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Q: Hi. I'm a 16 year old girl and I have a huge problem. I often times wonder about God. I'm sure that I believe in him but at times I have doubts...is that normal? And also, is it true that God has a plan for everyone and some people are bound to go to hell?
♥It's perfectly normal. You would be considered "agnostic". Being agnostic means you aren't completley athiest (meaning you don't believe in God) but you don't completley believe in him either. Basicaly, you're unsure about your faith in God. The second part, I can't answer because i'm athiest, but I think that if you believe God has a plan for you, your life will be lived based on your faith.

Q: i am 17 and i live in ny. i want to get a tattoo i was wondering how old i have to be. my mom said she dont care if i get one bc she wants one too. were thinking about getting them at the state fair. thanks for your help!
♥Well, because of your age you might need a parent to come with you to the state fair to sign a parental consent form. It might not be like that in New York though, but I would think so.

Q: OK, my hair is just about shoulder length, maybe a little bit longer. It's thick and reallyyyyy wavy and frizzy. If i straighten it at night, like right before i go to bed, shood i keep it up or down overnight? Which will help it stay straight?
♥Straightening at night is definitly a good idea. As for going to bed, keep it down. If you put it up, there will be a wave where the ponytail holder was. Keeping it down will keep it exactly how it was, in the morning just brush it and it should look like you just straightened it.

Q: i make such a big deal out of little things with me and my boyfriend.. he thinks kristin from laguna beach is so hot so we fight wen he watches it.. its not my fault im jealous, but what can i do?
♥Don't worry about it, try not to feel so jealous. This is only a celebrity crush, i'm sure you have them too. Everyone has them. Try to be a little more accepting, it's not like he will ever have a chance with her.

Q: Hey, you know the neospharen (spelling) stuff people use to prevent scars? Well my acne is actually finally clearing up and i have some scaring (i think) on my cheeks, can I use it after i wash my face and put my medicine on, or will it just make it worse?

Thanks will rate high=D
♥No! Don't put neosporin on your face. It's meant for minor cuts, you put the gel on before the cut even gets to a scar, you don't just apply it to an already formed scar. Acne scars are different anyways. Go to a dermatologist and show him/her that you have scarring, they will prescribe you with a gel or cream that will help scarring. I suggest using this one and the acne medication to prevent future breakouts.

Q: I was playing a game on my boyfriend's mini iPod and it froze. I can't do anything with it, I hooked it up to the white charge cord. But it didn't do anything. I tried finding out how to fix this on google but all I can find is wait for the battery to run out then charge it up. Does anyone know anything else I can do to unfreeze it? Its a 4GB by the way if that helps any.
I know exactly what's wrong with the iPod. I have a mini as well and always seem to have this problem. On the very top of the ipod where the headphones plug in, there should be a little silver button-like thing that will say "HOLD" near it. Try sliding it the opposite way and then try and use the iPod.

If this isn't the case, I don't have a clue wrong with it. I definitly think it's the "HOLD" button that's making it freeze. If it isn't, try going to the website and clicking on help, or bring it to an Apple store in your nearest mall.

Q: does anyone know the name and artist of the song that goes "weve got more bounce in california"
Good song. It's called "More Bounce" and the artist is Soul Kids. There are also remixes and such you can find on the internet.

Q: uuhhhggg im soooo bored what r some good sites to do for fun dat dont cost nothing thx
~*tay tay*~
♥Well....here are some sites I like to go to:

--http://www.stupidvideos.com
--http://www.zenhex.com
--http://geocities.com

Also try making a wishlist on your favorite clothing store's site, surfing through weird things on EBay, or checking out news at your favorite band/musical artist's site.

Q: I'm 14/f
I think im fat and I wanna lose weight. I don't eat breakfast or lunch and barely dinner. All my friends are worried about me and try to get me to eat but I just say i'm not hungry. My question is, is this that serious and that unhealthy? Thanks!
♥It's definitly unhealthy. You're right on the path to anorexia, and almost pretty much there. Stop doing what you're doing and eat. Just to let you know, what you're doing will make you gain weight because your metabolism is slowing down. It's definitly serious. If you need any help losing weight in a healthy way, be sure to contact me and i'll be glad to help you, I hate to see people suffer from an eating disorder.

Q: Does Abercrombie and Fitch ever have clearances? Thanks!
♥Yes, not big clearances, but small sales now and then. Usually the sale items are on tables near the back of the store. If you can't afford Abercrombie I highly suggest searching on Ebay, you can get anything in the store right now for a lowered clearance price. Ebay is your friend.

Q: does anyone know where i can get the song "time and confusion" by anberlin to put on my myspace?
♥Ah! Anberlin, good band. You can try http://www.musicfeet.com , they usually have a good selection of videos for myspaces. Click A and search for Anberlin.

Q: ok so i got my period yesterday and it is already like done and usally it lasts for 3 or 4 days is this normal or ok??
♥Yeah, it's perfectly normal. If you still feel like it should keep flowing or still have stomach cramps, keep a pad/tampon with you at all times because it's common for a period to stop a few days short and then continue the cycle in a day or so. Sounds normal to me though.

Q: does anone know if walking backwards helps your butt get smaller? if it does how often and how long. no links plz

♥Who told you that? I think they were joking. The best way to make your butt smaller is eat a healthy lowfat diet, or wear flattering pants. There really aren't many ways to make it smaller, but there are tons to make it bigger. Sorry I couldn't help much, but I just wanted to save you the humiliation of walking backwards thinking a miracle was going to happen.

Q: I heard that if you have six small meals a day, then you lose weight. If you do, what should you eat, and how often?

Thanks in advance!
♥Yes, what you heard is true. By eating 5-6 small meals a day instead of 3 large ones, your metabolism gets faster, which helps your body burn fat and calories. Eating every 3 hours has this same effect, so try and do this too. What you eat is what you just said, small meals. They should be light, healthy, and partially lowfat. Some examples of small meals can be:

--Sandwhich with whole wheat bread, meat, cheese, and lettuce/tomatoe.
--Small bowl of healthy soup.
--A salad. Try and stay away from creamy dressings if you are on a diet.
--A fruit salad. Different fruits and melons with some yogurt to dip them in.
--Cheese and crackers with other toppings.
--Pita bread with Hummus or other bean spread.

Be sure to eat small portions, or you won't be able to eat the times you are supposed to.

Q: When going to Victoria Secrets what are you suppose to do when you want to know your bra size? Do you just walk up to a sales lady and ask her to measure you? What does she do?
♥Yep. That's what the workers are there for you know. If they see a teen girl browsing, usually they'll ask if you know what you're looking for or if you need to be measured. What she does is gets a little ruler type thing and puts it around your chest to find the size. Then she'll ask you what style and fit you want and help you find a bra that is right for you.

Q: Hi, i'm just going to get straight to it.

Im over weight.
I have acne
I think i have a big nose
Im not exactly your average prep
I have a reputation of not being "nice"
Im starting over in highschool, i realized preps arent the only popular people because the punks are getting quite popular. I dont want to be popular i just want to be a normal me. Im kinda like Hilary Duff In A Cinderella Story.
Any advice to any of the problems I listed?
Will Rate 5. Thank you!
♥The first part to anything i'm about to give you advice-wise is to be confident and don't think so low of yourself. If you don't agree to just try, don't bother reading the following advice because it will just be superficial advice if you don't take it seriously and work on your self esteem.

1--For your weight problem, try doing yoga, pilates, or tae bo. You can buy these tapes at any store that sells videos. They're fun and relaxing, and will help you shed pounds and strengthen your muscles. Kickboxing is also a great alternative. If you have a pool, try and do laps every night. Eat healthy, don't diet, eat healthy. Eat nutricious, and eat less. No seconds, limit desert. Cut out white bread, sodas, and packaged deserts. Use junk and sugars sparingly. Try to drink 6-8 glasses of water a day.

2--For your acne, go to the dermatologist and see what he/she suggests. Some good products to ask about are Benzaclin, Retin-A or Retin-A-Micro, and Differin gel. For your daily face cleanser, use a natural astringent such as pure Witch Hazel, or a facewash with no dye such as Cetaphil. Wash your face daily, and wear SPF sunscreen everyday. Salt water and sun are good for drying out pimples. If this doesnt help, see about trying ProActiv or get natural herbal supplements. Try and avoid things like Accutane and Tetracyclin, i've heard bad things.

3--As for your nose, you just need to accept it, you can't change it. Find makeup styles that draw attention from your nose to your other facial features. This is what makes you, you. Learn to like it. It gives you character.

4--Lables suck, forget them, be yourself. Popularity doesn't matter, if you act confident and dress how you want, people will like you for who you are and you will soon be popular with friends. Avoid cliques, it will make you seem even more not nice. Make a point to compliment people every day.

Q: How does anorexia harm you or your body? I know pukeing will stain your teeth but what else?? cuz if thats it, then whats the harm right?
♥Okay well first of all, you're extremley confused. You don't throw up when you have anorexia, that's bulimia, way different disorder. Anorexia is when you starve yourself. It harms your body in many ways. Just take a moment to think---you STARVE yourself. It isn't good. You have lack of nutrients, vitamins, proteins, etc. Lack of carbohydrates will make you feel weak. You can pass out, have seizures, break bones, etc. Your body will eat it's self. You can die.

Q: hey i was wondering if abercrombie && fitch clothes runs small?
♥Yes. Abercrombie & Fitch run very small. The larges fit like tight fitting mediums, and mediums fit like very tight fitting smalls. Mostly it depends on the cut of the clothing, sometimes the sizes run normal, but mostly small. Justto make sure i'd try everything on. If you're a big girl I wouldn't suggest Abercrombie clothing, the sizes usually only go up to a large and are usually tight. If you're tiny, you'll find just your size because the store carries XS and Small. Also their pants run from about 00-8 I'm pretty sure.

Q: can someone give me some break up songs or some songs that say your mad or something. please...i rate 5's.
♥I don't personally like this song, but this is the perfect mad song. I'm Not Okay (i promise) by My Chemical Romance. Also Bleeding Mascara by Atreyu. Another one you can try that is good for a hard breakup is Lemonade by Tsunami Bomb.

Q: i have old books and i was wondering instead of donating them can i bring to the library to sell them? or should i bring to a bookstore to sell them?
♥You can't sell books to most libraries, they only accept donations unless it's a one of a kind rare book. Regular book stores such as Borders, Barnes & Noble, Books a million, etc. won't take used books either. Try finding a used book store or consignment to sell them to. You could also sell them on Ebay or Amazon.

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