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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.
People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.
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Right now I'm sucking a ring pop. I could go through an entire pack of gum no matter how big in 5days. At the most. Every time I finish a gum piece, or a lollipop, I want another one. And when I'm not, I'm sucking or chewing on something else…THAT ISN'T FOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This could include, hard objects, squishy objects, toenails, etc. What is wrong with me? Now I'm gonna get another lollipop. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Okaaaaaay soo uhhmmm...I am not sure whats going on with you ...it might be an addictive habit?
.but I recommend trying to go on hour without chewing on something. Try doing something else, like playing with bluetack, or getting a new hobby to take up your time.
If you can survive an hour, tomorrow try 2 hours. Eventually you can get to twenty four. Everyday.
OR
limit yourself to 1 piece of gum a day. It'll take commitment! BUT YOU CAN DO IT. Do an internet search for breaking habit methoods.
I just got my first car and I want to know where you can buy a horn like the one on the general lee in the dukes of hazzard? I have never seen a car with one except on that show and the auto parts store doesn't have one. Any ideas?
https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=general+lee+dukes+of+hazzard+horn&rls=com.microsoft:en-GB:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&sourceid=ie7&rlz=1I7RNRN_enGB441&gfe_rd=ctrl&ei=tsYlU5eCGYPY8gfm2YCQAw&gws_rd=cr
Search the internet and buy it online. Its GOT to be online SOMEWHERE, just takes a little patience to search for.
You can also find it for the best prices too.
I'm a very introverted individual, and I often keep to myself. It's not that i'm shy; I just enjoy being alone (or so I thought). It actually works out better that way because I keep myself from getting hurt by fake friends or cheating boyfriends. I'm a transfer college student and ever since I transfered things have just really taken a change for the worse (mentally speaking). I decided to take a small vacation for spring break with some college friends from my previous college. The thing is I had a wonderful time. They treated me better than any of my hometown friends, and boys actually showed interest in me instead of talking about me. ANYWAY, long story short, I hated to come home today because it reminded of just how lonely I am here, and it kind of has me feeling blue. I guess my question is why am I feeling this way, and what can I do to fix it? Have any of you ever felt like this?
Simple!
Join a club, go to a party, invite your old friends, family over etc. etc.
Invite those old friends back over!
I'm sure if they haven't seen you in ages they'd love to come over and hang out. Then you wont feel so alone, and you'll know youre not so lonely.
Its fine to be a loner sometimes, but even those sorts of people need a little company from time to time.
My boyfriend keeps asking me which kind of kiss I want it to be. So when I ask him he says French. But he has never kissed a girl before so I'm not sure how to know when or what type of kiss it should be. I have kissed a boy twice the same boy within a span of five minutes but it was easy because that boy took the lead but this one doesn't have A CLUE.
Additional info: we are both in sixth grade and have been dating for 4months.
I have kissed him on the hair(on accident), the cheek, and the neck. Also any advice will help.and we both want to kiss already because it is starting to interfere with our grades and school work because we are both stressing out about it.
ANYTHING HELPS. THANKS:)
hmmmmm To be honest, I don't think you should be French kissing in the 6th grade!
But, hey, that's your decision, I'll only provide you with the facts:
French Kissing, is essentially a kiss with tongue.
Tongue often means tracing it along the persons lower lip.
That is literally it. Ussually, when you are mentally ready for a French kiss, it comes naturally to both people. Same with a normal kiss really. Don't over think and youll be fine- don't "plan" it either.
Hey so me and my boyfriend are both in 6th grade and we have been going out for 4months and havent actually kissed yet like I've kissed his head(on accident) his neck and his cheek. But we have never actually kissed lip to lip if you know what I mean. And I need help on how to kiss him lip to lip for the first time because he doesn't pick up the hints of when I'm ready. ANYTHING helps thank you. :)
6th grade? Well, no need to rush- most of us don't get our first kiss that early---
BUUUT- For your information and curiosity:
The classic thing to do, which does actually work is too get close enough to stare into his eyes. not in a creepy way. Look at his lips, look back at his eyes, smile a little. be quiet.
Its what they do in the movies.
If he doesn't get that then he's probably a little young for a kiss on the lips yet. Boys can be pretty dense sometimes. trust me!
Now please do not come up with that "You must have seen him before" ****, because I know I have NOT seen him in my life.
Anyway, I'm in this religion where my God helps me with all my problems. And I told Him that I've been very lonely, and then I wrote down everything I want in a boy. The first time I did this, I met the first boy. He was everything I asked for.
That night I had a dream about that exact boy. He had long, straight jet black hair. Snakebite piercings. Taller than me. Black clothing and black converse. the whole setting was white. And he was looking at something. I had a feeling we were at Walmart, and he was looking at the CD's. But I'm not completely sure.
The next dream, my dad was abusing me. And my mom was crying and begging him to stop. Then the exact same boy looked around the corner and began glaring and mumbling angrily at my dad.
The third dream, I was hanging out with this boy that I go to school with. And the boy kept glaring at him and following me everywhere I went. And I had asked for a boy who would feel the need to be with me all the time or would freak out.
Now that boy I dreamed about who goes to my school asked me to be his again. And I agreed. And after that I hadn't had dreams about the boy again. Last night, that boy was being really disrespectful to his mom, so I began having doubts on if I should be with him. And last night I had a dream where he was crying on the picnic table, and I noticed that boy I asked for sitting on the other picnic table, and could feel him staring at me. I was walking away with my English teacher as I talked about Nicholas Sparks with her. That dream was really random as you can tell.
I had dreams about the first guy before. Had asked my God for him and the dreams came. And I met him. So what do these dreams mean? Is it possible I can meet this boy since I met the first one before?
******MORE TO IT: Then I had another dream the night before last, and I was...making love with him and then we were looking at the ultrasounds. Then I woke up. Last night I was still pregnant in my dream, but I could only barely see him in the background.*******
Wooooowwwww.
Luckyish you I guess?
Thing is, I have to say that you must have seen him before---AT LEAST, his face. You may not remember it, but you may have passed him on the street and subconsciously stored the image. After thinking about this perfect type so much, you began to dream about all the things you want, except... the brain cannot make up a face all on its own. So it "remembers" someone you've already sort of seen. And then adds all the extras like his snakebites and the clothing.
I dunno... if you dreamed about and met the first boy like this then its nice to imagine you CAN meet another like this again! Like I said, that face must exist somewhere near you if you subconsciously saw him...dunno about all the extras. We can only dream!
I recently got interested in horoscope, even though I'm pretty young (too young to answer questions on this sight I'll tell you that much) and I am the sign cancer. What's the good qualities, and the bad qualities? Is it good or bad to be cancer? Can anyone tell me what it means to be cancer?
Its neither good nor bad to be cancer.
Loads of people are cancer- And theyre all individual so you shouldn't really worry about the traits defined as "cancer".
But if youre interested.... "Those born under this sign are 'roots' kinds of people, and take great pleasure in the comforts of home and family. Cancers are maternal, domestic and love to nurture others..."
click on this website to go see more: http://www.astrology.com/cancer-sun-sign-zodiac-signs/2-d-d-66919
Everyone knows that water is good for you and it helsps you with all sorts of things including your skin. But how much water do you need to drink every day to see an improvement in your skin? How long does it take? Days? Weeks? Thank you :)
They say a full glass of water with every meal is good- if you don't drink anything else, its particularly healthy. You should also wash your face at morning and night, apply acne cream at night and do not pick or squeeze it. It should disappear within weeks, months if particularly severe but it takes commitment so it does not come back again!
I may be pregnant after making the mistake of having sex. He used a condom and it's been 11 days since and I've experienced sore breasts, fatigue, and major boost in appetite. I started bleeding today but it's extremely light and not like my normal period and it's been off and on. Could I still have a possibility of being pregnant? I'm 15 (yes major mistake I know please don't lecture me)...
Hmmmmn Your symptoms may be a part of the period after having sex... but this is not unusual to feel like that when pregnant, so I hear. Also, some women do get their periods during the first stages of pregnancy- depending on when/what was going on when it was conceived. Of course, the only way to really find out is to take a pregnancy test just to be sure.
It seems unlikely if he used a condom though, and youre getting a period.
Ok,I know what your thinking you just tell him how you feel, but it doesn't work. I have told him like ten times that I don't feel the same way but he keeps insisting and bugging me trying to win me over. He is a real jerk and a big player. While he has been trying to get me to go out with him over the past four months he has had fourteen other girl friends including one of my best friends!! how do I get him to leave me alone?!?!?!
Oh tricky, a persistant player eh?
Just totally ignore him then. RUN AWAY! If you've let him down easy, told him over and over again, theres nothing more you can do, other than just block him out entirely. Its mean, but he should get the message! Its a game of stubbornness- either you'll give up or he will.
Okay so I was on Twitter. I came across someone's account and there was a picture that said: "Most people marry their 7th-12th grade love. Since you have read this, repost this or the worst week of your life starts now". I've told myself not to believe this kind of junk, but I retweeted it (I hope it's the same as "reposting"..) because of my paranoia. Well anyways, are these actually real? I hate these and I hate always running into them, but I sometimes somehow believe them.
No, they are not.
Ok so this is a really hard one. I am in 8th grade. I was recently cast as the leading female role in our school musical. We triple casted so there were 3 main girls and 3 main guys. I was with guy 2 and 3 because I did two performances. There was a kissing scene but my director gave us a choice. The guys pestered is about it for days because they wanted to kiss us. (The girls were all in 8th, boys all in 7th). We all stood our ground with a no. The first performance was with guy 3. We messed up a lot and only hugged because he is a creep. Over practice time I had begun to like guy 2. I had a performance with him in front of the 7th grade. All of the sudden right before that show everyone wanted me to kiss him. In my heart I realized I wanted to kiss him (during the show there was a song like this). So during the song where we kissed. We both nodded to each other and we kissed. Everyone in the auditorium freaked out because out of 7 performances, this was the last and the only any one had kissed. May I remind you that this is the guy that everyone likes. It was not the best kiss but it worked. Two days later. Now. Everyone is talking about it. I am a mystery girl to most because I didn't wear my glasses during the performance. I kinda like him. No. I like him. And I kissed him. The entire performance was perfect between us. Fellow cast members said us playing those roles together were the best combo. But the dance is in two days. He is going with my friend. This was decided by him before all this. I am sure I doesn't like me. I realized I liked him when I realized I was jealous. He has ignored me and I have ignored him since. What do I do?
Before I give you an answer can I just say woah, you should write that down its like a dramatic plot for a chick flick/manga/fairy-tale! And thanks for coming to me~
Okay, so you like him? Its good that you kissed him and for future reference, please, kiss the guys on stage. Yes it may not feel right, but you get used to it and its the professional thing to do- especially if you get an audience response like that. Actually fancying the guy you're working with is a lucky bonus! What play were you doing?
AnyHoo, So you like him, and you had this perfect kiss? Well, don't worry about the fact that he's going with your friend to this dance- don't interrupt that, it;d just be mean. Go with someone else for now, because in the long run it doesn't matter. But for the rest of the time...You have two options.
OPTION 1) (Difficult but most recommended) Play "Hard to get". This means stop ignoring him! Start by those little conversations. Texting- be a friend! Smile in the corridors. Its Flirting, (read those teen magazines. Its cringy but it works), flirting, hinting that you like him but leaving him to guess whether you really do or not. One minute you're hot, the next, cold. Look pretty and don't act at all bitchy though. Keep him interested in you and the wondering will keep him thinking about you and eventually liking you back. Welcome to teenagehood- the time to practice the dating game!
Option 2)Be his friend, and build up to a confession. Tell him all you've said here about your feelings for him- I mean, what have you got to lose really? Or if you want, get a friend to "accidentally" spill your secret crush. Trust me, whether he already likes you or not, just knowing exactly which cute girl has a crush on him will get him thinking about her! He may even feel jealous of anyone you dance with- "Wait a minute, why is she with him when she's into me?" etc. etc.
If it doesn't work, have no shame! you're an actress- BE CONFIDENT. If he really doesn't go for you don't worry. Pick yourself up and dust off. His loss. At 8th grade there really is a future of surely much hotter guys falling at your feet ahead xD... sorry for the essay! Hope it helps.
I was wondering how come every time I paint my nails myself they chip very easily? If I go have a manicure done and have them paint them they do not chip so fast? Is there something I should do? i'm 19 years old.
Maybe you should change your nail varnish? Invest in some really expensive fancy type and see if that makes a difference.
If not, try drying your nails instantly-
dip into a bowl of cold water straight after painting them and see if that works. It does make it dry instantly tho!
If not, ask the manicurist. They may know what you need!
Ive been having a reoccuring nightmare for a while. I "wake up" in my dark bedroom, as if i had simply waken up from sleeping normally, and there is a nightmare-y and eerie feel to the room (though that might just be because i am deathly afraid of the dark but i dont know) I usually immidietely know im in a nightmare, and my first instinct is to get to my mom. (Im 13/f so i still live with my parents obviously) not sure if this is important but i guess i better share everything, it never ever occurs to me to go find my dad, im always just "calling out" (more like a croaking whisper) to my mom. I will try to leave my room, but its usually a difficult struggle to even open my door, or even get to it, let alone walk out of it. Most of the time I am fighting for control over my body. Most of the time i end up floating against my will, being pulled slowly upwards by an unknown force. Then i "wake up" from that nightmare, but its actually just a different nightmare, the same events, and i had never woken up. This repeats about 5 times roughly, usually, sometimes more sometimes less, before i wake up for real. In the nightmare, it grows more and more frightening as it continues, the desparate feeling that i //have// to wake up grows stronger and I grow more scared, usually near tears by the last nightmare inside a nightmare. I guess Im just looking for an explanation on this, what it could mean, what might be causing it, what i could do to stop them from happening. Anything you know would be appreciated, thank you :)
These are common types of things called "False awakenings" and yes they are scary!
Changing something in your life is the best way to get rid of them- try to conquer fears, eat healthy, and most of all, change your sleeping habits. Eat a small snack before bed, get some excersise and try to relax so you sleep better.
They say a false awakening is an emotional problem youre tryin to confront.
Confront the nightmare. If you find yourself what you think is a false awakening, try to take a deep breath, and get up and move around. It becomes a lucid dream- a dream you are conscious of, and wheyhey- YOU have the power to control it. Look at a clock. If it is spinning rapidly - you're in a dream. Clocks never work in dreams. Alternatively look at your hands. They'll be the weirdest thing you ever see in a dream.
SO RESIST the force. Tell it to F*** right off. YOURE in control now.
Once you have control, feel free to imagine or try and get something to appear in your dream. By controlling the nightmare, you'll get rid of it- Or if it comes back, you wont be scared anymore.
I've been having strange, mysterious dreams and somehow they all connect. I wanna know what they mean. Which website gets you true dream interpretations by experts, without signing up, giving away any personal information, for free. Any ideas?
Rainhorse is kind of right. Dreams are your subconscious trying to give ideas and information to your conscious. You know we only use about 10% of our brain?
Anyway, YOURE the one who should interpret YOUR dreams, simply because theyre YOUR dreams and only YOU truly saw them.
http://dreammoods.com/
this website is like a dictionary.
Have fun~
My boyfriend won't touch my boobs I know he wants to but how do I get him to touch them!
Hug... and take his hand. You shall be his guide~
These two mean girls, who emotionally hurt my best friend, and constantly stabbed me in the back. But now, whenever they see me they yell my name and start flagging me over. I don't like them at all, but they are always clinging to me. Every time I'm out of their sight, they ask everyone where I am. It's so annoying! I want to confront them about it, but I don't know what to say or how to react. Help?
RUN FOR THE HILLS
No no no jokes jokes.
As dragonflymagic said, confront them, but gently. Theyre lovely, but just... tell them how you feel in the nicest possible manner. If theyre really nice and respectful, they'll leave you alone. Careful though! Choose words wisely- this could backfire easily.
I have been bad at math mostly my whole life. I am currently in 8th grade and I started out this nine weeks with a B in math because we start at 100 every nine weeks. I'm not sure what I have now but I have been getting bad scores on my papers I get back. I feel depressed and worried. My dad was bragging on me because I had a B. Now, I know I don't. What do I do? Studying doesn't help because I never remember it. I'm so depressed
TAKE A BREATHER! Play some funky music and REVISE. Ignore the fact that you got a B. Just cus it happened in the past doesn't mean its going to happen again. YOURE IN 8th GRADE! Math shouldn't be your life!
I don't understand much about the American education system and all the 100 nine week thing, but coooool it.
Go back to studying- find a new method and learn it like the back of your hand. It may not feel like its sticking in your head but trust, you'll be fine in the exam- the conditions are different, etc etc. and you always know more than you think. Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and go watch "Rocky." Then go study study study- THE THINGS YOU DONT KNOW FIRST.
(f,16)
So technically i fell in love with a guy who is one year younger than me, but he like hangs out with my friends and he is very mature for his age thou. I love him. We have been dating for 2 months and i knew i could trust him with literally my life. Like we were getting to the point where it got INTIMATE in our relationship.So,I told him that I USE to smoke ciggerates, cause apparently he smocked weed. But i was wrong... he didn't and i eventually ended up telling him my secret which he seemed cool knowing about. After like a day thou, we were alone together, he told me that he couldn't do it anymore and he wanted out of our relationship because i USE TO SMOKE! and let me Emphasis on the word USE. AS IN LIKE A YEAR AGO! HAVEN'T GONE BACK TO IT SINCE. I've even like explained that to him but he wont listen, he keeps saying hes sorry and everything like that.. i've been crying and throwing up for the past 4 days and i cant even stand to see my now ex boyfriend. How do i stop thinking about him, i think i've tried everything..
Sincerely,
Nobody :'(
This sounds like particularly bad break up!
But you'll get over it, I promise. Youre young, youre 16 and there will be plenty of other wonderful guys out there in the future. I get the feeling it may not have been the smoking that was his problem- but if that really was it, then he's not worth your time! seriously! SMOKING A YEAR AGO? THATS the deal-breaker?! What a pussy.
Here's what to do:
First take a moment to calm yourself. If this is how you are after 2 months, whats going to happen when you get into that first fight with the boy of your dreams after 6 months?! YOU'LL BE A MESS!!! xD So breathe. Relax. You can do this.
Don't go see him- don't let him know you're upset. Don't talk to him. If he wants to talk to you, and theres a possibility of getting him back, don't be desperate. "Be mean and keep 'em keen."
Get a hobby- paint, play sports, read books- anything to focus your mind elsewhere. (Don't watch romance movies, and take a special "me" day for valentines day. Or hit the clubs. idk)
You could invite a few girlfriends round for a sleepover to cheer you up and do the cliché breakup thing- ice cream, bad films etc etc. Take your time~
Look at things a little optimistically-breakups are a sweet sorrow in life- but at least you're going through one. Some people don't get the chance! Come back to your friends, all made over, badass and over it. I get the feeling somehow, it'll be his problem more than it'll be yours. ;)
AIM: make everyone say to him: "Daymn you broke up with her? uhmmm... WHY??! IDIOT lol!
Does anyone know any good Erotica Short story forums? NOT Romance Novel forums. I'm looking for a specific community of people. Thank you.
http://thepoeticplayground.yuku.com/forums/10/Erotic-Short-Stories#.Uu2BF5qYbZ4
First one that came up= probably most popular.