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Concerned about friends health.
My best friend last year went on a crazy diet, when she started she weighed 200 pounds. By the following year (April of this year) she weighed 70 and came close to sowing. Doctors estimated she would have only had 2 days to live if she didn't come in. Now, after she's been out of the hospital, she has gained a significant amount of weight. She told me there goal weight for her was 110-120. She probably weights around 150-155 now. She tells me how she eats all night and then when she starts she can't stop. I don't know if I should say something or just keep my mouth shut and let her gain more weight. Being underweight isn't healthy, but neither is being overweight. I think her monnisnjust happy she is eating. Her mom isn't very good with this stuff, especially since i'm the one that had to force her into the hospital. I just dot know What to do o say. Any advice is appreciated, thAnks.
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Your friend sounds bulimic, I'm surprised a doctor hasn't diagnosed that yet, or maybe she just doesn't discuss it with you. In any event, she might be doing some serious damage to herself if she is binging and purging or begins to start purging. Right now it seems as though she is just binging, but I think there are some things going on that beneath the surface of her life, that you might not be aware of - possibly some childhood abuse and other issues.
Regardless, your friend has a serious mental issue, that is being ignored by her mother. Your friend is likely close to adulthood, and once she turns 18, it will be hard to get her the help she needs because she will have free will and independence.
There are 2 things that you can do right now. First approach her with your concerns, and offer to go with her to talk to a licensed state or school therapist. That therapist will point you guys in the right direction or help you right away with counseling. Please hold her hand with this, because she won't be motivated to complete the process without your help. You're really all she has.
If she refuses, then tell her that you are going to call Child Protective Services on her mother if she will not go, then see what she says or does. Don't give her more than 24 hours to think about it. If you give her a week or something, she might get her stuff and run away from home.
If she still does not cooperate, then cal CPS. Your friend is on a dangerous and highly suicidal path. Though I hate the idea of intervening when a person is competent, I feel that if once you have given her a chance to seek the proper help, and offered to go through it with her even, and she refuses. Then if she is a danger to herself or others, the police or court appointed doctors have to intervene. BUT PLEASE DON'T JUST DO THIS BEHIND HER BACK!!!
Give her a chance to make the responsible choices. IF she says no, TELL her that you're going to call CPS, if she doesn't make the responsible choice. IF SHE STILL DOESN'T or WON'T make the responsible choice, then call CPS.
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