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my boyfriend is a REALLY bad kisser. i mean i'v kissed people who were bad before, but my boyfriend is really bad.Like he shoves his tounge down my throat literally. i mean im not going to dump him over this. i juss want to be able to kiss him. How do i fix this? thank you for any help.

You could either kiss him more and hope that this will give him practice and it'll get better. Or you can tell him. Explain that you won't break up with him over this. Don't tell him he's doing it wrong but explain to him that he needs to be more gentle, laid back, however you feel like describing it.
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(I'm 14 years old, and a girl)
Alright.....I've had this problem for about a year now, and it's been the same the whole time...I love Hayden. I'm not talking crush, or infatuation, or lust, I am 100% sure that this is love. The only problem is, I've loved him for almost a year, and we just don't have a chance. I met him last year, in 8th grade science, when we got put at a lab table together. We became friends quickly, as we both HATED science, we enjoyed doodling during the videos we were shown, where we would sit in the back of the room and add our own details to each others pictures, we were both in choir, and many other things.
I'm not really sure when I started liking him, it just kinda happened. The earliest that I can remember liking him was the choir Chicago trip, where we basically spent a whole week together. Not long after, we decided to do the end of the year science project together, resulting in us having to spend time together working out of school. We went to Cedar Point for a choir trip, where I spend the entire day with him, talking, walking, waiting in lines for rides together, all that fun stuff. For a while, it seemed like I might have a chance with him. School ended mid-June, and a couple days into summer break, he called me and invited me to his house for a party. Basically, to sum up the day, it ended with us spendin the whole day swimming in his pond with 4 other people, 3 other girls, and another guy. While we were there, Taylor, one of the girls, decided she liked him...Taylor is VERY persuasive, and used her body to her advantage...long story short...2 days later we were dating. That day was the last day I saw Hayden during the summer. Then...high school started. I had decided that I was finally over Hayden, but I was secretly wishing that we would have a class together. I made it through all my classes except for the last one with no sight of him...and I was talking to one of my friends when he suddenly appeared behind me, grabbed my shoulders, and shouted my name happily. I knew from that moment that I was is deep trouble. After that day, things just kind of went crazy. I danced with him at Homecoming, decided at Christmas that I didn't want to love him anymore, gave him a letter that told him that I had finally moved on, and that I was happy to be his friend, went out with another person, got dumped, and then....two days ago, I had a party. I invited him and 7 other people, and I had a BLAST. Now see, something that hasn't come up yet is this small problem. Hayden has a best friend, Anthony. Anthony loves me, and Anthony knows I love Hayden. Basically, at this party, it just hit me....I knew I still loved Hayden, and I knew that I never really stopped, I only wanted to keep myself from thinking I did. Now, it would seem like this was already pretty bad...but no. Our school is splitting up next year, and Hayden and Anthony are going to the new high school, while I remain at the old. I want to stop loving Hayden, because in my heart, I know that nothing will never happen between us past friendship, no matter how much hope I still have. I know that really, the only thing that will stop me from loving him more is if we just kind of separate...for good...but I know that not being able to spend time with him, even as friends, would kill me. My heart literally aches whenever I think of not being able to see him, and it aches still when I think of not having him love me back. I don't know what I should do, and I don't know what he wants to do. I know that I want to keep in contact with him, I want to keep being friends even though we don't go to school together, but for all I know, he couldn't care less if he didn't see me. We're good friends, we talk in class all the time (pisses the teacher off to no end), I see him before school, but we never talk on the phone, or really hang out after school. If I were to ask if we could make plans, he would do it, but he has never really been the one to plan things. He does have a busy life, play practice until 5:30 every day, and he works from 5:30-8 (yes, its pathetic that I know this), but I just don't know anymore. I just wish that I could stop loving him without losing him...but I'm not sure it's possible. Please help me...I just want to give up.

Sounds like you're really into this kid =) Thats not a bad thing.
What makes you think you can't have a relationship with this guy? You didn't mention whether or not he broke up with Taylor but I'm assuming for some reason that they did?
You guys seem to have things in common & he seems to like you. For sure as a friend & perhaps more than a friend.
That sucks about them having to go to the new high school but I don't see why you shouldn't be able to keep in touch with Hayden. Maybe hang out with him on weekends if he isn't busy then. Maybe plan ahead.
I would talk to him about this. Just tell him how you feel and how important he is to you. Tell him you don't want to lose him and that you'd like to try to hang out with him a little more outside of school next year since you obviously won't see eachother during school. Maybe he'll realize how much he means to you & he'll take the initiative to plan things or follow through with plans you guys have made. Who knows, maybe you'll end up being more than friends.
Good luck with this guy.
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14/f
Ok on myspace ill have like a picture with a LITTLE cleavage showing and they would be like pull up your shirt , or slut or something like that. In reality they KNOW im not a slut or like that at all . However theres this girl and she was like wearing short shorts and the shortest belly shirt ever , practically naked and she put it on her myspace and every girls like AWWE YOU LOOK SO CUTE and stuff NO ONE said slut or anything like put on clothes. WHY is this??

if i put that picture there would be SO much rumors
but if she takes a naked picture it will be so "CUTE"

OH and the girl is the same age as me

Sometimes its funny/fun to call someone a slut when you know that they're not really a slut @ all. My friends and I do it all the time.
However, if you know a girls actually a slut you wouldn't really say it to her face. People will still talk shit, but no one would say it to her face [unless you really have beef with that girl]. Or, in the myspace world, actually post it on her page.
See what I'm saying?

my boyfriend and i just started dating and he wants me to go to the movies with him and his freind and his freind's girlfreind but i dont know either of them. i dont wanna turn him down because that seems mean but i really dont wanna go with people i dont know!

please help!!!

Yeah, you might not know them but thats no reason to turn him down. Thats how you meet people! Its a good opportunity to make some new friends. How else are you supposed to meet people if you don't take chances like this? I'd say go, they might be cool people. And if you get along it'll be fun to have another couple around to do things with.
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Im a nice guy and dont usually become jealous.

But recently I spent the night obver my friend adams house and they have the coolest entertainment center, a xbox 360, a Wii and a 50" plasma. Adam also has nice clothes and other cool things. he has a good relationship with his parents and is "good looking" to almost everyone.

Everytime i hangout with himi feel poor because my family cant buy me all these things.

I dont know if i can deal with this anymore.. i feel bad

I'm sorry you feel like that. I'm sure everyone goes through this. There will always be that person who has bigger and better. I know I've gone through it with my friends.

But that shouldn't really matter. So what if he has all those materialistic things? That doesn't reflect who he is as a person and who he is as a friend. As for the other things, like a good relationship with his parents. You can have that too! If you want it.

Don't look at it as you being jealous and don't become jealous. Thats negative. Try looking at it in a positive way. Maybe looking up to him. The entertainment center, x box 360 & Wii don't matter. If if he seems like an all around nice guy, then theres no reason you shouldn't look up to him.
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13/f im starting to really hate life.im not going to a physicatrist.im more baggy clothes and gothic wears black and i LOVE jewelry. my only friend(a guy)is more of a unique person he can go all stlyes. i also have other ?friends? i guess they ignor me at school but out of school they act like my best friend ever it drives me fuckin crazy i hate it! every1 is in a group or clique but me. it drives me crazy. i have my own style. id rather be with my bff thats a guy but he goes to 2 schools! so hes only here half the time and when he is here hes usually w/ me or doin tests and work he missed. im alone in a school death trap. i am myself i dont change for anyone and i have my own style.but im not happy at all i dont have friends tht would always go w/ me most ignore me when their w/ their group but they still call me their 'friend'.my only true friend is my bff thats a guy.ppl think of me as a freak. yea so i never cared but now i do. now we like eachother as bf gf but people who date end up hating eachother. hes all i have. also say o the two freaks dating. i never cared befor but now i do! ive been friends with everyone in my grade and other grades people just end up hateing me! so im just waiting for high school to possibly get another friend but the problem is my bff is going to a different school and hour away. what should i do for all of it!!!

Hm, sounds like a crazy situation. Welcome to your teenage years.
You say you have other friends but they ignore you unless you're outside of school. Eh. I wouldn't really consider those people your friends. Friends would stick with you no matter whos around, whats around, etc. If you really care that much about them, then talk to them. Personally if I was in your case, this may sound mean but I would ditch them.
You'll be starting high school soon. High School if full of many different cliques and its more diverse than middle school. Everyone doesn't try so hard to be "cool" or fit in. You slowly figure out a sense of who you are. Everyone is different so it makes it a little more diverse. Freshman year is a little crazy [but thats a whole different story, ha]. I'm sure once you roll in there, you'll have new people you've never met before in your classes and some will have more in common with you.

As for this boy aka your best friend. If you both like eachother and want to give it a shot as more than friends then I'd say Hey, Go for it. If it doesn't work out, try to remain friends. You guys will only "hate eachother" if thats what you want. And if you guys want to still get along and remain friends, then I'm sure you can manage that as well. Its all what you make it.

I don't know if I was much help, but I figured I'd try.
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how do you kiss
do you suck as your kissing or what all do you do please detailed
dont say it will come naturally please

You'll probably give me a super low rating but I'll just tell you anyways.
I was worried before I had my first kiss. I was like "How does it come naturally? I'm not going to know what to do!" But for real. When the time comes you'll see you were worried about nothing. It just comes naturally!
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okay, lets get to the point..i have no butt...what can i do to make my butt bigger without increasing the size of my stomach lol..and what can i do to get rid of love handles

Apparently squats make your ass bigger.
We did squats in bootcamp when we got in trouble. Later on our female RDC [Recruit Division Commander] told us they made our asses bigger, lol.

14/f
iv been going out with my boyfriend for 3 weeks today. yesterday he came over and i had my other friend over too. then today i called him and we were talking and then he was like my mom wants to talk to you for a sec. i said okay and his mom was like im having a birthday party for him on sunday its for his family and i was wondering if you wanted to come, and i said i would check with my parents. the problem is, im soo scared to meet his family.. its not that im just meeting his mom and dad, its his whole family, im freaking out and its a week away. whatt do i doo?

Cute. But its not that big of a deal. Just be yourself and I'm sure they'll like you. Be polite and friendly. Make sure you talk though, don't stay in shy-mode.
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Okay sorry this is so long....

ight....my name is sarah,im white and im 15...i date this boy named brandon,hes black and hes 17 and i just turned 15 in march and hes about to turn 18 in may...well we been dateing since march 24th-2007 and when we were on the phone he said babe are you ready to fuck me and i told him no because im still a virgin and we only been goin out for 2 weeks.He said i better set a date or its over.So i told him ill be ready friday.Well we just started talking and he was like babe i got somethin to tell you but i wanna say it to your face but I LOVE YOU!!so i said i love you too.WEll he always tells me well be together forever no matter what.Well all my friends tell me were rushing but i never felt this way about a guy befor in my life.I just dont no what to do because my plan was to brake up with him thursday because im not ready to fuck him yet.Hes everything i ever wanted in a guy.The only thing is he wont wait until im ready.and everytime he says i love you and he blows kisses in the phone and always calls me baby...well when ever i hear his say that stuff to me its like i cry all over again and i just dont no what to do with him...
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You sound really unsure about it. And you've only been dating for two weeks. My advice would be not to do it & don't even put yourself in the situation by telling him you'll do it. I'm sorry, but two weeks is not enough time to tell if someone genuinely loves you and cares about you. And him saying "set a date or its over" is a HUGE heads up. So, he'll break up with you if you don't sleep with him? It doesn't sound like he really loves you at all and is perhaps just using you. No girl wants that to happen to them, but it still happens. I'd go with your original plan: break up with him. Get out of this before its too late and you wind up doing something you'll regret. There are plenty of guys out there, ones that won't make you sleep with them 2-3 weeks into the relationship. Ones that will respect that you're still a virgin. Ones that will love you no matter what. Seriously, trust me. I wouldn't do it now & I wouldn't say YES to doing it now.
Good luck with everything.
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respond asap please!!!

as some of you know, school starts again tomorrow and well I was just in my closet choosing what to wear. I went to florida for about 5 days and I got a really nice tan. So what are some colors (shirts) to bring out a tan? Blue??? Red?? I don't know but that's why i'm asking you guys.

thanks! HAPPY EASTER!

I don't know if this is true because I'm not really into "colors & fashion". But I go tanning and for me, the colors that make me look tanner are lighter colors. Usually white, light blue, light pink, light green, etc. Dark colors like black and whatnot, make me look paler.
Hope I helped.
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This weekend I am going to the movies with my boyfriend, but technically this is our first date. Any ideas of what I should wear?? I want it to be cute but hot at the same time, without being trashy.

Thanks

Its just the movies. Maybe a pair of jeans or a denim mini and a cute top.
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what does virgin coco oil do to your hair?

I'm not quite sure.
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okay i really don`t know how to talk to my crush. my friends know that i like him and they say that i have to talk to him for something to actually happen, and i agree with them, but how do i talk to him? i mean im not going to just randomly go up to him and start blabbering. that might freak him out or something. what do i do please help.

Pfft, you're just like me. In high school I liked a guy for about 2.5 years. I NEVER talked to him. He was a year older than me & when he graduated I was pissed that I never got to talk to him. I don't regret much in my life, but I regretted that. I don't anymore because I realized it wasn't meant to happen. I don't think he was exactly the one for me & I've found someone else. But it sucked. Seriously, talk to him. Find a way to talk to him otherwise you'll regret it, trust me.
If you guys see eachother in the halls, maybe smile at him all one week or something. Next week, add a "hey whats up" while walking by him. You might not pass him in the halls between passing period, but maybe reroute the way you walk to class and see if you see him? I did that and I think he knew it. Honestly, I think he was kind of interested in me as well, so it didn't freak him out or anything. We both just didn't want to be the first to go up and start talking to eachother.
You could try and be friends with his friends, etc. Maybe one of your friends is friends with him? Maybe you could have them let it slip that you like him when your friend and your crush are talking.
Idk... just find some way to talk to him!!
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im getting my hair styled and cut.

this is what i look like...
http://i86.photobucket.com/albums/k98/smichele427/l_d5367eec1ed8639ded5a74c405d7b9a7.jpg

i dont plan on dying it... just getting it restyled.
so what should i do?

i was thinking side bangs and layers?

Get lots of layers and side bangs. You don't plan on dying it, but maybe some highlights or lowlights would be cute? Idk just an idea.
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does anyone have a site for all the colors you put in for myspace cuz i wanna know how to get these cute like hot pink colors that i saw but idk how to get them

Go here:
http://www.funky-chickens.com/hex.html

i was watching the real world denver, the one where brooke goes to the nail salon and she comes home and she says i was in the ghetto. what does it mean when she says ghetto, like what does the word mean?

Its just like, the poorer area of a city.
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sorry this is kind of a dumb question but..... what's the brand of clothing that has the crown symbol? i see a lot of girls wearing stuff with a crown symbol with diamonds. the crown looks KINDA like this: http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/4/optimized/199434_fpx.tif?bgc=255,255,255&wid=273&qlt=90,0&layer=comp&op_sharpen=0&resMode=bicub&op_usm=0.7,1.0,0.5,0&fmt=jpeg but not exactly.

thanks!!

i THINK its Juicy Couture.
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Female/13

I have this friend, and we have alot in common and have so much fun together. but latley we have been getting in alot of fights and we havent been talkng. Now we are talking again but it feels really owkward for some reason. And she is trying to get "in" with this other clique and it is really annoying. everytime i got to talk to her she says o have have to go talk to _____ from the other clique and stuff like that. It is really annoying and i dont know what to do. Should i talk to her (or try to at least) or should i just let her become frinds with them or what. I think i am a little jellous but i cant help it. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?

I know what you're going through. I had a friend who had a lot in common with me. She was so funny and we had a lot of good times together. But we had just as many bad times. I think it was because we were too much alike. Thats why you guys fight a lot.
I don't exactly know why she wants to be apart of this new clique, but its common for you to be jealous. I was a little jealous too when my friend would hang out with others. I sort of felt left out. But we eventually grew apart and realized we were a little happier and life was better when we weren't as good of friends as we were. Its sad [ and it almost sounds like a "breakup" lol ] but life was much more easier. We didn't fight as much or anything. Maybe this is whats going on with you guys and unfortunately the best thing is for you guys to spend some time apart. The thing is, we ended our friendship over a stupid fight middle of junior year. I pretty much got over it towards the end of junior year. We didn't talk, but I wasn't mad anymore... nor did I ever talk about why we weren't friends to other people [ talk shit I guess you could call it ]. It wasn't until the end of senior year we started talking again really. I left for the Navy and came back and hang out with her a couple of times and it totally went back to how it used to be. There was no awkwardness or anything. 5 minutes into hanging out we were already laughing and having fun. We never brought up the fight or anything. I'm not saying spend THAT much time apart, but just a little. This might not be your solution, but it worked for us and I just thought I'd share it. Good luck with you and your friend.
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today i realized all the jealousy and cattiness involved with the girls i hang out with. we all gossip constantly about one another. we ditch each other for other people. we have cliques within cliques. it's ridiculous. i don't want to be a part of it anymore. i still want to hang out with my friends, and i'm not going to deny that i love hearing the gossip. but i need to stop talking shit. it's really hard for me; i've tried before. i really need help stopping, because it's so high school and so ridiculous that it just makes me feel like a shitty person. how do i STOP TALKING SHIT about my friends?

Thats how girls are in high school. It will NEVER go away no matter how hard you try. Just keep remembering that you don't want to be apart of it. It might not stop you from doing it completely but it'll help some. Its kind of a stage. Once you leave high school, the little things won't even matter anymore. Like who went out with who, who cheated on who, who's hooking up with who. I just graduated last year and all that stuff isn't really important to me in the real world. Every once in awhile I'll go home and [ its sad, but ] the majority of the people I was friends with/graduated with are still stuck in my small town... so when I go home I go back into my old mode and we'll end up talking and gossiping but... for the most part its just a high school thing. You'll grow out of it. I'd be more worried if you were still like that once you were out of high school.
But for now just watch what you say more often and try not to do it.

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