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The more I swear I'm happy the more that I'm feeling alone?
I'm a very introverted individual, and I often keep to myself. It's not that i'm shy; I just enjoy being alone (or so I thought). It actually works out better that way because I keep myself from getting hurt by fake friends or cheating boyfriends. I'm a transfer college student and ever since I transfered things have just really taken a change for the worse (mentally speaking). I decided to take a small vacation for spring break with some college friends from my previous college. The thing is I had a wonderful time. They treated me better than any of my hometown friends, and boys actually showed interest in me instead of talking about me. ANYWAY, long story short, I hated to come home today because it reminded of just how lonely I am here, and it kind of has me feeling blue. I guess my question is why am I feeling this way, and what can I do to fix it? Have any of you ever felt like this?
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People who enjoy their alone time still need some social interaction. I think people are meant to interact in conversation. When I was younger and more of a loner, I tended to talk aloud to myself. You heard stories of a person who survived in the wild or somewhere cut off from society. They begin to talk to a mouse, or some inanimate object because that need is there. Even a person born mute, uses sign language. Its part of how the majority of humans are wired.
In high school, I was much like you..had figured out simply being observing others that I wanted nothing to do with 'fake' friends, and I didn't want anything to do with the the guys, they were all too immature yet for me and not worth my time. Instead, I would spend time only with a small handful of friends that were genuine people who really cared about me and i could be myself with them. I still enjoy big chunks of time alone because I really enjoy my own company. But I still find times where I enjoy the company of other people, especially my 2nd husband. Its with him that I learned something I will share now. We could do the most routine simple things together, running errands on a Saturday or doing dishes together, not that those things in themselves are tons of fun. But when its the right person or persons you are with, everything you do is more special and enjoyable and fun simply because they are there to share the experience with you. Thats when you know you have found the right people to hang out with. Looks like you have a great start with those people you mentioned. You can find others along the way in life. There's no rush. Take your time and get to know what you are looking for in a friend, what good friend material looks like. And for dating later, find a guy who is attracted to you as a friend first. Thats the best base for any successful relationship. Good luck dear.
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Simple!
Join a club, go to a party, invite your old friends, family over etc. etc.
Invite those old friends back over!
I'm sure if they haven't seen you in ages they'd love to come over and hang out. Then you wont feel so alone, and you'll know youre not so lonely.
Its fine to be a loner sometimes, but even those sorts of people need a little company from time to time.
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