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two days ago my long distance girlfriend said she didn't want t really continue with our ongoing relationship. We have been in a logn distance relationship for about 2 years. I was pretty hurt when she said it , and it was partly my fault but i felt really guilty and hurt that i wasn't able to do anything. Its been 2 days since we haven't communicated and i have been extremly depressed and don't get sleep at night.
Just a few minutes back she texts me saying 'Goodnight' . Should i reply back to her? i really don;t want to and i really don't want to work on the relationship because i put a lot in it initially but in the end when i wasn't getting anything returned i took it lightly. I really don't want to get back but i really love this girl. and i feel if i reply , one thing would lead to another and cause us to come back together. I am not being a jerk but i don't want to get hurt again , because of the mistake i made. Should i reply back to her? ...
NO. You absolutely should not reply back to her.
Long distance relationships never work.
Ever.
If the relationship wasn't fulfilling for either of you, there's no reason to work at it.
Also, just because she texted you "good night" doesn't mean she wants to pick up the relationship where you left off.
She was probably bored, or lonely, and knew for sure you would answer her.
Don't.
I have a bit of an acne problem. Its just a little thing, its not excessive like other people. Its just a little here and there, but I have blackheads like CRAZY! I dont know how to get rid of them! I cant afford ProActiv, or any of those other problem-solving products. Does anyone know of any home techniques or for lack of a better word, recipes to help get rid of them?
Start making sure you're washing your face twice a day.
It's harder for blackheads to develop when your face is clean.
Habits like picking at/touching your face can make it worse.
Also, wash your pillowcase often, or at least turn it inside out. Oil from your skin can collect on your pillowcase and ruin all the hard work you've done to keep your face clean.
After washing your face, you can extract the visible blackheads with a pair of tweezers. Then apply half a lemon's worth of juice mixed with a tablespoon of honey to the area.
My sister used to do this for some blackheads on her nose and now she's got perfect skin.
for the past 3 weeks i went on a bit of a starvation diet.
i havr 700 TOPS calories a day, usualy from the 400-600 range, on bad days 700.
i got my period 4 times in one month and iALWAYS have to make number 2.
i feel like anything i eat just come out.
i dont eat enought to be making so much but i do!
is everything ok with me? is htis normal?
do you think me getting my period 4 times (maybe 3) in one month relates to this? i have 2 anorexic friends that DONT get their period bc they dont eat...
whats wotn with me!
What's wrong with you? You've been starving yourself for a month. That's what's wrong with you.
My advice? Stop starving yourself. Please.
You're going to wreck your metabolism, which in the end will not make you slimmer, or lighter.
A body will go into starvation mode and begin to store anything that it takes in as fat. This makes you bloated and makes you gain weight.
Regardless of how much you're eating, your body will still produce waste. That's why it's so important to stay hydrated when you have abnormal bowel movements.
And, no, everything is not okay with you. And what's happening with your body is not normal. Or healthy.
You need to eat well. Period.
Instead of having a tic-tac for lunch, have some salmon. It's not like you have to decide between a stick of gum and a triple cheeseburger. There is a balance.
If you're eating more calories than your body can metabolize, don't starve yourself. Get up and take a walk. Go swimming with friends. Play a sport you enjoy. Get active.
You won't burn extra calories sitting around starving yourself.
You need to see your doctor right now to make sure you didn't do any irreversible damage.
Starving yourself is NOT the way to get healthy.
You're obviously dealing with the repercussions of that right now.
WebMD has an article on How to Eat Healthy.
Notice it says How to Eat Healthy and not How to Starve Healthy.
http://women.webmd.com/guide/nutrition-101-how-to-eat-healthy
at 72 should I do strenuous exercises?
If you are capable of strenuous exercise, yes.
However, if you haven't gotten up off the couch in the last seventy two years, start slow. Do simple yoga and light cardio, like walking.
You should talk to your general practitioner before you embark on a fitness or diet plan regardless. He'll know better than I do what's best for you.
Hello. I'm 18/f. I've only had 2 serious boyfriends. My current boyfriend I've been dating for 3 years, & stuff is really rocky right now. I know we love each other but I don't know if we'll make it through this time.
The thought of losing him terrifies me. Among all of the fears of losing HIM, I also have the fear of dating...
I've dated him since I was 15. It was instant...we never really took it slow & i already knew him before then.
I was just wondering if anyone out there had any ideas on how to get over the dating/kissing new people fears/nerves.
Any advice is appreciated.
Thanks!
The way to get over a fear of doing something is to just do it.
Dating is different with everybody. You've got to relax and go with the flow. You don't need to put pressure on yourself to kiss someone or to be intimate right away. Let everything happen naturally, instead of wondering "Is he going to kiss me?" or "Should I kiss him?".
Everybody is afraid of dating until they actually start dating. Then they realize that it's not as bad as they're making it out to be.
I'm not going to lie to you, it's going to be hard to take the plunge into the dating world.
You're young, and have all the time in the world to learn to play the game.
That's what dating is. A game.
You'll never learn the rules until you start playing.
Hi, this might take a while to explain. I have this problem where my emotions go crazy. For example this one girl i really like we hang out and right when she leaves i feel the world is ending i get upset wanan cry get all flippy/upset and dont know what to do.I feel like my emotions are to stong. Its the same way when i get really happy i act like someone buzzing on drugs or something. I dont know what to do. This ruined my last relationship i get mad and upset when the person does something without me because i miss them and stuff. Im really a nice person and im not jealous my emotions go crazy and i cant help it. I dont know what to do? how do i stop this? i cant take it anymore its getting too annoying. Like she sat there and told me we can hang out and stuff next week and was fine and i wanna be like that like carefree about stuff. I get too attached and too upset easily, way to easily. Please help. Ps if i talk to my doctor, is there anything he can put me on to help with it?
Please help
Lots of times, the medications prescribed to treat mental disorders, etc. don't work to solve the problem. Trust me, sometimes blindly taking medications can backfire and make you depressed ALL the time instead of half the time.
You can talk to your general practitioner and he will refer you to a good therapist that you can talk to about how you're feeling and what you can do about it.
This is serious enough to affect your quality of life, and you deserve to get some help dealing with your emotions. Your doctor will know what's right for you, based on your family history and other factors involved.
i like this guy name ty well i use 2 we were always hang out i mean all the time! before he i asked him out and he turned me out we were always talk bout who we like or who was goin out with who now everytime i talk bout any other guy he gets always get upset and mad and just at me like he goin just slap me then change the subject. ! of my friends said he probably just thought i would be more sad bout talkin 2 him bout other guys its my imagiantion or he likes me. but i really dnt know
He sounds posessive. Even if I like a girl, I don't care who she talks about when she's around me. She has every right to talk about other guys. It's natural.
This guy seems very insecure and threatened by the competition guys other than him. If he wasn't, he'd be listening to you and not trying to change the subject.
There is the possibility that he just plain doesn't like the guys you're talking about or the way you're talking about them, especially if it's in a negative way.
I wouldn't jump to conclusions about what this means.
Okay so me and my bestfriend are getting closer then ever. We txt each other all day,we call and gossip like teenage girls do and we juss laugh at juss about everything. We are sooooo much alike its scary. But the thing is, we are a trio with this other gurl but i dont like her. Okay,me and her have been friends in the past but its like we share the same best friend and i absolutely hate it. I mean i juss dont like her. She so whiney and baby-ish. She's just not the type of person i would like to hang with. I know that my bestfriend can be friends with whom ever she wants but how do I tell her i dont wanna hang with this third person. I hate when she invites her out with us when we go to the movies,restuarants,ect. And lately my bestfriend has mentioned us living together at the beginning of next year.....ALL THREE OF US. I dont want to but i juss dont know how to tell her that im stingy with her and i dont want to have to hang with other people that she's cool with. What to do????!
You don't have to hang out with this other friend if you don't want to.
You need to tell your best friend flat out that you like spending time with her, but not this other girl. She'll understand if you're nice about it and don't badmouth the girl you don't like.
17/f, boyfriend 18/m.
So me and this boy started dating in June. We had met in late may at a friends party. Thing is, he and I both knew he was moving at the end of August. Why did I even get myself into this? I have no clue :/. I lost my virginity to him because I was stupid and thought it didn't make a difference who I lost it too. The relationship now has grown a wee bit stale due to multiple factors like-
1)he can't get over his exes.
2)He's so distant from me always, we don't even hold hands in public.
3)He's leaving, obviously a big factor.
I just don't know what to do right now, I keep on asking myself WHY I'm with him? He's my first real relationship. My friend told me he doesn't believe in love at this age, which makes me feel like I'm being used (and yes, used in THAT way.)
I'm trying to think of things as "casual" - should I stop thinking that way?
He's leaving soon, and I really just don't know what to do with myself, I feel depressed and horrible about myself, like I'm worthless and only good for being used.
On the whole other side, we're really good friends in general.I've become friends with all of his friends, they're awesome people and I don't want to loose them! I'm actually interested in his brother, who knows more about relationships than he does. Would it be wrong to go for him after I've dated his brother? He is leaving, anyway..
I know this is confusing, I'm so upset that I don't know what to do anymore. Even other people see that he doesn't treat me right. Should I break up with him now, or just wait it out until he's officially leaving? ANY advice on ANY questions I've asked would help so much, thank you!
If he's not treating you right and the relationship's not going anywhere, break up with him.
You can still hang out with his friends and all but it would be wrong to start dating his brother.
Ok so I'm a 20yr old male that can't stop drinking soda what can I do. ???what other drink can I replace it with? ?? That taste as good I love orange soda,sprites, and Dr.pepper the most plz help any advice would be good
Thank you
A healthier alternative is to drink an Izze. It's basically sparkling fruit juice and it comes in lots of flavors.
The carbonation isn't good for you, though. You can gradually switch over from sodas to sparkling fruit juice or sparkling water, and then from sparkling fruit juice to plain juice or water.
It's not impossible.
Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.
Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.
Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)
My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it?
It's natural to have powerful feelings for a guy older than you. You don't need to be ashamed about your feelings because you're not doing anything wrong.
It is wrong, however, to act on your feelings.
He could get into serious trouble.
I think I have anxiety issues. I will list some things to help you decide. I think alot about my future, what I'm going to do, what I'm going to become and sometimes I think to much about it and I realize I have no clue what I want to do and I'd cry because I think I am going to get nowhere in life, sometimes I get mad at myself for being three pounds over my normal weight. But I don't really know what anxiety attacks are which is the reason I am asking this question, to see if someone can explain to the fullest amount what they are. What the anxiety attacks are, uh, so famous people you know of that has them and how it's affecting their life (I only say famous because I would know them, as well. "Oh, my best bud Jimmy.." I wouldn't know him) I believe Alex Gaskarth has attacks. Uh, yea. Please fill me in, that'd be great! Thanks!
Anxiety attacks are physical.
Anxiety attacks are your body's reaction to a perceived threat.
They're brought on by external stimuli.
An anxiety attack is to anxiety as orgasm is to sex. During a panic attack, you feel an overwhelmingly intense surge of panic. You feel like you're losing control of yourself, like you're going to die or faint. The rapid heart palpitations, chest pain and difficulty breathing experienced during anxiety attacks makes some people think they're having a heart attack. Sudden hot or cold sensations are common. You feel like nothing can be real, or like you're watching a movie. You shake uncontrollably and feel sick to your stomach. Many people vomit.
There are lots of different types of anxiety disorders. You can decide better than I can which one fits you best.
Talking with a therapist can help you determine which anxiety disorder you have. I suffered with a debilitating anxiety disorder for the past three years of my life, but I started seeing a therapist and I haven't gotten an anxiety attack since.
Johnny Depp has an anxiety disorder. So do Oprah and Joan Rivers. You're definitely not alone.
I know how it feels to be anxious all the time or have a panic attack. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's great that you can admit you think you have some issues. That takes more courage than I had a couple of years ago.
I hope everything works out.
I want to work out and become healthy and everything, but I just am not motivated. I also have no access to a gym or personal trainor. Any suggestions?
I know I feel great after I work out.
That accomplished feeling alone motivates me to work out regularly and to push myself harder and harder.
You don't need access to a gym or a personal trainer to get healthy.
You can do it from your home.
Figure out what motivates you.
Is it the thought of having rock hard abs? Huge, powerful biceps? Maybe shaving some excess weight off and looking more lean and toned?
Seeing your hard work pay off in the mirror and how you feel about yourself is a great motivator.
Sometimes you need that extra push.
Get a poster of a guy or girl with the body you want so you can look at it for motivation. Don't get a poster of a starving, emaciated supermodel or a bodybuilder on steroids. Get something realistic, like a poster of Jillian Michaels or this guy:
http://www.allposters.com/gallery.asp?startat=/getposter.asp&APNum=409453&CID=46E9A035EB80453B95625BAFC281485F&PPID=1&Search=athletic guy&f=t&FindID=0&P=1&PP=68&sortby=PD&c=c&page=1
Your decision to start working out is admirable.
Now you've got to get out there and do it.
Jog or walk around your neighborhood.
Do crunches on the floor in front of the television.
Do bicep curls and tricep extensions with heavy dictionaries or inexpensive dumbells.
Set realistic goals for yourself and chart your progress daily using a measuring tape, not a scale. The muscle you're going to gain weighs more than fat, so your overall weight won't be a good indicator of your progress.
Cut greasy foods out of your diet and replace them with fruits and vegetables. Instead of having a triple cheeseburger, have some salmon.
Being healthy is easier than you think, trust me.
What does a guy mean when he says your too emotionally immature for relationships?
My boyfriend broke up with me because he said Im too emotionally immature. I don't get how he says im emotionally immature when Im more serious than he is. Hes the one that acts immature, he parties instead of worrying about college work and I don't do that. What did he mean Im emotionally immature?
This guy probably means to say naive, instead of emotionally immature.
Regardless of you mature you are, you can still be naive when it comes to relationships.
Or he just wanted an excuse to break up with you.
Eighteen. Female.
So it was my first time being fingered a few weeks ago, it was amazing haha.
But I didn't really know what to do. We were making out while doing it and then I was on top of him and he was still doing it and he was breathing really heavily, I was thinking this was normal ..thinking he was turned on. Am I wrong? But I didn't know what I was really suppose to do. When we weren't making out, and he was on top of me I would like rub my hands through his hair. He asked if it felt good ..I said yes.
I feel like he was doing everything to me though and I felt kinda bad about it. He was kissing me all over: the neck ..the stomach. He took my bra off and then licked/kissed me all the way down from my neck to my inner thigh. It was just too dang good ;) but what can I do in return with him? Besides the obvious ..handjob/blowjob.
I didn't just want to do the same thing he did to me, the kissing and stuff. Is there anything I could do next time that would make him feel as good as he made me feel?? :) It'd be nice to surprise him, without having to ask what he likes.
SO any suggestions on what you guys like, or girls..anything you can share that you know your boyfriend likes!! Thanks!
As a guy, I get turned on just by seeing my girlfriend enjoy something that I'm doing.
Guys are very visual. That's why we like all the lingerie, or the makeup you girls put on. Guys are way more visual than girls are. Seeing the expression on a girl's face or seeing her breathe more heavily when she's obviously enjoying what you're doing is...well, it's kind of awesome.
And it's also a HUGE turn-on when a girl runs her fingers through my hair, btw. I don't know why, but us guys love it!
Anyway, sounds like you're doing just fine with this guy. It sounds like he was turned on. What guy wouldn't be?
I was on vacation, and I met this amazing guy. He lives about 20 minutes away from me, and we met four days ago. I ended up bonding with him over our taste in music, and we got along so well and had so much in common that I felt like I've known him for years. He put his number in my phone, and the reason I found this significant is because another girl gave him her number and he tactfully denied her. He told me to text him to let him know what my number was, so I did. He didn't have good service, so his phone was off when I sent the text.
The thing is, he never texted me back. I just don't understand how a guy could give me all the signs that he's into me (he said I was pretty, and he took pictures of himself on my phone "so that I wouldn't forget him," and he carved a stick for me and told me to "keep it forever," and he put his name in my phone as "___(his name)___ is awesome x3", which i believe the "x3" to be a heart, but i don't want to boldly assume this.)
and completely ignore me the next minute.
Even though he ignored my text, I added him on facebook and myspace when I got home from vacation, and he accepted my requests but didn't send me any messages or anything...which continued to leave me confused.
He's at skateboarding camp for a week right now, and I'm going crazy because I can't stop thinking about him and whether or not he is even remotely interested in me.
It normally wouldn't be that big of a deal if a guy was acting "hot and cold" like this, but I really feel like this guy is special. I felt like we had a connection while we were hanging out on vacation. We talked a lot about hanging out again in the future, so I'm not sure why he doesn't want to keep the communication going.
What do I do?!?!
Text him again.
Maybe he didn't get it in the first place, if his reception was bad.
Don't wait for him to message you first. It's okay to message him first on social networking sites or to text him first.
Don't jump to conclusions about whether he's playing you or not.
It sounds like he's really interested in you, so I'm sure he wouldn't mind it if you contacted him.
Okay so I'm a girl and I sweat a LOT. I don't even wear shirts with sleeves because I'm afraid of getting pit stains.
What's a good antiperspirant that will take care of this?
The Secret clinical strength antiperspirant works pretty well for my girlfriend. She used to have the same problem.
You can get it right here at drugstore.com:
http://www.drugstore.com/qxp165432_333181_sespider/secret_clinical_strength/anti_perspirant_deodorant_light_and_fresh_scent.htm
was wanting to know how i could last longer in bed so i can make my woman more happy and if there is any tips as far as making my woman happier in bed?
Right before you're about to orgasm, start going more slowly, or switch to oral sex.
You can pick up the pace again until you're about to orgasm, and then start taking things more slowly again.
I need help!! I am in love with my boyfriend and we have all these plans for the future and he is my best friend. Things are perfect, except one thing, I can't stop cheating on him. I have cheated on him twice, and told him the very next day. And I don't know why I cheat, I do think about him while I am doing it. I just don't know how to stop it and say no. I need to be able to hang out with a guy and be trusted by my boyfriend and I need to trust myself. I just don't know how to stop and gain the self control. HELP Me! Please
First off, stop saying you can't stop and you can't control yourself.
You CAN control yourself.
Tell yourself that.
Right now.
I CAN control myself.
Once you believe it, it will become true for you.
Stop responding to other guys' advances. Just stop it. Your boyfriend obviously loves you a lot to forgive you TWICE for something so hurtful.
Are you drunk or under the influence of drugs or medication when you cheat? Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and you can't think as clearly as you can when you're sober. It's understandable to do something you later regret when you're drunk.
If that's the case, I would advise you to stop drinking/doing any drugs before you go out with men that aren't your boyfriend.
See a therapist to find out exactly WHY you have this urge to cheat on the boyfriend you say you're in love with. You might just be making excuses for yourself.
Bottom line: cheating is wrong.
You CAN control yourself.
15F
ok so ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 months but we've been friends with benefits for a year i really love her and miss her i havent talked to her for 2 weeks ive tried calling her, email,texting, ive left messages and i still have not heard from her is trying to avoid me??? is she hurt??? does she wanna break up???
Girls can't stand the smell of desperation.
Give her some time to respond to your messages before you jump to any conclusions.
If you're really worried, talk to her about it in person. She could be going through something difficult in her life right now and doesn't have time to respond to you. Or she could've dropped her cell phone down a storm drain. It could be any number of things.
Point is, it's not worth obsessing over. Take a deep breath and give her a couple of days before you try to contact her again.