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Q: okay well me and my boyfriend like 2 days ago had sex twice but we didnt have a condom either time cause we ran out and couldnt go get anymore at the time. well the first time he cummed in me but i went to the bathroom and try to clean myself and the second time he pulled out without cumming. and this kinda happen before but i wasnt preg. last month. and i should start my period at the end of the month like the 30th, now how much should i be worrying now?
Yea, a lot. You're ovulating a bit because you're period is comming. If you period comes or not, take a pregnancy test 1 1/2 weeks after it ends or is supposed to.

And if you're not ready to have a child or get an STI, don't have sex unprotected. I suggest you get on BC ASAP if you are not pregnant.

Q: I want to find some really cute, NOT TACKY, seat covers for my car ('02 Dodge Neon). I've tried searching google but I couldn't find any sites that have what I'm looking for. Maybe something with stripes, polka dots, or a cute solid color (other than hot pink or lime green- those just seem tacky to me.) Does anyone know any sites that have this sort of thing, or any common car shops that would have them?
You can try ebay. Or even Wal-Mart or Target may have them.

Q: DO skater guys like skater girls? Because all the skater guys i see and meet like preppy-ish HCO girls. I know it depends on the guy, but in general. I'd also like opinions from guys, not only girls.





PS- Don't get mad at me because i said that HCO and AE etc.. are preppy, thats just how i think.
Around here they are. I'm considered "skater" and the skaters here don't really go past the friendship boundary with people of other labels. -.- (I hate using lables)

So yes, they do. My boyfriend and I are both "skater", so it's obviously possible.

Q: is there anyway to look up someones screen name? i met a guy at summer camp and i like him. i asked him if he had a myspace, he said no. but i forgot to ask him his sn. so is there anyway to look up someones sn?


thnx in advanced (i'll rate for any help !!!)
No, unfortunately there is no way to look up someones screen name. If you know his last name, try looking it up in the phone book if he lives near you so maybe that way you can get a hold of him.

Q: how old were you when you lost your virginity? and how far along were you into a relationship if you were into one? also when do you think is okay to lose it? thanks!
14.
5 months, and we're still together today, just passed a year and 9 months 2 days ago.
I think it's okay to lose your virginity when you are planning on spending to be with the other person for a long time, and you are ready for the consequences of sex.

Q: 16/f

How big of a chance do I have of getting pregnant considering I had sex the day before my expected period? Like, I had sex last night, but he didnt go but theres still pre-cum, but whats the chance of me being pregnant? I usually get my period between the 20-23 of every month, so far I haven't gotten it and I know I can't be pregnant that soon. So what are my chances?
Well if you used protection, you should be ok. If you didn't, then I would wait about a week after you get your period to make sure. You will most likely still get your period this month, being that you had sex so close to the time of getting your period. What you really need to watch for is next months period. If that doesn't come, you're should take another test.

Q: I just got back from my vacation and we went camping. My aunt and uncle surprised me with a truck and $300 for drivers training. I know...awesome huh? My high school doesn't offer drivers education which is a total bummer so I need to go to some place that has intergrated drivers traing and drivers education. Does anyone know what place can do that???
it depends where you live, if you tel us that then we can help you more =)

Q: 15/f/va

i have been having major household problems and i need to get out of my house. but even though i dont think she cares, i dont want to hurt my mom or offend her by leaving. and even if i did, i dont know where i could go. i dont have any friends and my boyfriend's family won't take me in.

where can i go? what can i do? can i legally get emancipated?
Try a relatives house that would be willing to take you in.

And no, you have to wait until you are 16, and able to support yourself ON YOUR OWN to get emancipated.

Q: Ok I just recently dyed my hair dark brown. And since the dramatic change I want to know what color eye shadow would look good.

Hair Color: Dark Brown
Eye Color: Hazel
Skin Color: White girl with a sun tan


ha
please help.
Light brown would go well with that.
Maybe have that fade into a darker brown.

Q: Why is everything so complicated when you are 14 I mean there's really nothing that makes sense anymore!
It's just a stage a promise!

You're 14, you're starting to grow up, and realize things that you were once oblivious to. You're maturing, and you're being introduced to new things in life that older people experience.

Q: If a friend you like and you told them you like them but they dont like you back and you both stay good friends.

And in the futuer they get with someone and then talks about they're sex life to you and you get mad. How can i avoid them when they want to talk about it?! i get mad and i dont want to know about their sex life!!!!!!!!
Just be honest with him/her. Say something like, "You know how I feel about you, and it makes me upset when you tell me these things."

Q: ok well i asked her about it like one of this people toldme to to do but she wants to wait and i dont want to wait! and i have begged and stuff but she wants to wait what should i do?
andi have so much presure like these guys that arae going all the way with there gf and i just want third base!
sign
a guy that needs help
Do not rush her! It is a huge turn off! Be patient, she will come around eventually. Appreciate the fact shes not easy, and takes a little more than just asking to get her to do something.

But, if you REALLY need the help; get her horny, and she might just do it on her own.

Remember, NEVER force her to do something she isn't comfortable with!

Q: okay this is skylar...
http://a267.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01060/66/26/1060616266_l.jpg
shes athletic. she can play alot of instraments. shes more of the tom boy. shes adventurous. she likes ping pong. she likes to party and camp alot also. shes prude. she has more money, and is more liked. she hangs out with a lot of guys though, and is often buisy.

and this is mariuh
http://a242.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/61/l_9b420492b9a759e6c364fa28a5287fd1.jpg
shes really loud, but extremely shy around adults and in school. shes pretty bad at school. but shes a fast runner. she likes to break the law, and sneak out. shes not prude. people think shes a lesbian, but shes straight. she loves to dance and swim. she does not have much money, and is not well liked because her ex boyfriend spred lies about her. and shes ussaully not buissy.

who do you think is better to date?
prettier?
what do you think?
First girl.
First girl.
Because so what if shes more of a tomboy, you will find you have more things in common than a preppy chick. Who cares if she's prude, stop thinking about sex.

Q: what are some websites for free ringtones for Cingular/At&T? I tried using www.myxertones.com but it tries to make me follow a link on my phone and I can't access the internet so I can't get the ringtone.
I'm pretty sure if you don't have internet on your phone you can't get them from websites. Sorry :/

Q: on a desktop for your computer is it possible to put two pictures up on the desktop because im trying to put two up there with the same size.
Yes, you have put the 2 pictures together in a program like paint, and then save it. Then upload it and woa-la!

Q: can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]
I lost mine when I was 14. I'm now 15, turning 16 in November. I have no regrets at all. I wish I waited a little longer, due to my mom not trusting my boyfriend and I as much. And yes, I'm still in the same relationship. My advice is that, if you're not ready for the consequences of sex, don't do it. I lost my mom's trust for a long time, and she still doesn't fully trust us, but she's getting there.

Q: ok so me and my bf fight alot. we both love each other more then words could explain but we have 2 problems; my rebellious attitude and his inability to show affection! We have been dating for 1 1/2 years! i love this man and i wanna spend the rest of my life with him! last night i told him i needed a lil break because i havent been able to forget about all the times hes hurt me (lil things that shouldnt matter but they do to me). and well after we talked about it and everything he said it was fine but asked me not to take toooo long. understandable right? well i have this lil habit of holding grudges and not letting them go. so i guess what i need is ways to move on from all those bad things and start over with him. i dont wanna us to be over for good but i cant continue to be with him with all these lil things getting in the way. i just need a way to i guess not forget them but to just let them completely go and forgive him for all of them! im in DIER NEED!!!!!!!
What I think you should do is just try to put those things in the past and move on. Try to accept that everyone has their flaws, and makes mistakes. You won't be able to change him, so he's going to stay the way he is. I think you should tell him bluntly these little grudges, and see what he says. Try to make him promise you that he'll stop doing things that hurt you. Just be honest with him. =)

Q: has anyone ever had sex with out a condom for like 30 seconds, but was still okay after?
you should be fine.

Q: 19 f
hi ao i took a pregnency test and it showed up as negative i was just curious how accurate they are. they say 99.9 percent accuracy. i used the e.p.t. one if that helps
If you took it like, 2 weeks before your period starts, it should be correct.

Q: Some people have their display picture on their myspace profile moving. Like it's changing slides. How can I do that?
You need an animation program to do this.
You can try one on a free trial off of http://www.corel.com

http://www.corel.com/servlet/Satellite/us/en/Product/1175263344612

Press the "Try" button, but you need to be a member of the site, and it is not a virus, I have used this program before =)

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The names Ashley. (:
I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
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