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I'm a mess.
17/f, boyfriend 18/m.
So me and this boy started dating in June. We had met in late may at a friends party. Thing is, he and I both knew he was moving at the end of August. Why did I even get myself into this? I have no clue :/. I lost my virginity to him because I was stupid and thought it didn't make a difference who I lost it too. The relationship now has grown a wee bit stale due to multiple factors like-
1)he can't get over his exes.
2)He's so distant from me always, we don't even hold hands in public.
3)He's leaving, obviously a big factor.
I just don't know what to do right now, I keep on asking myself WHY I'm with him? He's my first real relationship. My friend told me he doesn't believe in love at this age, which makes me feel like I'm being used (and yes, used in THAT way.)
I'm trying to think of things as "casual" - should I stop thinking that way?
He's leaving soon, and I really just don't know what to do with myself, I feel depressed and horrible about myself, like I'm worthless and only good for being used.
On the whole other side, we're really good friends in general.I've become friends with all of his friends, they're awesome people and I don't want to loose them! I'm actually interested in his brother, who knows more about relationships than he does. Would it be wrong to go for him after I've dated his brother? He is leaving, anyway..
I know this is confusing, I'm so upset that I don't know what to do anymore. Even other people see that he doesn't treat me right. Should I break up with him now, or just wait it out until he's officially leaving? ANY advice on ANY questions I've asked would help so much, thank you!
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If he's not treating you right and the relationship's not going anywhere, break up with him.
You can still hang out with his friends and all but it would be wrong to start dating his brother.
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i think you should end it now, causes you less pain and then from there do what you think is right about his brother. no one can tellyou what to do about that. only your heart can tell you, if you think it could lead to something big, possibly him being your true love, then move and go after him. take him before hes taken and your chance at rightfully deserved love is taken with him.
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in a nut shell;
it's better to be healthy and alone then stay sick with someone else.....in other words...if he does not treat you as you expect to be treated, run and dont look back...
granted, this sounds easier said then done of course, and i know it hurts, but no one has the right to treat someone badly or abusively...
let him go and find what you truly deserve....
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Clearly, from what you have siad, you are not getting anything positive out of this relationship. It needs to e a two way street, and you should not feel like you are being used, and it sounds like you are.
You need to get to know guys much better before having sex with them. Look at your 3 things list... that also tells you things you want in a guy...
1. a guy who is over his exes
2. Someone who is emptionaly present
3. someone who is comfortable with hollding hands in public
4. a guy whose not about to leave town anytime soon
I'm sure you can add things to this list... And don't settle for a guy who is less than you want. You deserve to be treated better.
Leave the brother alone until you've sorted out what you want. Yeah, break up now. His leaving town soon is no reason for you to hang in there with an uncomfortable relationship.
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i personally think you should end it now it will be hard but it needs to be done and dont go for his brother... until after he leaves. that sjust what i think you should do
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