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I am 16 years old, and I am sure you are on here for advice, not to learn about my life.

advice

im 5'1, short, AND SELF-CONSCIOUS.
- my boobs, WONT grow! I'm in a 32B & im 17. its really embarrassing for me, and i just dont know what to do.

is there A.N.Y.T.H.I.N.G. i can do to, make them develop, get fuller etc.

its really humiliating,
and my body isnt beautiful.
i dont ever want to go out in a bikini,
wear tank tops etc.

- implants isnt an option for me,
something safe..

thank youuu so muchh

I am sorry to say the only way for your boobs to grow is to be patient. You could be a late bloomer, or because you are so petite, that could be as much big as you'll get.

In my opinion, huge boobs on tiny people is not attractive.

The only think you can do is get a good padded bra. You don't want it to look too fake, but enough to bump you up a cup size and fill you out better.

http://www2.victoriassecret.com/category/?cgnbr=OSBRPZZZZZZ

You can search through Victoria's Secret, but those are pretty pricey. Walmart has a good selection of padded bras. Just remember if you want to look more filled out, padded is best. If you want more cleavage, push up should be your choice. Push up of course, push your puppies up, but that also means compacting them in, which would make you look flat.

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should I be upset if all my boyfriend (of over one year) is "supposidly" getting me a postar for valentines day? I mean, I feel it's a taky gift. Or am I being spoiled. Cause I mean even my friends who havent beeen with their bfs that long are getting more than a POSTER. COme on people. Flowes say I'm sorry. Choclates say I love you, and a poster says i'm an imature little boy who needs to grow up. SO any comments?

No, you should not be upset. Instead you should be greatful for what he got you. He probably thought that you would enjoy the poster and was excited when he saw it and thought of you. You know how guys are when it comes to gifts, but you should also be happy that he is getting you something because he could easily just skip the gift giving thing. It does not by any means mean he is immature. If anything I would have to say you are immature for being materialistic like that. Just enjoy his company and the gift you get from him, no matter what it is.

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ok im 14/f
and hes 13/m
but we just meet like umm two weeks ago kinda i kinda saw him around school but never talked to him till friday nioght at the mall idk why i even did but then he found my myspace and we talked a lot and later i found out he liked me!
and i mean hes not my type of guy i more of the preppy kinds of guys but hes total skater and im liek wow
but any way he asked me out an d i said yeha:\ i really cant tell you the reason why but i did and on friday night like 2 weeks later i swe go see juno ok! and of course i see my friend with benefits zac:[
i was like upset because i liked him alot and omfg whos he with but on of the guys my friend tryed to set me up with!and so im all upset because im seeing all these guys i like"d" and then i see nathan !the guy that stude me up:[
wow what a great night right but during Juno i tried to like you know kiss my boyfriend! and we kissed so i tried to make out with him! and he dedise me!like he pules away!what the f"er" i mean come on!right and now im regretting going out with him so what do i do because i like to take things fast and hges a prude dude!

First you need to calm down. Second you should probably rewrite this so it is easier to understand. But onto the advice..
You are 14, so you don't really know much about relationships yet. If you regret going out with him because he did not make out with you in a movie theater? I'm sorry, but that's kind of low. You should NOT take things fast for many reasons.
1) You are 14 years old.
2) That may not be what HE wants.
3) It is just not needed.
It is not fair to him also that you have all these other feelings for different guys. You need to sit and think about what HE feels also, not just YOU. You have so much more to learn still, so having relationships at this age might not be what you need right now. I do not mean to sound harsh, but the truth does not need to be sugar coated all the time.

EDIT:

I would probably be able to read this better if you spoke in a way humans could understand.

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im almost 16 and have NO boobs at all. it is pathetic and i prob have the smallest boobs of any girl in my grade maybe my whole school. i havnt had a boyfriend in like forever and i know boys are probably turned off by it. do you think guys wont wanna be with me cause of my no boobs? plus is there any way to make your boobs bigger. lol

If a guy is that superficial that he will not date you because you do not have a big chest, then he is not worth dating anyways. Surprisingly, not all guys look at your chest. Once you find a boy that keeps his eye contact and does not look below the neck, it is a safe bet that he's probably a keeper. Sadly guys do not mature as fast as we do, so it will probably take a while to find that special someone. Don't be discuraged because guys look at chests. When you find someone that likes you for your insides not your out, you know he is special.

The only way to make your boobs look bigger is to get a good padded bra. You do not want it to be SO padded that it looks fake, but to the point where it will make your body look more preportional. I would not say a push up bra is good for you, because that just pushes them up, not making them look fuller. Your best bet is to just look around and find what you like. Victoria Secrets has some good ones, but you do not need to go there to get a good bra. I've gotten plenty of good ones at Walmart. Try out different ones and see which you like the best.

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oka well i have this friend and she likes this boy and well the boy that she likes is my best friend bofriend.So she had told me that the boy she likes had slept hat her house and they had did some stuff.She told me that she feels really bad about it and stuff and that i shouldnt tell my bestfriend about it.But i dont know what to do because i promise her i want tell but i cant keep promise to my bestfriend i mean i have to tell that her bf had did something.I dont know what to do.What should i do.

There are two sides to this.

You could not tell, because butting into someone elses personal problems with their boyfriend and whatnot is none of your business and you made a promise to your friend. This really depends on how close you are to the friend and if her trust and feelings is more important than your best friends. Think about it, if you do not tell her and she finds out you knew the whole time, do you think she will take that as lightly as she would if you tell her?

Or

You can tell your best friend, because you think it would be the right thing to do telling her. She would either apperitiate your attempt to spare her feelings, or she would be hurt. But you would feel like you did the right thing. The down side is that your other friend would be upset with breaking your promise to her, but promises like that should not be asked, made, or kept. If she was not willing to suffer the consequences of her actions, she should not have done something so wrong.

My opinion out of the two is to tell your friend what went down. I personally think that it would make her feel better if the news came from a close friend, because obviously it seems her boyfriend is not going to tell. You need to make sure it is true though, and have all the details before you tell her. She will be upset, and you need to be there for her 100%. I believe that not telling her is just allowing it to happen again.

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can anyone tell me what food is not good for your dog (human food) this is what my dog get occasionaly:
~coke slushy
~banana~pretty much like almost all fruit except grapes
~ice cream
~pretzel
~honey
~bread
~parts of an oatmeal cookie
~baby carrots (every day)
~(celery (every day)
~Peanutbutter (little everyday with pills he takes for hip displasia)
~um, pretty much like partially almost everything i eat...but not exactaly EVERYTHING
Ps
my dog is very healthy, and not fat, i do not give him all of these things everyday, i just want to know what is harmful to him and whatnot. thanks :-]

http://www.thedogbowl.com/PPF/category_ID/0_100/dogbowl.asp

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Sounds whiney but here's where Im stuck. He means everything and theres this gorgeous girl that goes to my school. She's Latina and Absolutley perfect in every way of course - and ... he likes her. I know that he does. Maybe not Loves her, but at the same time I know he likes her alot and it just hurts me so much. I've tried confidence tactics.. everywhting. We're quite close... but now we're drifting, because of her!! It seems shes faultless as well.. and he stops tlkaing to me so much now, and I know that hes talking to her in the meantime. The worst thing is, she's nice. She's slim. She's gorgeous. Im slim, Im not a touch on her though. I know he likes me too... but... I just need help. What should I do XD? This is making me down all the time and I just dont want to waste the best years of my life down. I wanna beat her - I want him, I know I can have him. But I cant beat her confidence/sexiness/effortlessness she has. She doesnt even try and she has him... I try... and where does that get me XD? Sorry. Im moaning. Help very much appreciated, though =]. Ta Very Muchly:)

Jealousy goes a long way. She was blessed with good looks and a good personality to go with it, but comparing yourself to her is not going to make the situation any better. This is not a competition to win this guy. You should not have to "try" and get a guy to notice you because you will come off as pushy and clingy, and no guy wants that. Right now, you need to let him decide on his own, not by "out doing" her. If he picks her, then so be it, you cannot do anything about it. The reason you too are not as close as you were before is because you are putting competition on you and this girl, and he probably feels the pressure you are putting on it. If you want to get the closeness you had with him back, you need to put this behind you. I am not saying you have to stop liking him, but you cannot make it so obvious that you push him away, like you are doing now. Let him follow his heart and do what he wants to do, and then build off of that.

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I love singing.. I sing for the choir..
sometimes i find that my throat dries out and its hard to sing...
what are some home made recipes to sooth my voice prior to singing???
lubricating the thoat so that i can sing melodiously??

Please help...

Do not drink milk before you sing. It thickens the mucus in your throat, as does chewing gum.
A Teaspoon of honey is good. Do not have anything too acidic, I don't think you want to burp during your performance. Drink plenty of water to keep you hydrated, and you should hum a lot to relax your vocal cords so they are not tight when you sing, which could cause your voice to be raspy and squeeky. Throat sprays work, even though they are for sore throats, my choir used to use it and it worked well.

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There was a story on the internet a few years ago about how a girl was riding with her boyfriend and he was drinking or something and they hit a car and she was dying and she wanted the nurse to tell her mom she loved her or something along those lines, and the people in the other car didnt make it and it ended up being her parents. Does anyone know where i can find that story? thank you

Here you go.
http://www.snopes.com/glurge/jenny.asp

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Can anyone think of a country song that can say all of the following:

I'm sorry that you love me unrequietedly, and now that you are off at war, I want you to know that you're in my prayers, and I never want to lose you as a friend

?

Travelin' Soldier - Dixie Chicks.

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I need a really good song about a boy who has moved away from a girl and she really missed him. It can be really sad if possible. Something maybe like Here Without You by 3 Doors Down.
Thanks.

xx

"Tonight" - FM Static.
"Wish You Were Here" - Incubus.
"Say Goodbye" - Skillet.

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I'm 17 and I'm' a girl....So me and this guy starting dating 3 months ago (he's my first serious boyfriend) and I really like him. We took it slow phyically but the last time I saw him we were making out and that lead to him almost fingering me. I stopped him before it got to that point but he was headed there and it scared me. I made a promise to God that I wouldn't have sex before I was married and I intend to keep that promise. I feel as though I should hate him and break up with him but he's such a sweet guy it's like I can't break up with him. He knows I've considered breaking it off and all he can do is be sweet about and tell me that it's my choice. Basically if I break it off I'm going to be the "bad guy" because he's just so sweet. From a christian perspective, because he tried should I break it off or not? I mean if the attraction between us is so strong that it is causing us to sin then should I be with someone that I cause to sin and they cause me to sin?

Just a correction, Jesus was not born by two people having sex, hence the "Virgin Mary." It was a mistake on his part, he probably didn't know how serious your morals were, but there is no need for you to break up with him just because of that. Now that he knows how you feel about it, he won't do it again. It is not worth breaking up a great relationship because of that. If it happens again, however, and he knows about your morals and beliefs, then it would be the right time to break it off. But for now, I say cool down from the shock of it all, and keep it going.

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if i eat just breakfast like a bagel in the morning and eat like a little bag of chips 150 calories and come home and go running for like 30 mintues, would that make me lose weight faster since i didnt eat that much and am probably burning more than i ate that day?

Not eating a lot will not help. You need to burn calories, which you will not do if you do not eat any. I've said this before, running without eating at all is like trying to drive a car with no gas.

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ok well im gona be giving my boyfriend a blojob soon or i think im gonna and well ive heard many rumors that you can get pregnant from swallowing cum is this true?

and like is it ok to just keep doin my thing while it comes out or will it like idk and is it gross?


You should learn more about sexual interactions with others if you think you can get pregnant from swallowing cum.

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everytime when i want pet the puppy they all goes like biting, like want to play is biting people's hand or whatever, why all puppy do that? bite everyone?

Either it does not know any better, or it could be teething. You need to train it not to bite.

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I'm 15/f, my boyfriend is 16/m and we have been going out for just over 7 months.

My boyfriend calls me every night to talk for a little bit (and he can't text, if that matters). Usually the call is like a half an hour, sometimes an hour-ish... and usually he calls around 9 or 9:30-ish and wants to leave by 10 or around there. Usually everything is fine. We can just be happy and talking normally but then once he says he's getting tired and he has to leave I get all messed up. It's hard to describe it. I always stay up later than him (often because I procrastinate or I just don't want to go to bed yet). I guess I feel like he is leaving too early and he shouldn't be so tired that he has to leave already? But I know that is totally unfair. He is really, really good to me, and I don't want to take anything away from him.
It's become like a routine to have this happen at the end of every phone call and it ends up making me cry even though he will stay with me (he just asks what's wrong, what he can do, and says he needs sleep). Then the next day at school I end up apologizing to him for keeping him up with nonsense.
I just don't know how to handle it. We've tried talking about it and we thought maybe we could fix it but it hasn't done much. I'm scared maybe something is actually wrong with me? Is this normal? I need to find a way to overcome this or just avoid it altogether, but if I ignore that I am upset while I am talking to him, I will bottle it up and it could get worse.
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend spends every possible moment with me, calls me nightly, has never ever been mad at me for any stupid thing I do, and I end up getting mad at him for wanting to go to sleep. I know it's totally unfair. I always wake up in the morning asking myself why I would ever do that to someone.
What can I do?

Honestly, the only thing you can do is calm down and suck it up. I do not understand why you get so upset when he wants to sleep? Just because you do not go to bed at that time, does not mean he can't. You can try not procrastinating, and doing everything before you and him start talking, and maybe also going to bed when he does. There is really nothing else you can do. People need their sleep. You said that you two are together 24/7 and talk all the time, so what is the problem? You seem worried that when he gets to sleep he's going to dream about someone else and completely forget about you. And I know you know that is not going to happen, because obviously he cares about you if you both spend so much time together. You at least see that you do have a problem, and you seem a little TOO attached. Mostly all you can do is take a breather and let the guy get his sleep.

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ok so, im 15 and my boyfriend is 17. and we have been dating for 3 months now, and well we decided like we were going to go to our rec center, which is where the like community pool is and stuff and welll like we arent gonna have sex or anything but theres a family changing room and like the showers have curtains and stuff and we were planning on going in one of those like without bathing suits....and well i was wondering like what should i do because like we are just ognna be making out but what if he accidenlt like goes inn. any suggestions?

I suggest not doing this in such a public place where there will be families and probably children around. You might want to do that in the privacy of your own homes. Just make sure he controls his little sucker and does not go in you.

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I see a school counselor. He said that if I hurt myself or others, he has to tell me parents. If I tell him that I'm bulemic .. doesn he have to tell my parents?

Bulemia is self harm, AKA hurting yourself. So yes, he does have a right to tell your parents, because it puts yourself at danger.

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I'm a tiny girl. I'm 4'11" and about 97 lbs. I really want to go out for spring track. Am I too short to do pole vaulting? If yes, what other events could i do if i am not much of a runner?

Height does not really have anything to do with pole vault. It has to do with your arm strength, flexibility, speed, and technique. Most of the pole vaulters on my team are no more than 5 feet tall and do very well because they are fast and strong.

Just to let you know though pole vault is a VERY complex sport. You have a lot to consentrate on; your arms, your speed, your leg counts, etc. All I can say is try it out and see if you enjoy it. Who knows, you may turn out to be very good at it.

I don't know what else you can do if you aren't much of a runner, because almost all events, except for throwing, involve hard running. But since you are so tiny, I do not believe throwing would be for you.

These are the events that are usually in track, sometimes more, sometimes less.
100m
200m
100m hurdles
200m hurdles
300m hurdles
400m
800m
4x800
4x400
4x100
Mile
Two mile
Discus
Shotput
Javelin
High Jump
Long Jump
Pole Vault
Triple Jump

Just remember that it doesn't come naturally to all. If you want to be good, you will have to work hard for it.

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ok I use to wear preppy clothes and a lot of pink last year and now that i am in highschool i like black t-shirts and skiny jeans. Like half of my clothes are preppy and half are punk rockerish. I wear more eyeliner and I am starting to like punk rocker guys. But I still act a little preppy and i still love pink. What is my style or am i just a mix of styles?

You don't need to label yourself.

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