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hes gay ...
my brother is 17 and he just came out. i mean he told us he was gay. im shocked and i dont know what to do because me and him are close but i feel okward now. im having a hard time accepting this. what do i do?
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♥You just need to accept his sexuality. He's gay, so what? He is still the same person he always has been, you shouldn't feel any different around him. Of course it will take time getting used to it, but you just have to think, he's not a different person. It will be akward for a little while, but soon that feeling will go away. He's your brother, you need to accept him. Try and spend as much time as possible with him.
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he's juss gay.. i mean i kno it's kinda ackward and all but he's still the same person before you didn't kno he was gay.. so i would try and talk 2 him about it or juss try 2 accept it `♥//
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When my sister came out we were all a little suprized, and I had a hard time adusting at first too. Then I finally asked myself how does my sister being gay affect my life? And I realized it didn't. She is still the same great person.
So ask yourself why you are having a hard time accepting your gay brother. Is there really a problem? Being gay is not a bad thing, we are just brought up to believe it is. Just give yourself some time and you will see that this will not affect you relationship with your brother at all.
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Ok your right that must be pretty weird for you. Here's what I say. If he was gay before he told all of you and you didnt know you loved him and didnt feel weird right, well now that he told you what difference does it make I mean he is the same guy he was before he told you. Look at it that way, hope i helped!
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You shouldn't let his sexuality change yall's relationship. I'm sure he still loves you the same, so you should show him that same love in return. You need to give him moral support, because coming out is a big thing and I'm sure he has alot of people knocking him down right now. So stay strong and go out with him sometime and tlak to him about it. Try to except it more and I promise that you'll get used to it. If you want to talk about it more just drop one in my box.
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well, just acept it !! after all he is your brother !!
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Just remember that he's not a different person - he's still your brother.
Also, I don't know if you are against homosexuality (I am), but if you are, keep in mind that "gay" is not who he is, only his sexual orientation, so it doesn't mean you should or have to treat him differently.
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You should talk to him. Just because hes gay doesnt mean your not still close. You can talk to him about guys and about shopping It will be like having another girl friend.
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you kind of just need to learn to accept that he wont change && thats who he is. && he is still your brother && your guys closeness shouldn't change because of it. I know you feel akward about it, i know i would too. but i think you should just not let that affect your friendship. plus gay guys seem fun to have as your friends (i know hes your brother, but same thing). you can always talk to him & tell him it might take awhile for you to get used to this situation. i know i dont really believe in gay marriges or people from the same sex being together, but if it was my sibling, i would just try to understand & accept it best i could. i dont know really, but i hoped i helped a little bit.
♥ nicole
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ok well you cant do anything about it you need to learn to accept it. that is what you think about being gay but you noe a lot of people in this world these day are gay and we cant do anything about it but accept it. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*
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His your brother so that wount change. It must be hard to now tha your brother is gay. But what can you do. Don't turn your back on him, his going to need you more then ever.
Let him now that you are there for him. He is still the same person the only thing that is different is that he likes boys.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Chelly ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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That's YOUR opinion, and you have EVERY Right to feel that way. Unbeknownst to me, I dated a bisexual man one time. I didn't Really TREAT my bisexual boyfRiend any diffeRent... because he was the same peRson as he was BEFORE I KNEW he was bisexual, you undeRstand?? He HAD been bisexual all along, I just didn't know it. Just because youR bRotheR is homosexual does NOT make him any less of a human being, ya know?? Hopefully this makes sense to you -- and hopefully I've been of at least SOME help heRe!! :)
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