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Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

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I just broke up with my long-distance boyfriend 2 days ago because I couldn't handle the distance. I really do still love him, and I'm not handling the break up well.

We decided mutually to be friends, but it's not really working. He's being unusually mean to me (which is to be expected I guess, since it's only been 2 days). This is too hard on me, and every time I end a call with him I end up crying. My feelings for him are still strong, but I do want to stick with my decision. Today we planned to chat at a certain time, and it's about 2 hours past & he's nowhere to be found.

My question is: should I cut off all contact? I really would like to be friends, but I can tell it is clearly going to take me some time. Also, if I do decide to cut all contact..should I tell him or just do it?

Btw, I'm leaning more towards the 'just doing it' option, without telling him, because after I talk to him it usually leaves me wanting to talk to him again. If I just stop contact, I won't have a chance to talk to him first. My only concern with this option is that when I am ready to be friends (maybe a month or so down the line), he won't want to speak with me/be my friend because I did the no contact thing without telling him. Ahh, please any advice would help!! I just want to be happy again. Thank you.

Sorry for the late reply :)

You say you want to remain friends, but if you couldn't handle being in a relationship because of the distance - it will still be just as difficult to maintain a friendship as well.
A friendship isn't what you need at the moment - it will still leave you feeling down when you message/talk to him because you still love him.

I was in a long distance relationship, and the same thing happened to me. What I did is I said I'd still remain friends - but really I had no intention of doing that - because I would still think about him, miss him, check his facebook 24/7 etc.

I don't know if just doing it option is fair. If he cut you out of his life completly you'd have so many questions you wanted answered and he wouldn't answer them because he wouldn't want to know you anymore.

Prehaps you can remain "friends" but day by day, week, by week, speak to him less. Keep yourself busy. I did it completly the opposite - I deleted ihm straight away of facebook etc, any things he ever gave to me I moved out of my eyesight etc etc.

I do think you need some space from him.
So it's your choice either way you do it - because it will be painful all the same.
But make sure you leave it on a good note :D

And if you arranged to chat, and he blew off he'll do it again. He may have a reason - But I've been through this, and you'll feel like their reason isnt good enough. You'll see if you dont cut it off - you'll both just get busy and end up getting disappoitned when he doesn't bother to speak to you.

Cut of all contact, it's your choice how you do it.
Keep yourself busy.
You're mature enough to realise it isn't working.

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what is revision?

studying over what you've learnt in class.

There aren't classes for it. Each schools are different. Some MAY have classes, but most of us do "revision" in class - incase we have a test coming up in that subject.

Inbox if you need anything :)

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My grandpa has Alzheimer's and it's really, really sad to see him deteriorate. I'm really scared for him and want to see him get well. I know he probably won't ever be cured of the disease but I thought that maybe there might be some natural remedies that help reverse some of the Alzheimer's or lessen the symptoms. Maybe something that is natural that stops Alzheimer's from progressing so rapidly? His medications and doctors don't seem to be helping and I just thought...maybe somebody knew SOMETHING that MIGHT help fight the disease?

And please don't call it old timers or anything :( it really breaks my heart when people throw that wording around...

My grandpa died of Alzhiemers :(
I was seven, and I went to see him and he had no idea who I was and got so scared.
I remember watching something last year on tv about just playing music - having a radio on is supposed to keep their brain active, something along those lines. I definatly remember music. Research it, something is bound to come up.
Hope I helped :)
My thoughts are with you and your family x

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I'm trying to decide if I should read 'Out of Africa' or 'Lord of the Flies' for a school assignment. I was wondering which one would be a better pick for a school assignment (with typical things such as theme, plot, literary elements, character, setting, etc.) and which was a more interesting read. I started 'Out of Africa', and it seems pretty good so far, although there have been a few boring moments, but most books have a few those. I was just wondering, overall, which is more interesting.

Any opinions?

I would personally choose Lord Of The Flies.
I'm doing at moment of college, acting :)
It's really interesting and focusing on innocence children trying to survive on an island.
There are some great charecters - bossy(jack), peacemaker(ralph), and piggy (fat, innocent and bullied) for example. There are so brilliant themes - power,conflict,bullying,survival,relationships etc and I don't find a dulll moment at all.

but thats my opinion,
hope I helped :)

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is anyone in a long distance relationship?i want to know how people make it work and keep it going.what do you guys do when your apart to make your relationship stay strong??

We live two hours frome eachother :)
We call eachother in the evenings - we know when we're not busy - which is the evenings.

We facebook eachother quite a bit, arrange specific dates to meet eachother in advance so we can put our work and other plans around that.

Just be careful and make sure he/she wants it as much as you do. My boyfriend does, but the last one didn't, and I should of seen it coming :)

Also keeping honest, telling eachother how you feel helps keep the relationship and bond strong, thats why we fell for eachother - we had a good bond. Always make sure you can keep those reasons why you fell for eachother and express those.

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I was just wondering how all these girls I see scrunch their hair? I don't know anyone who does so I have like nobody to ask. So how do u scrunch hair anyway?

A Simpler Way :

- Get Some Mousse, Spray Some In Your Hand, Then Clasp/Crunch Your Hair.

After You've Done That, Spray Your Hair With Hairspray For Extra Hold.

That's How I Do It

:) Hope I Helped

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hi!!! can anyone tell me how to take a video and just turn it into the song? what i mean is that i just wand the sound and not the video anymore so i can put it on my ipod my iphone or my mp3player i use in the car.

does anyone know how to do this?

please and thank you!

I sometimes use zamzar.com

:)

Simply post the link, and they email you the song.

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Is it just me or do other girls feel guilty after sex? I feel really dirty and awful and sometimes I cry when I am alone later. Nobody is forcing me to have sex... I am the one going after the sex but when it is done i hate myself so much! Can girls feel guilty after having sex or am I the only one this ever happens to?

No your not the only one :) Infact, a lot of girls do feel bad.For me, I think it's down to the fact I frown upon girls who have sex with anyone, and I frown upon it in general if isn't out of love. So even though I'll do it out of love, I stil feel bad because my attitude to sex is always negative, and then I guess feel bad, like I've become a hyprocrite and broken my morales. That's why I can feel pretty bad. Maybe you should stop having sex,until you're happy with the fact that you're doing it, you shouldn't have to feel uncomfortablea afterwould.

:) x

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hey. thanks for the advice. i need to ask you something else too.
me and him havent been getting along the past week. and we have barely talked. and we normally always talk whenever he gets the chance and he alwyas used to call me at night before we go to sleep and he doesnt do that either.
we talked on friday and got in a huge fight and he told me he had to go to bed cause he had work at 7 in the morning but i should text him when i wake up. so i did. and i said i love you and he said it too.
so that morning when i woke up i texted him. he never called or texted me then whole day. so i texted him this morning and i still havent gotten anything back.
idk why he is ignorning me and idk what to do.
i dont wannaa keep calling him and texting him cuase i dont want to be annoying but im like miserable here.
ive never gone a day without talking to him. and he never ignores me like this.
what should i do?!

It looks like you’ve become really dependant on him, you freak if he doesn’t talk to you for more than one day – and trust me I was like this. At the start it was ok, when I couldnt see him – and he had time for me – we spoke and had lovley convos, when I went up to see him it was nice- but it got to point where it wasnt the same, and I didnt feel the affection, he told me he feels. It was almost like he was saying things to keep me sweet, to keep things ok. But it got to a point where he got busy, and we would argue because I wasn’t happy I wasn’t getting the same amount of attention as usual – I was dependant on him. NO GIRL SHOULD BE LIKE THIS. That isnt a relationship – that is infactation – I got to a point where I would feel so down if he didnt call, didnt come online – near to tears, and I would get parnoid – And i swore I would NEVER be like that.
You need to decide if your relationship is worth the hassle and the misery. It’s going downhill between you two, and he’s getting busy. It will stay like that. Being so far away, you can forget the reasons why you even liked the person, or why you are even with them when they require so much from you! Take your head from out of the sky, and realise you don’t NEED him to be happy, you were yourself before him, you’re not now you are with him.
It’s not going to get easier and I wont lie. But I will say this TALK TO HIM. Communicate how you feel, ask him about why he hasnt replied, and tell him why you are upset. I never explained why I was upset. You have the two options – to save the relationship and just ACCEPT that he has his own life of his own – your only a very small part of that. OR to end it.Save yourself the misery, and wait and see that there might be a closer person, more suitable for you. I realised there was a REASON why tom lived far away – it WASN’T meant to be, but I did get experience from it. I broke it off, and couple months later, I’ve found someone else, closer to home, who doesn’t make me miserable. Why put yourself through the stress?

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so my long distance boyfriend hasnt talked to me all day and im really upset about it
and we both have to the same company of cell phones so it says when he gets my texts.
hes got all my texts except one from like a couple hours ago so either he is out and doesnt have service or something
but when i call him his phone rings and everything
and i thought when you dont have service it doesnt ring and just goes straight to voicemail.
he always has a ringback tone for a ringer if that helps with my question?

so im kinda thinking he went and got my number blocked.but i dont think he would do that.
so idk waht to think/
help meee!

Why would he block your number? If you are in a relationship, and nothing is wrong then you have NOTHING to worry about. I’ve done this – been in a long distant relationship. I found myself re-thinking things, questioning littles things – getting worried. DON’T do those things, that I did. Just relax, he could of been busy, anything could of happened. But I’m sure he wouldn’t block your number – unless you’ve fallen out? Anytime you start to doubt things, or have any negative feelings you must talk to him, in order for you guys to be happy, you obviously aren’t if you are accusing him of blocking you. Hope I helped 

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do u know what does the 2 finger sign mena???? like the peace sign but in the other way... (not between the mouth....)???
thx

It means.
Fuck Off/Fuck You/Piss Off

etc etc. Same as middle finger really:)

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Im 19 and the cop is 22
I have recently meet a guy who is a cop. I meet him at my job he comes to get therapy at my job. Is been about 2 weeks we are talking more often..but the main reason we initially started talking was because i have to do an essay assigment for my college class that involves a ride-along with a police department. So i told him that i havent got any response from the other department and what should i do. So he automatically told me to go to his department and do the application and request for him, that he will do the ride-along with me. long story short...now that we talk a little more im starting to like him. But my main question is how should i talk to him, he is a cop and i never liked a cop before??..i mean what should i say to him?...i dont want to sound dumb or anything like that.. how should i let him know that im starting to like him?

He isn't just a cop.

He is a human being! Talk to him like you would talk to any other guy, make conversation, be yourself - as cliche as it sounds. He is a cop, he is bound to have some social skills..you'll be fine. I've been in these situations before - I get freaked because I think there willl be nothing to say, but there always is.

Don't let him know you like him, not at least yet. You've only known him a while and it may scare him away. He'd also be helping you with your essay - if you told him you liked him and he didn't feel the same - now that would of been an dumb thing to say as it would make things very awkard.

Just relax and enjoy being in his company. Wait a while until you find any hints that he may like you back.

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hello!

um ok i used to have this huge crush on this guy but he had a gf and she hated me so much anyways that was 2 years ago (elementary grade 7 him and her grad8) now im in high school with them and evr since shes been giving me terrible looks and she even gives my sister terrible looks (who which ,there would be no way she would know her) and he actually had the nerve to smile at me and now she thinks there is something going on between us but i cant even look at him i can NOT stand them ( i have no feelings for him) and i dont look at him at all but i can see he IS looking at me ( sorry if confusing!!) well anything you do will help!!

Girls are bitches. So she has a problem with you. Who actually cares?
She won't do anything, otherwise she would of confronted you. Be happy that your the one with your head on your shoulders, and she's the posessive and controlling one.

And the guy, he smiled at you.There's nothing wrong with that, it's not a sin to smile, its callled being friendly. Maybe he wanted to break the ice, clear up any tension that is there between the both of you.

As long as you don't pay them attention (as they are not worth your time) things should be fine. If you ignore them, don't give them eye contact, you wont even realise when she is glaring at you/when he smiling at you. They will both give up when they see you don't give a shit anymore.

Just don't waste your time on them. Show them you don't give a damn, you're the maturer person in all of this, so show them.

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hello!

well i just entered high school and i have this guy who is beside me on my locker and he also sits beside me in my homeroom so anyways so i was wondering if he likes becase last week he said we should stand close so it look like we are going out and called me sexy plus he stands really close to me and stares at me for long periods of time a soo does he like me???

You're only young. DON'T fool for it. Seriously. keep your head on your shoulders and realize - He doesn't like you, he doesn't like your personality, the only thing he likes about you is your appearance and it is OBVIOUS he only wants you for one thing.

He called you sexy. Not a good thing to say if he actually liked you, the word should of been beautiful.

Keep your head on your shoulders, don't give him any ideas, don't flirt with him. He'll only hurt you because he isn't interesting IN you. Only what he will get OUT of you.

Don't ever let a guy mess with your head.

Hope I helped

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what are some most commonly words used in bittian that are slangish words? also, what does it mean to say BADMAN to someone?

I live in england so i can help you with a few things :)

First of all, if you call someone a badman it bascially means like - well just say your friend insults someone and is getting rude - you say ohh you're a badman - basically saying you're being well rude (but in an amusing way, not telling them off kind of way)

We use some other ones
If you say someone is BADMINE - it's the same as badman

Greazy/Sick - means something is awesome/good

People use the term BLUD alot - as a term of endearment, you just say it to a friend

Some people foolishy say "I'm gonna shank you" in otherwords "I'm gonna stab you" :/

If you are going to fight someone, you say you are going to "BANG" them.

"Poomplex" is a real insult, meaning you're a P****hole :/

INNIT DOE - is a big one. You say it if you agree with some ie - your friend my say ..aw I love this shop its well cheap, and you might say INNIT DOE! Just agreeing with them

If you find someone attractive you can say
-they are BOOM/ they are a BOOMTING
-they are chung/they are a CHUNGTING
-they are peng/they are PENGTING
-they are buff (it does not mean muscly, it means they are hot/sexy)

When you rep something you might say "Bang Bang". If you are proud you use it, so lets just say you live in surrey - you say "I live in surrey bang bang" - it just shows your proud of where you come from

If you say your a GEE - it means you're a gangster


These are just random ones I thought about that I hear a lot in every day life. Go to urbandictionary.com if you want more words :)

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I'd like a good song about going anywhere in the world to be with the person you love. Something along those lines. Any genre.

Thanks!

The Man Who Can't Be Moved - The Script


It's A Lovley Song :)



Similar to what you want. Different context, same meaning :)

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My 16 year old son began using drugs about a year ago. After several groundings, I told him to either follow the rules or he would have to go live with his father (what I assumed to be the ultimate punishment...and that he would be back and ready to follow my rules withing a few days.) He has now been living with his father for two months and will not speak to me because I "kicked him out." I miss him. His father and I do not speak so I don't know if he's getting the help he needs. What should I do?


You may miss him. But you did what you had to do - you were right. You were being a responsible mother.

You cannot controll him, and its okay for you to feel that you miss him. But when he NEEDS you - he will come back. He's only angry because he is young,selfish and at that age it's all about "me myself and I". He probarbly feels like as a mother you should of supported/tried to make him stop - in a way that was VISIBLE and OBVIOUS for him to see (ie - begging/fussing over him). You have taken the role in trying to make him stop - just less in an obvious way because he isn't an adult.

If you're worried, try to get in contact in away you can - phone,email, school. OR do phone his father, just ask him if he is ok. But my guess is , he still is on the drugs - because if he wasn't, he wouldn't of liked living with his father, and would of left ages ago, wouldn't he?

Just know, that you are a good mother and I respect the fact you didn't back down and let him stay in your house whilst he is on drugs. He takes drugs, probabrly because its fun, and in his eyes you STOPPED that fun. That's why he hasn't been in contact. You stop him from doing something he likes (even if it IS damaging) him.

Find him, anyway you can, even send a letter, and explain to him you love ihm, you allways will, and you hope he is ok. Explain how you feel to him, a boy needs his mother


Sadie :)

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Okay I know that when I guy does everything his gilrfriend says, they call him whipped, but what you call a girl that does everything her boyfriend told her to?

Me & My friends use the term SPRUNG :)

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Hello I asked you a question about 3 months and i cant thank you enough for making me relise for what took me 1 and half to notice and making me move thank you so much!!!



My Question:

Ok this might be long but last year i liked this guy and he had gf but i couldnt help myself.So when he found i liked him he started flirting with me and i was head over heels for him and when his gf found outi liked him she freaked out and started talking behind my back and all her friends hated me too but in front of my friends she was all nice and polite.And then like 2 weeks after he had to leave to go to another school he said i was acting like his girlfriend and i wouldnt leave him alone.So now 11 months later im here and i cant let him go .next year i have to go to the same school he went to and then i have to see him everyday.ive tried everything to let him go but i cant. plz help me

First of all, accept the fact his girlfriend hates you, and talks about you behind her back. She's a bitch, she's jealous and sees you as a threat. Girls are always going to be like that to eachother - you can't blame her, especiallly when you told him you liked him - causing him to go behind her back and flirt with you

Sometimes when you love someone, or when your infatuated with someone - you do message them a little bit more, think about them more - go on their facebook more just to check if he has been online at alll (which then gets you parnoid if he has and he hasn't messaged you, but he's messaged other people) - maybe that's why he felt you were acting like his girlfriend.

I personally think he has to take the blame for your heartbreak. He flirted with you, made you think he liked you back - but sometimes it just a game to guys. They like it when the attentions on them. You need to STOP giving it to him.

If he's going out with a girl who bitchy - it just shows you he has no real class or taste, & if he doesn't like you - then he was never good enough for you, and he doesn't have good taste at all. You need to get over this stage of heartbreak and realise you're too good for him/ Why waste your attention on someone who DOES NOT give a shit about you. The reason I'm being so harsh here is to show, what type of a guy he is. And the type of guy he is - is someone you don't NEED.

If you still like him, you still like him, but just no he's hurt you - you dont need people like that in your life. Shut him out - delete him of aim,msn,myspace,facebook etc, delete his number. Situate yourself around your friends. Ok, so you have to go to the same school - its the perfect oppourtnity to show him what he is has missed out on girl, he has missed out on YOU. Don't give him attention, ignore him. You're nothing to him, so he should be NOTHING to you.

A cure I've found, to release the sense of sadness,rejection and angerness against a boy is music, music has helped me a lot - as I am in a similar situation. Sometimes you just can't find the right words to express how you feel. I understand how you feel- torn, parnoid, angry, sad, and sort of happy - because that's how he makes you feel..alll these songs have the perfect lyrics :)

Forever & Always - Taylor Swift
Clown - Mariah Carey
Breakdown-Mariah Carey
Now That We're Done - Metro Station
Learning to fall - Boys Like Girls
The Kill - 30 Seconds To Mars
Risque - Cute Is What We Aim For(LOVE this song)
Alive - Black Eyed Peas(*..tune!)
Meet Me Halfway - Black Eyed Peas
You Could Be Happy- Snow Patrol(Lovley Song)
Naive - The Kooks
Breakdown - Forever The Sickest Kids
Breakeven - The Script
The Man Who Can't Be Moved - The Script
Always attract - You Me at six

Try to cut out as much contact with him as possible and just think about how he's hurt you and he's the reason why you feel like this - you don't deserve to feel like this. Situate yourself around your friends, write poetry, read, and just learn you can be independant. There's going to be someone out there for you, someone who will respect you a whole lot more and never hurt you - so focus on that. You're too good for him. There willl be one day when he's going to come running after, but it will be too late. You WILL have moved on, and realised, he was NEVER worth your tears x

I REALLY hoped I helped :D xxxxx

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i've been friends with my best guy friend for about 5 years now. we use to be really close but lately we've drifted. the problem is; the things he does to me makes me wonder if he even is a good friend. i need an outsiders view because of course i love him, we're really close so i wouldn't be able to be like "hes not a good friend to me"

if i were to text him when i was drunk and say something like..."i love you best friend" he would never say anything back. whenever we text he's ALWAYS the one to end the conversation by not texting back to something i said. when i tell him my problems, he doesn't even try to help and console me he just says.."that sucks." he doesn't seem to like ANY guy that i talk to, even if i'm just friends with them. he'll be like.. your friends with him!!!? why!! he never calls or texts me to hangout, i'm always the one who has to text him. when we're together with a group of people and there are girls he will flirt with them and try to make me jealous, which just annoys me. it seems like he will only call me "best friend" when he tries to get something out of me, like when he really wants something. i mean just things like that, that makes me think... is he being a true good friend? is this something that typical guys do?

don't get me wrong he does to alot of good things! he accepts me for me. he's seen me with no make-up, my hair not done and scrubbing and he doesn't care. he always can tell when something is wrong. when we're hanging out he can always make me laugh and have a goodtime. seeing him makes my bad days better. he's the only guy who i can truly trust. he's the only one who i will fight with and know that i am mad at and should be mad at, yet i can NEVER stay mad at him. i've talked to him about him seeming like we're not "best friends" anymore and everytime i bring it up he doesn't seem to understand and thinks im crazy for thinking any of that. it's like he doesnt know that hes being like that towards me and that i do overanalyze everything.

am i overanalyzing? should i be worried about our friendship?

Have you ever thought the fact he doesnt like any guy you date or friends with, or that he tries to make you jealous, means he might LIKE YOU!? As in "more than friends". It's pretty obvious in my eyes. Make up your mind if you like him, and if your friendship is a good as you say it is, bring up the fact you don't feel you're good friends- BACK IT UP, gives reasons (ie - you never text me back, you never like anyone Im friends with or date) and ask HIM why does do that you? Explain to him, it's upsetting you, and that's not what friends do to eachother.

You're not analyzing too much :) But I think he likes you. Confront him, honesty is the best policy, you won't feel comofrtable until you've spoken about it properly.

Talk to a friend, they'lll know you both - so they'll be able to understand and see the situation clearer.

Hope I Helped :)

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