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18f. one of my grandparents passed away about a week ago, basically the first person ever close to me to pass away. well i get really freaked out about death and ghosts and stuff, and ever since the wake and funeral i can't sleep, i wont allow myself at night because i'm terrified. everytime i close my eyes i see my dead grandmother in her casket, or the casket at the cemetery .. and it truly is frightening who wants to keep being reminded of that? or at night when it's really dark i feel like a ghost is in my room and every sound i hear i get freaked out to the point of me breaking a sweat in the verge of crying. i won't go to sleep until like 7 in the morning when it gets light out because i feel at least more comfortable but this no sleep thing has really been taking a toll on my body, i feel so sick :( i still live with my parents but they can't do anything about it. i go sleep with my mom in the morning when my dad goes to work, because i feel safe with someone. my dad won't sleep in my bed, haha embarassing i know but honestly i don't know what to do .. i'm terrified and i need sleep !
is there anything i can do.. (link)
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ohhhhhh im soo sorrryy to hear this!i feel soo bad for you. death is a natural process.we are all dying its just that some of us get there before others.
i know saying that wont change anything but here are some things you can do to help you sleep.maybe having a night light in your room or sleeping with the door open.make sure your room is tidy before you sleep so that no shadows are frightening you.
if you can,go see a school or uni counsellor and just talk about what you feel.even try talking to your mum about it or writing it in a diray. read before you go to sleep and have some tone down music running in the background so that its not so quiet in the house.
i really hope one of these things work.ofcourse time helps every problem.its onyl been a week since she passed away just give her time to rest in her grave and soon things will go back to normal
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I've been dating this guy for a month now but he lives 3 hours away from where I live. He seems like a really nice guy but the long distance is making me nervous because everybody says it can't work out. We're both pretty young still (15 & 16) and so it makes me feel hopeless and, like...why am I even trying to be a good girlfriend, right? I don't know what to think right now. Is it possible for a long-distance relationship to really stand the test of time? Should I stick with this relationship or is it best if I move on to somebody closer to where I live? (link)
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this is hard.the thing is that it depends on the person. if you really wnat it to work out and really want to be with that person and no one else then it can work but you both have to want this not just you.
i have a friend that had an overseas relationship with this guy that she had never met in real life.they only talked on the phone,msn,facebook,went on cam etc and a year later of being together like that he actually moved accross the world to be with her and now theyr still together!things like this dont happen enough but it can happen.things can work out but you both have to wnat it.
you have to try first before you can give up otherwise you cant say you tried.
hope i helped
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Under my arms it looks like there is dirt or hair there or something. But I shave and wash there all the time. It's been like this for awhile. How do I get it to go away? I don't like to wear tank tops or anything because of this. (link)
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what the person said is good...i know how annoying this is but i had it too.i did try whitening creams but they take ages to whiten.if you want something fast then i recommend you go to a dermatologist.i did it.it was really expensive but i went and tried the peeling.what they do is put a cream on your underarms for 9hours then you have a shower and then you put this cream over it over night.you keep putting that cream before you go to bed for a month and your skin within that month will peel off.its really good if you want soemthign thats fast but remember its expensive
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20/f, do not laugh at me, haha..
I've started hanging out with this guy that I'm really really starting to like. It's been a long time since I've gotten butterflies like this, and I've had them ever since I met this boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me too, because we openly flirt, but we've only hung out once before and that was with mutual friends. We're both SUPER shy.
We're hanging out at his house alone Friday night and I'm really nervous. We're gonna watch movies and stuff and through texts we've been flirting and "joking" about us cuddling and holding hands.
Basically, and excuse me for being such a loser, I need to know how to naturally make flirty physical contact.. like how do I put my head on his shoulder while still kinda being cute and subtle? I don't want to sit far away from him like middle schoolers do. Any other tips and advice for movie date night you can offer??? I haven't dated in over a year. Help! Thanks in advance, advicenators. (link)
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this is soo cute and soo exciting!!!
ok welllll i would begin by sitting next to him and like cuddling a pillow or soemthing.be casual about it because he may even do the first move, through out the movie if he hasnt made a move then id probably pretend you feeling alittle tired and just lean on him then after awhile put your head on his shoulder and then nuzzle into him.take it one step at a time.like smiel and look into his eyes but dont put yourself too out there or he may take that fro granted...oooo i hope it goes well!!!
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Hi there, so here is the thing my boyfriend and i have been together for three years now....but back at the begin of teh relationship i cheated on him....when we first got together he keep his space and sometimes didnt call me back or he would even say that he is coming over and not show...so i thought he was cheating on me so i found someone else. he found out not by me telling him but other ways.and still to this day it is making a problem in teh relationship. he wants me to prove that i love him (which i do love him) but i dont know how to do this.i have not cheated on him since the begin. he was more then just the easy i'm here with u still 3 yrs later to prove it. i have tattooed his name on me like he wanted thinking that would do it but it didnt. he want to u me hurting becuase of thie cheating and i am hurting that i hurt him like that but he doesnt see it.what can i do to prove to him that i love him alot?? (link)
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wow you tattooed his name on you and it still didnt work?well how can you be with someone if hes going to keep holding this above your head.it happenned three years ago and he needs to either forgive and forget or leave.i think you really need to talk to him.he needs to know that the more he pushed you away the higher the risk is for you to leave.not every relationship is perfect and people make mistakes.he can just have you and at the same time treat you like the person you were three years ago.he decided to stay with you which means he decided to forgive you which means he should move on.
to be honest the only way you can show that you love him is to stay with him.
let just unpick the situation for a moment.
he found out from someone else that you like another guy,you had been with another guy and touched another guy.he must feel all these emotions hes angry jealous envious he wasnt there for you maybe even blames himself.
so my advice is to worship the group he walks on,but before that you need to straighten things out tell him that you admit you cheated once,three years ago and everyone deserves another chance.tell him that your sick of trying and sick of yourself.tell him youv tried everything and so close to leaving.then you tell him your going to try one more thing and that is to make a promise to him to always love him and always be there for him.to never lie to him and never do what you did to him ever again.tell him you understand you hurt him and promise to never hurt him again.tell him thats all you have to give and if he can accept what happened and move on by taking this promise then really its not going to work out.
did this help?please let me know...im here for you
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in few words, im absouluty in love with this girl. i know she loves me as well. but we split up about 3 months ago. she is now with this other guy. she said she love me and this guy is holding her back. i desprately want to be with her. and she is torn between us two. her current Bf stole her from me. he drew her in by his willingness to rush into a physical relationship. i was a bit hesitant because i wanted it to be specail when it actualy happend. so thats realy it. that wasnt nearly as short as i wanted it to be. (link)
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well my advice to you is to take yourself out of the situation.stand back and dont pressure her into soemthing she may not be sure about doing.she needs to be sure she wants to be with you because if shes not then it wont last as long as youd like it to. so just6 give her space to clear her mind and to make her miss you.she needs to think it through and you need to tell her that she needs to choose because she cant have both of you.let her know the risks,that if she chooses him then she wont have you and that will be it for you and her relationship. hopefully she will realise what shes lost and finally make a decision to come back to you
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Hi.
15/f
So, i think this will be kinda long, sorry.
I have recntly developed feelings for my best guy friend (lets call him Tom*). So in year 7-8 me and tom went out for about 4 months but it was really awkward and strange.We have both gone out wiht other people since then. We became best friends again last year and its been really awesome. So now i like him and he likes me, it should be as simple as too go out like my friends said but i don't want to runin our friendship by doing this, i also don't know if i WANT a boyfriend right now as I'm in year 10 this year so i have heaps of assignments etc. He also won't talk to me about his feelings because we're never really alone, we only get to talk during maths and thats not really a good place. He told my best friend a lot of stuff and she told me, but i didn't understand how instead of ignoring me for 80 minutes he could've told me everything.Apparently he never stopped liking me after we broke up in year 7 and even though he went out with other girls he never really liked them. He also told her that to him i didn't have any flaws etc.
My question is am i over complicating things too much? Sould i just go out with him and se how they go? Or am i right about it and should think it through some more? (link)
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well it seems to me that he really likes you,he may even love you and has wanted you for a very long time.from what im understanding is that you dont really like him enough but you also dont want to hurt his feelings.i might be wrong but heres my advice.since you guys are so close you need to think about this as indepth as possible and need to know that if you break up you may really hurt him this time round and may not be friends again.i think that unless your really sure that you like him and want to be with him.unless your reaaallly sure that you REAAAAAAAALLLY like him enough to risk your friendship over this relationship then dont go for it.you need to be sure and have no doubts at all but right now you have doubts and your scared so until you feel clear and happy and untill you feel liek you wanna jump him or squeeze him everytime you see him then dont go for it because then it may be awkward just like the first time you were together
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ok so this guy and i like each other. we have talked about it before, and we hang out all the time. The thing is, he is less experienced than i am ( i dont think he has even kissed a girl yet...) and that is totally fine with me but i think it is part of the reason that he hasnt kissed me yet. I know i could always be the one to initiate our first kiss but i kind of wanted him to be! Plus, he is a foot taller than i am so it would be a little difficult to kiss him without pulling his head down to mine. What are some ways i can make him want to kiss me when i am looking at him or sitting with him that arent too obvious or direct? thanks! (link)
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he needs to be comfortable with you.hes really nervous so you need to spend time with him.sit with him do all the stuff before the kissing like hugging touching .he needs to feel the physical attraction,the cxhemistry so alot of close contact will help.looking into his eyes will help having your face close to his will help and having little glipses at his lips will give him a hint that you want him to kiss you.just be yourself and treat him better than anyone else
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Hello i asked a question about a month ago about my husband leaving for Afghanistan and how i was super emotional. He leaves in a few weeks and I've been noticing we've been not really fighting but arguing a lot more than we usually do, even about little things. I feel like I'm the one disagreeing more and in a sense causing the start of the "fight" Can anybody explain to me why this is happening? I know you don't know our relationship but we've always had a very strong and open one. Its just these past couple weeks everything is building up on me, stress, emotions etc. why am i taking it out on him? I dont want to fight with him as he leaves :( Somebody help! (link)
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well this is just my opinion.i rreally think deep down you dont want him to leave.i think that your building up all this emotion about him going to afghanistan and leaving you all alone.it could be that your PMS'n,hormonal.it could be anything but the main goal is to try and stop this.
maybe whenever you feel your angry dont jump to conclusions so quickly.stop take a second to think about the situation and ask yourself is this really worth the arguement?i mean hes going away for a while and do you really want him to feel like hes has to come back to you because hes married to you or would you rather want him to miss you and want to come back to you?the more you argue the more your pushing him away.theres only so much a person can take...just remember love is human,if you dont feed it then it will die.now go up to him and give him a big kisss before its too late
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Is kissing just a natural thing you're either good at, or not good at? How difficult is it to be a good kisser? (link)
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not that difficult,practise makes perfect.you kinda just end up learning what your other partner likes and dont like,me personally i dont like french kiss so ill pull away when my partner tries to do it.
go on youtube theres videos that can teach you.i mean kissing is about you and can show what type of person you are.its about passion and touching,its not just about putting lip to lip its also about touch the other personas face and making things exciting for them,check youtube out im sure theres things there for you to waTCH
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Has anyone ever tried this amazing thing?
You can knock yourself out cold and see the future and the past. Ive done it and no im not crazy.
theres a ritual to perform it involves two close friends.
i wont tell you unless you ask me through answering my question
so if you please do,
ask me to tell you and i will. bye yall (link)
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nope havent tried it but id want to...how do you do it?
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Okay-- So I'm like obsessed with this guy. He knows I like him. But theres on tiny problem-- HE DOESN'T LIKE ME. I occasionally talk to him. We have had some pretty intense conversations. I love when I talk to him. I get thee best feeling inside ;; its unexplainable. What should I do? How do I get him to like me?
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you cant force soemone to like you but you can make him realise that he likes you.most importantly be yourself. talk to him more.flirt with him and get close to him.spend one on one time with him and like occassionally touch his arm and laugh at all his jokes.hug him when you see him and smile when he walks past you.at the end of the day its a 50/50 chance that hell like you back.after you think he may have some sort of feeling for you just ask him to the movies and thats when you make your move :P
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okk look i was going out with this kid for 6 months and we got so close like we even made plans that well get married,but it got so hard to be together so we decided to take a break but not those breaks like see other people no we saw each other and kissed and said i love you like usual we acted like we were together he also got me a promise ring and diamond braclet all this stuff. but for some reason im those people who cant control them selves and always cheates on people so wat happen was i cheated on him with my friends ex i kissed my friends ex when we went out and i was scared to tell anyone so i told my friend he did it i lied to her. till the other day he went and told my bf how i kissed him and told all my freidns. after tht all my friends hate me now they wont talk to me and im dying here because ther everything to me and i need my bf bak please help me hes everything i got i cant lose him i hurt him like hell im serious he never cried ever till the day he found out im telling u i like stabed hhim in the heart whn he found out and now he wont talk to me and all my friends hate me please help me what do i do pleasee youl like save my life right here i need them bak all of them cuz now im alone
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ok well firstly,i dont mean to sound harsh but you need to hear this.if you wnat your friends back it shouldnt be for you.it shouldnt be because you need them and because u dont have any friends anymore.it should be because you feel bad for what you did and feel guilty about it.you need to feel all the right reasons or else its worthless and your just going to cheat again.Right now your bf is hurt,you touched another boy,you went with another boy while he trusted you.hes ahsamed and humiliated.you probably already know all this but im telling you just incase you dont and just incase you dont see how much you hurt him.
now my advice...you need to know that you may get him back and you may not.he may not be able to trust you again.if you think you may cheat on him again then dont even try to get him back you you may break him forever!if you want to get him back you need to prove to him that your worth it.you need to not give up on him.you need to keep trying even if he tells you he doesnt want you back.go to his house if you have to prove to him that your worth it prove to him that you wont do it again and that its a mistake. remind him how much you love him and tell him why you cheated on him.tell him that theres soemthing wrong with you not him.admit that you did wrong and that everyone deserves a second chance and that you cant get things perfect the first time around.beg him if you have to.buy him a rose and put it in his locker and write him a card apologising.do everything you can and dont give up until youv tried everythign you can
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I am trying to do my hair in a certain way and I don't really know how to describe it other than to call it floppy skater hair. Does anybody know what I mean by this? Kind of straight and all flopped over?
Can you help me to figure out how to do this or point me to a website or video that explains how to do floppy skater hair? Thank you! (link)
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxRLYjgamMg
i think this is what you mean :)
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hey are there any guys out there over 16 that are still virgins? i feel like in todays world teenage guys just want to get laid and that no ones a virgin anymore.
if you are a guy whos a virgin can you share you opinion on sex and things please? thank you. (link)
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heeey im sorry im not a guy but my bf is 22 this year and still a virgin,so am i.like sex is really a personal thing.his opinion about sex is that its making love so it shouldnt be something physical that you just do to satisfy yourself but it should be soemthing you do with someone you reallly love and want to share soemthing with that you cant give to anyone else.dont be ashamed that your still a virgin.no one needs to know,just masterbate regularly and youll be fine.dont rush yourself.just wait dfor that someone because between you and me guys that are saving them selves or guys that are still virgins are a total turn on!
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i'm a 24 years old f and my bf is 40.We've been together for 3 years we were planning to get married in the summer and last week i've found out that he got his ex pregnant.i love him very much a part of me want me to leave and a big part of me is telling me to forgive him.She knows about me, knows that we leaving together.she told me once she'll do anything to destroy our relationship because she don't like me for him.But i feel i'm gonna be miserable and i will never love the baby.when i asked him why he did it he said that because she was bothering him by sending him nasty messages.please tell me what you think i should do? (link)
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did he cheat on you?if he did then theres no proof that he wont do it again.do you really want to marry someone that your going to keep having doubts about?i mean are you really going to let this go?everytime you see that baby your going to be reminded by what he did to you.im also assuming that the only reason he told you about this is because his ex is now pregnant.
i dotn think you should stay with him.i mean this nasty cow is going to try ruin things between you and your boyfriend and finally she may win and youll end up getting a divorce.think carefully about this. your alwaqys going to be living in the nightmare now that theres a baby involved.to be honest saying he slept with her because she was bothering him is NOT an excuse!
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Hey, I am 16 years old and about 2 years ago I realized I have small bumps on the shaft of my penis. I have had sex before if that had anything to do with them. I dont know what it is and I am worried about it since the bumps are not going away or anything. There are a lot of them, really, but they are fairly small in size. If anyone knows anything about this PLEASE help me! How do I get rid of this? No girl is going to have sex with me when they see the bumps on my penis!
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you may have syphilis,im not a doctor but you need to go to the doctor because i think its an std...she will provide you wil creams and antibiotics if needed to get rid of the spots
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i smoked hookah shisha for two hours straight yesterday from school. i know that is very bad but i feel so addicted its all i want i hadnt even slept yet. is there anything i can do or smoke that is non tabacco or drug? and no gum to get me off, i mean something in alternative. my boyfriend of nearly two years is totally against any type of drugs or smokeing and i feel like a total bitch for keeping this from him but i cant handle it idk what to do? (link)
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shisha only has 2% tobacco in it,its not addictive.you must just like smoking it thats why you think you addicted to it.that usually happens if you have an addictive personality.just try to stay away from it for a few days and the urges will go away
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A lot of the time I think about my two best friends' boyfriends. Isane I know! I know that it's not right, trust me, I realize that I shouldn't be. But it's so hard. One of them I see on more of a physical level since I don't know him all that well. I think about him because when we hangout with his gf(my bestfriend) he gives off subtle signals to me or at least I think so. Plus he has told her how he likes me so much constantly and a whole bunch of really good stuff about me, says I'm so pretty, calls me "beautiful" to my face. My other bestfriends bf I have known for a really long time. He is one of my best guy friends, maybe even my number one guy friend. We have an amazing bond, just one of those things that every minute is like you're in bliss talking to them...and it really is. We're always laughing and having fun. I catch him staring at me all the time and I admit that I even catch myself staring back. It's almost like i can't control it. I know it's wrong to be thinking about them but I can't help it. What's your opinion? Is it ok just to think and not act? (link)
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well in my opinion its ok to think as long as your not thinking out loud which means not telling anyone about how you feel.
oventually your going to have to stop thinking about them because the more you think about them the more youll like them and we really dont want that at all!
even if hes sending off hints you cant go there!ever!these are your bestfriends' boyfriends.that a huuuge no no.trust meee i did it.i once when i was like 16 and stupid dumped my bf for his best friend and the ex would always get in the way.it drove them apart...i think you need to just get over them
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Okay as I should know this but I'm a little confused lol
When someone gets married is it really required to be married by a priest? Can anyone marry you?
Also.. again lol I should know this but I thought about it and I got myself confused
but when the guy buys the rings is it the guy that buys the rings? Or is the girl supposed to buy the guy his ring...or does the guy buy both of the bands?...Help? (link)
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yes you have to exchange vows infront of the priest.he has to witness the marriage.not anyone can just marry you.
im not sure but from what iv seen its the guy that buys the rings
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