalker-ish.... :( is there any hope for me and him to become friends again in the future? or should i just forget him? I dont want to forget him because he is super nice and pretty cool from what i can tell...should i try and make things work or should i leave him alone and let him come to me....WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!? Thanks to anyone who answers :)

Leave him alone.

Remember you never know who is on the other end of the computer. For all you know he could be some 80 year old man.

Don't get emotionally hooked to someone through the internet. Move on, try to find someone that you are able to see in person.

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Ok, so theres this guy, let's call him Cameron. I've been literally in love with him for over 2 and a half years. He's liked me that long too, but the problem is, one of his best girl friends (who is also my best friend) says that he likes five girls. Two of which are halfway across the country. Then there's me, and two other girls that must go to my school. On a scale of 1-10 he rated me a 9, and a girl in another state a 10. I'm getting really jealous and I'm not sure how to react to all this. He says he really likes me, and he even gave me flowers on Valentine's Day, but I'm just not sure what to do. Should I still keep my hopes up for him, or try to give him up since he likes 5 different girls? Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

I think that you should give him up since he likes 5 different girls.

You deserve a guy that likes only one girl and that girl should be you.

If you were to go out with him you might would have to worry about him cheating on you since his mind isn't focused on just you.

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Okay so this guy i liked called me the the other day and we talked sort of but it was kinda those quite conversations, i want to call him but i dont have anything to talk about. Should i call him and if so what should i say

If you want to talk to him then you should call him.

Talk about things
-you'll have in common
-that interest the both of you
-tv shows
-what's new
-drama
-music
-teachers that get on your nerves

Basically talk about anything that you are comfortable talking about. Since you'll are friends don't stress it, just enjoy yourself.

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me and my boyfriend went out for 9 months and it was great until the last 2 months.. all we did was fight and we spent more time fighting than being happy so we broke up, and it was kinda both of us. anyways he's with someone else and it's so hard because i know we'll never go out again and i cant seem to get over him. i just need to know how to get over him because i know it'll work out again? needing advice on how to get over him.

I know break ups can be hard to deal with.

Think about how you'll used to fight and how unhappy you both had been. Think about how much of a weight it took off the both of you, not have to fuss and fight anymore.

It also helps to do things that you enjoy. Do things to take your mind off of the break up. Go to the movies, skating rink, mall, shopping, listen to music, watch tv, etc.

I hope everything works out for the best :) I know with time you will get over him.

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what is the quickest and easiest way to get rid of a sore that is in my mouth? it REALLY hurts!

Gargle salt and luke warm water in your mouth two times a day (one time in the day and one time at night) It helps me, hope it helps you also.

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My name is Jerry,
I am anoverweight 14 year old and I dont know what to do about it. EVERY kid in my school makes fun of me and it has lowered m,y selfesteem to the piont that now I get bad grades. I need serious help. Please tell me what to do. Thank You
-Jerry Spinekil

Don't worry about those people who make fun of you, because they are going to be wishing they never had messed with you when you grow up and become sucessful. Don't let them get the best of you. I know it sounds kind of wierd but repeat positive phrases like "I am somebody and those people who make fun of me are just haters." or "My outside appearance has nothing to do with my personality." Doing exercises like this one will help boost your confidence.

I think you should visit the website below.
mypyramid.gov
It is able to help you with NUMEROUS amounts of things. Give it a visit I know it can help you also. If you need to talk or anything feel free to email me at stillstellateal@yahoo.com or leave a message in my inbox.

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ok heres the thing, proms is in 3 months and i need to lose like 15 or 20 pounds. I need advice on a way i can lose that weight in 3 months. i wanna find a cute dress thats looks good with out the gut and love handles showing through. please help!

--> ashley

mypyramid.gov

This is a really good website.
It can tell you
~what to eat
~how much to eat
~breaks down each food category
~can set your diet to your personal body type
~tell you how much to exercise
~it was designed by professionals so the information should be very accurate

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im a teen. what are some popular websites (like myspace, tagged etc) that are like those? where you can meet new people and post pictures and stuff. thanks!!

Here are some good ones
piczo.com
xanga.com
hi5.com
spinthebottle.com

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what age should you start shaving 'down their'?

Whenever you feel comfortable enough to. There is no certain age. So you don't have to rush.

Maybe you will want to shave "down there" when
-you want to wear a bikini
-are sexually active
-prefer it being shaved because it makes you feel more clean

There are a number of reasons why people shave "down there" when they do. But the ultimate reason is because they are comfortable enough to do so.

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Tx stillstella ! I took your advice ! We just broke up !

Good for you :) Are you okay, i know break ups can be a little hard to deal with?
If you need to talk feel free to leave me a message in my inbox or email me at stillstellasteal@yahoo.com

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My girlfriend shuts off all communication when I confront her with important issues regarding our relationship, like not as much spontaneous openness & sex now as in the beginning ?

What was your question?

If you are trying to ask how do you get her to communicate with you about important subjects that need to be discussed then here is my advice.

One of the main parts of a good relationship is communication. Unfortunately this is something you all's relationship is lacking. If you she can't deal with the fact that you'll need to discuss important subjects at times, then I think that you should let her go.

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Ive been kinda chasing a girl for awhile named sarah. Shes a cheerleader and very cute. I recently found out at a basketball game that a different girl, Brooke, that i have always thought was crazy hott would date me if i asked her. The funny thing is at that same basketball game, I ran into a girl in my grade that I and others would say is very outta my league. This girl's name is Lauren. Now i was at home later that night and Lauren calls me up asking what I was doing and we all know she wantde me to ask her out. What should I do? HELP!!!!!!!

They all sound like they have wonderful characteristics. But there has to be one that you have stronger feelings for. It may help to write out or think about all of the good things that would come out of a relationship with each of them and all of the bad things that would come out of a relationship with each of them.

Also think about which one gives you the bigger smile when you think about her, which one do you think about more, which one you would prefer to hang around, etc.

I hope you pick the best choice :)

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Ok, I'm going to go through all of this and try to not sound vain or concieted. I'm just going to be totally honest because I am the 'advisor' of our group and I am totally killing myself trying to help her.
So my friend Angela and I were fat geeks two years ago. I was the one with the sense of fashion though. Last summer, she went on vacation and came back totally transformed and in shape. She has a really nice body now. I passed on all my advice to her and she started wearing designer labels and boots and pretty much copying my "style". I didn't mind though, like it's flattering to me that she would take whatever I said to heed.
Over the last two years, I got thinner too but I a little overweight and not nearly as thin as Angela.
The problem with Angela is that she isn't the prettiest girl on the block. She has a huge forehead which she has covered up with bangs but now her face is totally square-shaped and it kind of looks like a block. She has no-lips, not thin lips, just no lips. The thing that stands out about her is her gorgeous blue eyes and her body. Anyway, she's not very attractive but she's a very nice and honest (although sometimes she annoys guys by nagging and starting arguments).
So I don't have that great of a body but I'm lucky, I inhereted good genes from my parents. I'm not as beautiful as mother but I'm fairly ok.
All my other friends are really pretty too.
So we recently found out that Angela was upset because the rest of our friends complemented me more than they complemented her. Well, I was pretty mad because I didn't think she should be that superficial. People usually commented when she went the extra mile to get ready when they do that all the time to me. Honestly, I thought it was a fair trade, I was... I guess prettier than her but she has a great body.
Now guys aren't all that interested in her. She's pretty much labeled herself desperate in fun (something no one should do even if they're joking, in my opinion). Some guys say it's becasue she comes on too strong and some say she isn't that pretty.
Recently, this guy told one of my friends that he thought I was hotter than Angela. That friend told Angela and Angela hinted that she didn't understand why. When we're all together and I talk about how so-and-so might have been hitting on me, she agrees with everyone when they say that he probably was but I can kind of -sense- that "Yeah right" is on her mind.
For example, if a guy in our class talks to me a lot, the next day, she'll wear a more revealing sexy top to the same top and try to talk to him a lot.
I'm wondering what's going on with her. Does she think I'm ugly or something? Is it jealousy? Or she thinks I'm unattractive and doesn't think guys will like me? Is she competing with me? She doesn't do it with my other friends and they're prettier than me and have better bodies. I'm afraid that this thing will escalate and I'll lose her.
I need to know how to fix this- and also try to get her a boy friend because she really wants one too. I rate 5s.

I think that she is jealous. But I don't think that she thinks that you are unattractive because she probably wouldn't have copied your "style".

She is showing signs of an unfaithful friend. I think it is best to talk to her. Let her know how you feel. Let her know that you don't like it when she tries to compete with boys, etc. Just make sure you get your point of view across.

I don't think that you should try to get her a boyfriend because if the relationship doesn't work out you will be the one to blame. Trust me I'm saying this from experience.

I wish you the best of luck! :)

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How old Should a child be when they start dating?

I don't think that there should be a certain age. I think it all depends on the child's personality. If the child is mature, trustworthy, responsible, etc. then I would say when they enter middle school. Because anytime before that the relationships aren't really that serious.

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Hey, I know the subject is what every guy dreams of, but I need to learn how to get along with girls. I'm 14 year old male. I have some girl friends but I'm not very close to them. The reason is because I moved around so much I'm afraid to make friends because I may have to seperate from them. Because of this, I'm a loner and I sit at home and do nothing all day. Can you PLEASE give me some advice on how to become more people-friendly and get out there and make friends. Please I'm begging you.

Here are some tips to help you
-say hey/wave at me in the hallway at school or anywhere
-try to make conversation
-compliment a girl

if you want any other advice feel free to write me back or email me at stillstellasteal@yahoo.com

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okay im 13/f and for a while now i've really really liked this boy, Jimmy, and he did like me but since he found out i liked him so much different things amd problems have been happening. I've got rid of all of them but now there's a new one. My friend ask his friend, mitch why jimmy wouldn't go out with me. All he said was that he thinks he won't go out with me cause all i'll do is f*** him an then leave him! But that's totally not true! Since last year i've been known as a sl*t and I hate it! It's not true! But now so many boys are believeing the rumers that go around about me. I want to tell Jimmy that i wouldn't do that and i really like him but how would i go about doing that?

also if it helps he may not still like me but he plays hard to get.

Thank you!

If he is willing to believe rumors about you then i don't think that he is worth it.

But if you still want to talk to him then i think that you should tell him that they are JUST rumors and that none of them are true. Explain the situation to him. Let him know that you care about him and would never do that to him.

I hope he comes to his senses and choose to ignore the rumors.

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i'm having problems figuring out a screen name. i juss cant get a theme down right.

-viva la____ (not glam)
-something with princess
-tall
-long leggs
-brunette
-tan
-LiVELAUGHL0VE??(NUMBER 1 PICK) opinions??

thanks!!

xoLifeoxLovinBrunette
GorgeousxoBrunnete
BrunettexoBeauty
BeautifuloxBrunette
LivenxoLife

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Is it underweight for a 5"2 13-year-old girl to be 87 lbs?

Yeah unforunately it is really underwieght. Here is a website that should help you eat healthy and a lot of other stuff.

mypyramid.gov

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Is it uncommon for a 13-year-old girl to want love?

NOOOOO!!!It is completely normal.

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