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How can u stop
How do you stop yourself from loving someone ? :( like is it possible to love someone your not with your whole life ?
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If you truly love someone it doesn't ever go away. It may be in the back of your mind 20 years from now but it will always be in your heart,
I still love my high school sweetheart and I always will and I am now 50 years old. Haven't seen him since I was a teenager but it doesn't matter the distance or the time frame it is always there.
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Miss Piggy explained it well. I will try another idea to get a point across. You can be angry at a person and want to pick a fight with them, either a verbal one or a physical one, but the fight never gets going if the other person doesnt respond back. Yes they catch a punch or may be hurt by your words but they can choose to avoid you and disappear so without them around to actively let your anger out on to punch or assault with words, nothing will ever come from it. You can want to have a fight with them all your life for some imagined wrong or whatever...but after enough time has gone by, even the want to have a fight with them will slowly dissipate as you are removed from the situation.
Same thing as the love that isn't returned, one cant really have that being in love relationship until the other responds. Until then, it... like anger is just an emotion in your heart that your sub conscious mind is trying to keep alive. You must re- focus your mind on something else each time memory of this person comes up. Basically you need to retrain your subconscious mind to let go. Talk to yourself and state aloud that though you love this person, the love is not returned so it is fruitless to continue to hold a love for the person forever. Fond memories...yes, but love....no. Tell yourself aloud each time that person comes to mind to stop thinking of him. It will occur more often than you think and you will weary yourself will reminding yourself umpteen times a day to stop doing it. But eventually, it will occur less often and less still as time goes on. If you do nothing actively working with yourself to stop focusing on the person, then it wont happen and all you;ll do is torture yourself with feelings over something you can't have.
Actually this happen often in the world of dating where one person is attracted to and falls for someone but they feel nothing in return. We all have experienced that or know someone who has. But that shouldnt hold us back from pushing on to find someone who feels the same love for us as we do for them. It is much more rewarding to move on and search for mutual love than settling for less and living with a memory and the pain of un-requited love.
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You do not stop yourself from loving someone. The other person stops you.
Love is like an invitation that one heart sends out to another. You feel for someone and you hope that they accept that invitation. If they break up with you, if they have feelings for someone else, if they choose their job over you, if they are not interested in a relationship, etc. they are rejecting that invitation of love that you have extended to them.
You will still feel for the person long after this kind of rejection. It can literally take years But, that feeling you are talking about is not being in love. It is the potential to love. It is your own loving heart that you are experiencing. To actually be in love takes two people.
The good news is that even though your heart may call out to that special person for your entire life, your heart will eventually stop trying as hard, as frequently and as passionately because it will eventually meet another soul that matches yours. Your heart will then begin calling out to that new person and hopefully, you will not be rejected the next time.
Hope that helps!
Miss Piggy
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Love is a very strong emotion that cannot be demanded or denied easily. When you love someone, they basically become your everything and even though it feels like you'll never love anyone else, it is a possibility. Don't deny your feelings towards that person or else they'll most likely grow stronger. The way to stop loving someone is to distract yourself from thinking about him/her. For example read, workout, watch tv, whatever. It may take months but eventually you'll go a day thinking at least only once about that person. Then, when you're ready, talk to new people and maybe you'll even get a crush. Time changes everything. Don't be so hard on yourself!
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