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You have good advice but I don't think you understand my situation?
What he did to me was simply; he lead me on. He had said more than " I like you" and literally went from 60 to 0 in a few days. I respect his relationships and feelings completely because he's been a long time friend and I never want to see him get hurt although he's hurt me. I know there's things I could've done differently to have avoided him getting pushed to far away by my behavior at times. I guess my main question that is left is, does he really think after everything that we can go back to being good friends? It just seems as if itd be a bad idea for the sake of both of our feelings and of course his girlfriend's.
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I'm not sure how old you are, so that might be part of the misunderstanding. As you get older, there will be men who will tell you they love you, have sex with you and then leave you. When you protest they will say things like "Yeah I love you, but I never said we were in a relationship!"... This is how a lot of men are. What you are experiencing is the younger version of this.
You need to understand something right now: men don't lie, but they don't talk the same way girls do either. Physical actions mean nothing to men. And men can have feelings for multiple girls at a time, unless they are truly in love with someone. It is not an honour to have a guy like you. Guys like half the girls they see. If you learn this now, dating will become a lot easier for you in the future.
I know it sucks, but if you practice listening to what guys are actually saying as opposed to what you want to hear, you will understand the truth a lot faster. What this guy said to you is "I like you". He did not say he wanted a relationship with you. He then proceeded to date someone else.I'm sure this guy didn't lie to you. I'm sure he liked you. But liking is not the same as wanting a relationship.
I don't like he went from 60 to 0 in a few days. He probably likes you just as much as before - along with half the other girls he speaks to. And he probably preferred his ex all along. And that's what it boils down to.
He probably hopes you will stay friends, but if it doesn't work out he has already not chosen you anyway. Of course this hurts, but think of it as a learning experience. Next time a guy kisses you and tells you he likes you ask him to put his money where his mouth is and take you out to dinner.
I also want to say that I feel for you. I have met my fair share of selfish guys. They all act this exact same way. But, because of these lessons, I have been more selective in life and I eventually found my frog. We have been together for eight years, still haven't had sex and he wants to marry me. These are all things I would not be able to say if I trusted every guy who told me he liked me.
Much love,
Miss Piggy
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