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end of a long relationship
13/f
i had a boyfriend for the past year and a half. and i know im young but i dont know why i would jsut go through anything to be with him. for instance
my parents didnt want me seeing him because of his color- im white and hes black- and i dont think thats ANY excuse. hes a great person drug free and has great friends so i deffenitly fought for that thent hey excepted it afteer a while
now that we were bak together we got SO close and guess what? he moved a few hours away. it hurt not to see him. but my mom cared so much about us that she would bring me every once in a while to go see him. but then family problems came upand we couldnt really see eachother that much. but i didnt blame it on my mom because i knew it wasnt her fault of course!
bt then it came to me in my head. im starting highskool, i absolutely LOVE this kid, but how is it supposed to work if i cant see him ever. finally something came to me and i talked to my mom about it because we are VERY close. and she told me whatever i think is best.
so i ended up breaking up with him. and i feel like i broke both of our hearts. it hurts when i think about him. and i dont know whether i should get back with him or not. i feel like im doing fine but when i talk to him it seems like hes crushed. i feel terrible. and i cant stop crying,
i dont know if i should give our reltionship another try or not. or if the thing i did was right. he still loves me and he cant move on even after these couple months so that makes me feel a little better.
so can anyone tell me if i was right or wrong.?
or what i should do about it
thank you for taking the time to read this.
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We can't tell you if that decision was right for you. If you can make the distance work for both of you, then by all means, do it. You're also thirteen. Maybe you should both take some time away from each other and see other people. Not necessarily on a serious relationship level, but flirt & go on some dates. There's more than one boy in the world.
I dated someone for about six months who lived a half hour away from me. It didn't matter to me that one of us has to drive for an hour to spend time together because we were committed to that and really liked each other. We broke up for unrelated reasons, but that's not important. The time we dated, the distance was meaningless. Besides, we both had texting and phones. And IM/myspace.
It's your decision, not ours. If you both want it, get back together. If you don't, or aren't totally sure, take a break like you have been.
-LM
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There is no "right" and "wrong", there is only honesty and dishonesty. If you feel like getting back together with him, then why not? It's already been a couple of months, and the two of you are clearly unhappy. It doesn't really matter if your idea of a picture-perfect boyfriend is one who lives close by. Right now, you are in love with a guy who lives far away.
"and so, I live this tragedy of the luckiest [girl] in the world with a [boy] so goddamn far away"
- Jacob Hoggard
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