xo.Name.ox Kirby
I answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. I don't care what it's about, I will try to help. I've got a lot of good advice up my sleeve and I LOVE to help. :)
I really try not to be mean, but just to give some people a wake-up call. Sometimes people need it. Sometimes I need it. lol. Well, ask questions and you'll get answers.
~K~
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So there's this guy I like who likes me back.. the only reason we're not going out is because he lives in another city really far away. But its sort of understood that we have this thing going on. Anyway.. he's always talking about how hard it is for him to communicate openly with girls considering he doesnt have many female friend... ha yeah right. I just so happened to have guessed his email password (wrong I know.. but I have it and now I cant just not have it anymore!) and he has a ton of emails from all sorts of girls. There are "xoxo"'s and "love so and so"'s everywhere!!! I know Im not technically supposed to be mad considering Im not supposed to have been in there anyway.. but I cant help it. Is there anyway I can confront him about the girls.. ask him if there's someone else.. without him knowing I went in his email? Or should I shake it off and leave him and his email alone? (link)
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Just forget him. He lied to you and you found out, even though it was a lil wrong, but theres nothing wrong with a lil detective work :). He must not like you if he lied to you because he obviously knows how to communicate with girls. I say you just let him go or, if you really wanna know if there's another girl in his life, just be straight with him. "Is there any other girl in your life?". It doesn't matter if he asks why your asking him that, just make up something, like saying he's acting like he's not that into you anymore. Good luck on whatever you decide to do.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I really want a boyfriend.All the boys say how ugly I am and that they'd never go out with me! I have brown hair and blonde highlights, brown eyes, a few light freckles, I guess you could say I'm thin, why don't boys like me?? there are girls at my school who look just like what I described and the boys go NUTS for them. It's because they're cheerleaders. I don't want to be a cheerleader, but i want a bf. Should I become a cheerleader?? Can anyone tell me why boys hate me???? I'm not mean to them at all!!!
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Don't be a cheerleader only if you want guys to like you! That's silly! And why would you want to go with guys that think your ugly? That's also silly. How do you act around guys? You should go to the mall or some place around in your area where guys would be and talk to one. I bet your pretty so don't even worry about that. You just need to forget the guys at your school and find someone better!
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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Im so sick of this. I have a friend and one weekend we were suppost to go to the mall together, Well I kinda ditched her.. but anyway the thing is one my birthday she ditched me!! Well today my other friend basically ditched me.. its not like I havent felt it before and I told her about it. She said "It sucks right?" So I said "Well duh.. but wouldnt it suck more if it was on your fricking birthday?!?" and I walked away... I feel bad.. but then I dont want to talk to her. What do I do? (link)
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Well, you shouldn't have ditched her in the first place. You made it seem like it was all her fault and like what you did wasn't wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right but still, your other friend may have had plans or something. You did ditch her before. It's not like your friends are obligated to come. It's nice if they do, but you have to understand, things come up. It's happened to me, but basically, you have to forgive and forget.
~Sorry if I sounded mean, I didn't mean to~
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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well i guess i have been sort of seeing this guy for the past like month or so but we arent bf and gf. im 17 hes 20 if that matters...anyways he usually texts me while im in school and picks me up and we hang out every monday and we also hang out on like friday and other days too but the point is every monday i believe since i met him we have hung out well todaii he didnt call me or text me or anything so im not quite sure.. the last time we hung out was on friday and he didnt act any different and what not but im confused on why he didnt call me today maybi he wanted to see if i would call him ? so basically my question is do u think he still wants to keep hanging out and maybi he didnt call cuz hes busy and should i call i him even tho its too late to hang out today? (link)
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Well, you aren't technically going out, so he doesn't have to call you but then again, he has for a long time. Call him tomorrow to see what's up and you should probably get into a relationship so it will last and so you don't get hurt.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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well on friday night i went to the movie with my best friend and we saw a scary movie, and well i was like leaning up against him and i would always hide my face in his hood whenever i got scared, and well his mom picked us up afterwards, just me and him, but we went with like 10 other people, like 5 girls, 5 guys, but they were going out and we werent, only 2 other people werent, so i walked inside and my dad was like, so which one was your date? and he was like hastling me all night. and then i went over to my best friends house on saturday and he told me that his mom was doing the same thing, and then she took us to the movies again that night, but this time it was just me and him, and she was like, "you know i think you guys should consider it because your really cute together" and personally i think so too because we both have brown hair and he's a tiny bit taller than me, and well i didnt say anything, but anyway we saw another scary movie, and i dont know how it happened but we ended up kissing? and my brother was there and he saw it and he got us a ride with his date's parents so while we were in the car his date was like, aw guys come on i swear you two are so cute together. well we didnt think anything of it. but yesterday i went bowling with my brother and we had to take our baby cousin so our other cousin who's our age went too, and my best friend called me and he asked me if i could hang out and i told him what i was doing, but my brother was like, "no you should go hang out with your boyfriend" and my best friend heard it, so he asked me out today, and in school we were hugging and we got in trouble?? but anyway i'm REALLY afraid we're gonna break up, i mean, he tells me he cares about me and he loves me and his mom has always liked me, but i dont know im really scared our friendship wont last. do you have any tips how i can get over this??
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Don't be scared about breaking up. I've gone out with my best friend too and our friendship lasted even after the break-up. Don't be afraid! Be happy. Trust me, usually your best friend (if he's told you your his best friend, too) usually cares about you a TON. Just believe in the relationship and don't be afraid! Just let it flow.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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hi i am 13 and i am a girl.my very best friend talked about me bhinde my back and she keeps telling everyone i am a liar and i am not i feel like i have lost everthing i think i want to die please help fast (link)
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Whoa whoa whoa. Sloooooooooooooooooow down. You don't wanna die. You'd regret it later. Obviously that 'very best friend' of yours, isn't your very best friend, is she? All you have to do is either ignore her or tell her how you feel. My very best friends did that to me and they called me tons of names and it really did hurt so I understand your situation. It happens to almost everyone. So what I did to get over it was confront them about it even though it was harder to see the reason why they did it. That's what you need to do. Ask her why she would say that about you! And are you absolutely positive that she said that? How reliable is the source? You need to consider everything about the situation. But what I really think you should do is talk to someone, preferably an adult, who is trustworthy and tell them about it. Get all the anger out, otherwise it'll get all bottled up and explode like a volcanoe, which isn't cool. Talk to someone, get out all the anger, and move on with your life. I know it sounds ignorant and hard to do, but that's just what you have to do. Cry the tears and move on. Be a soldier.
~Hope that helped~
~If you need any other help feel free to e-mail me or IM me (they are on my advice column)
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~K~
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i'm 13 and a girl.i really need help.in 7 grade i went out with this boy named russ we liked each other since 6 grade but in 7 he asked me out. we fell in love with each other after 5 months we went out for 6 months. when summer vacation came we broke up. we did't talk for the whole summer untill in august he called. then when we went back to school we went back to talking like the best friends we were.then we both went out with different people. and he would come to my house to hang out but on day we kissed(we both were with somone).then he broke up with his girlfrined and i broke up with my man.then we went back out we promised each other that nothing was going to happen and we would be the best couple.so then i felt like i did't want to be in a nother relationship with him so i broke up with him. he never saw it comming and he felt soooo bad. then couple months later he went out with this other girl and he said he loved her after 2 months but i know he did't because the way he acted. i think he said that because he was missing me.then he cheated on her with me . he said he would do anything for me.and he still see me in his life for ever.now him and his girlfriend are not together. this boy named jay is talking to me now we have been talking for 3 weeks now and he wants us to go out. but i'm scared he might hurt me just like russ did.and jay and i are really close and i think i might fell in love with him.jay and i are going though changing . he gonna stop being a player. he just got of a relationship 3 months ago and he loved the girl. so i need your help please. (link)
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Number one, you are not "in love" with anyone. Trust me. You are thirteen. Come on. Think about it.
Number two. You cheated on your boyfriend with him. And a while after, you made him cheat on his girlfriend. You're thinking your older than you really are and you need to come back to being thirteen.
There's a lot more to say, but I just can't put it into words. You need a therapist or something to bring you back to being a thirteen year old.
~K~
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i just wanted to know how i can ask a girl if she likes me without looking stupid (link)
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Just ask her in person. It'll show you have courage and your not so scared to write her a note. It won't be dumb and don't be scared. Just ask her.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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im really shy around guys and i get tounge tied and dont know what to say. Does anyone have any ideas of what i can talk about? (link)
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I know how you feel. Well, most of all the guys in the world like to talk about themselves and brag and make sure that you think their really cool and all that, so one topic idea is: Him!
Ask him:
What sports he plays
What music he likes
What he does in his spare time
What he likes to do
Sometimes guys will just talk about whatever they want. Just go with the flow. If they talk about a band you've never heard of, just say,"I've never heard of them. Are they good?" Then he'll probably say yes and you can ask,"Can I borrow your CD and check them out?".
Talk about what you like. Don't try to be someone you're not. You can't keep up it up forever. Just be you. Guys like it when your being yourself. They like it better when you can be you.
Talk about bands, music, T.V., movies, games, your cellphone, friends, school, teachers, what classes you might have together, etc.
Need any other help, IM at darkangelsfire09 or just leave me a question.
~Hope that helped~
~Sorry it's so long~
~K~
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Are you suppose to pop your pimples or not? And the same with Black heads? What are you suppose to do. I use this blackhead scrub stuff and it makes my blackheads bigger. Is that giving me a sign to pop them? I seldum get pimples with white heads. And usually I accident pop them. Is that bad? (link)
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I think it's better if you pop them. It makes them go away a lot faster than just waiting it out. When white stuff starts to show, you should probably pop them. You might want to put a cold washcloth on the spot so it won't appear so red afterwards.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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ok so i was talking to the girl that i used to like and still kindof do, we havent seen each other in a while cuz we go to dif schools but weve stayed familiar over the internet. i asked her yesterday if she wanted to make out or sumthing next weekend when we are gonna be at a bonfire at my house and she said YEAH! and talked about how she liked me and stuff.. so heres my question.. - how far do u think i can get with this girl? (link)
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Um, well your question makes you seem like the horniest 14 year old ever. Why would you ask how far you can get with a girl? That's jsut plain rude and wrong. So you don't really like her and you wanna get as far as you possibly can with her...hmmmm...spells 'jerk' to me. You're probably going to make out with her and leave, which is a horrible thing to do. I believe that you are a terrible person who deserves a good kick in the ass.
~K~
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if i made out with a girl on a dare... does that make me a lesbian????
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Unless you were really into it and you feel like you would feel if you liked a guy, then no, you're not. Unless you were like feeling up on her and like, frenching, and just really into it, I don't think you are. It was only a dare, don't freak out and don't doubt you're sexuality. It was just a dare.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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i love this kid pat that is 2 years older then me.over the summer he stole my bike thats how i fell in love with him. nd he was my first kiss!! like real kiss. any way we made out 5 6 times in the past. were in a fight right now. i still like him though.opps i mean love. any way he likes this girl liz. but he always make me laugh like last nite.. he was flirting w/ me be4 we got into a fight.. idk should i tell him i love him to death and i would do any thing for him? or noo? please help
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Sometimes telling guys you love them without actually being in a relationship scares guys. I can't make the decision for you, but on the phone when you have to go, say "Love ya". Or you can tell him how you feel and ask him out and then tell him. If he likes Liz are you sure he likes you? Make sure you figure out if he feels the same way, because he might "love" Liz.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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me and my boo have been going out for 2 weeks we love each other alot and we really wanna make out!!
but how do i?
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Two weeks? Well, there's no real way to make out. It just kinda happens. It's hard to describe. You just gotta do it. It's like kissing repeatedly and just staying liplocked.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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im 5'2 and 115 lbs. everyone tells me im not fat or chubby. they say that my stoamch is flat but its not. no matter what i think that im heavy and that its noticable. are there any ways to make my stomach flat? and situps never worked for me. i want to lose it because im always afraid that im going to lose my boyfriend to someone whos skiny and pretty. any ideas? please and thank you. (link)
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Dude, I'm 5'2 and sometimes I way 115 but I'm not fat, so I don't think you are either. Are you weighing yourself with your clothes on, because if you are, you need to take a little off for the wieght of the clothes. I'm almost positive that you aren't fat and you know muscle weighs more than fat? Maybe sit-ups aren't working for you because you're already doing enough of them. Up your self esteem. If you're boyfriend thought you were heavy and not pretty, you wouldn't HAVE a boyfriend. I used to be just like you but you have to get more self esteem, you are pretty if you have a boyfriend. Try to cut down on the junk food intake and do sit-ups and pushups. Do Taebo if you can. Trust me, keep doing sit-ups and do crunches, too.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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ok there is this guy. We both liked eachother, we used to talk to each other all the time and he used to tell me all the time that he loves me and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. he said that he wants to be alone with on valentines day. And so i went to my dads house to be alone with him and we were talking in my room and listening to music and sudenly my dad bursts in my room and starts swearing at him to get the fu*k out of his room. i got really upset so i left. And the guy was still talking to my dad and when he came outside by me he came over to me kissed me and said that i need to go talk to my dad because he is going crazy in there. I said no because he wont listen to me(+ he was drunk so that wouldnt help)and he said that my dad thinks that we had sex and we didnt. The guy was really mad. He looked at me in front of all my friends and said: I dont even look at you that way let alone have sex with you. Im sorry but i started to cry. why would he day he want to be with me and then say he dont what up with him? And whats up with my dad??? please help me i could use it thank you. i rate high. (link)
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Alrighty, this is interesting. How sure are you that this guy likes you as much as you think he does? Sometimes friends like to tell you things to make you happy. But really, this guy is a jerk. Do you really want to like a guy who says he doesn't look at you that way and wouldn't have sex with you...in front of your FRIENDS?! Maybe he just wants you as a friend. Maybe you should ask him.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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My best guy friend him and I have gone out before and we eventualy broke up but we still had feelings for each other but instead we stayed CLOSE friends he knows everything about me.Well I recently found out he has a gf which i never thought would happen so quick and when i found out i was crushed i began crying i felt terrible.I don't know what to do I'm thinking bout stop talking to him it might help but im not sure pleae help me! thank you either way for just reading. (link)
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Well, you definitely wanna keep talking to him. He's your best guy friend. He's gonna feel hurt if you just stop talking to him.
Maybe he got a girlfriend to get over you because he thought you didn't like him anymore. But maybe you should try to move on, too. I mean, would you rather have him as a boyfriend again and then break up after a few months? Or would you rather have a friendship that would last years? I know how you feel, I've been in your situation. My best guy friend and I used to like each other and stuff, but he told me that advice.
Just think about it. Use this advice and pass it on to other people, because other people should know this, too. Would you rather have a boyfriend that lasts months or a friendship that lasts years? You never know, it might turn into something else.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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Ok. i have this friend and we both like the same guy. i mean he's a really really nice guy and he's not fast paced and he'll give the girl the time she needs. and he's popular so i guess i kind of have two questions.
Question 1). Would it be totally horrible for me to do something about my feelings, because i know for a fact that the guy doesn't like her he told me. but if things worked out and she got mad i'd feel horrible but the thing is she'd do it to me in a heart beat, even if it hurt me ...
Question 2). I'm not sure what i should do. because if i decide to talk to him and let him now how i feel theres a chance he'll laugh in my face. because hes popular and im not really. im not sure if i should give it a try, because he seems like he could possibly be interested in me, he's flirting and acts interested, but that could then again just be how he is .. (link)
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I just have one thing to say.....
GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Question 1- If this gurl would do that to you, she's not a very good friend, is she? You need to see if he likes you. She can't control who he likes. Hell, he can't really control who he likes, but you should go for it.
Question 2- Give it a try. Trust me. Even if he is popular, it doesn't mean he can't like someone who isn't. Plus, labels are for soup cans. Even if he does laugh in your face, just brush it off. I know it will hurt, but that doesn't mean you can't still get to know him and give him a chance to start to like you. If he's really really nice like you say he is, he won't laugh.
Just try it!!!
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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Ok I am freaking out right now and I really need help! Today During dinner I accedentaly spilled some of my milk on my MP3 player that I got for christmas and it was a lot of money! Well I just went to go turn it on and it's not working! What should I do! How do I get it to work! Please help me! (link)
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STOP trying to turn it on. Trust me. If you can open it, do, but only if it's supposed to open in that particular spot. Leave it out to dry for a few days, like, four or five.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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I am a gay male in my 30’s, and have been in a loving, committed relationship with another male since I was 18 years old. I plan on being with this man for the rest of my life.
This year marks the 10th Anniversary of my "coming out" to my parents. Back then, my relationship with my boyfriend was already in its 5th or 6th year, and it saddened me that I could not share its joy with my mother and father for whom I loved dearly. My honesty had brought me close to them again, and their acceptance has been a true blessing. I am grateful, for I know many others whose stories are not so lucky.
But this is not why I write.
My question has to do with my father. He does not judge me for being gay. He is very proud of his tolerance, and we have had many open and frank conversations about homophobia and my experiences with homophobia.
My problem is although he is not critical or judgmental about my lifestyle, he is overly critical and judgmental about every other aspect of my life. My job, my car, my driving, my diet, my finances, my clothes, my speech, my hair, my skin, my schedule, my everything are open territory to his persistent nagging. A thirty minute phone call with him can set me into a depression for a week. It would be easier if he hated me for being gay.
I often ask him questions about life and the lessons he has learned, but he replies with mean, personal attacks on my character. I am a very successful man in my field, and I feel his concerns are unwarranted. I have frequently told him as such.
Today, I feel I am fed up with trying to make him happy. During the holidays, he made me miserable because I did not live up to his regimented expectations. When the slightest thing is not perfect in my life, I cannot be honest with him and dishonesty is what I ran from 10 years ago. I fear his lectures, and I am starting to lie to him again. I love him because he is my father, but I do not like him.
He is so proud that he is man enough not to judge his son for being gay. Believe me, I am thankful. But, how do I get him to not judge me for being HUMAN?
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First, just ignore PiNkCoNvErSEChIk11. Being gay is not wrong, but she can believe anything she wants. And second, here is my advice to you:
It's hard to explain, but I think you're father accepts your choice to be gay, but I also think he is sad that you aren't exactly like he is. Maybe he feels he can't talk about "manly" things with you because you're gay. I just think you're father is in denial. He is attacking you as a shield so you won't suspect that he is sad inside. He's trying to get over his sadness by making you upset.
You should confront him about how you feel. He will probably take it badly at first, but you should ask your mom to help you as well. You might want to go into Family Counseling. You need to tell him that you have your own goals and those goals aren't the same as his. Tell him once you reach YOUR expectations you aren't going to reach any higher just to please him and that it's your life.
Just confront him and tell him your feelings. You'll feel much better after you do.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
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