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Ex Boyfriend
well i dated this boy a few months ago and he was my first love. He is normally very reserved and never shares anything personal and I was the first person he ever completely opened up to. ever. but we had an absolutely horrible breakup. he and i were best friends. i was his only best friend actually and i was his first love. we are teens and loved each other for a few months before we broke up. we didnt break up because we didnt like each other but because i was moving. but he shattered my heart. i seriously was like sick because of what he did. he wouldnt work things out though because he didnt want to get hurt even more. he felt like he was losing his best friend and the girl he loved. but for me it was the worst betrayal i have ever suffered. he left me in my weakest moment. he even admitted to it but he still wont face what happened. seriously though after we broke up it was as ugly as it gets. the last time i would see him before i moved though he finally admitted to not working things out because it was easy to avoid me and we frenched a couple times. but then once again he backed away afraid of confrontation and we have had little contact and what contact weve had hasnt been very good. my question is will he still remember what he had? do i still have a place in his heart? he always said he would never forget me and i know that he really, deeply loved me. but our breakup was so terrible and at times he acted like he hated me to my face but then i would catch him looking at me or hear he asked my friend about me. im afraid that my freaking out on him (only a couple times) and our terrible breakup and fighting will have caused him to remember me badly but is this true or what? after our breakup he was always angry and easily upset by me and kept trying to push me away but on my last night he held me as i cried on his shoulder and he smiled and looked at me like before. i finally saw the anger leave him and he smiled and said i was incredible and was sweet like the guy i knew before. what do you think happened and do you think he will remember me as his first love or remember the times we fought and brush me away as a bad breakup? please help me. this is so important to me.
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You could always ask him, although I am positive he will remember it all - the bad, the good and the inbetween. He loved you too, so I doubt he's out to forget all of the good times.
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This is such a difficult to give a straight yes or no answer to. But here is what I think.
You don't forget the people you love or loved. You just don't. What generally happens is over time, you feel less attached to the person and then move on. But you never forget them. The chances of him only remembering the bad are highly unlikely. He will remember what you had.
I'm so sorry you lost the person you seem to love so much. It gets easier over time. And no matter how messy the break you two will always have the good memories. You can't switch your memories off.
Hope I helped. :)
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