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i need to get out of my house
15/f/va
i have been having major household problems and i need to get out of my house. but even though i dont think she cares, i dont want to hurt my mom or offend her by leaving. and even if i did, i dont know where i could go. i dont have any friends and my boyfriend's family won't take me in.
where can i go? what can i do? can i legally get emancipated?
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The problems you have might be able to be worked out or not, but we don't know until they are addressed. If you can talk with someone you trust, an adult family member or teacher, counselor, even a social-worker, then do it. If there is alcoholism or drug use or violence or abuse of any kind in the home, then you need to get help immediately. If things are not that serious, but you just are not getting along, then you need to try to hang on and be patient. Make friends, try to take some positive steps in your life to brighten your chances for a future. You will be an adult with many responsibilities in a few short years. How are you doing in school? Your education will be one very important step towards having freedom and the power to come nearer to what you want in life. Whatever you do today will change your life tomorrow...make the most of your opportunities. Having a boyfriend can fill a partial void in your life, but there are more important and lasting goals to give your time and energy into. Don't do it for anyone but yourself and take nothing for granted.
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I have heard of teens being emancipated, but it is not easy. You have to be able to prove that your folks do not take care of you, or neglect you. Or that you are being abused. But that could also bring DCF and the State to your house, and if you have siblings then they might take all of you away and make put you in foster care. That does not mean that I don't think that should happen. If kids at home are being abused, hurt, then maybe the State should get involved. But lets just say that you want out because you are unhappy, you would have to prove that you can take care of yourself. Support yourself, but I assume you are not working. In CT, you can get a job at 15, but you can only work 15 - 25 hours per weeks, and that is not enough for you to pay your own rent and utilities and stuff. Is there an aunt or something you can go to for the summer.
How about a working camp. Is there a US Girls Scout Camp Near you. Some of them are overnight camps. And Girls Scouts is relatively cheap as far as camp goes. And if you qualify to be a counselor, may you can stay overnight for two weeks or more and get away. How about applying to an overnight camp near you. Some of them have scholarships that allow some kids to go for free. Your parents may have to help with the forms.
I feel very bad for you. I know it is hard. I ran away from home when I was 15, I came back but ran away again. I was lucky I guess. I knew some older kids in another city and went and stayed with them. I soon found work and made my own way. But it was hard. Luckily I did not get caught up in drugs and sex, but soooo many girls do. You'd be surprised what you will do when you are hungry,.
There is this place called the Covenant House. There take in runaway teens, no questions asked. There are located in all the major cities and MExico and Canada. Check out their website.
www.covenanthouse.org
Read the stories there of the kids who did run away. what their lives were like at home, and what their lives were like on the street until they found covenant house.
IF that changes your mind, maybe you need to find some work to do for the summer to get you out of the house. Is there a day care in the neighborhood that you could volunteeer at. A library? Just getting out and finding things to do that make you feel better about yourself will help you to forget what is going on at home. What is going on at home is no way your fault, but if you can find away to hold out until you are 18, and you have gradated from high school, you will have a much easier time being on your own. AS soon as you turn 16, get a job and save your money. I hope you make it. Good luck to you.
Michele
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Try a relatives house that would be willing to take you in.
And no, you have to wait until you are 16, and able to support yourself ON YOUR OWN to get emancipated.
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