well i dated this boy a few months ago and he was my first love. He is normally very reserved and never shares anything personal and I was the first person he ever completely opened up to. ever. but we had an absolutely horrible breakup. he and i were best friends. i was his only best friend actually and i was his first love. we are teens and loved each other for a few months before we broke up. we didnt break up because we didnt like each other but because i was moving. but he shattered my heart. i seriously was like sick because of what he did. he wouldnt work things out though because he didnt want to get hurt even more. he felt like he was losing his best friend and the girl he loved. but for me it was the worst betrayal i have ever suffered. he left me in my weakest moment. he even admitted to it but he still wont face what happened. seriously though after we broke up it was as ugly as it gets. the last time i would see him before i moved though he finally admitted to not working things out because it was easy to avoid me and we frenched a couple times. but then once again he backed away afraid of confrontation and we have had little contact and what contact weve had hasnt been very good. my question is will he still remember what he had? do i still have a place in his heart? he always said he would never forget me and i know that he really, deeply loved me. but our breakup was so terrible and at times he acted like he hated me to my face but then i would catch him looking at me or hear he asked my friend about me. im afraid that my freaking out on him (only a couple times) and our terrible breakup and fighting will have caused him to remember me badly but is this true or what? after our breakup he was always angry and easily upset by me and kept trying to push me away but on my last night he held me as i cried on his shoulder and he smiled and looked at me like before. i finally saw the anger leave him and he smiled and said i was incredible and was sweet like the guy i knew before. what do you think happened and do you think he will remember me as his first love or remember the times we fought and brush me away as a bad breakup? please help me. this is so important to me.
You could always ask him, although I am positive he will remember it all - the bad, the good and the inbetween. He loved you too, so I doubt he's out to forget all of the good times.
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so i dated my x for about a year..and we broke up when i moved & we stil basically talked and saw eachother alot...and he dated 3 girls behind my back& i found out from my friends.. i forgave him and moved on..but there was this party..and i went to it just to see him..and when i walked in ,,,i saw him..but it was so dark so i didnt know if he saw me or not..anyways...he out of the bue starts dancing with this chick & she's grinding all up on him! and im standing no less that 8 feet away from him in the corner with my friend..then after they stop dancning, he s lookin around the room...then he glances at me & then walks over to me and is like wasup? i didnt know u were here! then he was like... when did u get here? and he was like oh, my bad you had to see that ...and im like wtf?anyways..long story short...i got pissed...and i kinda cheated on him and got fingered...i didnt have sex wit the dude....but yea i love him so much and i had to be honest with him so i told him and he was mad at me for like a month then he let it go..then things where cool between us...and now he is dating this gurl and it was this big ass drama shyt goin on wit us cause i messaged her out of jelousy...and yesterday i found out that they had sex,,,,and im crushed ...my feelings are so hurt:(...and he was my first..& i was his first..i just never thought that he would do it yet with someone else...and it really hurt so bad...i cry all the time....
and when we talked on the phone he talked about my bf curently & was like he called me a bitch and im gonna fight him(hint of jelousy)but yea anyways we talked for like and hour...and then he like totally rushed me off the phone and was like i gotta go call my girl...but when he broke the news about him and her having sex....(since she had told me when we got into that lil arguement , but i didnt believe her so i asked him) and he told me it was true...i was just pure silent....and then he said who knows ..we could get back together in the future... im just living my life...and he wouldnt tell me if he was in love with her or not...and he told me it was none of my buisnesss....my questiion is ....so you think he stil loves me at all??
I agree with triquetra. It sounds like you still love him, and that he as moved on. I suggest you try to find somebody else. I know this guy was your first, but he's not your last. Remember that.
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Okay so I have a bf that I really do love.
But I'm not quite sure if he does back.
He says he does but then he does this.
He called me his ex's name
(but they were with each other for 2 years)
We also went to a theme park together and all these girls were hitting on him and he flirted back ALOT
and heres the worst..
HE ALMOST MADE OUT WITH A GUY
He means so much to me and I don't want to lose him but i don't know what to do.
Talk to him about all this stuff. If you are worried that he isn't fully committed to you, then it may not be true love, it may be another kind of love.
I learned the components and different kinds of love in my psychology class.
DEFINITIONS.
Passion: Romantic feelings and sexual attraction.
Intamecy: Feelings of closeness as well as really knowing another person.
Commitment: Planning to be with another person forever and making this plan known to that person.
KINDS OF LOVE:
A classic "crush": passion
Deep liking: intamecy
Empty love: commitment
Romantic love: passion+intamecy
Friendship love: intamecy+commitment
Mindless love: commitment+passion
True love: passion+intamecy+commitment
That's straight out of my psyc textbook. So yeah, look it over, and maybe ask him what kind of love it is, just so that you are aware of what his true feelings are =)
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I have this crush on this guy and everybody thinks he likes me back, like he acts all sweet around me and all my friends say that he acts like a jerk around them ok the thing is that he always acts like a jerk( he is always over sarcastic) but he acts like a normal guy around me! He is also really shy and i think that he is too shy too ask me anything so that is why my guy friend who has a crush on me so he asked me to dance. my crush got all jealous looking and i felt bad.before i started dancing i gave him chances like talking to hi on the dance floor and he was TOTALLY flirting he just didnt ask me... i gave him lots of chances but i really like him and i am too shy to make the first move. i dont want to hurt my guy friend either so if nothing happens betwen me and my crush soon i might have to give my guy friend a chance...
Alysonwilow f/14
If the guy acts nice to you but normally acts like a jerk, that may not be a reflection of how much he likes you. It may just be that you are more intelligent than your friends, and he know that you would appreciate a nice guy more thank a jerk-type, so that's what he presents. This is a good thing - kudos for being a smart person. That being said, if you like him, you should probably ask him to hang out alone sometime soon. Take a chance.
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16/f
hi okay so basically i've been hooking up with this guy. we've been like best friends for like 2 years. he's liked me for these 2 years also. then i started liking him.. we were like almost to the point where we were going out, just like not actually going out. he was going to ask me out but there were some complications.. whatever not important. my point is we were REALLY close. then we started hooking up and it's like i started to lose interest. it was only around 5 times but i just started getting bored of the same thing over and over again. and it's not like we even did that much. i was teasing him a lot though.. (not letting him have tounge when he kissed me, like touching his dick but not giving him a hj, etc.) so do you think that's why i got bored of it? because most of the time we weren't actually like really into it..? i'm like a huge tease even when i like the guy and i just can't help it i just think it's because i'm nervous to mess up and when i tease them it makes me look more experienced and stuff.. ya know? i can't explain it but basically i just feel bad about not knowing if i really have feelings for this guy or not anymore. i know i was like pretty much in love with him before we started hooking up but then it just got.. weird i don't know. i don't want to like lead him on though because i don't want to hurt him and i know he's in this for more than just a hook up. i'm pretty sure he wants me to be his girlfriend but he wants to wait until he's 100% sure i like him before he does that. i feel like i might have just continued to hook up with him because it was easy to do. like there's other guys i could hook up with but it would take a little more effort to like let them know i wanna and stuff. i'm not really sure what to do right now. any advice?
Well, if you don't want a relationship, tell him that. You need to be honest with him and let him know that while you consider him to be a very attractive male friend, you don't really see him on a romantic level.
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what is she on in the begining?
when they are all in the sprinklers?
and what drugs does she use throught the entire movie?
cause it doesn't always tell you and im curious
You're "curious"? Haha, wow. It seems to me that you missed the point of the movie: that drugs are not fun.
Watch it again.
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Is it true that they all come in different shapes? Do guys love them no matter what? I'm kind of self conscious about mine..
Different guys prefer different body types. Some prefer larger bustier girls, and others prefer slimmer and smaller girls. Any guy with a brain knows that girls all have different body types, so don't worry about that. Only shallow morons will criticize you for your breast sape/size. No, not every guy will love them equally, but that's about THEIR personal preferances, not about how pretty/attractive you are.
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13/f
my parents got a divorce when i was like 2 years old and when i was 4 they where both married again. so ive always been close with everyone even my stepparents. my dad has 4 kids and my mom two
i live in florida with my mom, and my dad live in louisiana with his other 3 kids.
ive always been a daddys little girl, but once i started to mature which was in like 5th grade, (now im in 9th) ive been slowly loosing our reltionship. i havnt been able to see him as much as i used to because of the sports im in, but of course i make an effort to see him.
i think he thinks im growing up too fast, or something like that but,
i dont want him to feel like im loving him any less, nad i dont want to feel that way about him either. but somehow its happening!
can anyone give me advice to keep our relationship going?
Tell him you want more daddy-daughter time. Make more plans together, lett him you love him whenever you get the chance, and make a point of talking to him more often. Don't worry about the relationship ending or something though. Your dad loves you unconditionally.
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Alright so my girlfriend of 7 months has gone through a lot. More than anyone I know and I am surprised she is still her. But anyways she just got a cell phone 4 or 5 months ago and it's a pay as you go phone. Her step-mom said she could only use it for emergencies. Of course like any teenager she didn't go by this. But she buys all her own phone cards and everything. Well a few nights ago I was talking to her about our amazing weekend (long story) well my phone has bad reception in my house so I thought it had dropped the call. I waited a minute to call her back and when I did her step-mom answered. Thats when I figured out she hung up because she came in. Well anyways she told me that she was only to be using this phone for emergencies and that she will have to talk to me another time. Then the next day she called me for just a minute to say she has been groudned for 2 weeks. She can't see talk or do anything with anyone. So pretty much isolation. And this is all my fault and now we may not get to go to the Journey concert we planned on for months since that is within these 2 weeks. I just feel the need to make things right. And to know if her dad had any say in the punishment. Because honestly it should be up to him and not the step mom since it's his daughter. Is there anything I can do to make this right?
It doesn't sound like there's much you can do. You are absolutely right about what "should" be going on - no step parent should be the primary diciplinarian in any family. That being said, this family is clearly askew in the way it works. I suggest e-mailing her a lot (if that's allowed). If you are really brave, you could go over to her house and apologize to her parents ans ask them to let her out on the night of the concert (promising to never call the cell phone again). Of course, that could completely blow up in your face and would definitely be scary. If you are desperate though, it is an option.
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usually i can't keep a relationship because i get bored with boys i date within the first two weeks and i dump them.
this time everything feels different. i've never felt this way about anyone before. the feelings seem to be mutual. he can't get enough of me and visa versa. I'm only around three of four days a week but we spend every possible second together when i am around. our kisses are perfect, our hnds fit perfectlty, and we have so much in common. I feel safe and needed when i'm i his arms.
am i in love or is it just the temperary fuzzy feeling that fades? should i try to keep a level head and not get too wrapped up in it, or is it worth it?
I learned the components of love in my psychology class. There are also many different kinds of love.
DEFINITIONS.
Passion: Romantic feelings and sexual attraction.
Intamecy: Feelings of closeness as well as really knowing another person.
Commitment: Planning to be with another person forever and making this plan known to that person.
KINDS OF LOVE:
A classic "crush": passion
Deep liking: intamecy
Empty love: commitment
Romantic love: passion+intamecy
Friendship love: intamecy+commitment
Mindless love: commitment+passion
True love: passion+intamecy+commitment
That's straight out of my psyc textbook. Hope I helped, and let me know what type of love it is! =)
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my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything
the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.
what should i do?? thans so much
Absolutely do not listen to him. If he slips up and pulls out a second too late by accident, you will be in serious trouble. If he is wrong and has an STD that he is unaware of, you will be in serious trouble. Condoms are really the only way to go unless you are trying to get pregnant.
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13/f
i have an old friend that i had for about 3 years in middle school and we were very close. almost like sisters. wel we had a few fights like most friendships and that was fine and wed stop talking every once in a while. she would get mad at me for talking to ANY other girl and thats what bothered me the most. i dont know if i should let it bother me so much that we r not friends anymore. but i am a little scared on her reputation now. shes been smokng and shes only in 7th grade and shes becoming a WAY different person
now that i have new friends though it doesnt btoher me that much. but it wouold be nice if i could talk to her and just be cool
any advice?
thank u=]
Wow, that is really rough. Things are only going to get worse for this girl. I suggest talking to her. Let her know exactly what you are feeling - that you are concerned for her well being and that you would like to be her friend again. It might not work, and it will definately be scary to talk to someone who isn't really your friend anymore, but trust me: when this girl's life becomes really horrible (which it sounds like it will), you will feel better knowing that you did whatever you could to help her.
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13/f
i had a boyfriend for the past year and a half. and i know im young but i dont know why i would jsut go through anything to be with him. for instance
my parents didnt want me seeing him because of his color- im white and hes black- and i dont think thats ANY excuse. hes a great person drug free and has great friends so i deffenitly fought for that thent hey excepted it afteer a while
now that we were bak together we got SO close and guess what? he moved a few hours away. it hurt not to see him. but my mom cared so much about us that she would bring me every once in a while to go see him. but then family problems came upand we couldnt really see eachother that much. but i didnt blame it on my mom because i knew it wasnt her fault of course!
bt then it came to me in my head. im starting highskool, i absolutely LOVE this kid, but how is it supposed to work if i cant see him ever. finally something came to me and i talked to my mom about it because we are VERY close. and she told me whatever i think is best.
so i ended up breaking up with him. and i feel like i broke both of our hearts. it hurts when i think about him. and i dont know whether i should get back with him or not. i feel like im doing fine but when i talk to him it seems like hes crushed. i feel terrible. and i cant stop crying,
i dont know if i should give our reltionship another try or not. or if the thing i did was right. he still loves me and he cant move on even after these couple months so that makes me feel a little better.
so can anyone tell me if i was right or wrong.?
or what i should do about it
thank you for taking the time to read this.
There is no "right" and "wrong", there is only honesty and dishonesty. If you feel like getting back together with him, then why not? It's already been a couple of months, and the two of you are clearly unhappy. It doesn't really matter if your idea of a picture-perfect boyfriend is one who lives close by. Right now, you are in love with a guy who lives far away.
"and so, I live this tragedy of the luckiest [girl] in the world with a [boy] so goddamn far away"
- Jacob Hoggard
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i have a wonderful friend that i love with all my heart. but her and her old friend became really good friends again. and im okay with her old friend but i think shes a bad person for her to be hanging out wtih. i mean she smokes and does drugs. and has a reputation as a hoe, and she lies ALOT to my friend. dont get me wrong i think shes cool and everything but i just dont want my friend to turn into her or get her reputation. any advice?
thanks
Wow, is this ever a dangerous situation. You are absolutely right to be worried about your friend. If a person starts hanging out with someone who is a bad influence, it's a sign that they don't care about their own well being as much as they should. Let your friend know what you that you are concerned, and do not hang out with them when they are together. You cannot control what your friend does, but you can voice your opinion and keep your own friendships clean.
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16. we broke up a month ago and went out for a year and a half. he posted a question on here a few days ago about how to flirt with girls at his work. and of course i was reading thru advicenators and i found it. i am beyond upset. i knew the question was either asked by him or his brother, but it's too good of grammar to be his brother (i don't know this for sure though.)
the worst part is that he's saying he didn't ask the question. i don't know if i should believe him or not, because the grammar really is too good to be his brother. that's not my problem. my problem is that he's already flirting with girls after a month and it really hurts. on top of all of that, he's practically ignoring me. i still love him very much, in every way, but i really wish we could still be best friends. i know i can't control his mind though. my question is: should i let him be the one to initiate conversation? should he have to start working to keep the friendship together? i've tried "ignoring" him but everytime he gets online i end up IM-ing him. i just need some really good advice on if i should let him take the lead. and don't just tell me to, try to convince me. like i said earlier, i've already tried, but it's too hard.
it's so crushing to know he doesn't want anything to do with me... i need advice on how to keep myself sane as well. i really love him, i would never get back together with him, but i just want to be friends. i want him still to im me and go do fun stuff with me as a friend. we went from very best friends to nothing when he broke up with me. advice on how to handle this situation with him, and how to handle my heartbreak?
thank you.
The only thing you can do is talk to him about it. It's perfectly legitimate that you still want to have a relationship with him (romantic or not) since you were so close before. You obviously have a history with him, and you want things with him and you to continue. This is nothing to be embarassed of. Tell him that you miss him.
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i need help to lose 79 pound before september.the reson y is because my older sister like to make fun of me and she is coming to visit my family and it is very hard to lose it for some reson
The reason it is hard to lose is probably that you aren't trying to lose weight for health reasons, you are doing it to impress your older sister. This means that everytime you think of losing weight or getting more fit, you think a negative thought about yourself. These negative thoughts are not good motivators, they just make you feel bad about yourself.
Also, it is impossible for a person to lose 79 lbs over the course of two months without seriously harming themselves. You should aim to lose eight pounds by September. Losing any more than that would be unhealthy.
This should be all about your health. Keep that in mind.
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okay so i was dating this guy named joe for about 2 months and like i really really liked him more than anything. when we broke up i was so depressed. but his reasons were stupid. he said i was mean to his friends. we didnt hang out enough. i acted different around my friends. and he thought i was bi? its been about a month since we broke up and we dont talk at all and he has another gurlfriend he is in love with that he has only been dating for like 3 weeks which so happens to be one of my good friends and now we are no longer friends anymore and she wont talk to me. he has said the meanest things to me, he has hurt me so much but i still love him and miss him and i would give anything to be with him again and i dont understand why? i just wish i could get over him cause all the guys i try to talk to just dont add up to him and i cant get over him?
Talk to him about it. If you believe his reasons are stupid, they must not have been valid. Let him know this. Don't try to get in the way of him and his girlfriend, but let him know that you would like to be friends and that all the things he was worried about before are pretty much non-existent.
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ok i need help i am getting married in june and now i think i like this other guy whom i met through my fiance i m all confused and dont know wat to do plz help
What in the world are you talking about? You mention marriage, then ask for advice on another guy you "like"? What is this, elementary school? Honestly, I pity whoever you choose, because you can't even tell the difference between someone you are passionate about and someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.
This is just pathetic.
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i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona
No, you should not let him rape you. That's basically what you are asking, isn't it?
Look any guy that tries to manipulate you by saying ''if we dont then we have to stop going out', obviously thinks you are not all that intelligent. Anyone with half a brain can see that what he said makes no sense. Love is unconditional, and saying you will no longer love a person if they don't do what you want is conditional love - in other words, phony love.
Honestly, this is exactly why you shouldn't date men who are that much older than you.
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I am a 16 year old girl and basically i went out with this boy in my secondary school. I was great friends with him before we went out and now i have had to say goodbye to him and delete his phone number because he is always mean to me,he can never be nice and it upsets me when i speek to him. I realised the other day that he has always liked another girl in my secondary school who was a girl i hated. He used to tell me he has no feelings and i now realise what he meant by that is that he had no feelings for me.While i was going out with him his best friend was always trying to break us up and trying to kiss me and take me away from him. He even told my best freind that he will break us up anyway he can. I found out that he was telling my boyfriend lies that i had kissed him,my boyfriend believed him. we broke up a couple of weeks ago and i don't know why i called him but i did and he was very rude he even asked me why i was calling him. I felt that my boyfriend was never there for me when i really needed someone to care for me because when my grandparents died he would laugh when i was crying in school. He never even said i am sorry!Then my parents got divorced and i felt i had no one who could help me. He never bought me anything for my birthday not even a card when we was going out. Now his bestfriend is going out with someone that used to be in my secondary school and i am feeling like i want to break them up i need some advice because he broke me up with my boyfriend but maybe it is not the best thing to do????maybe i should leave him alone please advice me! Another thing is that i now feel that i like this boy from my secondary school who asked me out and was always there for me he bought me a present when i was hurt and i never forget that,he sent me a text last week saying do you want to be with me? and i texted back saying yes and now i have not heard from him.I think it was his brother using his phone.He seems to be ignoring my texts now.Please also advice me on him? I am feeling very confused!because i am trying to work for my AS exam and always looking for a message from him. please advice me
Um, relax? Honestly, you just told a long story with no options. You should not go for any of these people, and you shouldn't try to breakup that guy and his girlfriend. That's a scummy thing to do, and he probably won't even want to be with you after that. My advice is to find someone new.
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