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My best friend needs help and i don't know what to do.
My best friend has been going to bad places and doing drugs and things that are going to affect her life. I love her and really don't want her to get hurt. I've tried to talk to her about it and she acknowledges what she is doing and she knows it's bad for her but she doesn't care and she continues to do theses things. I just don't want her to mess up her life and regret everything I really want to help her! What do I do?!?
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For my advice, there is NOTHING you can do! She has to deal with her own consequences. Even if you love her, she made her own choices! And also, she knows that what she's doing is bad! So why don't you ask her this. “If you know what's bad, why are doing these bad choices? ”. This question will get her thinking a lot. But if she still doesn't care, leave her. If you are still her friend, she could influence you of doing what's bad. The best thing to do, is to make new friends, that you could spend good time with. She will know that you were right, but for the moment, let her think, and let her decide on her life!
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I have been in your exact situation. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. She is making her choices, and she will have to deal with the consequences. Will she get hurt? Probably. But you need to trust that your friend is strong enough to survive this. Rather than trying to save her, respect her right to make mistakes. We are all only human and everyone does things they later regret. Of course it is painful to watch someone you care about make mistakes. But, people learn by making mistakes. Mistakes are a part of life. Even though your friend knows she is making a mistake, she still hasn't learned the life lessons that come along with it. That is why she is continuing this behaviour. Unfortunately, some people learn things the hard way.
The only thing you can do for her is to continue to be her friend. Treat her as you always have, not as some rebel. Don't define her by her bad choices.
Also, this is a chance to focus on yourself. Rather than thinking "She is making so many bad choices!" try thinking "She is making her own choices and I respect that. Those are not the choices I would make, though. I prefer to respect my body and lead a healthy lifestyle". What you can learn from this situation is that you make good choices! Congratulate yourself, and don't judge your friend.
Also, if you are feeling stressed, try taking bubble baths. Believe moi, it works!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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there is nothing you can do, if I were you, Id be sure not to be with her when shes doing stupid things, cause guess what...you could be with her, when someone tries to rob her, or rape her, or she overdoses on something..while your with her...IS thAt what you want? AND JUST REMEMBER THIS you cannot live someone elses life for them, your not her mother...everyone has a path...find your own, and stay on it...ditch her, do you think she cares enough about you to help you? nooooo because if she did, she wouldn't be self destructing like she is to HERSELF....be smart, be busy when she calls,
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You my dear,sound like such a wonderful friend to care so much!!
Do her parents know whats shes doing? If not,first sit down and talk to your parents and tell them whats up,they may also be concerned and may want to talk to your friends parents. This could very well be a life and death decision and you dont want her to overdo a drug or like you said,regret things.You are concerned,so tell your parents and see if her parents and yours can talk about this.I believe it may be the best way,I pray it all works out :)
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