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mom forced me to do something optional I don't want to do.
So, in 4th grade religion school the teacher asked who wants to be an alter server and I didn't raise my hand. He wrote down the names of kids who did raise their hand, and then when I got home my mom for some reason called the church and asked when rehearsal was. When they said I wasn't on the list she asked me why, and I realized she wanted me to do it and wouldn't stop until I did, so I let her sign me up. It's been about a year and I've tried to get used to it but the more I try the more I hate doing it. I don't want to do it anymore, but I'm afraid to tell my mom, and I'm afraid that everyone in the church will hate me if I quit. Can someone tell me how to tell my mom the truth?
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First question is that: Why you hate doing it? There's supposes to be an answer to that! If you don't want to do it anymore, don't be afraid to tell your mom. You know that your mom loves you for who you are. So there's no reason to be shy to talk to your mom about it. Your mom, is here to show you the right path, but, she cannot force you to do the things that you do not want to do. Why don't you spend more time with her, and tell her about the situation. That will change her mind and that will make her know that you can make your choices no matter what!
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Okay, I'm going to tell you straight up where your problem is: You are not saying WHY you hate it. If you have any hope of convincing mom to let you quit you are going to need a very good argument. Just saying you don't like it is probably NOT going to cut it! Let's say you feel uncomfortable with everyone watching you. You could say to mom, "Mom, I know it means a lot to you for me to be an alter server and I have have been doing it because I love you and I don't want to let you down, but the truth is I really don't like it. I get all jittery and sort of feel like I have to throw up every time I do it. Could I please be excused from doing it for now? If I feel differently when I am older maybe I will try it again. I am serious, mom this would really mean a lot to me. I am REALLY uncomfortable doing it so please don't force me." I am sure no one in the church will hate you if you stop! Hating is NOT what church is about! Good luck!
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Wow your in the 4th grade!!? you sound so mature together, more so than some of these 16-20 somethings, which makes me wonder if these are real people, but what ever here goes, YES...just tell your mother you don't want to do it, or your going to be hating yourself...that's life, just tell your mom the truth...and make sure you have something to takes it place, because you know that mom of yours is going to be bugging you to do something else...and then get a checking account and start saving money and get a part time job, cause you'll be wanting to move out someday...just saying prepare now...
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Hi there! It sounds like youre unhappy with your situation,and the best thing is to tell your mom that you are uncomfortable in doing this.Don;t worry about others and what they think! If you are not comfortable and happy there is no reason why you should have to be there,prayfully your mom will understand!
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