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my brother is 17 and he just came out. i mean he told us he was gay. im shocked and i dont know what to do because me and him are close but i feel okward now. im having a hard time accepting this. what do i do? (link)
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Just remember that he's not a different person - he's still your brother.
Also, I don't know if you are against homosexuality (I am), but if you are, keep in mind that "gay" is not who he is, only his sexual orientation, so it doesn't mean you should or have to treat him differently.
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First of all if you do help me out thank you. Well im a senior in high school, Im 18 years old.
You see I have a teacher well his not really my teacher. He was my teacher my freachmen year, But now were just good friends.
We go out t eat ive been out with him and his and my friends. we have fun. Oh his 26. You see I dont know if he likes me or if were just good friends.
a couple of days ago, he asked me if he thought a student was attractive and if he told them how I thought they woulfd take it.
I sayd I did not know, It all sepnded on the girl.
Then he asked hw i would feel. Well sorry I hav to go because im in his class right at this moment.
Help me.
~~~Chelly~~~ (link)
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Good friends is fine, and he may just be the kind of person who gives compliments like that.
Though, if he does have a thing for you, and you reciprocate, do wait until after you graduate - it's only a short while. If you don't reciprocate his feelings, and he makes his clear, tell him that you only want to be friends.
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well tomorrow i'm going to the doctors for a check up and i'm 14/f and last time i went they looked down my pants and i think its VERY preverted! ( is that normal for most doctors to do?) is there a way i can stop them??
signed: grossed out (link)
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Tell your parents you aren't comfortable with it and ask for a female doctor.
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Ok well the other day i was at a party and this girl i had just met started coming on to me and when she wanted to have oral sex i backed out but i think i regret itt
im seeing her next weekend what should i do (link)
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You should get to know her first. Find out if she's someone you want to be sexually involved with before you become so involved with her.
I would regret it, too, just because of my sex drive, but I also know that I'd regret it more if we did that and she turned out to be someone I really didn't like. Or if we did it and I wanted to be friends (or more) but she decided that since we did that we couldn't ever be. That would definitely be regretable.
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2 days ago me and my sister were running outside in my uncles back yard and i ran around her and i stepped on a 2 1/2 inch rusty bolt and it went 1 inch *or more* in my foot and i had to go to the hospital. well now im back home and i have no crutches or a wheel chair or anything and i really want to walk around my house but when i hop on my good foot it makes my ribs and knee hurt too much does any one know a way for me to get around until i get crutches?
thanks
i rate 5's for good answers (link)
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Drink more milk. It sounds like you might not be getting enough calcium, unless your muscles are just sore.
To get around better, and less painfully, you may have to have someone help you out by letting you lean on them, or use the arm on the side of your bad leg to help support yourself to that you don't have to hop quite so much.
Also, you could try scooting around on your butt using your arms. I know it sounds kind of dumb, but it works.
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ok well my parents have been divoced for 2 years and i live with my dad and see my mom on the weekends. well my dad wants to move out of the city,far away from all of my friends and family, and i have never moved before.i dont want to go to a new high school and i dont want to move away from my family and friends so my mom offered for me to come live with her, but if i do my dad will keep my sister and we will be split up and i will never see her. and if i go with my dad i will never see my mom and i will be stuck with my stupid step mom who is a bitch, who should i go with? (link)
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Stay with your mom. Try to get your sister to be ablbe to do the same by explaining that you aren't going to leave your friends and you don't want to split away from your sister.
You'll probably have to work it out so that you (and your sister, if she stays as well) go to stay with your dad during the summer or something. It may seem bad at first, but at least you'll be with your friends during the school year, and you'll have your sister during the summer.
Actually, that could turn out real nice for you, now that I think about it more.
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does anyone think its bad to bring your bible to school or stuff like that? I mean my friend does and i want to but am scared someone might hurt me because of it! but i really LOVE god and want to like spread him with people but am scared to! thanks! (link)
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I don't remember where the courts left off on the issue, but I believe it was decided that a person could take a religious text to a public school so long as they did not promote any religion.
So, go ahead and take it with you, just don't start reading aloud in front of the class (unless it's classroom appropriate, as in a few select cases). Your campus might also have a small Christian group that meets during lunch time or something. If not, feel free to start one.
I would recommend asking your friends if they'd like to go to your youth group with you or something. That's what I did in high school - every Wednesday, they'd all come over for dinner, go with us to youth group, and we'd take them home.
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i wanna qet a hair cut tomorrow....i want bang,but i wanna pull them to the side, and i want it kinda short like a little above my shoulders...am i taking serious chances?? cuz my hair is pretty long, but i want something a little more fun and a little preppy/trendy...any other ideas??
xox*jessica (link)
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I think that'd look great. Post a pic after you get it done, ja?
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okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it (link)
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Tell her you don't want to go further and you want to slow down the physical stuff to focus on other, more important things.
If she has a problem with that, you might want to reconsider your relationship with her.
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I put a post up on a penpal website looking for a Japanese penpal to correspond with so I could improve my Japanese and they could improve their English. I specified that I was looking for a Japanese penpal but still recieved two emails from non-Japanese speaking people. I am not interested in corresponding with them but don't know whether to send them an email saying, "Sorry, but I'm looking for Japanese friends only." which seems rather rude or to ignore their email and not reply.
What should I do? (link)
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Try to keep in touch with them, and let contact just die down. You may find that they're really cool people.
Or, if you absolutely don't want to, tell them that while you appreciate that they were interested, the only reason you got on the site was to find someone to practice Japanese with, and that you don't want to pursue any other pen pal opportunities besides that.
Or you could just ignore them. That's the easiest, and the most common way of doing things. Kind of rude, but easy.
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What's the ideal weight for a 16 year old girl that's 5'0"? (link)
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It REALLY depends. If you're broad-shouldered, it could be more. It depends on your bone structure, breast size (it can vary your weight by as much as 12 pounds, so I've heard...), hair length (if it's down to your waist, that's a couple pounds), and other things.
The question is, are you healthy. A healthy girl likes 10 times better than a skinny but unhealthy girl.
The next time you visit your doctor, ask him/her what they think. That's your best bet.
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I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers. (link)
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You wait. Don't be with either. You have feelings for a guy who doesn't return them, and another guy has feelings for you, but you don't have the same for him. You should be with the one you want to be with, not the one you have to settle for (yes, that's a harsh way to put it, but it's the truth).
Spend time with them both. You may find that your feelings for Elijah develop into more, or that Zach's feelings for you develop. Don't commit to either, just be friends until your mind is made up.
"Don't wait for a person you can live with; wait for the person you can't live without."
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I know what 69 is...but I was just curious as to why its called what it is. Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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The circle part of each number is a mouth, and the stick part of each number is genetelia.
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i shaved my pussy so my bf could fingure me, but it itches alot and it used to have red bumps, should i use nair or will it come back? thanks!!!! (link)
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It will itch for a few days. A good gel or shaving cream should help. Waxing is, supposedly, an option.
Or you could try trimming it short enough that it doesn't get in the way but long enough that it's not prickly, and see how he likes that. That would eliminate shaving it all together, you'd just have to trim it.
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im 13/f
what should i do if my crush would ask me out or something, but my friends realllyy like him too?
(i have this one friend, she likes the same guy that i do. she says she loves him and everything. but she doesnt know that i've like him since like 5th grade.) i have an idea that he kinda likes me too. i hear that he talks about me to his friends, and whenever im around him he asks me for hugs. im not sure if its just playful, or actually something. im not sure how to react if something happened, and he asked me out?? nfsap idk. im really confused. any tips????
-stuckkkkk (link)
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Talk to your friend. Tell her how you feel about him and how you've liked him since 5th grade and all. Also tell her that you don't want this to drive a wedge between you two.
Tell her that you aren't going to try to get him to like you instead of her, and ask her to do the same, and let him do whatever he's going to do, whether that be go out with you, her, or neither.
Now, if she said that she likes him before you said anything, if she decides that she called dibs, you should respect that. That means that you can't do anything to try to get his attention, and she can. He can still choose you instead of her, you just can't do anything to try to encourage that to be the decision.
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To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?
I'm 17 he's 18. (link)
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One of my ex's recently separated from her b/f for a few days feeling the need to go out and just be able to flirt and be a bacchelorette. This may be what is going on with you.
I think you should take some time to yourself to think about things. Figure out what your relationship with your b/f is about, why you are with him, and if that's really what you want.
He's probably acting a little bit different because he doesn't know how to deal with the situation, so you need to talk to him before you do this. You should tell him what you're going to do, and that when you figure things out, you'll let him know what's going you'll talk to him about it and any decisions you've made before actually making any changes. And that no changes may even be necessary.
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I'm a hugeeeeeee tomboy. I always wear t-shirts and long shorts, my hair is always pulled back, and i dont wear makeup. I mean, im not fat, just bulky and muscular. I dont wanna change any of this. But i've never had a boyfriend, and maybe its cus i act too much like a guy. I really want a boyfriend, but i dont wanna change. What type of guy would i go good with? WHAT SHOOD I DO!!! (link)
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Don't worry about getting a b/f. Just be yourself. I respect that you don't want to change, and I encourage you in your decision. If a guy is going to like you, he's going to have to like you for you, and that's the way it should be.
Lot's of guys out there like tomboy's. I myself am partial to them (depending on the overall personality, of course).
This is just general advice, and about the only thing that could change it is... how old are you?
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this guy found me on myspace and said i was really cute. hes really cute too and he said he just moved to my city. and he told me where he lived by and its really close to me. well he was like can i do a mapquest? cause im not sure how close u live. i wasnt thinking and i gave him my address and stuff for mapquest. now hes always like we should hangout and stuff. and hes like just turned 18. and he always talks about how much he drinks..and smokes...and i dont know im worried. what if he like comes to my house or something?..... (link)
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Talk to your parents, tell them you made a mistake withouut thinking about it first, and that you need their wisdom and their help. No, really, say it like that - they might be a little upset by what you did, but not nearly as much as if you say it that way (and sincerely).
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My dad died when I was ten and I acted wierd. I didn't cry very much at all. I only cried once or twice. Now I'm 13 and I don't cry about it still. It makes me feel guilty, and I don't know why I can't cry. It also makes me mad because everybody thinks I'm over it, but I'm really not. The last time I cryed about it was last night. But the wierd thing is, is about a month ago I whent to these family riunons, and just started crying for no reason. So here is my question: Am I a freak because I don't cry, and how can I make it so that I don't have the sudden outbursts? Can you help? (link)
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No, you're not a freak. You need to do some intraspective searching and try to figure out what it is that has you affected as such. You should also try to embrace these times and let your emotions develop thoughts. You should also talk to a counselor about it.
I haven't cried since I was 5 years old except for periods of extreme stress and anger (about 3 times), and I'm 21 now. This is kind of common among the male's of our generation - society tells us we must be hard and without "emotional weakness". That's a load of carp and crying and experiencing sadness are not a weakness. So embrace it and seek help.
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if you pop a cherry, will u be pregnate? (link)
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No, if a person (Bob) pops another person's (Pam's) cherry, Bob will not get pregnant. Figuring, though, that you mean to ask about the person who has their cherry popped... it depends.
Any time you have intercourse, or even when there is sperm in the general vacinity of a vagina, there is a chance, however small, of the woman getting pregnant. Intercourse involves a penis in a vagina, not fingering or oral sex.
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