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Its Complicated
Hi.
15/f
So, i think this will be kinda long, sorry.
I have recntly developed feelings for my best guy friend (lets call him Tom*). So in year 7-8 me and tom went out for about 4 months but it was really awkward and strange.We have both gone out wiht other people since then. We became best friends again last year and its been really awesome. So now i like him and he likes me, it should be as simple as too go out like my friends said but i don't want to runin our friendship by doing this, i also don't know if i WANT a boyfriend right now as I'm in year 10 this year so i have heaps of assignments etc. He also won't talk to me about his feelings because we're never really alone, we only get to talk during maths and thats not really a good place. He told my best friend a lot of stuff and she told me, but i didn't understand how instead of ignoring me for 80 minutes he could've told me everything.Apparently he never stopped liking me after we broke up in year 7 and even though he went out with other girls he never really liked them. He also told her that to him i didn't have any flaws etc.
My question is am i over complicating things too much? Sould i just go out with him and se how they go? Or am i right about it and should think it through some more?
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well it seems to me that he really likes you,he may even love you and has wanted you for a very long time.from what im understanding is that you dont really like him enough but you also dont want to hurt his feelings.i might be wrong but heres my advice.since you guys are so close you need to think about this as indepth as possible and need to know that if you break up you may really hurt him this time round and may not be friends again.i think that unless your really sure that you like him and want to be with him.unless your reaaallly sure that you REAAAAAAAALLLY like him enough to risk your friendship over this relationship then dont go for it.you need to be sure and have no doubts at all but right now you have doubts and your scared so until you feel clear and happy and untill you feel liek you wanna jump him or squeeze him everytime you see him then dont go for it because then it may be awkward just like the first time you were together
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You are right to think it through. He's probably too shy, so he tells your bestfriend thinking he can word it better than he can. I believe the relationships that last happen because people become friends first and seriously love and respect eachother. I think it would be nice to give it a try, it sounds like it will be a good thing. And if you two are good friends, you won't cheat on eachother and im sure if you break up, the friendship will last! Good luck!
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