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How do you stop yourself from loving someone ? :( like is it possible to love someone your not with your whole life ? (link)
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You do not stop yourself from loving someone. The other person stops you.
Love is like an invitation that one heart sends out to another. You feel for someone and you hope that they accept that invitation. If they break up with you, if they have feelings for someone else, if they choose their job over you, if they are not interested in a relationship, etc. they are rejecting that invitation of love that you have extended to them.
You will still feel for the person long after this kind of rejection. It can literally take years But, that feeling you are talking about is not being in love. It is the potential to love. It is your own loving heart that you are experiencing. To actually be in love takes two people.
The good news is that even though your heart may call out to that special person for your entire life, your heart will eventually stop trying as hard, as frequently and as passionately because it will eventually meet another soul that matches yours. Your heart will then begin calling out to that new person and hopefully, you will not be rejected the next time.
Hope that helps!
Miss Piggy
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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years. He moved out of the country for college and now he's living with his dad, his step mom and his step siblings. His mother has hated me since the start. She always puts up a face and acts like everything is okay when she's in front of me and my family. I just found out recently that she has been trying to get rid of me by telling my boyfriend to leave me. She also keeps pairing my boyfriend up with girls that she is comfortable with. I dont know what I should do or how I should react. My boyfriend is very close to his mom and I dont want to ruin their relationship as much as possible. I hope he fights for me when the situation calls for it. (link)
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I know how you feel! I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and his mother acts the same way. Hopefully your boyfriend steps up to the plate and tells his mother to mind her own business. In my situation, my boyfriend ended up doing so and also began living with his dad instead. The good news is, you do not need to be threatened by his mother. Hopefully he stands up for you. But, regardless, you give him things his mother could never give him. He needs you. His mother is fighting a losing battle. She will regret the day that your boyfriend starts avoiding her because of her sour attitude.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I currently got into college (haven't taken my first classes yet though) and went for the Geology Department because finding a job with this major is easy and pays good, plus I think its a bit interesting. However I originally wanted to go for an English Major, perhaps making a double major in the future in plastic arts and making a small certificate in cinematography. I have a lot of insecurities and one of them is my future. Could I find a good job with my actual passion? Should I just follow my heart like a lot of cheesy commercials say? My parents are neck deep with debts and I want to be a good daughter to them - they raised me, I think its only fair that in the future I repay them by helping them pay their debts too. Also, my best friend is going for a physics major and I recall my father various times saying how I should go for what she went because in the future I could get a good job and get well payed. I suppose some of my inferiority complexes come from having such a smart, independent friend who has had much more triumphs than I have. Back to the topic, should I change majors... or stick with this one considering everything I said/wrote? (link)
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You could find a good job while following your passion, but as you know, it is not as likely. That being said, you can still do what you love if you take an interest in finance and become a good saver. Do not listen to cheesy commercials. Cheesy commercials are for extremely rich people who do not need to worry about making rent or paying bills. The average North American spends 165% of what they make. If you want to be different, you need to have a different approach to life. You cannot follow the fairytale attitude that the rest of our culture follows where you get the job you love, expect to make tons of money and then to spend every Friday night at the bar. In reality, you can have two of these three things at once: enough money to make ends meet, a job you love, and money for spending and going out. You basically can have two of those three options, but not all three. You need to accept that. Go ahead and do what you love, but understand the reality: that if you are not going to earn a lot doing what you love you will either spend your money on necessities and not be able to go out or you will go out and live like a poor irresponsible teenager all of your life. You mentioned that you want to be debt free. This means that you will need to become extremely good as saving money if you go for the job you love. This means no shopping trips and no nights at the bar. This means setting aside all of the money you have for essential things. If you don't think you can be happy living this way, then I suggest you find a better paying job. But, if you are capable of saving almost everything you earn, I think that you will find that working very hard at something you love is quite rewarding in its own way. At least, that has been my experience.
Miss Piggy
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So my girlfriend lost feelings for me, but still loves me so much, she tells me shes trying to get her feelings back, but for now, it hurts her when she knows shes hurting me.
Like, she feels really bad when I be nice to her and tell her I still love her despite her losing her feelings. I do admit, I spoiled her with love. We both want to fix our relationship. So we decided to take a 2 week break, so her feelings might come back when she experiences life without me. But we dont know what to do during a break...like do we still text or call? (Its a long distance relationship, 4 months in) what do we have to do during the break?
(Do's and don'ts will we helpful) (link)
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DO:
- Text or call if you want to, but keep it to a minimum. The whole point is to make her miss you.
- Take this as an opportunity to re-discover yourself as an individual. Spend time doing the things that you love.
- See friends that you have not seen in awhile.
- Think about the relationship. Think about what you want and need from the relationship.
- Contact her three days late. If the break is supposed to end on a Friday, call her on Monday. This will really throw her off and might make her re-think her attitude.
DON'T:
- Take this as an opportunity to see other people. Even though this is technically not against the rules during a break, it is a bad idea. If you do get back together your girlfriend will be upset that you ever got with someone else.
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So I'm 15 years old and I met a guy while I was visiting my family in Florida. And he he says he likes me and that's why he broke up with his girlfriend but he doesn't want to date me because I live so far away. But we have done stuff like made out a lot I've given him a blow job etc. But we haven't went all the way because I'm afraid that if I go all the way with him he will leave me and never speak to me again. I asked him what are we and he said I'm not a booty call cuz I deserve better but I'm not his girlfriend either. It's just so confusing, like what are we? I want a boyfriend but he doesn't want a relationship. I need help please! :( (link)
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You are friends with benefits.
Stop doing anything sexual with him. Stop kissing him even. Let him know that you only want to do those things with someone who is committed to you. This will be hard of course, but it is the only chance you have at a relationship with him.
Remember this: guys are lazy. They will do the least amount of emotional work possible. If you are providing a guy with sexual favours without asking for any emotional commitment, that guy will not appreciate what you have done. He will walk all over you. He will enjoy the sexual gratification and he has to do absolutely nothing to earn it. Don't be that easy. If you set some standards, he will be forced to re-think his selfish attitude. Make it a personal rule that you will never get physical with a man outside of a relationship. If you do this, you will gain control of your love life, rather than waiting for some asshole to finally ask you out.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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There's this kid that almost got with my girlfriend while we were on a break and every time I seem to have a low moment, he seems to be having the highest moments of his life. For example 2 years ago they almost got together but her and I worked things through. That summer I had a really rough time while this other kid lost like 90 pounds and began to look great. Then this year he became a marine and here I am starting college not knowing what I want to do. Everyone praises him and his life seems awesome. I feel so insecure because I fear the fact that she may have second thoughts about us and I always feel like I have to look out for this kid and it is keeping me from living my life. What should I do? (link)
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Stop comparing yourself to this guy. They almost got together, but they never actually did. She chose you every time. Clearly you mean more to her than he does.
Also, if she ever did leave you for this guy, she is obviously a bit of a whore. I'm assuming you have better taste in women than this though, so I'm sure she will be loyal to you.
Toodle-oo
Miss Piggy
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so im the girl who a while back asked how to pick between my bf and my guyfriend and sadly i picked my gf and i say sadly bc a month and a half later he broke up with me and said really hurtfull things then 2 weeks later i find out hes going out with my used to be bestfriend and since he moved on i thought i would too.ok so some i went to this 1 week summer program and me friend told me she thought my guy friend liked me nd i kept saying he probly doesnt but on the last day me and some friends were playing uno and i was sitting in the teachers chair nd he asked if he cud sit with me nd i sed yes and he kept putting his hand around my waist but at the time i had a bf so i kept pushing it away and in the gym he kept touching my thighs nd telling me you know big thighs mean you have a big ass nd so on nd i want to know if things like tht mean he was flirting and he likes me nd if he does how do i get him 2 ask me out nd if he dsnt thn how do i get him 2 like me and im 13 f (link)
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I remember you! Hopefully you learned from this situation: one guy at a time. Do not have any male best friends while you are dating someone else. You shouldn't date someone until they are already your best friend.
As for this new guy friend, he is definitely flirting with you and he already likes you. Just make sure you flirt back and answer all of his questions honestly. For example, if he asks if you like him say yes. Don't play around. This isn't elementary school anymore. If you are honest and patient he will probably ask you out.
Good luck missy!
Miss Piggy
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Its been almost 2 weeks now since me and one of my bestfriend basically stopped talking to eachother. Idk what to do because im constantly thinking about it and its been making me a bit depressed lately.
Here's the story: Me and my friend used to be very close but within time he caught feelings for me that were more than friendly. He told me it was mainly because i had helped him through alot and been there for him. I didnt feel the same way and kind of wanted to stay just friends. He was hurt once i told him and he countinued to crush on me for like 6 months. He would start dropping flirtatious comments in our conversations that used to be just joking around. He started bringing me gifts to school which he made me accept. He told me he would think about me and dream about me every night. He would get very jealous and possessive over small things like me hugging my other friends goodbye (that happened to be boys) when i was about to leave. He just started to become a bit obsessed not taking no for an answer. He turned into this completely different person. He tested our friendship constantly.I would constantly tell him to start treating me as a friend and NOT as his girlfriend in an attempt to save our friendship that basically only i was fighting for. One day he told me that one of his friends came to him saying he should "date a girl to make me jealous" and at the time he assured me he would never do something like that to me. Not too long after that he did just that. He told me a while ago about this girl that supposedly lived across the street from him. She was suppose to have this big obsession with him and liked him ALOT. He told me he didnt like her back but also would make up little stories about her coming to his house and force kissing him or she staying over his house and sleeping beside him and stuff like that. Then he would have me "chat with her" over his phone and she would basically drool over him and call him hot and tell me how much he loved me and not her and how sad he was that i rejected him. Well later i found out the girl actually lived in Mexico and spoke barely any english. (She had a fb so i messaged her) I was pissed he lied to me about everything just so i could be jealous about it (which i wasnt). So we had stopped talking for a while and he was pretty upset and whatever and had regrets which convinced me that he wouldnt try it again so i forgave him. I made him promise never to lie to me anymore and we put it behind us. Recently he told me he was dating this girl that was Japanese he would start comparing her to me saying she's prettier and saying all these things about her. He sent me a picture of her (which i didnt ask for) and it showed this very pretty Asian girl that looked like a model. At the time i was fishy to if the picture was real because you could see very faintly a website name in the corner. So i searched the picture on google and found it everywhere on websites with Japanese hair styling models. So i confronted him and he denied EVERYTHING saying he was being god honest with me that was her and that he had promised he would never lie to me again and that he was sticking to that. But the thing was the evidence was THERE i found it on over 700 results on google which proved it was a fake. So he kept denying it for weeks until eventually he admitted it. So i told him to stop speaking to me and dont text me anymore. Now he keeps sending me pleading messages on FB saying he's very sorry and that he knows he's a bad person and he just wants me to talk to him and that he admitted he was "so obseesed with me it made him push the limit". Now lately i have been depressed because this guy was one of my bestfriends (before all this stuff happened) and we were really close and we used to talk to eachother about problems we were having and help eachother through it. I really trusted him. Im the kind of person that cant hold grudges too long (past personal reasons) and because it drives me crazy to keep someone in your head. My heart is weak. Even the people that kick me to the curb or hurt me i still see some type of good in them and think that there must be a reason to why they do the things they do. I think that the person would change within time or with someone supporting them. Unfortunately i learned the hard way. But now we going to start school soon and im afraid it will be kind of awkward because we both stay after school a bit later when all of our friends have gone home because we have late car rides. Im afraid just like the last time we got into it, he will start venting to his friends and they will try to convince me to forgive him and get me to talk to him again. (Mind you alot of his friends are my friends as well. Its basically a clic we have) and i honestly dont even want to deal with that. I dont want to deal with him silently staring at me everytime we see eachother in the hallway or when im walking too class. Idk what to do now. (So sorry it was long thanks for reading!) (link)
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Relationships are not defined by one person. He cannot force you to have feelings for him. But, you also cannot force him to treat you as just a friend. To him you are a little more special than just a friend. This is his problem to deal with, and he should not act as though it is your problem. He should not try to make you jealous by inventing girlfriends that do not exist, saying other people are better looking, etc. This is immature behaviour. But, it is also typical behaviour. Don't feel too awkward around him. He obviously doesn't take rejection well. But, he will eventually get the message.
The star of the Muppet Show,
Miss Piggy
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
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I urge you not to kill yourself. I do not know what God would have to say about it if you did commit suicide because I am not God. But, I can promise you that you should trust God enough to keep living. God has a plan for everyone. Think of jail as a place to learn and grow. Learn about yourself, pray, and become a better person.
And in the meantime before your hearing, try your best to enjoy life. Take hot baths, eat cupcakes and see friends. There are so many blessings in life.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I'm almost 20 and when I was 18 I tried an online sugar baby/daddy site that I paid $26/month for about 3 months.I wound up getting a lot of messages but I didn't get very far into anything because at the time I still lived with my Mom and was too shy to follow through or even drive around the city let alone to another city to meet some stranger.
I'm in a failing relationship now and I think I'm just done with it for a while.
I'd like to try my hand at becoming a sugar baby.
The thing is I'm not this silly whorish teen, I'm very intellectual so I'm not the bubbly idiot type it seems like men look for. I've also only ever had sex with one guy who knows nothing beyond the basics and I'm not really comfortable with having sex with a stranger on the first night and that seems to be prevalent in the stories I'm reading from sugar babies.
I'm also worried because I could never tell any of my religious family what I was doing and all of my friends live out of town now. I don't want to go out with some guy and vanish forever and have nobody notice until I'm already dead...
Other than my obvious fears I think it sounds like something I would like to try out because I'd really like the cultural experiences that come with traveling and going out to events that I otherwise would never be invited too. I'm not going to lie I'd also really love to own something that was real gold and a few pairs of designer shoes.
I work really hard right now (full time) and cover all of my own bills and have an apartment, car, ect so I have a great work ethic but I'm still not making the amount of money I'd like to have and I'll honestly never be able to afford real education as I don't qualify for much financial aid being a middle class white woman and all my money goes to my bills. I also don't fancy an 80k education loan that will shadow me my whole life.
I've been working since I was 16 and I'd really like a break and I'd like to chance to live it up while I'm young. I don't want to wait until I'm 80 to have a little fun I want it now and I'm tired of working endlessly for little pay off and the stories I'm reading those girls get 8k a month which something I couldn't even fathom just for going out for a few nights with some guy and being pretty arm candy. I could do that. I know it sounds superficial but come on it's easy work right? I would never tell anybody either so nobody would know me as a whore or any such thing.
I'd really like to at least give it another go but what are some things I really need to think about before trying it?
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You seem to have this fantasy that you can date rich guys and get paid for it with no other strings attached. This is not going to be the case if you do follow through with this.
What you are talking about doing is sex work. These men are going to expect sex. Nobody is paying you to be their "arm candy". Rich men can get girls hanging all over them for their money without putting out any day. They are registering online because they want sex.
What you are thinking of doing is prostitution because like it or not, these men will expect sex quickly. I'm not saying there is a problem with this morally. If you want to have sex for money, go right ahead. But, what I am saying is that all the risks that accompany regular prostitution apply here as well.
It is not easy work. Oftentimes in the sex industry a person begins of their own free will but is later forced into activities that they would rather not participate in. It may be your choice now, but when you are alone in the room with your client, things get risky. Your fears of "going out with some guy and vanishing forever" are not exaggerated. In a best case scenario, you will be paid lots of money to sleep with men who lack basic social skills. In a worst case scenario, you will be forced to sleep with many people who are violent, rude and disrespectful.
Oh yeah and that great pay that you are hearing about? That will last for awhile. Until men start beating you up on the job. Then you will be forced to hire a pimp to protect you. And they will not be fair to you when it comes to pay. You will get little more than what you would make working any other job while your pimp gets approximately $300 000 per year. (I am not making these numbers up. I watched a presentation on human trafficking this year).
The point I am trying to make is, yes it sounds glamorous. But in reality, the sex industry is run by men. Women are not treated right even though they do most of the work. It is physically dangerous and often doesn't pay as well as people think.
Why don't you try meeting a rich man and charming him honestly? Forget all of this sugar daddy stuff and just find yourself a rich boyfriend who you can trust to not abuse you. And in the meantime, what is stopping you from earning your own money? Or if you want to feel glamorous and do something fun why you are young, why not try acting? Reality TV might be a good option for you.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I am in a four year relationship. My boyfriend is 23 and I'm 21. So I've found that I don't really enjoy the sex, I suppose I don't really like the feeling. He tries to satisfy me everytime, I only seem to orgasm through stimulation. I don't want to tell my boyfriend this, that would hurt his feelings, sometimes I do wish we didn't have to do it so often, because we do, almost everytime we see each other and this is worrying as I do see a future with him. What could be causing this feeling? (link)
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It is actually next to impossible for women to orgasm vaginally. You are completely normal! It should not hurt his feelings because it is literally not possible to achieve orgasm through intercourse unless you are doing the woman on top position. And, even then it is extremely rare for a woman to orgasm.
Your boyfriend needs to learn about the female body. Show him what feels good and what doesn't. Don't worry about hurting his feelings. It is better that he knows the truth now. That way, you might actually start enjoying sex.
Good luck my little piglet,
Miss Piggy
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My best friend has been going to bad places and doing drugs and things that are going to affect her life. I love her and really don't want her to get hurt. I've tried to talk to her about it and she acknowledges what she is doing and she knows it's bad for her but she doesn't care and she continues to do theses things. I just don't want her to mess up her life and regret everything I really want to help her! What do I do?!? (link)
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I have been in your exact situation. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. She is making her choices, and she will have to deal with the consequences. Will she get hurt? Probably. But you need to trust that your friend is strong enough to survive this. Rather than trying to save her, respect her right to make mistakes. We are all only human and everyone does things they later regret. Of course it is painful to watch someone you care about make mistakes. But, people learn by making mistakes. Mistakes are a part of life. Even though your friend knows she is making a mistake, she still hasn't learned the life lessons that come along with it. That is why she is continuing this behaviour. Unfortunately, some people learn things the hard way.
The only thing you can do for her is to continue to be her friend. Treat her as you always have, not as some rebel. Don't define her by her bad choices.
Also, this is a chance to focus on yourself. Rather than thinking "She is making so many bad choices!" try thinking "She is making her own choices and I respect that. Those are not the choices I would make, though. I prefer to respect my body and lead a healthy lifestyle". What you can learn from this situation is that you make good choices! Congratulate yourself, and don't judge your friend.
Also, if you are feeling stressed, try taking bubble baths. Believe moi, it works!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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My mom and dad divorced 2 years ago and she has been in a relationship with this guy for 10 months. He was always kind of off but I never thought he would actually hurt my mom. He has bipolar depression, drinks a lot, and does drugs. My mom is an alcoholic and when she drinks, he beats her. These 2 people lived with them and they told me about what he does. He would drag her by her hair across the floor, he would throw bottles of liquor at her, he also smacks, kicks, punches, and grabs her. She would stay the night at his house over the weekends and her room had no bed, she would have to sleep on the floor like a dog. Everytime she would try to sleep, he would bang on her door until she finally let him in and then he'd hit her. She has pictures of the bruises and cuts.
He is also verbally abusive and calls her names like bitch, fat, ugly, whore, and c*nt. He uses her for her money and once she gives him what he wants he kicks her out of the house and calls her multiple names.
She is "too in love" to tell the police. She is afraid he will hate her.
My dad, siblings, the 2 people who live with them, and I went to the police to report it and they said nothing can be done unless she files a report. We are trying to help her with her drinking and she won't let us do that and just says to take her back to him. She also says she deserves to be smacked. I really have no clue what to do. I really need help. I don't like seeing my mom like this. (link)
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Unfortunately, there is not much that you can do to get her to press charges or stop seeing this man. Her choices are her choices. One thing that you could do is talk to her about establishing healthy boundaries. Tell her that even if she wants to stay with this man, she should consider staying with some relatives for awhile. This might give her the space she needs to think more clearly. Even if she sees him during the day, if she went home to a safe space at night she would have time to herself to think. Dating an abusive man is terrible, but living with an abusive man is even worse. Try to encourage her to stay with relatives who are more stable. Another thing you could talk to her about is the money that she is giving this man. Tell her that she earned that money herself and that she should not give it away to someone. Tell her that she deserves that money and that she should spend it on herself. If she disagrees with these ideas because she is in love with him, tell her that love is not the same thing as respect. She may love him and he may share those feelings for her. But, if he doesn't also show her respect the relationship is unhealthy.
Also, tell her she deserves some "me time". Tell her to go shopping to spend some of her money on herself, or to spend a day at the spa. Time to yourself can work wonders! When a person loves themselves, they start demanding respect from others.
Your favourite muppet,
Miss Piggy
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What he did to me was simply; he lead me on. He had said more than " I like you" and literally went from 60 to 0 in a few days. I respect his relationships and feelings completely because he's been a long time friend and I never want to see him get hurt although he's hurt me. I know there's things I could've done differently to have avoided him getting pushed to far away by my behavior at times. I guess my main question that is left is, does he really think after everything that we can go back to being good friends? It just seems as if itd be a bad idea for the sake of both of our feelings and of course his girlfriend's. (link)
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I'm not sure how old you are, so that might be part of the misunderstanding. As you get older, there will be men who will tell you they love you, have sex with you and then leave you. When you protest they will say things like "Yeah I love you, but I never said we were in a relationship!"... This is how a lot of men are. What you are experiencing is the younger version of this.
You need to understand something right now: men don't lie, but they don't talk the same way girls do either. Physical actions mean nothing to men. And men can have feelings for multiple girls at a time, unless they are truly in love with someone. It is not an honour to have a guy like you. Guys like half the girls they see. If you learn this now, dating will become a lot easier for you in the future.
I know it sucks, but if you practice listening to what guys are actually saying as opposed to what you want to hear, you will understand the truth a lot faster. What this guy said to you is "I like you". He did not say he wanted a relationship with you. He then proceeded to date someone else.I'm sure this guy didn't lie to you. I'm sure he liked you. But liking is not the same as wanting a relationship.
I don't like he went from 60 to 0 in a few days. He probably likes you just as much as before - along with half the other girls he speaks to. And he probably preferred his ex all along. And that's what it boils down to.
He probably hopes you will stay friends, but if it doesn't work out he has already not chosen you anyway. Of course this hurts, but think of it as a learning experience. Next time a guy kisses you and tells you he likes you ask him to put his money where his mouth is and take you out to dinner.
I also want to say that I feel for you. I have met my fair share of selfish guys. They all act this exact same way. But, because of these lessons, I have been more selective in life and I eventually found my frog. We have been together for eight years, still haven't had sex and he wants to marry me. These are all things I would not be able to say if I trusted every guy who told me he liked me.
Much love,
Miss Piggy
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I'm a 20 F and he's a 36 M. I'm cognizant of the age difference--my parents have the same one. I work in a drug store, not an office or anything, and I'll be leaving the job in several months.
Anyway, we've worked together for three years and I've liked him for almost the whole time. He was always rather distant with me but when I came back from school this past semester he started acting different.
He teases me constantly. He mocks my voice when I say something; ANYTHING and smirks at me when I whine about it. He puts price stickers on me, stands in my path so I'll push him out of the way, etc. We weren't very physical up until recently. Now we try to trip each other, he (gently) poked me in the kidney, and he did the same to my arm. If I stand on a piece of paper he's trying to get off the floor he'll bend down and grab my ankle to pull it up, and I grab him for balance.
He mimics weird tics I have, like pressing my nails together and rubbing my stomach. I kick at his feet when he does and he steps lightly on my toes.
I started texting him a few weeks back. Nothing pushy, just initiating conversation. He talked a bit at first but now he's starting to really open up and the past two days he started the conversation with me. We texted for six hours last night and made plans to go to the movies together.
We went to the movies last weekend with another coworker and it was good. Nothing happened, of course. But he offhandedly mentioned he wanted to see a movie and I said 'Movie date!' and he replied "you want to go??" I said sure and asked if we were inviting other people. He said we could but I said 'ehhh, they smell, though' and he agreed and said "well then, just you and me."
There have been other isolated incidents over the years. Last year before I left for school I was sitting in a room that bridges the store to his office. I was on the counter and he was passing through and I made a teasing comment that I was almost as tall as him. He's 6'1" and I'm 5'2". He stepped close to me, almost to my legs, and smiled, shook his head, stared right into my eyes, and said, "No, you aren't."
The only other major incident was also before I left for school. We were going into the office where another manager was and he was kicking at my feet or something. She threw the door open and said, "Why don't you two get it over with and date already!" I was sort of flustered because that's what I wanted so I only managed to mutter something about killing him if we were to date. And he didn't get uncomfortable like I figured he would. He laughed but didn't say anything.
So didn't know what to make of that... I don't know if he thinks of me as a friend or if he's actually interested in me. (link)
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He is definitely flirting with you.
I do not know whether or not that is an indication of serious interest or just sexual tension and playfulness, though.
I suggest you start being a little serious with him once and awhile just to test the waters. For example, next time you go to the movies you could just say "Let's go to the movies". And if he asks about inviting other people say "No thanks. I'd rather it was just me and you".
Be a bit more open and maybe he will be too.
The world's prettiest pig,
Miss Piggy
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Can't sleep, feeling so low right now?
There's this guy who I thought was great for me. We've been friend for 5 years and he's always been a sweetheart. He started showing interest in me towards the end of last year and we've been flirting ever since. He has said he has always liked me and is afraid because of school he won't get to hang out with me anymore. Recently things got more serious and we finally kissed and stuff. Right after that we each made plans to hang out but all of our plans fell through. He seemed a little ticked at this and wouldn't talk to me for days. I eventually ended up seeing him at a gig he was doing, and his ex was there. He said hi to me but was ignoring her and had said he wanted to hang out with me that night after I had to leave. I felt fine about it until just today he texted me saying he had a gf again and just wanted to let me know. My bests girlfriend whom is also friends with him confronted him and asked how he could do this to me out of the blue? He said he didn't want to hurt me and he thought he liked me but he doesn't. Despite not liking me he couldn't stop saying I'm sorry, I feel bad etc and says he still wants to hang out with me and "make up" for it. I don't understand, if he doesn't want me why not leave me alone? We weren't super close friends so it's not like he losing much. If he's not into me why try to keep seeing me? Wouldn't he be more concerned with his ex gf who he's gotten back with? (link)
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He didn't do anything to you. A kiss is not a contract. All it means is "I like you". It is not a promise of a relationship. Nothing got "serious" between you.
I think the reason he is still talking to you is because he wants to stay friends. He obviously prefers his ex to you. This is why he is dating her. But, he still wants you as a friend.
Sorry if this sounds harsh or if this isn't what you want to hear. It's just that it sounds as though he has been honest with you. He told you he has a girlfriend. That is him making his choice. You need to respect that.
Your favourite muppet,
Miss Piggy
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I recently got a job at a good company, while I was being introduced to all the staffs I bumped into an old high school friend who was 4yrs my senior, and we didn't really talk much in school just hellos and hi"..... I have been working at the company for a few days... This is the 2nd week and suddenly he starts acting really nice, he got my number and calls and text and just 2days ago we went out after work to hang out while I was in his car I could feel him staring at me, he was always holding my hands, and he took me to this very cool, quiet romantic place. while we were talking we kissed, he told me that he liked me a lot, and we talked about us and what we wanted, he said things like will I be loyal to him if we were dating and all that..when we got back into the car we kissed again almost made out. But before then he asked if I had a bf and I said no and when I asked he said yes, but the relationship was on the edge bcos shes in a different place and they hardly communicate, they don't call or text. They hardly even talk.... But I feel like he isn't honest with what he told me about the relationship, I feel like his just saying it 2 get me and I feel a little cheap to have kissed him on a ist date, but I am beginning to like this guy but I feel guilty that I kissed a guy who has a girlfriend already... Yesterday he asked me to hang out with him today I said yes, but now I am giving it a second thought..... what should I do I am so confused.. should I just end the friendship and everything associated with it. (link)
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Do not hang out with him. This guy is not your friend. He is a player. He's either playing you, or his girlfriend or both of you.
Get out of there and find yourself someone nice who is also single. And until you find that nice guy, bubble baths and chocolate cake might help you feel better.
Your favourite hammimal,
Miss Piggy
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hen I was 12 years old,I met a young man about 13.We met in church.We hanged out alot and we were close.He left the church with his dad who was singing there at the time.
I am 24 now and he is 25
I moved to another state,and he is still in California
3 years ago we got back in touch through Facebook.At first we were texting and talking always,and throughout this period we had times of seperation due to personal problems,not neccesarily with eachother. The times that we kept texting we just kept getting closer and closer.And we love eachother.
We are planning to see eachother in September.Ive saved money and Im happy.
The problem is is that I have beliefs.I am not Jewish,but I keep Shabbat and Bibical Feasts.And the Bible clearly states that I cant be un-evenly yoked with a non-believer.He does not believe in any of this stuff,whereas,I havent talked much about it.Hes very serious about me and wants to marry me.My mom is very strict about our Bibical beliefs and she won't have a heathen with her daughter.I also don't want to go to hell and lose the beautifullness I have with this man that I love.I feel torn.Should I stay or tell him goodbye and be with someone who shares in what I believe? I dont want to leave him,even thinking has left me crying for hours at a time.Please,what do I do??
I dont want to abandon my faith,but dont want to loose my love! (link)
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Have you ever heard the expression "The perfect is the enemy of the good"? This man that you love may not be perfect for you. He may not believe everything you believe. Your family might not approve of him. But, I bet he is good for you. I bet he loves you. I bet he makes you happy. And I bet that love is a gift from God.
You are a human being. You are not perfect, and you will not be no matter how hard you try. Even if you think that in a perfect world you would have a man with beliefs exactly the same as yours who your family loved, that is not the way things have turned out. God gave you this man. It may not be what you or your parents planned, but you love him. And true love comes from God.
Is it bad that your want to stay with him? No. As human beings, our desires are never perfect. Our feelings are complicated. Life isn't that easy.
What matters isn't whether or not you follow the law of God exactly. What matters is that you love God with all of your heart. God understands our humanity. He does not expect us to be perfect. And He blesses us every chance he can, regardless of how imperfect we are.
Follow your human heart. Stay with the man, and pray to God for guidance on how to make the relationship work despite your differences. God must have put this man in your life for a reason.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Okay so I've only had sex twice (three times if you count doing two different positions.) and never did the condom break and I had him pull out before he came however the third time we didn't use a new condom. We used the same one that still had sperm in it. My periods are very very irregular usually (sometimes every two months) and I haven't come to when it should happen yet but I'm getting worried and I'm usually someone who overthinks anything. It would have been a week ago. Are there any signs I should look for? I don't like feeling this anxious. (link)
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Yes, you could be pregnant. Wait a week or two. If your period still does not show up, go to your local pharmacy and buy a pregnancy test. Make sure you buy one that can detect pregnancy within the first couple of weeks.
If you are pregnant, just remember that you are not alone. Talk to a friend to get some support.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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My boyfriend and I are 17, and we’ve been dating a little over 5 months. Before then, we were strangers. After about the first three months, we've argued almost everyday, sometimes more than once. He is very insecure, jealous, overdramatic, inconsiderate, and he is my exact opposite. Even his brother has told us that before. Our ways of thinking clash... a lot. Sometimes I feel like I'm being used. yada yada yada. We break up often, and a lot of times I don't mean it, but he'll pressure me into doing it by telling me to, or constantly asking if we're done until I break and tell him yes. I used to not mean it, but lately I've wanted it to do it for good. I've seen a completely different side of him, and it isn't good. I just can't imagine marrying him while our relationship is like it is. We are too different, and we think different. How will that work if we have kids? Well, every time I break up with him, he'll start crying and apologizing, saying he wants to kill himself (one time he actually cut his wrist in front of me) So, I give him, because he seems like he will really change, until the next day we're fighting again. I do love him, and I can't imagine not having him in my life, but I can hardly take it anymore. What can I do? The future scares me. (link)
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It doesn't sound as though this guy is the one for you. If you want to break up with him as safely as possible, the best idea might be to take him to a public place where he cannot be violent. Maybe Starbucks or something? Tell him you want to part ways because you want to experience what it is like to be independent. If he freaks out, make it clear that you are not interested in any other men. Tell him you just want your space. Allow him to digest this information at the coffee shop. Do not go anywhere in private with him or he might get very angry. If he asks to stay friends, agree to this but explain that for the next little while you are going to need a lot of space. Then, for the next month or so, try not to see him. If you do want to spend time with him, do not spend it alone with him. Invite some other friends along. This guy needs to get the picture that you need space.
Even though you might love him, this is an unhealthy relationship and you need to set some boundaries.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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