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Communicating with girlfriend after a breakup , i am scared to do it. Help!
two days ago my long distance girlfriend said she didn't want t really continue with our ongoing relationship. We have been in a logn distance relationship for about 2 years. I was pretty hurt when she said it , and it was partly my fault but i felt really guilty and hurt that i wasn't able to do anything. Its been 2 days since we haven't communicated and i have been extremly depressed and don't get sleep at night.
Just a few minutes back she texts me saying 'Goodnight' . Should i reply back to her? i really don;t want to and i really don't want to work on the relationship because i put a lot in it initially but in the end when i wasn't getting anything returned i took it lightly. I really don't want to get back but i really love this girl. and i feel if i reply , one thing would lead to another and cause us to come back together. I am not being a jerk but i don't want to get hurt again , because of the mistake i made. Should i reply back to her? ...
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NO. You absolutely should not reply back to her.
Long distance relationships never work.
Ever.
If the relationship wasn't fulfilling for either of you, there's no reason to work at it.
Also, just because she texted you "good night" doesn't mean she wants to pick up the relationship where you left off.
She was probably bored, or lonely, and knew for sure you would answer her.
Don't.
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If you don't want too, don't.
You know that the only reason you are tempted to respond is to hopefully get back together. You also know that probably isn't the best thing for either of you and of course you'll get hurt again - two years is far too long for even most independent adults to maintain a long distance relationship. It's almost a guarantee to be an unhealthy arrangement.
As upset as you are, and as upset as you'll probably be for quite a while, there is also probably a small piece of you that recognizes this is for the best.
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