Its really great that you have found such a good connection with this guy.

Most good long term relationships start out slow, and the physical part starts slow as well.

Most relationships don't work out because its based on JUST the physical stuff, and when it comes down to it, if you don't have a mental and emotional connection, the physical stuff fizzles out quickly and the relationship hits a brick wall and never goes anywhere.

The physical stuff in a REAL relationship, doesn't matter until later. You should love being around the person and love talking and laughing together, not just feel something for eachother when things get physical.

Sounds like you and this boy have a true connection. I know from experience, I started dating my guy when I was only 16 and im 21 now and we are still together (high school sweethearts) and we are getting married in december!

Don't rush the physical stuff and just get to know eachother and love eachother first. Sex is always better when you have already connected emotionally and mentally first.

Hope this helps! Email me anytime if you need anything! =]

Stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

Steph 21

Micheal buble's entire album is 98% cover songs so I think MUSE sang it first. However, they might not be the original creators of the song. Try a google search.

But im almost 100% sure michael just did a cover of it.

Hope this helps! =]

Steph 21

I know EXACTLY what its like to experience this.

What you need to do is, next time you and your gf are alone, be mature and talk to her about what you are watching her go through. Let her know that it hurts and upsets you to see her being treated this way. Then simply ask her what she thinks about the two of you living together. Give her a list of reasons why its the better choice. She should understand and see your reasoning behind it.

Just talk to her and really dig deep to find out how she truly feels about the situation.

Hope this helps! =]

Steph 21

IF you are taking your pills at EXACTLY the same time everyday, the chance is about 5%. BUT if the condom broke, and cum got inside you, that definetly increases the chance to about 8%.

just always remember that no matter what precautions you take, there is always a chance at pregnancy.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

thats fine, if you are ready like you said. You are old enough.

Just remember that you arent the only person who has to be ready, he has to be ready to make that step too.

just be mature and ask him if hes ready to go to the next level. if you are both ready, then go for it.

hope this helps. =]

steph 21

IF you are not taking the pills at the same exact time EVERY SINGLE night, you cut the efectiveniess of the pills almost in half.

which means, you taking your pills late (even every once in a while) makes you MORE likely to get pregnant by 40-50%.

if you dont want to get pregnant, decrease your chances by using a condom, and try harder to take your pills on time. But remember that there is always a chance, no matter what precautions you take.

if your period is more than 3 days late next time around, take a test. Its best to find out as soon as possible so you can start prenatal care if you are pregnant.

email me if you need anything!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21

its not "grease" its simply the sweating that your forhead creates. That part of your forehead is being blocked by your hair and your pores cant breathe as good.

try getting some "face blotting papers" carry them around with you. any time you feel your face and forehead getting moist, pull out the tiny blotting paper, and get that oil off your face, and it wont get into your hair.

hope this helps!

steph 21

it sounds like its a muscle spasm in your upper thigh.

I would suggest you stretch out your legs really good one day, and then go for a drive and see if it still shakes. if not, then you know your leg was probably tensed up that day.

if it continues, def go to the doctor and see what he says about it. its not safe.

hope this helps!

steph 21

i would NOT try to remove it yourself. ESPECIALLY since its in such a delicate area.


be mature about it and tell your dad that you have a mole in a rather awkward spot, and you will not allow him to be in the room while its being removed.

Also tell your doctor the same thing when you get there so that your doctor will ask your dad to leave the room.

hope this helps!!!

steph 21

I have a great idea for you.

Do a tuscan/vineyard style theme!!

Colors: Browns, Tans, Greens, Purples, Deep Reds, and Mustard Yellow


Kitchen: Vineyard themed artwork (small) framed paintings of grapes, cheeses, wines, etc. Little ...maybe a border of grapvine going around the kitchen...etc. heres a picture:

http://kandmconstructiononline.com/images/mediterranean_kitchen_style.jpg


Living room: Lots of black iron accents, tan and brown fabrics, darker woods, grapevine accents...etc. this website is GREAT for this:

http://www.accentsofsalado.com/Iron_wall_grille_Santorini_Round.html


just an idea! hope this helps!

Steph 21

since you have two practices fairly close together, the best way to gain energy for the 2nd practice, is to RELAX.

if you continue to work out after your first practice is over, then you are more likely to be more tired for the 2nd practice.

in between, sit down, drink lots of water, and if you are hungry, eat something light, like an apple or banana.

this will recharge you for the next pract.

hope this helps! =]

steph

unfortunetly when people travel, we tend to forget about our normal eating habits, and switch to the "holiday" eating habits.

even though you THOUGHT you were eating healthy, the food you were eating could have been high in calories. Eating in other countries is tricky.

just start eating really healthy, excercise if you can, and the weight will eventually come off, you just gotta stick to it.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

There are many things that could be depending on, like,

did you use a condom?

have you taken your pills everyday, at the same exact time every day?

if you did and you used a condom, your chances are low, BUT, if you didnt use an condom, or you dont take your pills at the right time, then that raises your chances of getting pregnant.

unfortunetly, it doesnt matter how many years you have been on birth control, there is still a risk of pregnancy. Just watch your period and if you are more than 3 days late, take a pregnancy test.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

I know it sucks, but cellulite is part of ever mature womans body.

Even models have cellulite they just hide it on the runway and in photos, they have the photos retouched.

There isn't a surefire way to get rid of it but there are lotions that help make your shin smoother.

Don't be embarassed about it, its part of your body maturing.

Steph 21 =]

I thin I can help you here.

When my fiance and I started dating 5 yrs ago, he was wearing jeans that were too tight in all the wrong places. (If ya knw what I mean) and helped him out.

Here's what you got to do:

If your relationship is a good one, be mature about the pants situation. There's no reson to get n a fight or anything, just sit down with him, and tell him that you really love his style, but say that when you go out on dates, you want to look nicer then EVER. Then suggest that BOTH of you go shopping to buy 1 new outfit EACH.

Buy him a whole outfit instead of just a pair of jeans. That way its less about "I don't like your jeans here's a new pair" and more along the lines of "wow lets get this awesome looking outfit! We are gonna look so fresh tonight!"

And then let him help you pick out an outfit for you. That way the focus isn't all on his style (and you get new clothes.lol)

Doing it this way will be less harsh and more fun!

Hope this helps!! =]

Steph 21

this is hard, i know because my best friend is also a boy.

what you have to do is find faith in your friendship, and believe in the strength of your closeness.

if he truly is your best friend, then you need to support him no matter what. Acting this way could end your friendship with him, and I can tell you dont want that.

You have to pull him aside, and be honest. say this

"i really care about you, and love you. and because of that, i am very protective of you. please dont misunderstand that to be jealousy. I apologize for my immature behavior, and I only want the best for you. will you forgive me?"

dont drag on. keep it simple and make sure he understands that you really care about him and only want whats best. And that you will try harder to be more sensative to his needs.

hope this helps! =]

steph 21

he will keep coming back and saying all the right things to get what he wants. stay strong and say NO. and as hard as it will be to move on, you have to do it.

and you will find someone who treats you right, and you will be very happy.

steph 21 =]

im sorry you are having to go through this.

While his behavior is COMPLETELY unacceptable, it could stem from internal stress he has built up. If you think about it, he is studying for one of the HARDEST and most important tests in his life. I know hes acting horribly, but if hes doing it to please his parents or NOT, a good girlfriend would support him in all he does no matter what.

Its strange because when MY BF and I were together, the 4 year mark was horrible for us. we were very nasty towards eachother, he was stressed all the time, and so was I. We even lived together so it was tough. One day we were in the living room and we got into a stupid little fight he said "im done." and I said, "well me too."

I spent about 2 weeks hanging out with other guys, trying to see if I had wasted too much of my life on 1 person without playing the field.

I went out with 4 or 5 guys, and never really found that great of a guy. Spending that time away from my BF made me realize that there arent that many guys like him, and how much I really loved him. We were letting stress come between us and it almost ended us forever.

once i realized this, I sat down with him, and had a very serious talk. I told him what I realized and I apologized for alot. He felt the same and he apologized for letting other things distract him from the relationship.

We got back together and have been together ever since. we talked about our needs and what our expectations were for eachother.

now we are the happiest we've ever been, we have been together for over 5 yrs now, and are getting married in December.

If you really want to make things work talk to him. You will be suprised what he might say, and you might not realize whats causing his behavior until he tells you.

You have invested 4 yrs of your life with him, if there is any way to make it work out, you should try. Good luck, and let me know if you need anything. email me anytime.

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21 =]

As long as the cum was ON the TOP of your vag, and not IN it, then there is 0% chance you are pregnant.

steph 21 =]

ive had this before too! lol

if you guys really are close friends, next time he gives those signals, and gets really close to your face, make it easy for him by saying something cute, like

"hey, if you wanna kiss me, do it already." and smile =]

he'll say 1 of 2 things.

1. "ok. ive been wanting to, but wasnt sure if it was ok..." and then kiss you.

OR

2. "What? I dont want to kiss you..."
(at that time you say, "ok then back away from my face just a bit, silly!" and smile)

either way, make it easy on him and smile. it will make him feel more comfortable.

another clue, next time you two are hanging out and he gets close, look at his eyes. If he seems to be staring at your mouth or lips alot, chances are he reaaaly wants to kiss you.

have fun and good luck!! email me if you need anything, or to let me know how things go!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

steph 21 =]

Hi! I'm Stephanie, I'm a 21 yr living in Houston, Texas. I've been living on my own since I was 17 and wouldnt have it any other way. Ive been through many bad things in my life. Instead of letting things hurt me and make me bitter and depressed, I have let them make me stronger. I can give great advice on almost any subject. Im getting married in December to a wonderful man named Chris, and will soon my a military wife! inbox me or email me anytime, id love to hear from you!

stephanie.ellick@gmail.com

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