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17/f, boyfriend 18/m.
So me and this boy started dating in June. We had met in late may at a friends party. Thing is, he and I both knew he was moving at the end of August. Why did I even get myself into this? I have no clue :/. I lost my virginity to him because I was stupid and thought it didn't make a difference who I lost it too. The relationship now has grown a wee bit stale due to multiple factors like-
1)he can't get over his exes.
2)He's so distant from me always, we don't even hold hands in public.
3)He's leaving, obviously a big factor.
I just don't know what to do right now, I keep on asking myself WHY I'm with him? He's my first real relationship. My friend told me he doesn't believe in love at this age, which makes me feel like I'm being used (and yes, used in THAT way.)
I'm trying to think of things as "casual" - should I stop thinking that way?
He's leaving soon, and I really just don't know what to do with myself, I feel depressed and horrible about myself, like I'm worthless and only good for being used.
On the whole other side, we're really good friends in general.I've become friends with all of his friends, they're awesome people and I don't want to loose them! I'm actually interested in his brother, who knows more about relationships than he does. Would it be wrong to go for him after I've dated his brother? He is leaving, anyway..
I know this is confusing, I'm so upset that I don't know what to do anymore. Even other people see that he doesn't treat me right. Should I break up with him now, or just wait it out until he's officially leaving? ANY advice on ANY questions I've asked would help so much, thank you!
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i think you should end it now, causes you less pain and then from there do what you think is right about his brother. no one can tellyou what to do about that. only your heart can tell you, if you think it could lead to something big, possibly him being your true love, then move and go after him. take him before hes taken and your chance at rightfully deserved love is taken with him.
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Hi, 18/m. ( live in the uk if it helps)
Basically, here's my situation. I live with my mother, my parents have been separated for years as my father was an alcoholic and I don't see him, nor do I want to. Recently, my sister and her boyfriend have moved in with us so that they could save some money for a deposit for a house, and so they will be moving out.
I just finished college (so I guess high school as an equivalent) and before I go to university, I'm taking a year out to save some money. My mum wants me to go to university in the city that we live in. We have 2 universities- one which is in the top 10 best universities, and the other which isn't great at all. I would ideally like to go to a university somewhere in the middle I.e. Out of the city, but my mother really wants me to stay at home as she is I'll with arthritis, as well as other problems. I understand where she is coming from as she will be living alone etc.
So my question, am I selfish for wanting to leave the city? My grades are not good enough to go to the good uni, but the bad university isn't much respected. Any help? (link)
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I dont think that you are being selfish. your 18 years old, you want some freedom and to be away from your home for a little time. im 17 and just like many other people our age we want to taste freedom, we dont want to be reatrained. i think you should go to the school you want to, just make sure that you visit your mom as much as you can to just make sure that she knows you didnt and wont forget her. that could be what she's worried about,that and your being safe and like most parents dont want their kids to grow up and leave them. my mom keeps tellin me that when im married im still going to live here. parents are afraid to lose their kids and afraid of getting old. you growing up and going onto the university just proves your not her little boy anymore.
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idk wats worth living anymore. me an my gf jus fight all the time over nothing, an its manly cus i talk about feelings, an she jus gets pissy. im loosing ever so slowly the only thing i love in this life. id die for this girl an for only her jus to get anoyed by me, thats fucked. im loosing everything. all i do is fuck up,, so wats the quickest way to end ur life painless. im tired of feeling pain, i want to jus be in a better place to where i can live an be happy, cus obviously im doing a good job here........... (link)
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i have close to the same problem, but it's with my best friend, i stupidly and like many stories predict, fell in love with him. i would do anything to see him happy but when i see him with another girl itcauses me physical pain, and in a weird way that most of my friends dont get, its a pain that i enjoy, just cuz its pain. i want to die cuz i want to be the one to make him happy, but he wants the girl that told him togo to hell, not the one that would willingly and without second thought die for him. so your not alone, i just hope your problem gets solved in a better way than death.
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